So I'm in a predicament... to make a long story short, I've been limerant for 7 months over my ex-coworker. Interestingly enough, I've been limerant over him before, back when we worked together, but it transferred on to someone else because nothing seemed to happen with him. We reconnected in December online and it came flooding back full-force. Only, this time he seemed to return my feelings. We grew phenominally close over the months, he's admitted he feels the same for me. So why aren't we happy and together? He has a girlfriend! He says he feels very conflicted. That he *wants* to be with me, but is unable to assert himself and break it off with her, especially since she's shown unstable tendencies the last time he attempted to do so(a few months ago) over me. We've never done anything more than hug. He's rubbed my back and my feet before, and me to him, but that's about it. We talk daily, often times more than once, for hours. He's told me that he cares about me, that he refuses to give me up no matter what, that he has a very hard time controlling himself around me, though he knows he must. I suppose I was tolerant of the situation in the beginning, but I want more and I've been expressing this to him for months. It's tearing me apart, I'm just emotionally and mentally exhausted dealing with it.

A guy on myspace started talking to me a few weeks ago. I was reluctant to give him a chance, but he was persistant. We began talking on AIM and eventually met. We seemed to get along pretty well. We have a lot in common, we enjoy spending time together. I like the guy, though he has NOTHING on my LO. I would honestly probably drop everything in a heartbeat to be with him. But I can't wait around for him any more because it seems like obviously if he wanted to be with me, he could. That HE is the only thing keeping us apart. I told him I couldn't steal him away because he didn't want to be stolen and that I was going to give this new guy a shot. He was quite displeased to say the least. That was the beginning of my LO's downfall.

My LO is unravelling as we speak. I've never seen him like this. He's grown very jealous and irritable over the new guy, though he knows and admits he has no reason to be. He's been sending me these odd messages online that sound very pleading and needy about how much he misses me and how lame he feels sending me these messages and how he wishes I was online to talk to him. He messages me MUCH more frequently now, but all he wants to talk about is the other guy. He wants to know every last detail of my time spent with him, which I won't tell him, which makes him irritated. He's admitted that he is "insanely, unreasonably jealous" of the new guy and that he is so sorry for acting his way, that he's being "spoiled and immature" and is trying to stop it. Last night, he know I was going on a date with the new guy and he actually waited by his computer all night(a saturday night) for me to return and talk to him--though he normally spends his weekends at his girlfriend's house. I thought I may get some satisfaction in seeing him wanting me, but this isn't what I wanted. He is miserable, though I know this is his doing because he essentially chose his girlfriend over me by refusing to break it off after all these months. He's talking about how much he wants to hug me and spend time with me and how he wants to see me.

I don't know what to do, he's miserable. I WANT to be with him so badly, but I'm tired of being alone. I'm not giving up the new guy to return to being his sad single, puppet while he goes out with his girlfriend though. He knows how to fix this. Thoughts?