he's so much smarter than I am, so cerebral. Even now, not limerent for him any more, I still think that. He's just so incredibly brilliant.

His looks, his sense of humour, personality, his popularity, his inteligence, his sporting abilty, his kindness.
The fact that he plays rugby but is quite thin, the fact he is putting some muscle on.

The fact he is brillaint at everything he does.

Haha, RD, way to be! I'll bite, though. If I could tell my LO what I love about her without it being inappropriate, I'd probably compile a small list of things like this...

I absolutely adore the way my LO can talk in low tones, which she usually does when she thinks aloud. She has the most beautiful voice and it has the most incredible effect on me. I also love watching her when she's really focused on something, her eyes get very intense and it makes me nervous to be on the receiving end of them. I love how she can be compassionate and fiery at the same time, and appreciates my thoughts. I like how she can cut the BS in order to be direct and honest with people. I love and am very grateful for how we can freely talk about lots of things, too. That hasn't always been the case with other LOs...

Oh, and his goofy laugh and accent!

His smile and his laugh...the way he makes me laugh a big belly laugh

"She makes her own costume every Halloween." - this is so sweet!

it's so funny what we fix on. when he was about to sneeze, my first LO used to hold the collar of his sweater forward and sneeze into his chest. he would also sometimes leave a room by climbing out of the window instead of taking the door. when he asked me why i loved him i mentioned those things and he (wise and ex-limerent himself) said "ah yes, we focus on weird little things, because we need to find some way to justify to ourselves that feeling that the person is unique and special, not just some old average person." it's nice when you think about it, though, isn't it? limerents as the devoted celebrators of the average person.

Oh boy! This is only going to make it worse and yet I am super tired and trying to keep myself awake long enough to complete this assignment...so...

To alias "Jake" out there...I love:

-How smart you are
-That you play the piano, work with computers, and are also athletic
-That you encourage me to watch your favourite black and white art house movies and have read some of my favourite plays because I asked you to
-That you are quite fashionable (in a nerdy hipster sort of way), but manage to still have some geeky t-shirts
-Your blue eyes and smile
-That you used to genuinely care about what happened in my day and what I was learning about
-That you like anything Jane Austen too
-That you enjoy puns possibly more than I do
-That you ballroom dance
-That you confided some deeply personal stories in me
-That you used to call me beautiful, but started talking to me more first because you thought I was clever
-All the different music you introduced me to and were so excited to share with me
Ah! I must stop this for now! Dreamy-dreamy land is not getting this assignment finished! Or maybe I should just write an ode to "Jake" and be done with it!

I can see things that annoy me about my LO - she's by no means a bad person, but even when I was with her every day there were things that frustrated me. Didn't stop my time with her from being amazing though.

She constantly follows trends. I often think that part of the reason she rejected me is due to me not conforming with whatever trend she was then following.

Fashion dictated a great deal of her choices. She acted like she was far more shallow than I knew she really was.

She's often easily influenced by people around her - not in the sense that she'll be pursuaded to do things. More that she actually tries to become the person she's impressed by. There was a phase where she started to copy everything our flatmate+friend would do.

She'd get frustrated that I liked 'different' things. Things that were'nt necessarily popular.

That she regularly took advantage of the fact that I'd do anything for her. And I, like an idiot would drop everything and do it anyway.

That she still acts in an extremely affectionate way with me, even though she knows how I feel. This continues to confuse me.

But I love that:
We were best friends, despite our differences.
How happy she made me feel when I made her laugh.
That we didn't need anyone else.
When she sneezes she actually says 'atishoo'.
Her astonishingly beautiful dark, smiling eyes.
Her gorgeous dark hair. Especially with her new haircut.
That we could waste entire days together just playing.
That she does have firm beliefs that she will stick to.
That she pretends to be dumber than she is and only I can tell.
She made me feel like a better person and that I didn't need anyone elses approval.
How creative she made me. I'd forever make posters or jokes or daft presents just to make her laugh.
She actively wanted to be with me - I often worry (unduly) that people don't really want me around. I never felt like that with her.
The way she sometimes watches me.
The way she'd come to me if she was hurt, upset or scared.
When I was hurt and confused by her and even though I tried to push her away, she stuck by me.

There are so many individual moments that mean so much to me. Some of them probably seem so small and insignificant are precious to me.

RD, I love you. :D "What is it about your LO that you find so unappealing...a switchup" that's great. Way to do a 180.

I just saw my recent ex-LO about an hour ago, and I must say, it's amazing what 9 months of limited contact/LC can do. :) Things that I glossed over before stand out at me now. So...what I find unappealing:

I'm disappointed in myself for saying it, I really am, but I have to be honest...(yet I'm still trying to find a nice way to say this, lol): ummmmm, physically, my ex-LO is attractive...she's just not as attractive as I previously thought. ;) The limerence goggles came off.

She can be a bit neurotic and controlling at times. This is okay for most of the time because I'm more laid-back and submissive, but occasionally it gets on my nerves. People gotta relax.

She's busy and rarely responds to things I write, though she's very warm in person.

Okay, so it's a short list, I'm sorry. :D I don't know my ex-LO on a hugely personal level. And this exercise in looking at the negative isn't something I usually do. More negatives will probably come to me if I consciously think about it.

Hey RD, I like the switch up here too. I've been avoiding this thread....LO doesn't need anymore gushing than she gets in my thoughts already.
What I don't like about LO: 1)She floats on the surface and lacks depth. 2)She attaches to people who can provide a service for her, then is done with them, when she is done with. 3) She always has a negative to say about something or other. 4) She could have stared in the movie "stepford wives" she is a pleaser with a motive. 5) Can be quite careless with anothers feelings. Kind of like that Billy Joel song where he says, "she cuts with a knife and laughs while you're bleeding" maybe that should be, lacks true empathy. 6) She is attractive...but dang, not that damn attractive. 7) She obviously has bad taste, otherwise she would be limerent over me.

Okay, I feel better now.