An essay on allowing life and love to take its course naturally in our lives.

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In life, we must be as the petals on the buds of a thousand flowers. It is only through nurturing and caring can the bud of a flower come to be in the first place. One cannot force the bud to grow faster. If you force the bud to open before its time, the flower will suffer and die. Nurturing, caring and loving are important, as important as the virtue of Patience. If you peel the immature petals apart, you notice how soft and vulnerable the inside was. It was simply unready to blossom.

Patience is calm, neither expects, nor becomes disappointed if the result differs from the desired outcome.

In our own lives we are so impatient for everything. We are especially impatient to find love, hoping and wishing to end our isolation and loneliness. Alas, isolation and loneliness exist prevalently within relationships too!

Our personal isolation can only be resolved within ourselves. Yet we stop ourselves from experiencing wholeness by being constantly stuck in the mindset of giving power to the small part of ourselves; the mind that tells us that unless we constantly search we will never find the one we are meant to be with. We believe that “the one” will slip away undetected.

We distrust the universe and its ways. We attempt to force it, make it bend to our ways. Instead we destroy flower bud after flower bud of our own potential, sabotaging every flower that could achieve a full blossom.

If we could only stop forcing the petals apart.

What does it take in our own lives to stop the harmful cycles that keep us dizzy, lost and confused? We keep ourselves numbed by our work, but our casual use of alcohol and drugs, by our abuse of sex and intimacy. We long to feel deeply, yet we actively numb the feelings we don’t want to feel or face.

Can we dream of the possibility of choosing to be patient, to allow Life to take its course, without sabotaging ourselves through the dizziness of constant searching?

Can we dream of a reality where we can allow difficult feelings to arise, feeling them and facing them without numbing our bodies and minds to avoid them?

Is it possible to stop using sex to avoid real contact, real connection?

All of these are possible if we can come out of our small senses of ourselves. This small sense of self that believes its only way of surviving is to continue spinning madly in circles, continuing painful cycles of self-destruction.

The truth is that we are whole and complete, just as we are. If we would only take a deep breathe and feel the gravity and truth of our implicit wholeness.

You are complete and whole, just as you are. In your life, choose to nurture and care for your garden. Choose to be patient and allow flower buds to grow and to blossom in their own time. Choose to not be dejected when things don’t happen the way you want them to. Your dejection only shows you how attached you were to an expected outcome. The world and the universe existed millenia before humans arrived and will continue for millenia after always following the principles of nature. Nature, the universe and your life are the same. They are an unfolding.

Allow the petals of your life to unfold naturally, and your life will be filled with many beautiful blooms!