Is it possible at all?

My take.. it depends on the person. Also the age of the person and how likely he or she is to wait for an extended period of time. Also about circumstances and the ability to move. What do the laws say about citizenship? The timeframe of the realltion too, people are normally pretty tied up and might need alot of time. I think there is cases with rellations, looners mainly.. That keep it together, and see their partner less frequent. However, most people would never coop with that! I think it,s possible if people really set their mind and will to it. Living apart with a limited ways to communicate, it would be very time consuming and energy taking, not the sort of rellation i would like in the long term atleast. It would also create alot of frustrations. As long as one of the partners dosent move, i dont give a cent for it in the long term. But then.. it depends on the person and the persons need of physical presence too.

I think it's deffenetly possible. right now, i'm in a long distance relationship where my boyfriend of 4 yrs is in another continent and he has to stay there for a year, it has been almost 6 months since he left.
At the beggining is very hard to let them go and to give yourself the idea that you woun't be able to have ay kind of psysical contact. You know, just to hug them when you are feeling down or just their company.
But it's possible, if you put your heart and your mind, both of you of course, can do it then anything is possible.
The heart is very hard to manage because sometimes you feel like you are going to go nuts because he is not there with you, specially when he happends to be in your mind all of the time and there are little things that remind you so much of him. Not just that but when you miss those little moments of tenderness, love, passion, lust, laughter etc...
What you can do and this really helps, you can talk on the internet with a webcam, it kind of makes you feel like you are there and it makes you feel good to se him and to hear him.
Talking on the phone and closing your eyes and imigine that he is sitting right next to you looking into your eyes, helps.
Not only that, but if you allow him/her to miss you helps a lot too, it kind of bring you closer, opens your eyes and allows you to see what your real felings are for that person.
Sexy and cute e mails help too.
About the chances, it all really depends on the kind of realtionship you have and on the person too. it also depends on how commited you guys are and how much you love each other. So this long distance relationships are about testing both of you and taking your chances.
Well those are my two cents, i hope it helps

I am trying it myself, I am in Africa these days and where are you Eniad?

Its a step-by-step process.
I am speaking from experience.
I started an Internet relationship with a woman from South America via Friendfinder.com. Ours might be a special case, as we are both intellectually gifted in a way...so the process of getting to know each other mentally through writing and photos was perhaps easier for us than most people. We shared similar interests AND similar ideas and philosophies, hands down. Our relationship also had a very innocent beginning. There was no talk of sex or romance at first. It was just a mutual interest in each other and our ideas and self-expression. She began to proclaim romantic feelings for me online, which I told her to keep under her hat for the time being, since we were not able to explore our relationship further at that time. This made her respect me even more.
Our exchange became regular and we were conversing online for hours perhaps 5 days a week. Not long after that we were talking on the phone in short spurts. A few months later we were having LONG conversations on the phone, from New York to Peru, lasting several hours sometimes. I learned that she was planning on coming to the U.S. to work somewhere in the northeast, but she didn't know where yet.

We first contacted each other in Fall 2004, and in September 2006 she started working in Pennsylvania. She was no longer 4000 miles away, but now just 360. She admitted that she had been looking specifically for pen-pals or relationships in the northeast since she would be working here....but somehow our correspondence had become totally serious. we both obviously were burning with curiosity about each other. Finally I met her just days after she arrived in P.A.. - she would not officially start working for another 2 weeks.
Upon my arrival, all my expectations of her were right on the level. This was undoubtedly the girl I thought I knew. She had a curious blend of adventurousness and extreme shyness and caution. Over the course of 4 days we travelled around western P.A. together covering more than 500 miles. We both explored territory which was neutral to us both, as I had never been as far west by car.
Our relationship maintained an air of innocence and old-fashioned conservatism over that 4 days, and although I propositioned her affections more than once, it became evident that on this trip I would not have more than her kiss.

We made plans to see each other again, and 5 weeks later I was back her way. In between we kept in touch constantly, via cellular text-messaging and late-night phone conversations which lasted for hours. We were talking intimately almost every night. When I returned during Thanksgiving, she had established herself at a modest apartment in a small town. I stayed for 8 days. Over that period, we bagan to have our first lovers quarrels, which I saw as a "quickening", or a neccessary catalyst for getting to really know each other. Our relationship also became sexual, albeit somewhat awkward and exploratory. She was muchless experienced than I was. In spite of this we remained loyally dedicated to maintaining our bond, and it became evident to us both that our relationship went FAR beyond the quest for sexual gratification.
When I was back in NY, we began to argue some heavy personal issues on the phone, but we made plans to see each other again over the New Year's weekend. That time I spent 4 days with her, and to my surprise the sexual part of our relationship took off, maybe not at supersonic speed...but definately going somewhere. We also had no major arguements during that 4 days, and we had as much out of the bedroom as we did in the bedroom. We were discovering that we are truly capable of a balanced relationship.
Since then we have been discussing even more serious issues; Things which could be described as domestically important. We found that we are perfectly capable of co-habitating. We have spent 13 days living at close quarters simply doing what we always do when we are alone. There has never been the slightest altercation or irritation between us at all on the subject of living together. I am still wary of it, but it seems very obvious what our habits are and where we stand on domestic issues. We even had a little "scare" involving her possible pregnancy, and neither of us panicked or laid a trip on the other.

So that's where it stands. The conversations have moved to increasingly serious levels now. A few demands, but nothing truly unreasonable. Gradually the intensity and frequency of our arguments are beginning to fade. If anything, we are both a little shocked at where this appears to be leading. It leaves us short of any bold ravashing declarations; We really just stand by each other with a quiet dedication. I'd say we are an unusually serious couple, but we have stuck by each other through it all so far rather loyally. You might look at us and say, "Well, those two look like Ma & Pa Kettle!" as opposed to some scorching love-affair. I wouldn't be one to disagree. We don't advertise our affections for each other in public. But they are there, very innocent and unquestionably real.

I hope my true story gives some folks hope.
I believe it is QUITE possible to cultivate a relationship from afar.
I still don't know about my true destiny with this woman, but this relationship is truly more "real", sweet, intimate and serious than anything I ever had before...and I wasn't born yesterday.

It is possible. I met a Thai woman on line and we became friends. We were honest with each other and learned all about each other. It wasn't long before we were in love with each other. It started in April 99 and I finally got to visit Thailand in Nov 99. We met face to face and still love each other to this day. I've been back to Thailand from the US 10 times in 8 years. Going again this year and next year in 2008 I will move there permanently.

I think it is possible. I am in a LDR right now, myself. I met a man online who is a Chartered Engineer from England, but is now working in Dubai, United Arab Emirates, and is an operations manager for Siemens there. He has a contract to stay there for the next two years or so, but it is possible that he may be able to be finished earlier.

We met on an Wiccan pen-pal site. He and I are both Wiccan. We were not looking for romance when we started writing to each other, but that is what we found. We have a spiritual bond that I can't even describe. Neither of us can explain what we have found with each other. It is wonderful.

We started out writing emails every few days or so, then it became every day. Soon we were sending each other emails several times a day. Then he started calling on the phone. Next we progressed to internet phoning (check out the Skype program....its a free download, and all you need is a hand-free headset and it allows you to call computer to computer for free..you can also call land lines ,and mobile phones for a reduced rate). And now we both have webcams so we can see each other. We talk almost every day, and for hours at a time. We have spent as high as 7 1/2 hours at one time on the phone. Gods bless Skype!

We have plans for him to fly here for a 9 day visit in May. And then he will be paying for me to fly to Dubai at some point after that. I can't say where this relationship will go, but it seems to be going in a way that will mean we will be together eventually.

It really requires a lot of trust, dedication and work for a long distance relationship to work, but it can, and does.

Raven

i thought so....I spent ten months dreaming and creating some kind of illusion...i was living in Europe and my love in Canada...I believed it was an eternal love...an unconditional feeling...it was hard but I was being told by him how much he loved me and that it was worth it....I believed in his EVERY word...he was accusing me of not being able to trust him completely...i tried SO MUCH...and then it turned out I should not have...he was lying to me...I don't know why to this very day...he came here and went away with another girl before seeing me...fortunately, I left him because I sensed something was wrong...we met at the airport where he was telling me how cruel I was, how suspicious and how much I hurt him...when I felt extremely guilty and down I came across his pics with this girl taken in a place where WE were supposed to spend a week....this place was my utopia about which I had been telling him for those ten months of waiting....I got stronger and this experience taught me LOTS....nevertheless, I cannot understand why would anyone lie so much...so i suggest thinking twice...because there is no better way to know someone than BEING with them....e-mails, calls, msn, text messages are not REAL LIFE, they are just some kind of surrogates....love is about little things; touch, look, smile,smell,voice....being with someone who lives on a different continent makes sense only if you two guys want to spend the rest of your life together....and now it's just a test, some odds that must be overcome....but what is the point of having a relationship with a phantom? just to fight the loneliness?

wishing you luck no matter what you will decide :)

M.

GGOD CHANCES PROVIDED UR TASTES MATCH-BOTH OF THE TWO

well to tell you the truth it is now seven years I keep a long distance relationship. We met each other three times. He lives in the States and I live in Argentina, South America. I dated many men here in my country but this guy from the States is my true love, the one that in person makes me the happiest one on Earth. I'm really in love with him. I have recently flew back from meeting him. We've been together for a month in his country and to tell you the truth, he knows me better than my own family. It is possible to develop a relationship with someone on the other side of the world YES but you have to be patient, try to trust the other person and keep the flame of love alive everyday. In my case, we call each other everyday, we remember things we lived together when in person, we try to support the other morally, we understand each other. A distant relationship is VERY DiFFiCULT but it is POSSIBLE when your love for the other person is that BiG. Want to know what follows now??? well, we were about to marry when I was there in Feb, but I'm waiting for him to finish his school and he is moving out here to start a family. Both of us are willing to have kids. AS soon as he gets here, we are going to marry. His parents agreed on the marriage and after a long fight with my parents because of the different cultures, they accepted that he is the one I love and want to live for the rest of my life. You just have to be confident with yourself and with the relationship itself.

There should be good chaces,as less time to meet, less chance to differ on any point.
I had been to montreal last summer, i love the city.
If u really love someone there is always a desire for physical relations at ealiest.Am i right?
Arun