W.L -In my opinion, it is about personal responsibility for what you ask for. Asking, like everything pertaining to RUOW, is essentially a very personal process based on your unique personality and preference first. So that is where your question should originate.

From my personal experience, an example can be found in the different places ‘morally’ my partner and I come from. For example, I am faithful to him because that is my personal preference about partnerships and marriage. He is faithful to me because, I quote, “To keep what I want.” end quote, meaning he stays faithful to keep out partnership, (because I would end it if he didn’t). Initially, I did not like his personal reason, I did not trust it, and I preferred he shared my reason with me. In other words, that stirred my power play, be me instead of thee. Later, after I moved my power play to understanding, I understood we don’t have to have the same reason to agree on an issue, just reason good enough where we’re different. So I could leave it alone and move on there.
This point being that if I hadn’t noticed my dislike for his reason in the first place, I would not have gotten in touch with my power play there and missed an opportunity to heal my power play there and later with other people.
This point being that my reason for God having to move first may mess with your own reason, and then possibly mess with your process of understanding of why God has to move first.

I now have more freedom to share a fuller answer because you have made some kind of move and are better able to begin to ‘frame’ your question based on your self.