I reach the point of no return with my nearest and dearest on a regular basis, and they do with me also.

That point of no return is defined here as the place where even comprehension (never mind understanding) ceases and confusions, misunderstandings, and/or lack of experience, gaps. Where this occurs is usually where ugly/disrespect/indignity begins. But we have all learned to return to that point to at least clarify positions and even if we move on in other areas of our relating, we consciously acknowledge the current gap in place and continue to work with it individually and collectively. Some are years old and continue to unfold sometimes to healing sometimes to more gap, usually both.

My point in saying this is that this is the way things are dealt with in my personal circle and that is the way I have decided to proceed in other areas of my life, including here at this site. As my partner told me right at the beginning of our relationship, “You are no different than anyone else.” It took me years to understand that one and he did not explain it either because he had no reason to explain it, he simply had the wisdom of it and lived it out. And this was right.

I titled this thread my point of no return because if I move past that point, it is guaranteed that I will receive nothing (no return) for my time and energy. That is the very definition of gap.

So when I say I am not moving past the first load of crap, or I am not by-passing the first misunderstood reference, this is where I am coming from and no place else first.