She drives you crazy. Its getting close to mothers day, and that means time to think about your mom, or maternial figure in your life. About 12 years ago I worked really hard to get my mom smugggled out of a foreign country and away from my father. Not an easy task. My parents are happily divorced, and happily living thier own lives. My mom does deffinatly drive me crazy most of the time, but I am so proud of the way she has forged a warm and comfortable life for herself. She is surround by her kids, and now grandkids (thanks to my sister-not me). Its not that we need to only take this one day to recognize their efforts, but use mothers day as a day forget about the useless four or five phone calls to tell me about her new cassarole reciepe (spelling is just not my strong point), and do something, and say something meaningful that says "hey I know where I came from and what it took to get me here". I, myslef bought about $40.00 worth of deeply rich chocolates that will later today be turned into a varity of chocolate truffles. If your a mother out there, I salute you and wish you the very best of mothers day!!
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Sat, May 10, 2008 - 11:15 PMI sent my mom a bunch of flowers and roses....I havent gotten over my anger at her,,but it doesnt mean I dont love her, cause I do..Now I am hunting a way to send her lilacs and peonies down to florida...No easy task that....wish me luck and if anyone knows a florist who will send these things to her, please let me know..she loves those things and they do not grow in Florida.... -
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 2:50 AMMy mum is a crazy old lady and I laugh as I tell her so :)
Such a treasure and always looking out for her children and her grandkids.
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 3:53 AMMy Mom doesnt talk to me or my brother and is a victim of the world. Everyone in the world is imperfect except her. I love her and would love to have a relationship with her but don't think it will ever happen. Her 61st birthday was about a week ago too. No call. No present. No nothing from me. I'm done trying. We always wind up in the same place anyway. That's probably one of the saddest things about my life. I think there should be a "Sons Day." That way parents could feel like shit for not doing anything for their kids too. lol
That's all we need. Another day that requires people to spend money to show that they love others. As if that can't be done everyday without having to buy something. -
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 4:03 AM((((((((((Mr M))))))))))))
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 8:33 AM((((((((((((Mr. M)))))))))))))))
as well.
Well I'm going to turn the thing around and say "Happy Sons Day" Marvin. I have friends in your position. I guess some may say 'but its your mother' --- but sometimes it is healthier not to interact. It so sucks, but from what you wrote, I get the sense you've tried and braved many battles to try and make it work.
So, onward, another Hallmark Holiday passes with us contemplating our human relationships...
My Mom doesn't acknowledge holidays because of her religous beliefs. I call other Moms on this day. It still makes me mad after all these years. But that's her choice. I celebrate her when I can, and when it seems appropriate. We don't have the best relationship in the world, certainly. But I guess I could say it's improved somewhat over the years.
Happy Moms day to all the Moms in this tribe! -
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 10:18 AMI've tried over and over again. I hate that I'm even contemplating calling her too. She won't care. I just can't take whatever would be said. I just really can't. I think it's hilarious and ironic that I was thinking about buying her a Metro PCS cellphone and paying the bill for her every month so she could have unlimited anytime local and long distance. Even if she doesnt call me it would be very helpful to her. I think about doing things for her even though she is the way she is. But at this time I just have to disassociate from her. It's truly toxic and tragic. And just for the record our problems have absolutely nothing to do with my being a homo. Mostly she has always been bitter about alot of things and has to always be right. Everyone else is wrong. She starts arguments non stop and expects people to just accept all the bs she self righteously dishes out. If I disagree with what she's saying I voice my opinion and she gets upset and thinks I'm being abusive. Etc..... ( rolls eyes )
But anyway!!! Yes, for all you moms and people that get along with their moms, Happy Mothers Day!!! Woo hoo!!! -
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 11:01 AMMarvin, I think that we have the same mother. I'm sorry that you, too, go through the crap feeling of WANTING to call, even though you know it would just tear you up in the end. I've maintained a separation from my mother for many, many years, but I still get the urge to call her up and try to "fix everything", which would just put us back at the beginning, in a toxic relationship that never changes. Meh. So, anyhow, know that you're not alone in Mother's Day just being a sad reminder of what we *don't* have.
For those of you who do have loving, maddening, wonderful people for mothers, I hope that it's a remarkable day, bitter as I sound <lol>!!! -
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 1:25 PMI'm sorry for the things that have happend with you two and your mothers.
It makes me appreciate more the relationship I've got with mine.
We talk and email constantly. Have lunch once a week. She's one of my best friends. One of her sisters once after watching me and mom interact couldnt see the parent/child interaction she saw with other parents and kids and my mom said we are more like friends, of course the aunt (we call her "The Other One") said "well again you never did act like a mother,you always had to be different". I think the relationship went from parent kid to friend while dealing with and getting free from her second husband. A time where I was just doing the regular growing up and becoming who I am and a time when she was finding out who she was and could be without being defined by someone else. We grew up together.
I tried to plan something with my step sister to do but my step sister works 3 jobs and couldnt do anything. So instead of the regular chocolates etc, I decided to experiement and get some "exotic chocolates" made with spices and flowers from around the world, incase she didnt like those I also got a 9 cupcake box of cupcakes with champagne, lemon, green tea, red velvet and german chocolate flavors. Went to her day on Thursday, day she has tea with her best friend, and we all sat and sweeted ourselves into near diabetic comas. And then I will give her a call later this afternoon too. -
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 1:29 PMI want to be your mom, Sean <g>. That sugar-coma fest sounds awesome! I can get a bajillion kinds of "artisan" chocolates here, but where did you get those cupcakes? Yum! -
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 2:05 PMAt a little local baker who set up a few months ago. Called The Sweet Honeybee Bakery. 90 % of what they offer is cupcakes. Also they have the best eclairs ever. I never liked eclairs till them. The pastry on eclairs I always thought was too hard and dry, the cream inside never enough and the chocolate on top too thin and hard.
This pastry,even after being in the fridge, is soft. Its packed with cream, you bite in one spot it shoots out another. The chocolate on top is an actual frosting that is at least a quarter inch thick. Its a messy chocolaty cream bomb.
Best part about them also is all frosting is either butter cream or cream cheese. None of the light cool whip or fluffy nothing frosting. This is stick to your thighs good stuff. -
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 2:12 PM((((((((((((((((((((((MARVIN)))))))))))))))))))))
Happy Sons Day Marvin.......I love you bunches sweety......
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