Sometimes it happens that when one talk with others, something comes up that could induce feelings of hurt within one or both of the participants. So, what does one do? Does one lay it all on the line and deal with the truth and the potential feelings that it brings up? Does one sweeten up the truth and make it more palatable for the other and ourselves? Does one just down right change the facts in order to avoid the consequences?
I was talking with a friend the other day, discussing heartfelt feeling and thoughts about a touchy subject that was going on in our lives. At one point I asked a specific question and the response I received sounded slightly defensive and was laced with a non-truth that was justified by another inaccurate statement. I knew the later to be inaccurate because of a previous discussion in which details were expressed differently. So, I bought up the actual facts attempting to keep the door to honesty and therefore trust wide open. This adjustment to the details was accepted by my friend, but sadly the defensive fib that was expressed earlier, just kept getting built upon.
(Here, I would like to add that because I am a Taurus and as such have the privilege to smell BS just about anytime it gets dished out. ; )
Honestly, I have been graced with profuse opportunity to learn this lesson! )
Needless to say, I was very sad. In the past I would have been extremely angry and would have forced the truth out into the open, taken it personally. This time was different; I felt filled with compassion and allowed it to be what it was and to learn from it. My friend was dealing with their own internal issues –fears and not yet ready faces them. I could watch the web be created out of an accidental slip which led to a fall. The moment of the slip, the first thread of the web was cast. Instead of graceful getting up, dusting off the seat of the pants and retracting the safety line, the line was embellished upon thus developing the web.
It is not always easy to check ourselves when we are in the midst of our emotions, thoughts, and fears. Sometimes we do not even realize what happened until afterwards, perhaps even years later. This is ok, as long as we do get honest eventually. I understand this, I have fibbed to myself, to others, and to Spirit.
This is not about a conceptual or even perceptional truth that can change as we grow and gain wisdom, but that of our conduct with ourselves, others and Spirit. Honesty starts with us recognizing when we are not truthful and admitting the fears that are behind this to ourselves. Until we can be truly be honest with ourselves we cannot be honest with others and therefore not to Spirit, either. When we come to a place of honesty with ourselves, we can then come to a place of trusting ourselves, therefore others and God.
Blessings and love,