Hi all,
I am really glad to have found this tribe. I am married, (happily & open) polyamorous and now, as it turns out, bi.
It is only in the last 5 or so years I began identifying as bisexual, (as versus straight) and really need help learning how to flirt with men. My orientation identity expanded as my wife and I explored and experienced polyamory, together. In a nutshell, we found ourselved dating several of the same men...
I am not joking, this is serious!!!
It is a whole new set of rules and I don't begin to know how to play. I have walked away from at least a dozen wonderful, random, conversations with really exciting guys and just do not know how to cross that line and open myself to the possibility of more happening.
Been reading your posts with interest. Really liked the comment about eye contact. Coming from a straight life to a bi one, I would definitely agree.
Be good
Thanks
Lucifer
I am really glad to have found this tribe. I am married, (happily & open) polyamorous and now, as it turns out, bi.
It is only in the last 5 or so years I began identifying as bisexual, (as versus straight) and really need help learning how to flirt with men. My orientation identity expanded as my wife and I explored and experienced polyamory, together. In a nutshell, we found ourselved dating several of the same men...
I am not joking, this is serious!!!
It is a whole new set of rules and I don't begin to know how to play. I have walked away from at least a dozen wonderful, random, conversations with really exciting guys and just do not know how to cross that line and open myself to the possibility of more happening.
Been reading your posts with interest. Really liked the comment about eye contact. Coming from a straight life to a bi one, I would definitely agree.
Be good
Thanks
Lucifer
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Re: Greetings from a married, poly, bi guy
Fri, July 20, 2007 - 5:31 AMJust to make it clear, this moderator of this tribe is poly-tolerant.
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Re: Greetings from a married, poly, bi guy
Fri, July 20, 2007 - 8:12 PMAppreciate you posting that. I had wandered from another bi/poly tribe and had forgotten when I did my 1st post.
I still like the theme of this one, though. Am sure there is a lot I can learn here.
L
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Re: Greetings from a married, poly, bi guy
Sat, July 28, 2007 - 1:03 AMWell I've been a practicing homosexual and an incorrigible flirt for 24 years and I still walk away from conversation not knowing how to make the jump. Eye contact is good, some of the skills you have from dating and flirting with women are transferrable if not an exact match. Your story and the way you tell it will easily win hearts, minds and the bodies that encase them, have fun.
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Re: Greetings from a married, poly, bi guy
Mon, July 30, 2007 - 1:13 AMI think the hard part is going from relatively "safe" mainstream identification (Ie I am straight) to a relatively scarier place (Ie I am bi or gay)
I have been coming out more & more, among newer & newer friends and that has helped a lot.
In the poly world I am finding there are a lot of men & couples where the guy is bi curious and, once I put myself out there as bi, they have been coming to me or their wives have been telling me (with a wink) that their partners are "curious."
Literally, this weekend, we were with another poly couple we have known and dated casually for about 4 months, now. It is the first time any of us were ever physical in any significant way with each other. He (who identifies as straight) offered to give me a back massage first and later asked me if I kissed guys. (In that he really is a hunk, my immediate knee jerk answer was Oh Yea!!! and we sucked face to both our wives delight)
For me, at lest, that grey zone of bi has been much more comfortable than the gay world, per se. Interestingly, both my wife and I have been dating a gay man for over 3 years. I know that may sould bizzarre but, in it's own way, it has really worked out well for all three of us.
Later this weekend, during an IM conversation with another guy she & I both met at a poly event, he & I literally both asked each other at the same time if the other were bi.
Human sexuality and human relating is so amazing.
Thank you for writing Ricardo. I had spotted your profile on this group earlier and appreciate the interaction. You really are a flirt...
L
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