Friends of mine recently had thier anniversary.
However, the date they celebrated it on was the date of the 'family' wedding. Unbeknown to the family, they had in fact got married a month before hand in a basic ceremony with the minimum of witnesses.
The reasons for the deception are private and less then a handful of people know the reason.
But, the family all believe that they actually got 'married' at the ceremony they all attended.
Now the friends are heading towards a divorce, but because of the deception they created with thier wedding and reasons for the marriage, they are now having to deceive their family as to why they are getting a divorce.
It's all a mess, and as the saying goes.... "Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive" ~ Sir Walter Scott
Apart from the odd fib or white lie, would you ever deceive your family and why?
However, the date they celebrated it on was the date of the 'family' wedding. Unbeknown to the family, they had in fact got married a month before hand in a basic ceremony with the minimum of witnesses.
The reasons for the deception are private and less then a handful of people know the reason.
But, the family all believe that they actually got 'married' at the ceremony they all attended.
Now the friends are heading towards a divorce, but because of the deception they created with thier wedding and reasons for the marriage, they are now having to deceive their family as to why they are getting a divorce.
It's all a mess, and as the saying goes.... "Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive" ~ Sir Walter Scott
Apart from the odd fib or white lie, would you ever deceive your family and why?
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Re: Would you deceive your family?
Sat, June 16, 2007 - 11:12 PMNO, I spent too many years hurting my family. I tell the truth even if they don't want to hear it. I would rather hear the truth as well.
Why hide anything? If you want to hide, then don't say a damn thing at all. No one will know and you can keep your whole affair a deep secret.
I do believe marriage is a deeper confirmation than some will agree with. I am the minority on that and will accept it with my own nasty background. If I have my whole family as a witness, why not let them know the whole truth, you ask them to be part of the family (even friends) why deceive? Either don't do it or tell it like it is. That seems the best logic for me and my lifestyle. I have hurt too many... I will not go back to the same person I was. Tell it like it is and be an adult about it. -
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Re: Would you deceive your family?
Sat, June 16, 2007 - 11:15 PMI would also like to add..............
if I were to respond with my husband's mind, he would say ,,, keep it all hush, hush and don't start any trouble
most will be dead before us
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Re: Would you deceive your family?
Sun, June 17, 2007 - 1:28 PMDon't lie. It is far easier to speak the truth (without being brutal of course) than to live with lies.
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Re: Would you deceive your family?
Mon, June 18, 2007 - 7:08 PMno lies. life is too short to lie to the people that mean the most to you -
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Re: Would you deceive your family?
Wed, June 20, 2007 - 5:52 PMYou know, it depends upon the question your family asks you!!! If they put you on the spot about your personal life, about something that isn't really their business, it's tough. Lie? Tell the truth? Refuse to answer and then they think the worst?
I didn't have sex until I was 26.5 years old. My parents were a bit overprotective. My Mom asked me point blank if I'd had sex. I really wanted to have that side of my life be private, but I also didn't want to have to lie to her. But refusing to answer was also like admitting I'd done it. It was a trap. I resented it.
Shoot, she cornered me in my apartment in order to ask me. Talk about unpleasant situation.
I guess now, if my parents decided to ask me about my sex life with my husband, and asked some specific stuff, I'd be in the same situation. Heh... I don't think they'd approve of my having any kind of sex that wasn't the "normal" variety, you know? But I'm 39, for crying out loud, and my parents are in their late 70's and early 80's... they are from a different time. And I think they are a bit more respective (finally!) of my privacy, LOL!!! I guess it took me getting past 30 and getting married for that to happen.
Yeesh.
So, I guess it depends upon the situation.
Some questions you should answer truthfully. Some things you should volunteer the truth on. And some things just aren't other people's business, even if the other people are your parents. However, 99.9% things are your spouse's business.
Heh, I'm rambling. Sorry. Just this whole thing made me flash back on when I felt my privacy being seriously compromised.
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