If they aren't tested by the Domme ladies who play with you, then you play with clueless idiots. Thanks for letting us know that.

People who care about those they play with test toys before they use them on someone.

And flame is a very common way of playing. I think I first taught a fireplay workshop about 8 or nine years ago. And Jeff Tucker was teaching it before then.

Sterno is jellied alcohol. And it's not a good idea to use it directly on skin.

Domina

"Birthday candle wax is scalding and too hot for dripping onto someone."

This isn't strictly true. You can temper the temperature of falling wax by varying the height from which it is dropped.

Yes, darker colors tend to be hotter than lighter ones. Scents tend to make them a little hotter, but not much usually. No-drip is hotter than regular. And beeswax is extremely hot and quite likely to leave permanent or at least long lasting marks. And the oily prayer candles in a glass that tend to be soft even at room temperature, those burn the coldest of all it seems.

I've used scents and colors and no-drop to reasonable effect. I haven't been willing to risk it with beeswax, although I've experimented some on myself. Prayer candles are convenient in some ways, you can let them "cook" for a while unobtrusively. But they're inconvenient to remove since the "wax" from them never really gets hard.

There. Probably more than most folks ever wanted to know about wax.