Spit play?

topic posted Wed, December 20, 2006 - 10:12 AM by  Francois
Has anyone experimented with spit play? I consider the act of spitting on someone to be one of the most "dominating" non-"violent" (please note the quotes) activities possible, a wonderful way to put a sub in his place in almost a 100% psychological (rather than physical) manner. Spitting into the face or even the mouth of the sub is usually such a "shock" to the "civilised" ways most of us were brought up, it will usually cause a reliable degree of arousal on the sub's (if not the Dom's as well) part and yet not require any sort of toys, tools, or restraints at all. The first time a Dom spit into my mouth, I was simultaneously repulsed and very, VERY turned on.
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    Wed, December 20, 2006 - 10:33 AM
    you got me hard as soon as I read this. First time it happened to me I was so aroused I cant even explain it. The second time i told him to spit on me now! Nothing like a dominant wanting sub!
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    Wed, December 20, 2006 - 11:43 AM
    Seems to me...there isn't much of a difference between french kissing and spitting in someone's mouth. During sex, there is usually a lot of "liquid" of various kinds anyway...and saliva happens to make a good lube! I haven't ever been "spit" on, but I've been drooled on, and have certainly drooled on my partners during certain activities. Thinking about being spit on, however, isn't much of a turn on...but it wouldn't be a limit for me, either.
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      Wed, December 20, 2006 - 8:19 PM
      You wouldn't think it would be squicky to have someone spit on you or in your mouth who's already deep-kissed you and of course exchanged lots of saliva, but somehow it is, culturally. Actually, I think the "horridness" of it is precisely what makes it such a "tool" in the Dom's arsenal and, once the initial shock and repulsion are over for the sub, can be enormously erotic.
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    Wed, December 20, 2006 - 11:50 PM
    Spitting on someone where it would be going into someone's eyes or mouth would actually be a bit alarming to me. I am looking at this from a safety standpoint. Saliva is a way of transmitting various diseases including HIV. Even if you have 2 consenting people within your scene, those immediately around you may not be consenting and could get hit with a missed spittle etc. Just being devils advocate here.
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      Thu, December 21, 2006 - 1:05 AM
      I can't honestly imagine that spitting in someone's mouth would have a different level of risk than french kissing them.
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        Thu, December 21, 2006 - 7:39 PM
        Done spit play. My dom enjoys it. I struggle at times but it's all good.

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      Sat, February 3, 2007 - 1:12 AM
      you CANNOT get HIV from spitting. period. unless there is quite a bit of blood in yer mouth and you spit lots of it into their eyes directly. HIV is not a strong virus.

      If all these diseases really were transmitted by "swopping spit" there would be way way way more cases of them (all over the world) than there currently are. We all spit on each other and handle each other's spit and saliva daily in thousands of ways. Sometimes there is way TOO MUCH paranoia around STD and ignorance on how they really are transmitted.
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    Mon, January 22, 2007 - 11:00 PM
    Not exactly 'spitting' per se, but once a man gathered saliva and allowed it to fall into my mouth as he penetrated me. It was one of the most erotic experiences I've ever had.....I don't know why, it just was, and sent me over an edge. Later I was reading a fiction book by an Australian author who described an act in which a boy spit into the mouth of his dog, sealing a bond between them. It made total sense to me at a very visceral level.
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    Tue, January 23, 2007 - 7:15 AM
    While not a turn-on for me, it definitely hits a definite D/s frisson that is hard to replicate. It's an act that has never ever been associated with love or kindness in mainstream norms. It's always about showing revusion or disgust.

    It's sort of like punching. Most people have a very visceral reaction when you talk about using punching in a scene unless they've seen it/done it. To them, there is no way it can be anything but very violent and brutal and damaging. Yet, punching can be very connecting, very deep and profound.

    So yes, it has been done to me a few times. Both in public, and both times really freaked out the people playing around us. *shrugs*
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      Tue, January 23, 2007 - 9:10 AM
      Interesting thread.

      I wanted to see what kinds of bdsm porn was out there and one of the first I watched involved a lot of spitting.

      It seemed odd and the two people, Doms who watched it also commented on the spitting, "Why is there so much spitting in this porn?"

      Qbviously, spitting is a kink that I never knew existed till now, thank you.
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    Sat, January 27, 2007 - 1:44 PM
    I was performing a handjob when I had my face spit on (in kind of a fine spray, a skill I'm sure)... I knew he was interested in doing it, but I didn't expect him to. It was a bit shocking, and he could tell, which he liked even more. Something about that made ME like... so after a minute of wrapping my mind around it, I closed my eyes and angled my face up to him and siad "more." I got what I asked for and I have to admit I enjoyed it in a very naughty humiliating-play way. *blush!*
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    Mon, January 29, 2007 - 7:51 PM
    I always though it would squick me...until it happened. Then I thought it was kind of hot in a gross sort of way. Of course my immediate reaction was to spit back at him (we are both switches) so things ended up very messy. But we both loved it. I can't say its something I would do with just anyone, but it can be super hot in certain situations. :D
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    Wed, January 31, 2007 - 11:06 AM
    As the originator of this thread, I think you all for your replies (especially the more recent and more nonjudgmental ones). I agree especially with the comment that it is unquestionably a "D/s frisson" and all I know is that it is deliciously humiliating while simultaneously disgusting me--but making me try very hard not to display my disgust and displease my Dom! So many mental and psychological triggers involved in something that is completely pain-free!

    I have suggested to my Dom that any time He ever allow me anything to drink, it must first be "christened" with a dollup of his saliva, and He agreed, but to my disappointment, He has forgotten this touch the last couple of times.
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    Sat, February 3, 2007 - 1:24 AM
    Spitting is really different for me in the context in which I most currently have done it. I've only done it with one person and it is not a degrading thing so much as it is this gift I give the dude when I domme him. He likes to recieve from me and my saliva is a part of me so i spit and drool into his mouth as part of a kind of reward i give him. It is also control, but not in the same degrading way others seem to express. I actually don't really like it in the ways it is more degrading, since this is something from me and i don't think my fluids are disgusting.

    I can see spitting on someone in a non-con or something because it is seen as a dismissal, but mostly I like it better as something they get from me as a gift.

    I would probably squick if someone spit on me, but that's cause I have strange squicks with gelatinous or viscousy fluids.
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      Wed, February 14, 2007 - 7:32 AM
      Wanted to wish everyone happy VALENTINES DAY. I wish today that i get a hot and steamy fun sex romp. This would only get hotter if I hooked up with my first time spitter. I remember him as hot horny and hard!
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    Wed, February 28, 2007 - 7:45 AM
    I use to date a girl who like to be spit on. I didn't get into it at first but it became very erotic especially when she was all tied up. The more I did it the more she asked for it. She said it felt like cum all over her face which made me go wild with delight. Hope that helps

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