Can someone tell me the difference between a submissive and a bottom?
Sat, August 8, 2009 - 1:41 AMYou'll hear various definitions.
To me, top and bottom are catch-all terms for giver/receiver, or controller/controlled. Submissive describes a particular subset of bottom, that being one who is interested in playing with power and control. A bottom might also be a submissive, but they could just as easily be a rope bottom, a masochist, or some other flavor. All submissives are bottoms, but not all bottoms are submissives.
These days, the word submissive frequently gets misused as a generic term for bottom.
The same is true for top and dominant. All dominants are tops, but not all tops are dominants.
Thu, September 17, 2009 - 12:52 AM
With the caveat that these terms may mean very different things to different people...
So all this is VERY much "imho" material.
Submissive implies power-play, the dynamic of one person (usually called a "dominant" in this nomenclature) asserting authority or power, and another (the "submissive") yielding it. This may (or may not) involve degrees of bondage, pain or other sensation-play, rituals such as the sub kneeling to the dom, verbal play with terms like "Sir" or "Master", humiliation-play, "public" displays of the power being exchanged, etc; the common theme is... well, dominance&submission.
A "bottom" is usally a sort of catch-all term, which includes submissives (and masochists, and more). The complementary term is "top" of course. A "bottom" may be into just a very specific subset of all the "bottom-ish" activities, or virtually all of them. A "bottom" may be just playing for one scene, or be doing 24/7 or "lifestyle" bottoming.