Im new to the BDSM community, but not BDSM, and I was wondering if anyone else out there has had a similar experience they are willing to talk about. All of my life I have had vanilla relationships, very typical and traditional at that. But I have also always liked kinky and rough sexual play, including blood play, actually I have been into alot of things that have fallen into the BDSM category if you will but I never ackowledged it as such. Well now I find myself in a fulltime D/S relationship with a wonderful Lord who I love and worship dearly, but I feel a bit lost, and scared. A D/S relationship is much different than a vanilla one, so I find myself in an unknown zone. Im embracing the D/S lifestyle but it is new to me, there are differnt dynamics, and differnt PE. There are so many things about the D/S lifestyle that I love, such as the communication, the honor, the trust I have in my Lord, not to mention the edge that I adore to embrace. Yet I feel lost in my relationship style. Has any one else went through this or something similar, feedback would be awsome
-
Re: transitioning from vanilla to D/s relationship
Tue, June 3, 2008 - 10:46 AMi've gone through it and continue to do so occasionally. i think it is the nature of the beast and the learning curve of being new to this sort of relationship. Though i had BDSM fantasies for years i always had vanilla partners, until recently. About 2 years ago i decided to take the plunge and explore my true sexuality. i ended up meeting the love of my life who is now my Master. He was well aware that i was basically brand spanking new to all this when we met and He has been very patient as i find my footing with each new experience. It has been life changing for me and though i sometimes wonder if i'm a good slave or a true submissive or whatever the fear du jour happens to be i know that He will support me and love me and guide me through it. Together we've developed the kind of D/s relationship that works beautifully for the two of us, but yes, there are times when i have doubts or i struggle with a certain dynamic of our relationship and we work through those together and it just gets better and better.
