Paul, just make sure you continually communicate w/ your sub. Each of you could always fill out a checklist - to determine what each of your limits maybe. Have fun w/ it!!!!

I may just be a Tribe Snob by now, but that gets my anntenna up as well.
I mean, I don't have a digital camera, but I always pull stuff whenever I can. Even If I have to scan things in after hours at work :)
And with a complete profile and a few posts to tribes, it takes about 15 min to find a friend.

I imagine it's kinda hard to have as many friends as you do, when he only joined yesterday.

But who am *I* to judge.

I don't find people with no photos or friends on Tribe to be any more suspicious than anyone else, especially not in this tribe. As someone else has pointed out, we were all new once - and that's both to Tribe and to kink.

As a tribe specifically for newbies, and which does not restrict entry, it is only natural that we will attract people who have just signed up for Tribe and may not yet know anyone, online or off, in the kink community. The whole point of this tribe is to be a place where even the newest of
the new can feel comfortable to dip their toes in the water, and what's more, our old mailing lists never provided any opportunity to post pictures *or* list friends, and we all did just fine in those days. Newbies are often much more reticent about having pictures out there than the rest of us may be, too, and that's hardly something I at least can find fault with. If anything, I find it to be an entirely reasonable and prudent thing to do.

All told, it would really be kind of silly to consider folks who don't have a lot of the accoutrements like Tribe friends and photos that the rest of us now take for granted to be any more or less suspicious just because of that.

You're right Grizzly.

Paul, if you're still out there please don't be shy about posting again, just to let us know you are out there!

Ya gotta understand that this online world opens us up and can make us a bit cynical. Not really personal thing.......

Thanks for your post, Grizzly.

Paul, please disregard these skeptics. Theirs is not the majority opinion around here with respect to profiles - *or* the official one in this tribe.

You are perfectly welcome to have whatever you want on your profile, and I hope you will visit here often and find this tribe to be a helpful source of information.

Jaded, we all know very well by now how you feel about these things, and I would appreciate it if you would tone it down on this tribe. It is just not necessary to pipe up with these same skeptical remarks every time anyone posts anything who doesn't have a profile filled out the way you think they ought to, and it detracts from the atmosphere I am trying to create here.

This isn't a trolling post, or spam, and there's no reason whatsoever to believe that Paul is insincere or deserving of this kind of ridicule. There's also no law that says that people have to come back just because they've asked a question.

It would also be much more constructive to simply suggest to newcomers that they fill out their profiles more completely, explaining the benefits of doing so. But the reality is there are also good reasons *not* to do so as well. A discussion about those differences of opinion would be much more useful to newbies than this kind of unmitigated suspicion.