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good questions to ask a potential dom

2009-11-09T06:22:32Z

So it's recently been brought to my attention that there are a lot of things I should be asking that I just don't know/think to ask. Beyond the basic:

Do you honor safe words?

Do you honor "no" lists?

Do you have references?

What are some other good things to ask a potential dom??

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Hello, I'm taking my first steps

2009-11-05T16:59:14Z

Hello everybody, I'm sorry for the length of the post, it's just that this is somewhat of a catharsis for me.

This is a huge step for me, I've never ever before (in anonymity or with people I know) commented about my interest in this lifestyle. The thing is, that during these last years two things have happened, I've accepted this as an unavoidable part of myself, and I no longer view it as a deviation I should try to suppress (because either way I know that on the long run I cant). I hope you don't interpret this the wrong way, I believe alot of you must have passed through a very similar situation to me, being brought up in a society where I feel I'm the only one with interests in D/s and being forced into thinking there's something wrong with this scene. The thing is.. that I know it is not something fucked up that grew in me because of "society", "violence", "pornography", etc. because I've always been extremely attracted to all of this, specially bondage. When I was very young and still not interested in sexuality as such, I remember that I got a rush when I watched cartoons, and the princess/ hero/etc. was kidnapped and restrained by the bad guy.. I wanted to be the bad guy of course. In my childhood I would occasionaly play out kidnapping and bondage scenes with my toys... not of a sexual nature of course, well maybe in a very deep way that I didn't understand at the time.

My first contact with this actual scene was through the internet, in my sexual curiosity I arrived at a bondage site and (not knowing it existed) I was shocked ,in an extremely good way, that the deepest and most secret fantasies in me were not only my own, that there was a larger interest in this. But this also went terribly wrong because it was so naturally sensual and arousing to me, that I thought it was a generalized fantasy.. so when I went ahead and told a friend of mine of this great discovery, his reaction was "what? this is what you meant? that's fucked up" so from there on I've kept it a secret.

I really want to get involved in all of this, because I know that I won't be truly satisfied if I never explore this side of myself, that is actually a very big part of who I am, and I've never been able to share with anyone.. can you imagine the desperation?

About myself.. well I'm a guy, heterosexual, and with a very strong tendency towards dominance and bondage (not that I've ever actually performed either or know how to). I'm the cliché of the "straight A", serious and innocent looking guy, it would be a huge shock to anyone I know if the knew that I was into all of this. So that's my story, I hope that through this first step you can help me to slowly introduce myself into this lifestlye. Just thinking about being able to discuss this with others is a huge relief... I hope one day soon, I'm confident enough to make it an active part of my life.

Agram H.

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new to the bd part not so new to the sm part

2009-10-14T12:14:13Z

Two guys down my basement:

One's the bd guy, one's the sm guy.

http://downbillsbasement.blogspot.com/2009/10/bill-bound-glen-beaten.html

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Kink-e-Zine for October has just launched!!

2009-10-14T04:57:31Z

Kink-e-Zine’s October issue is a jam-packed one, with plenty of stimulating, informative articles for a diverse community of kinksters!

* “The Passing Of A Leather Media Legend: Bay Area Reporter’s Mister Marcus”
* “Obedience” by kim (MJ), AU
* “Communication Skills” by Dark Jade
* “My Day With Jorge Vieto Jr.”, by Scorpio
* Monthly Installments of “The Critic’s Corner”, “Kink In The City”, & “Ask Me Anything”
* Expanding The Horizons of Fisting” by Master Jeffrey
* The return of the racy segment “The Edge”…this month: “This Seat Reserved: An In-Depth Look at Queening & Facesitting”

…and yes, MUCH MUCH MORE!!

Halloween is almost here, and with it---as many of Us have seen---changes in the weather. Whatever You do to celebrate, wherever You go, the Staff at Kink-e-Zine wishes You a safe & enjoyable celebration! Stay tuned as Kink-e-Zine undergoes a major metamorphosis in its layout, design, & content…it just keeps getting better & better!!!

Master Erik, Publisher
http://www.kink-e-zine.com

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Very new

2009-10-12T10:21:09Z

Ok. So my boyfriend the other day said, "Maybe we should try bondage."
I didn't ask him if he ever had before.
But I was like, "Ok, sure."
So... like, I tie him up... or he ties me up... and then... where do we go from there?
I'm just imagining this scenario where someone ties the other up and then we sit there looking at each other... and then someone gets mad because nothing is happening. I don't want that. So what are you supposed to do once a person is tied up?

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Looking for Dungeons

2009-10-07T01:33:38Z

Hi am looking for people from NJ area that have a dungeon and are looking for subs to use. Am new to this and would for someone to show me what it mean to submit.

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cbt

2009-09-29T11:13:22Z

Anyone interested in (or know where I can find anyone interested in) castration fantasies. Seems like this might be the tribe who would know. For some reason a few years ago I started fantasizing about being castrated (only fantasies, not interested in the real thing - still enjoy my cock and balls too much). Fantasies usually center around losing my balls and cock, usually to a woman or a group of women because of revenge or just a spur of the moment decision to make me pay for something. Anyway, if anyone knows of an outlet for my thoughts, i would love to pursue it. Thanks.

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need help with assignments for my sissy slut

2009-09-24T17:11:58Z

While talking about our fantasies, my boyfriend told me he is into being dominated and wants to be my sissy slut. He called himself a willing slut and said he was into CBT, panty slut, and
submission. He wants me to email him assignments and we will discuss his progress. I don't know what type of assignments to give him, or what to make him do.

I have really been getting off on my new Princess role. We both want to keep this up until I completely own him. Any ideas for assignments or in general? Thanks!!

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Sub vs Bottom

2009-09-17T07:52:56Z

Can someone tell me the difference between a submissive and a bottom?

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Kink-e-Zine's Folsom Street Fair Issue has just launched!

2009-09-15T03:02:54Z

“The high holy days of Kink” are upon us, as San Francisco prepares to celebrate the incredible celebration known worldwide as Folsom Street Fair. Kink-e-Zine joins in the celebration with their Special Folsom Street Fair Edition, & invites you to check us out!

In this issue:

* “In The Beginning: The Evolution of The Folsom Street Fair”
* The Premieres of “The Awakened Mindfuck” by Heron Saline, CHT CMT & “The Vampire PinUp Diaries” by Mia Starlight
* This month’s installment of “Kink In The City”
* “Control” by kim (MJ) AU
* “A City Institution: Leather Bars” & “Where To Stay & Where To Play For Folsom Weekend”

AND MUCH MUCH MORE!!

http://www.kink-e-zine.com

Master Erik, Publisher

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hello

2009-09-09T10:45:48Z

Hi! I just wanted to say hello. My name is Jio and am new to this group . im from Europe.
Im involved in this sort of relationship: im the slave of my Wife Taty. i obey to every orders coming from Her.
best greetings!

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New girl saying hello!

2009-09-09T10:40:14Z

Hi! My name is Catherine and I live in Washington. I am looking to make some friends and perhaps a lil bit more........................

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Good forums for emerging DOM's

2009-08-19T16:40:47Z

Other than this one of course? I've got various questions about the basics of training a new sub as I've recently lost my primary and am now dating and finding, of course, that all the women I attract are submissive and am interested in training them to my particular flavour.

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Learning to a Better Submissive

2009-08-19T16:37:36Z

I'm sarcastic, snippy, stubborn, and a bitch. I hate taking orders and yet I want more than anything to be a better submissive for him. I'm new to this, so can anyone please help me? I'm tired of feeling like I'm disappointing him. Not to mention, I can't seem to follow the simplest rules. I want to be a great submissive for him, but I still want to be me. I don't want to completely change who I am.

So again, is there anyone that can help me learn to be a better submissive?

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Bloggers Wanted!

2009-08-18T21:16:36Z

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Beginning Play Piercing this Sunday in Oakland

2009-08-14T20:13:26Z

Play Piercing Class
w/Domina & Atheris

When: Sunday, August 16th, 2 PM - 5 PM (Doors open at 1:30 PM)
Details: RSVP to mail@thelookingglassarts.com and/or reserve your space at www.brownpapertickets.com/event/76965 Sliding Scale - $15 - $25

The class will cover safety, needle bondage, games you can play with the needles, and lots of other information. Everyone will be given a chance to be pierced and to pierce. This is a great way to find out if you enjoy piercing and to learn how to do it safely. Needle play kits will be available at the class.

Bios
Atheris is a professional dominant who lives in Fremont with her partner Jason and their very spoiled cat and dog. She has been teaching classes for the last five years in the bay area and is a highly respected instructor.

Domina is a retired professional dominant. She has been teaching classes in the bay area for the last ten plus years. She's noted for extreme play. She lives in Santa Rosa with her slave husband, submissive grrl, one submissive dog, and three very dominant and oh, so spoiled cats.

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Advice for Novice Doms

2009-08-12T13:21:25Z

From my blog and site: http://www.ropetop.com/novice.html

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Exactly how submissive are you?

2009-07-07T00:53:57Z

Exactly how submissive are you?

Do you enjoy pain?

Do you enjoy humiliation?

Would it make you proud to show me how you enjoy being degraded like less than an animal?

Do you enjoy the concept of nipple torture? Do you like the feeling of excruciating pain as weights are applied to your mantits while you beg for more.

Does the thought of my tender soft hand around your throat, choking you, suffocating you, taking you to the very edge of life . . . or death, awaken your senses?

Would you like me to shove my strapon in your throat until you gag and choke? Does it arouse you to think about me forcing you to eat your own putrid, vile puke, cleaning it from my monstrous strapon as I force it down your throat, suffocating you, slapping your face while I do?

Will you be my gangbang whore; offering your mouth and your asspussy to be used and abused by men for my entertainment and pleasure? Will you spread your legs and take big dicks ramming your asshole and eagerly accept those filthy pieces of meat in your mouth to clean and suck to completion? Are you prepared to be my faggot slut who needs to get fucked and bred and pumped full of hot cum, in your mouth and in your boicunt on a daily basis?

If I give you an enema, filling you with HOT soapy water, bloating your stomach, making you cramp, plugging your fuckhole with a fat butt plug and making hold it until you are screaming in pain, will you pledge your undying devotion to me as I hold your face in my hands and call you my dirty shit boy while you shit out that smelly, pasty, hot sludge from deep inside your colon?

Will you clean my pussy and asshole after you’ve watched me get fucked and I have several loads of hot cum dripping from my well-used holes? Do you consider it a gift to be able to taste my sweet juices after I’ve been pleasured and the sperm of a real man mixes with my cum to tempt your tastebuds?

Do you crave the taste of my hot piss, filling your mouth, taking in my salty, strong urine, feeling it fill your belly until you are aching in pain and pleasure?

Perhaps your desires are darker, nastier. Perhaps you want my filthy asshole on your mouth, tasting my heavenly ass slime, shoving your tongue deep inside me to satisfy your desires to taste my nastiest offerings. Will you clean me? Will you be my toilet paper? Will you be my toilet that I use to accept my smelly waste? Will you cherish the gifts I give you from deep inside me?

Can you satisfy my desires to inflict excruciating pain? Will you offer up the flesh of your ass for me to beat and whip to my heart’s content and prove your devotion by begging and pleading for more?

If I take out my frustrations on your dick, beating it, whipping it, slapping it, kicking your nuts for good measure, will you worship me above all others?

Dogs eat from bowls, they piss and shit outside, they sleep on the floor at the foot of the bed. Will you be my doggie?

How many hours of relentless, ruthless pounding can you take from my black strapon? How many inches can you handle shoved deep inside your guts? Are you the desperate ass slut who will take all I’ve got to give and still scream for more like the slutty ass whore you really are? Will you ever tire of me bending you over and making you my bitch any time of the day or night that it pleases me?

Can you give your life to me? Will you let go of all the pretenses you have of being a man and become my toy, my plaything, my pet?

Are you depraved enough to handle all that and more?

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TOMORROW, 6/9---"BDSM & Parenting" workshop with Master Erik

2009-06-08T22:31:22Z

"BDSM & PARENTING," With Master Erik

Tuesday, June 9, 2009 8pm-10pm
SF Citadel; 1277 Mission Street, SF
http://www.sfcitadel.org

Admission: $20

You're kinky, you're active in your community...& you're a PARENT! Balancing the two lifestyles can be awkward, & dealing with them can be nothing short of difficult at times. In this workshop, we'll discuss ways in which being a "kinky parent" can be managed through the 3 phases of parenthood (Infancy/Toddlers, Pre-Teen/Teens, & Late Teens/Young Adults), as well as the opportunity to trade "words of wisdom" amongst ourselves. This will be the first time this workshop has been presented in the SF Bay Area, so if you're a couple with children, a single parent, contemplating becoming a parent someday, or just like to play parent, this is a must-attend workshop!

BIO: Master Erik has enjoyed 22 wonderful years of being involved in BDSM communities in the Southeastern US, the UK, & the last 8 years in the SF Bay Area as a staffperson, DM, party host, and workshop presenter. He's a devoted member of SF Citadel Volunteer Staff, DMA, Publisher of Kink-e-Zine, the reigning 2008 Iron Dom...& the proud parent of a 14-year old son (who knows that "Daddy's into some weird stuff!")

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Training

2009-06-05T05:30:38Z

So, I am a brand new to the whole BDSM thing, and I've found a guy I really like. We have a lot in common outside of S/m and we've been talking. He's willing to take on a newbie and has started giving assignments.
My real question is this:
Is "training a sub" just an excuse to make a woman into your ideal girlfriend?
I guess that is the point, but I'm thinking of it in a more macho way.
How early does one usually start "training" in a relationship?
I've already told him I'm not comfortable using the word Master just yet, as we've only known each other for a short while and haven't played yet. And one of his recent assignments was a list of all my play and dress-up clothes as "There will be dressing requirements". I'm purposefully not doing this assignment b/c, again, we just met.
I'm really not being bratty, I am just trying to go slow with all this!
We are meeting IRL for the first time today, so we'll see if he's really Master material or just some egotistical control freak :)

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poly intimacy

2009-05-20T17:47:32Z

Someone on another list recently asked for a description of how someone "who actively and openly participates in the Poly lifestyle" experiences intimacy.

My reply follows.

I don't participate in any "lifestyle". I simply live my life. There's no membership card nor administration council.

I also don't have "primaries" and "secondaries" as to me, that's too rigid, too linear, too much like exclusivity. The place I first heard that language, (primaries/secondaries), was from "Love Without Limits" by Deborah Anapol and her definition included sharing living space, money, children, etc, which I don't currently share with any of my partners. Her definition of primary doesn't include making primary an exclusive position but rather includes the possibility of a group household.

Me, I'm autistic. A group household would pretty much be my definition of hell, even if I loved everyone involved dearly. I need my time and space alone and apart to recharge. Group and social experiences are always challenging for me and are often far more like work than they are like fun. Experiences with one other person, occasionally two, work ok for me. The smaller the group, the more we know each other in context, the stronger our defined roles, the easier it is for me. While the idea of a poly family isn't totally out of the question for me, it's also not something I seek. Nor do I seek polyfidelity, (groups which exclusivity rules), nor N-way relationships, (triads, quads, etc). I'm simply me. I date. I have relationships. And the people I date also date other people and have other relationships. Sometimes we know the other people involved and sometimes we don't depending on a number of factors including geography, which communities we might share, who knew whom before relationships formed, individual strategies for dealing with jealousy/insecurity, etc. I tend to refer to my form of poly as "network" poly in the sense that I'm part of a network of relationships that extends pretty much infinitely in all directions.

Over the 20 years that I've been practicing poly, I've had a number of longer term relationships including one that's going on 10 years, and a half dozen or so in the 3 - 4 year range. Those are relationships that have been more or less consistent, where we meet, talk, play, etc, on at least a monthly basis, usually weekly. I also have more relationships than I can count which are more or less ongoing, but which aren't scheduled nor do they have any particular period. They're more like off and on relationships, or relationships that are slightly more distant. Some of the 3 - 4 year relationships have faded into the latter category and if we include the latter category, then I have probably another half dozen relationships that are in the 10 year old range. And if we add tantric lovers, or playmates, then the number of relationships expands again.

What I do with these people varies. Most are intimate friends and we talk and write and often share online forums where we do more of that. Some are lovers in the sexual sense. Some are SM playmates where we play at parties but don't generally have sex in particular. Others are social partners and we go out together and spend time in other communities, bdsm, swingers, tantra, or other special interest groups. A few have been or continue to be d/s partners in the sense that our relationship has at some time or another been based on a d/s dynamic.

Poly is, IME, easier than monogamy for a number of reasons. It's not easier in the sense of being emotionally easier - it's isn't emotionally easier. Emotionally it's possible to check out of a monogamous relationship for decades, even a life time and to live in that sort of absentee relationship indefinitely. I think that many long term monogamous relationships go through periods of that sort of absenteeism and that many simply check out after the first few years.

It's also possible to hold a monogamous d/s relationship together for at least a couple years based solely on romance, fantasy, and projection about who we think our partners are rather than who they really are. Poly doesn't prevent this, but it does make these sorts of fantasies significantly more difficult to maintain for any length of time unless everyone involved "drinks the kool-aid" and then what you end up with is something more akin to a cult than a family.

The trick to poly is exactly the same as the trick to SM. The skills in one directly transfer to the other. And yes, I'm making a clear distinction here between SM and d/s. While the two overlap, there are some significant distinctions and this is one of them. While it's possible to check out of an SM scene too, experienced players don't let that happen without some clear context. We call that dissociation and a dissociated partner is not, at the time, expressing consent. What happens when one person has dissociated fades from mutually consensual into the gray area between mutually consensual and abuse/assault/rape.

In d/s, it's easy to believe that the gray areas are the point and to live entire relationships in the gray - this is exactly what happens in most domestic abuse situations. However, it's much more difficult to live in the gray area when the gray area physically hurts as with SM. Frontier exploration in consensual SM requires active concentration and clear intention. If either of those falter, the experience changes rapidly from one of wonder and ecstacy into one of horror and simple pain, (not that the two can' be mutual exclusive :).

The "trick" to SM is to learn to talk with your partner clearly - to express needs and desires, boundaries and limits, and to do so while playing as well as before and after play. That same skill, the ability to ask for what you need, be it reassurance, information, hand holding, and to state and defend your own limits is precisely the skill that is necessary to maintain and navigate poly relationships. Both SM and poly relationships are also supported by strong communities and by adopting some of the community values. For instance, both SM and poly require periodic self examination - harsh self examination which requires learning to come to terms with truth about yourself that you might rather never see. Doing so is a spiritual act and an ongoing process which is vital and necessary to the ongoing practice of either of these. People who balk, who can't look at themselves or who look at themselves but can't accept what they find tend to break relationships and cause "drama" in the community. Sometimes that's ok, that's part of what the community support network exists to support. But at the same time, it's necessary for everyone involved to appreciate the goal of self development and the evolution of self awareness that allows for greater intimacy.

Tantra, too, has these characteristics. However, with western tantra it's possible to become stalled in the process without necessarily causing grief for anyone else. In both poly and SM, there are other people involved who will demand one's growth. Failing to participate in such growth will often lead to losing relationships and/or community which can be a heavy blow indeed. That's often a considerable motivator. In contrast, d/s virtually requires that some elements of self remain hidden in order for the romance of d/s to continue to have that magic that people crave an adore.

Poly has been easier for me for a number of reasons. First, as with many autistic people, I greatly favor direct communications. I don't necessarily recognize hints nor do other people generally recognize my hints when I use them. Tantra, SM, and poly are all greatly improved by this sort of communications and the communities around them teach this. Romance, however, and the strains of d/s which are predicated on romance are all greatly damaged by this sort of direct communication. While tantra/SM/poly all teach that romance qualifies as fantasy play and that direct communications is the only way to increase true intimacy, the magic of romance, and of d/s based on romance, is based on some things, some key things, being specifically and intentionally out of conscious awareness.

For me that's very hard. While I do enjoy romance and fantasy, I also need to be able to talk about them and talk about them directly. I don't necessarily know what people will need to keep hidden so it needs to be socially acceptable for me to ask questions about things people deny. I'm going to do it anyway because I don't know when it will or won't be socially acceptable so I may as well find a social environment that values the fact that I do so. Tantra, SM, poly, and many paths of self development all value this trait of mine so working in those worlds becomes easier for me.

Similarly, I don't learn social rules or social behavior the way most people do. Rather, I need to have them spelled out directly and explicitly. I have training in NLP and hypnosis, so I've learned how to ask some of the questions in ways that are extremely subtle sometimes, but I still need explicit directions in many cases or I won't understand what social behavior is expected.

In poly and in SM, and to some degree, in tantra, what matters more than social behavior is how we behave with our partners. No where else in my life has it been more blatantly obvious that different people want different things and that no single formula will make everyone happy than in these areas. Also, no two people are alike. While the patterns, feelings and behavior all repeat, they don't repeat in the same ways from one person to the next. It has been easy for me to learn to ask my partner for what they want as the way for me to learn my interpersonal cues. It's obvious to me that my partner is the most authoritative source of that info and I can generally ask for as much detail as I need. Contrast with, say, d/s where people tend to bring preconceived notions about their roles into a d/s relationship and if their partner doesn't match their expectation, would often prefer to find a partner who did match than discuss the situation to adjust. As many d/s players have told me during potential SM negotiations, "If I have to talk about it, then it won't really be d/s. It won't have that magic - that romance."

Well, sure. But at the same time, I also have no idea what that person might want. They're suggesting that I mind read or that we might just "get lucky" and randomly happen to want the same things. However, I'm extremely weird. I'm not normal. And I promise you that it's extremely rare that someone else and I want the same things, although we frequently want compatible or complementary things.

Poly works the same way for me. I can talk to my partner about what they want, what I want, how we feel, what we would need in some situations, what has meaning and therefor needs to be tread carefully for one of us or another, or what doesn't, and therefor needs little or no caution around it. In the monogamous world, people frequently become offended by those questions. It's like the question of prenuptial agreements - is it simply prudent? or does it presage an expectation of failure to the relationship? Everyone is simply supposed to "just know" what qualifies as monogamy and what violates it. But frankly, anything "everyone knows", I don't know. The word for that "not knowing" is autism but nonetheless, I don't know.

Can I go to a movie with a female friend? Or would that be violating my monogamy agreement? Can I kiss her? What about oral sex? (Cause "everyone knows" and our president said that oral sex isnt' real sex.) What if I'm bisexual? Can I go to a movie with a male friend? Can I kiss him? If all of these things violate a monogamous agreement, then does that mean I simply have to stay home with my monogamous partner forever? And if my partner interprets my even asking these questions as tantamount to breaking up, then does that mean I simply have to risk my entire relationship each time? Or that I have to stay home and never do anything with anyone else?

I never did figure these things out when I was practicing monogamy. And while I'm practicing poly, I don't have to because discussing them is expected and nearly required, which is much easier for me.

Also, relationships don't come easy to me. They're hard to find because finding them means being social which is something which is considerably challenging for me. My relationships mean a lot to me and I'll bend considerably in order to retain one.

When I was practicing monogamy, I didn't even realize how far I could bend or was bending. I didn't notice when a relationship became so restricting that it wasn't fun, enjoyable, or supportive any more. I was particularly susceptible to all of the traps people fall into - where emotionality, even negative emotionality can stand in for intimacy, where mutual fear stands in for security, where security stands in for excitement, where excitement stands in for intimacy, etc. I simply had a difficult time evaluating any of my relationships because a) I didn't have anyone other than my partner to talk to about them, and these aren't questions for one's partner in general and b) I had no context against which to compare.

These days, I examine my relationships more frequently - poly has a way of forcing that to happen periodically whether you're up for it or not. I do compare my relationships. If one has a problem and another does not, then I look to the one which does not have the problem in order to find solutions. If several relationships all have a similar problem, that's a pretty good clue to me that there's something about myself I need to either come to terms with or change. Similarly if one of my partners has a similar problem in several of their relationships. Also, I have other relationship partners to talk to. If I'm having trouble in one relationship, who better to talk to about it aside from that partner than my other intimate partners - my friends, my lovers, the people who care about me and who are, albeit indirectly, affected by how that relationship is running?

In summary, poly isn't emotionally easier. It's hard. There's emotional and spiritual work involved. Like SM and tantra, you can't really be successful at it if you aren't willing to do that work. Although it works in reverse too - if you're willing to do that work, poly, tantra, and SM will help you locate the work to be done and will help you process it as well. IME, monogamy and d/s don't require that work. It's available to some degree if you and your partner both want to pursue it, but it's also anathema to the romance to a large degree.

I had no trouble sticking with one sexual partner when I was practicing monogamy. I never cheated. (Extreme honesty and integrity is another autistic trait). However, where I am now in my life, which includes interests in sex magic, SM, d/s, tantra, relationships, intimacy, ecstasy, shamanism, movies, computer games, entheogens, etc, I find it extremely difficult to find any single partner who is interested in all of those things as would be required by a commitment to monogamy. Poly simply makes more sense to me for my life at the moment and for the foreseeable future. It simply works for me and creates both more intimacy and more concrete spiritual paths through self development than monogamy ever did.

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Perspective

2009-05-20T05:47:53Z

The floor gently swaying below me. The soft spin of the ropes holding me from falling, the swing of the world around me as I fly. A spinning world, a choice to fight or to accept. The right to embrace the world that I see at the moment, or to insist on the world being what I have known all my life. The options to experience being human in an entirely new way, the freedom to leave my presconseptions behind in my skin.

Life is so much simpler if you're willing to accept every moment for it's beauty, to embrace it's discomfort as a beauty within itself.

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6/9--"BDSM & Parenting" workshop at SF Citadel

2009-05-19T19:52:48Z

"BDSM & PARENTING,"
With Master Erik

Tuesday, June 9, 2009
8pm-10pm
SF Citadel; 1277 Mission Street, SF
www.sfcitadel.org

Admission: $20

You're kinky, you're active in your community...& you're a PARENT! Balancing the two lifestyles can be awkward, & dealing with them can be nothing short of difficult at times. In this workshop, we'll discuss ways in which being a "kinky parent" can be managed through the 3 phases of parenthood (Infancy/Toddlers, Pre-Teen/Teens, & Late Teens/Young Adults), as well as the opportunity to trade "words of wisdom" amongst ourselves.

BIO: Master Erik has enjoyed 22 wonderful years of being involved in BDSM communities in the Southeastern US, the UK, & the last 8 years in the SF Bay Area as a staffperson, DM, party host, and workshop presenter. He's a devoted member of SF Citadel Volunteer Staff, DMA, Publisher of Kink-e-Zine, the reigning 2008 Iron Dom...& the proud parent of a 14-year old son (who knows that "Daddy's into some weird stuff!")

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SF Citadel presents, Tryst, May 15, 2009

2009-05-06T02:51:56Z

SF Citadel presents "Tryst", a new specialty party for those who consider themselves to be "on the market" for new dating partners. This is a pansexual party that caters to both the monogamous and polyamorous communities. Whether you are looking for that special someone, a new play partner, or anything in between, we welcome you to come and meet new people and play at Tryst.

We all know how hard it can be to start the first conversation with that hot someone across the room. We are going to help lubricate your passage in a few ways.

* From 8-10pm, ice-breakers and games will help you learn more about each other and get things warmed up
* Special armbands will be provided to help identify relationship orientation and desires so that you can target folks you are most likely compatible with

Friday, May 15, 2009, 8pm - 1am
SF Citadel
1277 Mission St. (at 9th)
San Francisco, CA 94103
$25 at the door

Email tryst@sfcitadel.org for additional information.

Your party hosts, Miss Cynthia & Miss Deb

2009 Schedule:
May 15
July 31
December 18

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HypnoDomme Mistress Kara

2009-04-09T18:35:48Z

Greetings,

It is my pleasure to be here amongst my fellow kinky connoisseurs. If you have any interest whatsoever in Hypnokink please feel free to visit my Tribe profile, you won't be disappointed. Indulge in my photos, blogs and videos for sale. And if you do visit, make your presence known...I of course love the attention. Ciao.

Your Mistress

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S&M makes couples closer

2009-04-05T14:40:25Z

http://www.seductionlabs.org/2009/03/31/spanking-bondage-relationship/

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breast play

2009-03-27T07:36:27Z

I hope this doesn't seem like a stupid question, but I was wondering, How much is too much when it comes to pain and breasts? I don't mean like a threshold for pain, or a personal preference sort of thing. I mean like a health issue. Is there anything that could really harm them with a lot of rough grabbing and stuff?

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How do you adore the feet?

2009-03-25T17:39:38Z

I've cross posted this question about foot fetish sexual fantasies seeking information on the techniques to generate different sexual sensations related to the foot fetish.

I guess I'm considered unusual because I enjoy giving and receiving adoration of the feet.

The soft caress, kissing, sucking toes,tonguing, light tickling of the feet raise my heart beat while hot wax, cigarettes lightly touching the bottoms of the feet or birthday candles dripping wax slowly between the toes initiate goose bumps.

I'd love to hear about the sensations that others apply to the feet!

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SM flea and Fandango April 12th

2009-03-22T16:45:57Z

Hi everyone.

It’s that time again! Mark your calendars.

April 12th, 2009

Lady Thorns SM Community Exchange and Fandango is on April 12th, just a couple of weeks away!

An afternoon at the Bizarre Flea, topped off with a Fandango party at the SF Citadel, will make for a really memorable day.

Come join us for a great day of socializing, shopping, playing and enjoying a San Francisco Leather Tradition.  If you are a vendor or know of a vendor, please forward this to them.  

On April 12, 2009:  Please join Lady Thorn, Kinky Crafts people, Artisans, Leather, Fetish and SM Community members on Sunday April 12th, for the first "SM Community Exchange" of 2009!  

This is the original San Francisco Leather Swap Meet and has been going on since December of 1983. Vendors range from many of the best toy makers in the country, artists, authors, photographers, fetish clothing makers, personal collections and one of a kind item for the connoisseurs in all of us.

Socialize with leather/fetish folk at this three times a year event.  

Date: Sunday April 12th, 2009.
SF Citadel Address: 1277 Mission Street.
(Between 8th and 9th Streets).
San Francisco

Doors open at 2:00 PM.

Admission to the Bizarre Flea is only $5.00.

For vendor info: contact Lady Thorn @ (925) 287-0725.

Vender Set up: 12:30 PM.

Continue the fun by joining us at Fandango.

We will weave our magic inside the SF Citadel with our special lighting and music, providing you with an environment where your energy can soar.

Admission will be available at the Fandango table inside the SM Community Exchange or at the door.

We provide special food, soft drinks, safer sex supplies and a wonderful fun place to play.  

Please bring your toys (old and new) and hot energy.  

Admission: $20.00 at the SM Flea, $25.00 at the door.  

Sunday, April 12th, 2009
6:30PM to 12:00 PM.
The SF Citadel 1277 Mission Street,  San Francisco, Ca 94103.

Work exchange is always needed, contact us for work exchange please.  

For further info or to help with the party, please check out our Web sites at:  www.sfcitadel.org www.smflea.com 

To volunteer please email volunteers@sfcitadel.org with Fandango help in the subject line.

PS: the next Exchange and Fandango will be August 9th, 2009.

 Usually held the second Sunday in April, August and December.
 
P.S. Please forward this to all who you feel should know about it.

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No Personal Ads

2009-03-21T05:50:48Z

I just realized that a long-standing and already widely known policy of this tribe wasn't actually listed in the intro - that of no personal ads to be posted here. I've just rectified that oversight.

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Kinky Krafts III, Toymaking Workshop with Master Erik at SF Citadel

2009-03-19T09:37:06Z

Kinky Crafts III: Toymaking Workshop,
With Master Erik

Saturday, April 18th
1pm-5pm

SF Citadel
1277 Mission Street; SF
415-626-1746
http://www.sfcitadel.org

Admission: $45

We've all been in this scenario before---toy shopping at the local leathers store, and finding ourselves either leaving empty-handed because of how expensive they are or spending hundreds of dollars for just one toy. While leaving, we say to ourselves, "if only I could make my own toys"....well, that time is NOW!

Join Master Erik for a special 4-hour workshop, where he will cover the basics to getting started on making your own floggers, crops, canes, and cat o'nine tails. You'll also learn about shopping for inexpensive materials, leather braiding, and knots commonly used in toy making. Admission for the workshop includes an instructional worksheet to take home with you, and a pre-packaged kit with all the materials needed to make a functional, utilitarian tomcat whip.

TO ENSURE ENOUGH MATERIALS ARE PROVIDED FOR EVERYONE IN ATTENDANCE, PLEASE RSVP TO master_eriks_realm@yahoo.com

BIO: Master Erik has been enjoying the BDSM lifestyle for almost 22 years, playing, volunteering, and giving workshops in Europe, the Southeastern US, and the last 8 years in the SF Bay Area. He is a member of SF Citadel Volunteer Staff, Dungeon Monitors Association, and is Publisher of Kink-e-Zine online, as well as Owner/Proprietor of Airbrush By Master Erik. His handmade "weapons of ass destruction" can be seen--and felt!--most weekends at SF Citadel play parties.

***PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CROSSPOST WHERE APPLICABLE***

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anyone know of a TS Mistress

2009-03-17T00:49:27Z

I am seeking to serve a TS Mistress

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How do I get stated?

2009-03-16T16:24:34Z

I am a sub-male.
I have recently enjoyed an encounter with a professional dominatrix. She supplied me what can only be described as a taster session to the the delights of submission. I would like to take it further but I don't know where to start or where to turn.

Any advice?

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Kink-e-Zine for March, National Womens Month, has launched!

2009-03-14T21:29:58Z

Neither rain, nor sleet, nor Internet connectivity issues can keep Kink-e-Zine down when it comes to bringing you the best in coverage of the BDSM world. With that said, We invite you to check out Our special National Womens Month Edition!

Some of what you'll find inside:

* "Women in BDSM...We Salute You!" & "Changing History: The Evolution Of Nation Women's Month"
* "The Gift Of Pleasure" by Cleo Dubois, "Submission vs. Personality" by kim (MJ) (Australia), & "Beauti's Story" by Beauti
* Dr. PeePee discusses Breath Play
* steamy erotica by Misti
* monthly installments of "Saolu Sees", "Kink In The City", "Ask Me Anything", & "Blog Alley"
* "How Do POC Find Each Other & Why Would They Want To?" by Khadijah Star, "An Apprentice Journey" by Scorpio, & "Embrace Your Feminist Side" by Yhenna in True Colors

and MUCH MUCH MORE!!!

So what are you waiting for? Log on & check Us out!!!
http://www.kink-e-zine.com

Master Erik, Publisher
Kink-e-Zine

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FagHag Such an ugly name and what is it's definition?

2009-03-13T04:09:36Z

FagHag Such an ugly name and what is it's definition?

Not sure where to ask this question but here goes.
FagHag can come across as such an unpleasant word. Its definition seems to be full of inaccurate assumptions and connotations.
I know some women call themselves "FagHags" or "GirlFags" with pride.
My question is: what is the proper descriptive word for the following definitions :

1) A woman that enjoys hanging out with Gay friends.
2) A woman that likes to watch male gay porn.
3) A woman that likes to be part of /control/direct (or force) men on men action.

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rural kink

2009-03-10T17:54:44Z

anyone from a rural area?

i posted on cl and had a great experience with a local guy since i'm living up in the mountains in a small town for a few months.

buttttttt, i've heard horror stories about cl.

and it turns out i'd rather work with this fella than fuck him (or have him tie me up) since i found out we're in the same career.......

there are NO clubs, and no meeting places. not even any gay or lez bars.

there's one toy store but you must be escorted to the upstairs where they keep them and they follow you around when you look at the toys.

doesn't make for the most welcoming atmosphere.

anyone have any tips for finding bdsm folks in rural areas?

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lusty topics from other sires

2009-02-23T01:47:45Z

I see that there are people in here that have profiles on other kinky sites. sometimes the discussion gets pretty hot, some of the subjects are very edgy and descriptive. would sharing some of those subjects be off limits or inappropriate here? within some limits, of course. I'm not talking anything weird, just edgy.

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Toys on Airplanes

2009-02-23T01:30:54Z

My Captain and I are planning a trip to Vegas from Seattle, and were wondering about taking toys on airplanes, particularly a heavy suede flogger and a trainer gag. Has anybody had experience flying with toys since the restrictions were heightened eight years ago or so? Will our goodies be confiscated or be turned away at security if we put them in carry-ons? How about checked baggage?

Thanks for your feedback,
~ pest

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Anal Virgin Preparation!

2009-02-23T01:26:57Z

I have cross posted this information request in another tribe attempting to acquire preparation techniques for anal play.

A girl firend asked me if I would consider anal sex with her.

Her and I have only exchanged dildo/butt plug and finger play in the anus.
SHE HAS NEVER RECEIVED A PENIS IN THE ANUS.

I was wondering if there should be proper prepartion on her part for receivIng me in the anus.

Specifically, enema requirements, hot bath soakings/solutions, lube preparations hrs before we begin or just hand/vibrator manipulation of the anal area.

We will not be fisting as I have no experience in the fisting of the anus.

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Kink-e-Zine's Black History Month issue has just launched!

2009-02-08T01:26:54Z

February’s issue of Kink-e-Zine, honouring Black History Month, has just launched, & it has shaped up to be one of our biggest issues yet! For some of us, it’s a beautiful tribute, & for other it’s a valuable education---regardless, we are proud to present it to you.

Here’s just the tip of the iceberg of what awaits you inside:

“Miracles & Milestones: People Of Colour in BDSM”
“Where Do You Belong?”, by Saolu Sees
“Consensual Slavery” & “Total Power Exchange”, by kim (MJ) (Australia)
“Rituals Of Spirit & Flesh”, by Cleo Dubois”
“Cock & Balls 101 & 102”, by Dr. PeePee
“A Vignette Of Erotic Poetry”, by lilonyx
Master Erik’s Interview with BlackBEAT’s Diamond
Latest installments of “Kink In The City”, “Ask Me Anything”, Blog Alley, & True Colours”

…AND MUCH MUCH MORE!!

Check us out! http://www.kink-e-zine.com

Master Erik, Publisher

**PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CROSS POST WHERE PERMISSIBLE**

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Sacred Dominance and submission Workshop – San Francisco, Feb 21st

2009-01-29T20:55:22Z

Sacred Dominance and submission Workshop – San Francisco, Feb 21st, 9:30 am-12:30; or 1:30 – 4:30pm.

Dominance and submission is a path, not a destination. It is an archetypal ideal that can be approached, but not perfectly attained. The embodiment of Dominance is about leadership, vision, integrity, accountability, responsibility, blessing, protecting, wisdom and more. The embodiment of submission is about service, devotion, surrender and more.

Like any mythic, heroic journey there is tumult, doubt, fear, betrayal, villains, thieves, and mystery to encounter along the way, as well as glory, love, joy, respect, healing, intimacy, connection, ecstasy and Eros.

Dominance and submission is also an inner journey. You will find everything within you that is unresolved about your Dominance or submission, will keep showing up. The tumult you experience externally on this path, reflects the tumult within your own psyche. There is no escaping the unfinished business of our pasts. Without a compass or foundation, it is easy to get lost or stuck along the way. With the right ones for you, this path can become one of learning, healing and expanding the sacred truth of who you are.

For men and women who have already begun their journey as an Erotic or Lifestyle Dominant or submissive or are curious to understand what it might mean to, this workshop will offer tools to help you develop insights to embody your own personally sacred practice of Dominance and submission.

This is complex and highly nuanced material. How much depth is covered for each topic, in a 3 hour workshop, will vary. Variables can be the nature of the participant’s collective experience and intention, or a branch of the material presented may suddenly open up for the group and it becomes the focus of the time we have together. But it will give you the opportunity to start the journey and process of looking at how you want to bring what is sacred to you, into your D/s relationships. And I will be offering focused follow-up workshops to explore specific areas in depth in the future.

Workshop Outline:

Ritual, Mythos, Archetypes, Sacred Space, Symbols, Metaphor – tools to deepen your relationship to yourself and your partner.

The Outer Chamber and the Inner Chamber of a D/s Relationships. Honoring the Light and the Dark aspects of the relationship

The Outer Chamber: They Mythic, Noble, Sacred connection between Dominant and submissive. The King/Queen and devotee/one-in-service Archetypes

The Inner Chamber: Dark Eros – all that is Taboo Forbidden, Cruel, Sadistic. How to authentically, safely, embody the dark archetypes of predator, sadist and others shadow aspects of the unconscious expressed in BDSM.

Resolving the Paradox of Noble Dominant and Cruel Sadist. How both can be true…and noble.

Safely Explore Erotic Humiliation of Your Submissive and Make them Beg for More. How to identify areas of emotional trauma versus ones with a strong erotic charge, and keep your submissive emotionally safe.

Shadows of the submissive – bratty, needy, defiant. out of integrity. When discipline/punishment doesn’t work… how to understand and resolve the shadows to get what you want

Shadows of the Dominant – Tyrant and Weakling – how to recognize and own your shadow in relationship

Authentic Dominance or submission Means Embodying Your Dominance or submission – getting out of your head and deeply into your body

Neo-Tantric Techniques to Build Intimacy, Trust, Safety, Connection, Presence

Using Ritual to build Emotional Safety and Intimacy to Resolve Deep Conflicts.

Date: Feb 21st; Time: 9:30 am to 12:30, or 2 to 5 pm – please indicate which session you are requesting.

Address: San Francisco – USF/Panhandle area – address will be provided to those who register

Space limited to 15 participants each session

Reserve your spot by emailing Galen@DakaDom.com

Cost - $40

About Galen Galen has offered guidance and coaching to men, women and couples in the practice of Dark Tantra/Dark Eros, D/s and BDSM for over 10 years. Dark Tantra employs ritual, breath, conscious movement, touch, experiential exploration and discussion to create a safe, sacred container to explore Dark Eros. This practice includes any aspect of BDSM, Kink, Fetish or Dominance and submission. You can learn more about his work at www.DakaDom.com Galen has presented in the past at Living in Leather, Dallas and Seattle, The Eulenspiegel Society, NYC, Rose City Discussion Club, Portland, OR, the Wet Spot, Seattle, WA The Daka/Dakini Conference, Sedona, AZ, and others. He conducts workshops, writes for publications such as Alternatives Magazine (artice on Dark Eros/Dark Tantra)and the Dom's View. (Bridging the Paradox between the noble mythic aspects of D/s and the dark cruel aspects of BDSM). Galen is aligned with bringing in the sacred, mythic, ritual aspect of D/s and BDSM into a mature approach to this complex lifestyle. He is the author of the acclaimed book, "The Sharp Edge of Love" , and the designer of the www.Tetruss.com portable, lightweight, free-standing suspension bondage rig. Galen is actively involved in a variety of Portland communities from ecstatic dance, men’s work, PDX D/s-BDSM community, sacred sexuality, and training adult mentors for teen boys. He is also a musician/composer (see www.jamwave.com/Galen )

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What do you do when you have different eating patterns

2009-01-27T19:19:44Z

I am playing with a new Dom and spent some time with him and discovered that we have very different eating patterns(time we eat). My problem is that with a medical condition I start having problems if my patterns don't stay in place. How should I talk to him about this. Does anyone have any advice. The good thing is that we like the same foods and stuff.

By the way, he is the one who does all the cooking and feeding.

Thanks for any advice

Jil

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What about Mommy-little boy?

2009-01-22T04:21:01Z

Why is Daddy-little girl ok but I don't hear anyone talk about Mommy-little boy play?

Even some lesbians call themselves "Daddy".

I assume there is less desire for this type of play or more of it would be happening.

I wasn't interested but i met a very nice young man who wants to do this because I resemble his mother who he finds to be attractive and sexy.

I asked him about his history with his Mom. He does like older women.

He wants to call me Mom. He did ask me if I had kids before telling me this and I do not.

I'm curious what the more experienced players have to say about Mommy play.

Thanks,

Ann

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Newbie Panel: "One Year In" on Thursday, Jan 22

2009-01-20T00:36:22Z

SF Citadel presents "One Year In: A Panel of BDSM Newbies"

We've all heard the good advice from those more experienced than us, but who really follows it all? Come hear some real-life stories, mistakes, and amazing experiences from a panel of people who have been through it recently enough that our marks are still fresh. This discussion will be moderated by bethie, Program Director for the Society of Janus. We will cover such topics as:

How has bdsm changed our lives? How did we meet and make friends in the community? How did we learn to negotiate before we knew our limits? How did we figure out what we wanted to try and with whom? What good advice are we grateful for? What good advice do we wish we had listened to?

Bio of the panel organizer: After years of confusion , Deb first realized she might be kinky in March of 2007. Her suspicions were confirmed the following July when she watched her first scene in real life, and by September she was playing regularly and ignoring at least half of the excellent advice given by wiser and more experienced souls. Just over a year later she is happily in service to August Knight and hoping to make it through the next few years with as much luck as the last one.

Admission: $20
Class: 8:00pm-10:00pm
Doors: 7:30pm

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Kink-e-Zine for January 2009 has launched!

2009-01-13T19:38:04Z

It's a new year, & Kink-e-Zine starts 2009 off with a bang with our biggest issue to date! We welcome you to check out what's new & exciting in store for you:

* "A Het Male's Guide To Leather Bars", By Mistral
* "Playing With A Survivor Of Sexual Violence", By Dark Jade
* Fiction/Erotica by Charley Nicole Montrose
* Saolu talks about 'The Notorious' Bettie Page...with the Infamous Madison Young
* "SSC vs. RACK", By Master Erik
* monthly installments of "Kink In The City", "Ask Me Anything", "Blog Alley", "The Edge", "True Colours"....

...& MUCH MUCH MORE!!

Kink-e-Zine is always looking for new material from the community; so if you'd love to showcase your articles, poetry, fiction/erotica, photography, art, etc, Kink-e-Zine is the forum for you to utilize! ASK US ABOUT OUR AFFORDABLE ADVERTISING RATES AS WELL, TO PROMOTE YOUR BUSINESS, ORGANIZATION, OR EVENT!!

http://www.kink-e-zine.com

Master Erik, Publisher

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protocol

2009-01-12T13:46:15Z

believe it or not kiddies, this question is more for the subs in the crowd, but Doms please interject as needed. how important is protocol to you? is a Dom less of a Dom is he breaches protocol? Is a sub endemically out of line if she does so? subs-does it make you hotter when the Dom strictly adheres to protocol?

Chief D

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Hi everyone

2009-01-12T10:28:33Z

I am new here, very interested in BDSM, I haven't had much experience with it, and am not sure when I will be free to do so, but am looking forward to the discussions here.

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Looking for SHibari/Rope Partner in Philadelphia

2009-01-12T05:01:12Z

Are there any women in the Greater Philadelphia area who are in need of a partner to practice their tying techniques on?

I'm experienced with rope play and I think I can offer insights that may be beneficial... I consider myself a rope bottom, not a sub.

If you have questions on rope play, I can either answer it for you or direct yur question to someone who can.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

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Online/Internet/Long-Distance BDSM?

2009-01-12T04:56:37Z

Whether you're an advocate or a critic, the fact is that there is play out there on the ether. It may not be for the strictest masochist (unless carpal tunnel becomes a kink) but there are couples meeting online for interaction with BDSM theme.

My question for the forum here is: why? Why not?

What is it about collarme that attracts folks to log in? Is it for the possibility of meeting someone real eventually, or is it pure fantasy role-play?

Just tossing the topic out there for general consumption. ;)

~S

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Hello.

2009-01-12T04:35:43Z

Hello to all. I just wanted to introduce myself. I don't get involved in conversations too much, but I do read the posts. I'm a little shy, so I probably won't post very often, unless someone demands it...lol.
I'm from SW Michigan; however, I currently, live in Germany. I will be moving back to the States next year. I have lived in Germany for the past 5 years. I'm delighted to have found this web site. I did not know there is such things, as bdsm forums. I apologize, if I have intruded. Since I just recently, found this site I'm unsure, if all are welcome. I have not ever been in a position to speak openly, about my lifestyle, so this forum is interesting. I'm glad I found it.

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finding cotton rope

2009-01-06T16:59:36Z

My partner and I have just started getting into rope bondage. Our first purchase of rope was cotton bondage rope from an online store in red and purple, and we love it. In doing some research, the majority of rope bondage enthusiasts seem to disagree with us. I don't care for the chemicals put into nylon, and my partner dislikes the roughness of jute and hemp. This isn't meant to denigrate anyone else's preferences, I'm only sharing our own opinions.

Of course, finding a gauge wider than clothesline is a must, and primarily we're looking for non-dyed cotton rope. However, in hunting in department stores, hardware stores, and online, I just can't find what we're looking for. Any suggestions?

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Queening

2009-01-06T14:53:32Z

How does one queen without suffocating the bottom?

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Starting a new lifestyle

2008-12-31T16:45:32Z

Hello, my wife and I are wanting to start using BDSM play in our love life. She is open to being the Dom just has a hard time knowing where to go to get things started. She asks me what she should do and what she should say. I don’t want to tell her how to dominate me, asking for something kinda takes away from the pleasure I am looking to receive. I want to open her up to the lifestyle and expose her to new images on her time when I am not around so she can take them in as she sees them. Can anyone direct me to a post or site where she can look around and start to build her ideas of what a Dom does?

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Recently Joined Member Saying Hello :)

2008-12-07T17:12:04Z

Salutations everyone,

I found Tribe.net on a random search for triad relationships and BDSM groups. I've been a Mistress for a few years now and have had a BDSM lifestyle for a long while. I'm in an exclusive relationship with two men, both whom I love dearly.

I hope that I get to converse with others with the same interests and learn more about this wonderful lifestyle, as I am always willing to sharpen and polish my skills :)

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Kinky reads

2008-12-05T16:01:28Z

So, I've been reading some great books lately, but I've also noticed how some of the best books aren't things I would EVER classify as kinky. Maybe self help, spirituality, even business management, but definitely NOT kinky.... and yet.

What books are you devouring right now? Kinky or kink-related.

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Giving permission to your slave to have sex with others...

2008-12-02T00:33:37Z

For those who have sex with their slaves: Do you allow your slaves to flirt and/or have sex with others? In real life or online? Does jealousy make it easier to torture them?

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New to the scene

2008-12-02T00:26:40Z

just wanted to stop and say hi to everyone. my wife and i are new to the scene. we would consider ourselves as switches.

i am actually going to start creating our dungeon furniture soon and will post some pics of completed projects.

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Aloha new member to this list from Hawaii

2008-11-28T19:50:58Z

Aloha,
I would like to join your Tribe!

I am D (known as Misstress D yes mabel 4 s'). I am a Sexologist and often nurture new folks in the Pacific Rim and around the world to become comfortable members of the Alternative Lifestyles Community. I am the Co-facilitator of The Jaded Edge Club Workgroup Cooperative, a group of volunters who throw SSC parties in Hawaii. I really enjoy discussing BDSM topics with folks with open minds. I have profiles on CollarMe and BDSM Life.

In Love Light and Joyous Laughter, Misstress D

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How to articles?

2008-11-25T04:45:31Z

Hi everyone,
I'm looking on some good websites/articles with how-to tips for pleasing a girl orally. Does anyone know of any online? thanks for your help!

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KINK-E-ZINE STAFF POSITIONS NOW OPEN!!

2008-11-11T22:58:22Z

Kink-e-Zine is an online publication serving the BDSM, Leather, Kink & Fetish communities. Within one year, we have seen coverage expand from exclusively San Francisco Bay Area to nationwide, with worldwide coverage in the works. In order to make such a vital publication as Kink-e-Zine, my responsibility is to make sure that a proficient Staff is in place to insure smooth operations with each monthly issue. Are you someone who wants to contribute your knowledge of the BDSM, Leather, Kink & Fetish lifestyle? Are you someone who can meet deadlines necessary to publish issues on time? Do you want to “give back to your community” in some capacity? Then maybe Kink-e-Zine is something you---and we---can benefit from as a Staffperson!

Kink-e-Zine has openings for the following positions. Please keep in mind that these positions are strictly voluntary at the time, as Kink-e-Zine is presently a free publication; however, plans are to establish a tiered system in the near future, which would produce revenues to offer monthly stipends for Kink-e-Zine Staff.

Please email publisher@kink-e-zine.com with the position you are interested in, telling a bit about your background in the scene, pertinent experience you have that would qualify you for the position you’re applying for, and if possible, samples of your work. Due to the time-sensitive nature of each issue published monthly, it is requested that you seriously consider your time availability and commitment to this cause before applying.

DEADLINE FOR APPLICATIONS: NOVEMBER 30, 2008

http://www.kink-e-zine.com

Master Erik, Publisher

ASSISTANT EDITOR: The Assistant Editor’s primary responsibility is assisting the Publisher and the Chief Editor with communication of the Staff---emails on Kink-e-Zine information, procuring articles from Staff and the community, and copyediting/proofreading. Submittal of articles for Kink-e-Zine is strictly on an “at will” basis, and not a requirement for the position. Previous editing/proofreading experience is essential, with good spelling/punctuation, as well as familiarity with Yahoo, Tribe, and Fetlife for community contact.

STAFF COLUMNIST (2 openings): The Staff Columnist is a literary “jack-or-all-trades” (or jill!) when it comes to producing quality articles for any segment of Kink-e-Zine, on virtually any topic deemed of interest to our readers. This is a Staff position whereas your articles educate, enlighten, and entertain! Sometimes you’ll even be given assignments to interview some of the foundations of the San Francisco BDSM community, or to review events (EEB, IMsL, Folsom Street Fair, etc.) Submittal of articles for Kink-e-Zine carries a minimum requirement of 1-2 articles monthly. Please attach a sample of your writing in the body of the email, not as an attachment.

“LGBT TALK” COLUMNIST: The “LGBT Talk” Columnist is “the voice of the San Francisco Bay Area LGBT community” to the world, and should be passionate about the work he/she does. The “LGBT Talk” Columnist should be someone with good writing skills, good resources for information, and actively involved in the San Francisco Bay Area LGBT Leather scene. Submittal of articles for Kink-e-Zine carries a minimum requirement of 1-2 articles monthly. Please attach a sample of your writing in the body of the email, not as an attachment.

“TRUE COLORS” COLUMNIST: The “True Colors” Columnist will be instrumental in making Kink-e-Zine’s newest segment a big success with articles, interviews, and history focused on Kink People of Color. The “True Colors” Columnist should be someone with good writing skills, good resources for information, and actively involved in the POC Leather scene in his/her community. Submittal of articles for Kink-e-Zine carries a minimum requirement of 1-2 articles monthly. Please attach a sample of your writing in the body of the email, not as an attachment.

“PROFFESIONALS” EDITOR: The “Professionals” Editor will work with the Publisher and the Advertising / Sales Coordinator and will hold the responsibility of coordinating “Professionals”---Kink-e-Zine’s segment focusing on Pro Dom/mes, subs & Switches, and Kink aware professionals nationwide. Previous/current work in the professional industry would be very beneficial, as well as active involvement in the Leather scene in his/her community.

ADVERTISING / SALES COORDINATOR: The Advertising / Sales Coordinator reports to the Publisher and Chief Editor, holding a very important responsibility within Kink-e-Zine---generating revenues to cover costs of Kink-e-Zine operations through procurement of selling advertising space to businesses, events, and organizations on a per issue and annual basis contract. This will be the only active paid Staff position until the new tier system is established, on a percentage commission based on sales. Advertising / Sales background is essential to make it work…and to keep Kink-e-Zine afloat!

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Kink-e-Zine for November has launched!

2008-11-11T21:01:53Z

Happy Spanksgiving! Kink-e-Zine’s November issue has just launched, and we welcome you to take a peek and see what’s fresh, what’s exciting, and what’s worth being informed about in the BDSM, Leather, Kink & Fetish world.

In this issue:

"No On 8--Let's Not Turn Into A Mob"
"Floggers: You Can Swing Them, But What Do You Know About Them?",
"Zen and BDSM"
Vitamin A Interviews Tom “Zed”: The McGuiver of BDSM
Erotica by Elusive Grace
Dark Jade talks about Breath Play in “The Edge”
Monthly segments of Blog Alley, “Kink In The City”, “Ask Me Anything”
The first segment of “True Colors”, a section focused on the POC community

...and MUCH MUCH MORE! Stay tuned for December’s issue, when we launch “Professionals”---a new segment for worldwide advertising and interviews with Pro Dom/mes, subs, Switches, and Kink aware professionals.

Kink-e-Zine is committed to serving the BDSM community worldwide, as well as providing a forum for aspiring writers, workshop presenters, models, photographers/artists, and professionals to reach out to the community with their works. If you’d like to submit something for us to publish, we’d love to hear from you! Also don’t forget---if your business, event, or organization has the need for worldwide exposure and increased visibility, Kink-e-Zine offers advertising space at unbelievably affordable rates!

Kink-e-Zine….CHECK US OUT!

http://www.kink-e-zine.com

Master Erik, Publisher

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Searching for play partners

2008-10-24T05:10:44Z

I've yet to find a tribe-based space that amounts to a dating/personals posting area specific to searching for bdsm/kink play partners. Don't know if it's appropriate here either. My experience in dungeons is that most people arrive at parties with someone rather than seek out (and negotiate with) new people on-the-spot.

So, looking for someone to play with seems to work best before going to the party. Munches may help (I intend to go to those again), but maybe we can work it here, too. I'm not exactly new to the scene but I've had a hard time meeting people available for play... Whaddya think?

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Ohio

2008-10-22T22:18:57Z

Where is the kink in Ohio, any one know?

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11/8 - Introduction to Skydancing Tantra - Santa Clara, CA

2008-10-22T03:27:56Z

Introduction to Skydancing Tantra
with Chris English
Saturday, Nov 8, 2008 at Edges in Santa Clara, CA

Ever Wondered About Tantra?

Ever wondered about Tantra? Interested in improving your communications skills? In learning to build further intimacy and trust? Especially around the intersection of sexuality and spirituality? Curious about creating sacred space? Or about developing your connection with a partner?

Come find out how to use your body, your breath and your truth as tools to open a pathway for your sensations, expanding your consciousness and connection to others, moving from fear to trust and from desire into bliss.

Skydancing Tantra Teacher in Training

I'm currently studying with Margot Anand toward a certification to teach Skydancing Tantra. This is a several years long course of study involving a number of one week workshops and some weekend workshops. As part of my coursework, I've been assigned to teach quite a few one and two day workshops specifically on Skydancing Tantra. Other than the fact that I'm teaching these and many of them are being held in local BDSM play spaces, these classes are not specifically BDSM related. Anyone who is interested is welcome.

Skydancing Tantra

The vast body of knowledge and practices developed by Margot Anand is called SkyDancing Tantra: The Path to Bliss. Margot, along with her certified SkyDancing teachers, have taught SkyDancing Tantra to tens of thousands of people worldwide, through nine international SkyDancing institutes.

The path of SkyDancing Tantra came to Margot as a revelation rather than a tradition. Yet the path of the SkyDancer goes back to ancient Tibet, when Yeshe Tsogyal, the enlightened consort of Buddha Padmasambhava, was called the "Great Skydancer." Together they developed Tantric Buddhism. "Skydancers" in the Buddhist tradition were people of great passion who were profoundly devoted to spiritual awakening. The path of the SkyDancer is a path of spiritual partnership between men and women as equal spiritual partners integrating ecstatic states into their daily lives.

For more about Skydancing Tantra including further classes:

* Margot Anand - http://www.margotanand.com
* USA Skydancing Tantra Institute - http://www.skydancingtantra.org
* Steve & Lokita Carter - http://ecstaticliving.com
* Michael Pooley - http://ecstaticloving.net

Tell me more!

The next workshop will be held in Santa Clara, California at Edges, (http://edges.biz), from 10am to 6pm with a one hour break for lunch. There are several reasonable lunch alternatives nearby.

Class is $150 per couple and preregistration is required.

Couples may be of any gender and any orientation. If you are single and interested I encourage you to invite a friend and register as a couple. Exercises will be somewhat intimate although fully clothed so be sure to pick a friend with whom you are comfortable being intimate.

Sign us up!

You'll find a paypal registration button at the bottom of this page: http://teamnoir.name/Skydancing.html

If you have any questions, please feel free to email me: ice@noir.com

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San Fran Exotic Erotic Expo - help wanted.....

2008-10-05T04:33:19Z

I'll be vending the expo this year with My leather booth and might need extra help.
Prefer attractive females that AREN'T total bimbos.

Compensation varies on experience and availability.

please reply with pics and alt lifestyle experience history

~Robert
www.leathermystics.com

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Article about Kink.com

2008-09-30T03:44:00Z

http://digg.com/business_finance/Kink_dreams

DIGG IT!

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Master seeks submissive female.

2008-09-12T07:06:15Z

Training, discipline and punishments. Seek obedience, loyalty and full compliance.

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Algolagnia

2008-09-03T02:33:15Z

When the word find of the day is uber-kinky, it is indeed a good day. Why have I never heard this word in the dungeon? Well, in the upstairs part, at least.

algolagnia: form of sexual perversion in which the infliction or the experiencing of pain increases the pleasure of the sexual act or causes sexual pleasure independent of the act; includes both sadism (active algolagnia) and masochism (passive algolagnia).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Algolagnia

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looking for a group

2008-08-26T07:15:07Z

i have a friend looking for a group around San Jose, CA if anyone knows of one i would appreciate it and so would my friend.

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Yet another newbie...

2008-08-22T17:22:45Z

Hello all. I am yet another shiny newbie, waiting with baited breath to learn more about this thing called kink. I have been aware of kink for some time now, but only recently felt like it should be part of my life. This realization came from opening myself up to someone who has become very important to me. She helped me realize that part of why I inflict pain is that I enjoy it. I made further realizations about myself when someone else re-entered my life and was willing to let me do even more to him. These two are willing to give me the gift of their submission. I wish to be worthy of that gift. Thus I turn to this place, hoping that I can gain a basic understanding so that I may ask the right questions to lead me further on this path.

Thank you for taking the time to usher in those of us who have not yet made our way all the way down this rabbit hole to see where it leads.

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New BDSM group in Columbia Missouri

2008-08-22T17:13:36Z

Just wanted to announce that there is a new BDSM group in Columbia Missouri called Pandora's Rose. The website is www.pandorasrose.com.

Scorch

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Two Weeks Until "The Headbangers Ball"!!!

2008-08-18T16:14:33Z

SF Citadel presents "The Headbangers Ball",
Themed Open Play Party
Hosted by Master Erik

SF Citadel
1277 Mission Street; San Francisco, CA
415-626-1746
www.sfcitadel.org
Saturday, Sept. 6, 2008
8pm - 1am

Admission $25

FOR THOSE ABOUT TO ROCK...WE SALUTE YOU!!

Join the party people at SF Citadel as we pay tribute to the days when rock-n-roll superstars dominated music videos, concert tours, and many of our fashion styles from the 70's and 80's. The dress theme? Come "rockered out"--be a red-hot rebel rocker, a sexy groping groupie, a randy roadie, a perverted punk rocker, nasty band manager, the ultimate arena band fan, or flashy record producer in your leather, studs, spandex, scarves, short skirts, lots of makeup...and let's not forget BIG ROCKER HAIR!!! Your sexiest fetish attire will also work just fine (after all, rockers love leather, right?). Prizes awarded for best Male & Female Costume. This is an Open Play Party, so everyone's invited to join the fun.

Your VIP Backstage Pass at the front door allows you to indulge your tastebuds on metalhead munchies and watch music videos on the big screen in the Rocker's Lounge, while DJ Mystic Moods mixes rock classics from the 70's-80's with today's dungeon sounds. Wanna really show you got what it takes to go platinum? Step up to the mic and be a contestant in the AIR GUITAR CONTEST for some fabulous prizes!! Keep a tuned ear open for ROCK TRIVIAL PURSUIT questions throughout the night to increase your winnings! PLUS..SPECIAL ENTERTAINMENT!!

Then, if you really want to "pump up the volume", come on downstairs to the dungeon and "earn your autographs", where 2000+ square feet of kinkster's paradise awaits you. We provide the ambiance, you provide the energy!

Be a "front-row seat Volunteer" and get free admission. Email to sfcitadelvolunteers@gmail.com

COME ON FEEL THE NOIZE...& GET WILD-WILD-WILD!!

**PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CROSSPOST**

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Kink-e-Zine for August has launched!

2008-08-08T19:34:45Z

Once again, we've won the battle of server issues, & are proud to
announce August's issue has launched!

Here's a sneak peek at what's in store for you:

* Elusive Grace sits down with Loki
* Maestro Stefanos' steps up to the Mic with Electronica band Cuir Bleu
* "The Rawhide Kid: Changing the Face Of Comic Books"
* Vitamin A discusses Penile / Testicular Fractures (ouch!)
* Monthly installments of Blog Alley, Kink in the City, Ask Me
Anything, & The Edge

AND MUCH MORE!

Kink-e-Zine encourages works from the community locally & nationwide.
If you have a flair for writing informative articles, artwork,
photography/modeling, fiction/erotica, or humour, then we'd love to
feature your works in an upcoming issue. As always, we're also seeking
new ideas, new Staff members, & people involved in the West, Midwest,
Northeast, & Southeast Regions to assist us in more extensive,
accurate regional coverage.

Got an event, organization or business you'd like to promote? Inquire
about our economical advertising rates for maximum coverage nationwide
to thousands of readers a month!

** FEEL FREE TO CROSS-POST ***

Master Erik, Publisher

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Iron Dom Contest this Saturday at the Citadel

2008-07-31T19:50:45Z

Do they Have What It Takes?

Suppose a top was stranded on a
desert island with only the flotsam and jetsam that washed ashore with
him. After he takes care of his basic necessities, he fills his
time making toys...and we know what kind of toys!!

Eventually, someone else washes ashore and lo and behold, that person is a
BOTTOM!!! After great rejoicing and throwing a party in the new
companion's honor, of course, they play. But wait!!! What if that
person who washed ashore was of the incorrect gender or orientation?
Does the top have what it takes to make it work anyway?

This is what we will find out in this contest to determine 2008's Iron
Dom!

Here's the deal: After the tops make the toys... they will have to
perform the hottest and most creative 5 minute scene with their bottom
in front of both audiences and judges. Oh yes... and did I mention
that the tops and bottoms will be matched together by the luck of the
draw... and only have a few minutes to set their scene up before
coming out to entertain the audience?

Only those who have attended past Iron Dom contests understand how
much fun this is and how much creativity goes into the making of the
toys. This really is a must see.

This is great fun for everyone, both participants and spectators.
Come by and watch the contestants make their toys out of various
things Domina, the famous Frugal Dom, choses. Visit with your
friends. Stay for lunch and have one of Domina's Justly Famous Sloppy
Joes (Endorsed by the President of Odyssey Himself.)

We are honored to tell you that Citadel is allowing ALL PROCEEDS of
this event to go to FOOD FOR THOUGHT, the Sonoma County Aids Food Bank
where Domina Volunteers. And if you're smart, you'll stay for the
usual Saturday Night Party at the Citadel.

August 2, 2008
Contest and Lunch: $25
Contest only :$20
Door at 2:30.

Contestants will make their toys from 2:30 until 4:30. The Contest
will start at 5:00.

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What Play Piercing Tops Look For

2008-07-13T19:27:56Z

Good morning,
I'm definitely a play piercing bottom looking for tops to play with. I'm curious. For the play piercing tops that are out there, what is it that you are drawn to in a play partner? Are there things that a play piercing bottoms can do to attract your attention? Does wearing a purple hankie in the right pocket help?

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is it shared energy?

2008-07-08T02:02:26Z

question:I find that although I can get some pretty hot sessions going solo (using fantasy as opposed to real time to drive my passion), partnering always seems to make for longer, more intense sex. why is this? if the primary sex organ is our brains then what's the deal with needing another person to validate the fact that one is having a hot sexual experience?

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Bastinado

2008-07-08T01:13:37Z

I have experienced bastinado, having the bottoms of my feet caned, in a scene. Utterly painful, almost unbearable and completely hot.

The problem is, I just can't get any straight information on where is safe to be hit and and what the "best practices" are when it comes to bastinado. Which leads me to wondering if we are doing something that is going to cause some issues down the line. I've read and heard that bastinado can cause damage to both blood vessels and nerves in the feet. The last thing I want is some long term nerve damage. But I gather that hitting the ball of the foot or heel could also come close to the small bones that could easily break like those in the toes, while avoiding that tender part by the arch with the highest concentration of nerves. So where is safest?

What is your experience? Have you ever seen nerve damage from bastinado, and/or has anyone ever asked a podiatrist? How do you practice bastinado?

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the "sleep" syndrome

2008-06-24T20:06:01Z

question:usually it's us guys who classically drop off to sleep after "the deed" is done. i contend that you women want the same thing, you just need to "give yourselves permission,"-with a little cuddling prior to sleep. am i wrong?

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Hemophagia

2008-06-24T06:53:55Z

I apologize for cross posting this, but I'm looking for any perspective I can get.

I believe that I have a blood fetish, but mine centers on actually consuming blood and has very intense emotional undercurrents as well as sexual ones. I would say that I have Renfield's Syndrome, except I am under no delusion that I need blood for my health. It's a compulsion, and one that I have, for the most part, successfully resisted over the years. I've never sought out people to experience this with as I'm not interested in participating in such an intensely emotional act with people who are not emotionally close to me, and I'm terrified of telling people I am emotionally close to that I have a fetish/psychosis most often associated with serial killers and delusionals.

So, does anybody here know anything about this sort of thing? Any thoughts on where it comes from or how to deal with it? Am I a freak among freaks or is this something that other people practice healthily?

I am currently faced with a partner who keeps asking distressingly perceptive questions and the more I evade them the more curious he becomes. I need to get my head wrapped around this and figure out how I feel about it myself before I can even think about talking to him about it!

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Rape play . . . suggestions?

2008-06-23T04:29:27Z

So, my boyfriend and I are interested in exploring this. We're experimented a bit--once really on the fly, where I just decided to fight him and pretend I didn’t want it, and it was really hot. The second time, we did a lot more planning, setting up a basic scenario and script. Again, it was super hot, but I'm curious about other peoples' experiences, resources (yes, I know Mike west teaches a class, and we're very keen to take it, but it's not on his near-future schedule, so . . .)

The aftercare and processing I'm not so worried about, because we have that pretty well down. My questions are . . .

Obviously, I'm enjoying it. So, how do I convincingly pretend not to? Do we come up with things he can do that I actually don't like, so I can more convincingly dislike the scenario?

Do people tend to have set scripts, or do I sort of freestye? If the latter, how do you most efectively escalete the violence? If the former, how do you keep it from being like bad porno?

Any top tips and hints? We have a very loving, communicative relationship so I'm really not worried about miscommunication or things getting out of control. It’s just more about how to make it as nasty as possible . . .

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Surgeons cut 16 washers from penis

2008-06-13T01:20:22Z

Surgeons cut 16 washers from penis. Quote FTA: "The man may well have thought long and hard about placing himself in the difficult situation":

http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,23791992-5001021,00.html

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Seattle Sub

2008-06-11T07:37:46Z

Hello. I'm a new member and am wondering where to begin with my submissive curiousities in the Seattle.
Any newly dominant women in the area?
Thank you.

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A Whole New World

2008-06-11T07:34:17Z

Hello all.
I am just stepping into the world of BDSM. My and my SO are interested most in D/s play. She is the sub and I am the DOm. I have done a bit of research online, but I am still not sure if I am finding what I am looking for as I tend to miss fine print in front of my eyes. I am wanting to make sure that I am not going to put her in pain, and I understand that only she can tell me what is too much. We are looking for this to go further. I have Dom tendencies, but I am also a very caring person. I am also somewhat of a perfectionist. No I know that I am not going to get it right the first time. But I want to make sure that we both have a good time.

Whit that being said. I am simply looking for good sound advice on what can be too much to handle at first and what is a good way for two people to start off in this type of play.
Any information is welcome.

Thanks
.

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A review of "Men's Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend with Cléo Dubois, Eve Minax, and Selina Raven - May 2008"

2008-06-11T07:31:09Z

www.sm-arts.com

An indescribably powerful experience. I'd recommend it to anyone who wants to touch the real magic of BDSM.

I had the great fortune to participate in this intensive a few weeks ago and would like to share a bit with the community.

The course started when I started filling out the application. It's followed by a phone interview with Madame Cléo. During the interview, she mentioned a few books that would be helpful to have read before coming to the intensive. The New Topping Book by Easton & Hardy and Consensual Sadomasochism by Henkin & Holiday. Sybil Holiday helped Cléo create this course. I found both very helpful. (Though it was a bit strange to be reading Consensual Sadomasochism at the Airport when a nun dressed in a white habit sat down next to me for a while :)

The course started Friday evening with everyone, the instructors, the volunteers, the participants and their partners getting together to meet and find out about each other. This also served as the start of finding a partner for the play party if you don't have one. The volunteers had all taken the women's course and were described as "Full Power Bottoms". And they were, giving clear feedback when appropriate. After a while, many of the volunteers left, and we started the class with the initial lecture, meditations, handing out of the workbook (over 100 pages of very clear and concise material to help you remember and expand on the course) and a small bit of homework. The evening focused on Who are you? What is your dominance style? What qualities do you have? And do they seem to cluster?

The first day we gather at the Citadel in San Francisco. One could view the outline for the day as developing the skills in the same order that is necessary for play. The training started with our attribute clusters and progressed to Archetypes, based loosely on the work of Carolyn Myss-Sacred Contracts, and how it can be applied to play. We then did a meditation to connect with our energy, the energy of the group and to bring it present. We then did several trust building and connection exercises that helped us not just instill trust in our partners, but in ourselves as givers of sensation, and reading our partners needs / limits.

Lecture on Negotiation: Followed by negotiation with three volunteers, one of which became my play partner for Sunday evening. An interesting feedback point I was given is it's important to always bring up sex, even if your not expecting/desiring it, because your partner may be expecting it.

Then it was on to technical skills (it's all skills, but I needed a word), this was a bit like a three ring circus, flogging, spanking, and caning. I spent my time on Flogging. Focusing on a lighter approach than I had been taught elsewhere. Using my wrist, rather than my shoulder. Of course, once someone's warmed up, the power from the shoulder becomes useful. One thing became clear, that even if you know a bit about using these tools, there is so much more one can learn. Dragging a flogger after a strike, multiple strikes in a single stroke w/ a cane, missing, anticipation, Kodo vs. Baba Olatunji rhythms, and more.

A lecture on topping / Scene dynamics followed by a Scene demo, Cléo and Elmo (one of the volunteers) did a very compressed scene in about an hour; no amount of description could possibly do it justice. It was fun, intense, sexy, spontaneous, and amazing. It was interesting talking with one of the other participants who had never seen that much sensation given before.

The day ended with a discussion and a bit more homework.

The second day was 12 hours long, fun and intense. Mostly focused on Ds.

Lecture on Ds & Collaring. Collaring exercise and exercises giving commands. Lots of fun yet serious with plenty of feedback.

Lecture on Archetype play, Humiliation games, age & animal play.

Archetype play, I did Age Play with Cléo. Found that my age play was too based in psycho drama, by going lateral to real life, it's quite possible to make the scenes a lot more fun, lively, and at the same time a bit safer.

JD of the Knotty Boys came by after lunch to teach ropes. If you haven't seen their work, check out their videos on YouTube or http://www.roperigger.com/code/videos also check out their books. Lots of fun and very high energy. Cléo told me that if he's in town he will come and teach.

Blindfolds, hoods and a meditation. An example of how reducing one or more senses increases the others. All I can say is that I had a very interesting and personal journey.

Genitorture demo – Minax & Elmo showed us how to use various toys safely. It was very intense and sadly too short.

Learning to pierce- Two of us opted to learn how to do play piercing. All I can say is that I'm very glad I did.

The Ritual-Quite an eye opener, a perfect prequel to the play party. Really must be experienced to be understood.

Play Party-I was quite fortunate to have found a partner for the play party. I was told it doesn't always happen. We did (what to me was) an intense sensation scene. A flogging followed by a caning over a 2+ hour time frame. My partner was more confident in my skills than I was and brought me both a heavy and braded floggers. Selina helped me get started with the flogging and Cléo helped me keep the caning from getting boring. I was able to go places that it might have taken me years to get the courage to try at the intensity I did. Wow!

All in all, I can't recommend the intensive highly enough. I'm still finding things that are opening and changing in my life as a direct result of my participation.

The next intensives are scheduled below:

Erotic Dominance Weekend Intensive for Dominant Women & Women Who Switch
July 19-20, 2008 in San Francisco
Hands on Training! Class limited to 9!
Gain the confidence you need to make your scenes soar!
Teachers: Cleo Dubois and Eve Minax, with the assistance of Selina Raven
www.sm-arts.com/intensives/women.html
www.sm-arts.com/intensives/form-women.html

Erotic Dominance Intensive, Professionals’ course
August 15-17, 2008 in San Francisco
Hands on Training! Class limited to 9
The techniques, fetishes and business of Professional Dominance
Teachers: Cleo Dubois and Eve Minax, with the assistance of Selina Raven
http://www.sm-arts.com/intensives/pros.html
http://www.sm-arts.com/intensives/form-pros.html

Erotic Dominance Weekend Intensive for Dominant Men & Men Who Switch
October 4-5, 2008 in San Francisco
Hands on Training! Class limited to 9
Dominate with presence and passion!
Teachers: Cleo Dubois and Eve Minax, with the assistance of Selina Raven
www.sm-arts.com/intensives/men.html
www.sm-arts.com/intensives/form-men.html

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Silly

2008-06-08T01:02:00Z

So, I've been watching 9 1/2 Weeks recently........
And it occurs to me that that would have been a GREAT relationship with a bit of NEGOTIATION..........
All the parts are hot, she just didn't KNOW she was becoming a sub.......dur.

That's all.
Discuss. Or not.........

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Kink-e-Zine's Special Pride Month Edition has just launched!!

2008-06-07T20:54:26Z

Kink-e-Zine honours National Pride Month with a SPECIAL EDITION, packed with informative, exciting information---this is our biggest issue yet!

A peek at what’s inside this month:

* Kink-e-Zine Staff share their perspectives on the Supreme Court ruling allowing same-sex marriages
* “Gay Pride: A Turbulent Past, A Colorful Present, A Promising Future”
* The History of San Francisco’s Castro District
* “Gay & Lesbian Culture Through the 20th Century and Beyond”
* “Coming Out: Making your Private Sexuality a Public Fact”
* Jorge Vieto Shows How To Make a Rope Single Tail
* Master Erik’s Interview with Cleo Dubois and fakir Musafar
* Maestro Stefanos talks about Negotiation
* “BDSM & Pregnancy” with Chey
* Monthly installments of “Kink In The City”, “Ask Me Anything”, “The Leather Blog”, “The Edge” and much more including coverage of Pride Celebrations for San Francisco & across the nation!

http://www.kink-e-zine.com

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CROSS POST THIS ANNOUNCEMENT

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Tonight is the night!

2008-06-03T18:21:02Z

Tonight, at the Citadel, there is a awesome class that will be great for beginners and more experienced players alike. If you are a Sadist, or a masochist, this class will be packed with useful info about how to manage, transcend and channel pain. It will teach a variety of skills for making scenes deeper, address common road blocks and how to overcome them, AND it will have time for you to practice these skills!Below is the blurb:

"Pain and Catharsis"
SF Citadel
1277 Mission Street
Tuesday June 3rd
Class from 8-10PM, Doors opening at 7:30

Would you like to take your masochism to the next
level? Do you wish to have less fear and more
catharsis in your scenes? This class focuses on
exploring and developing ways of channeling
energy/pain, as well as learning to experience
catharsis with authenticity. Each participant will
have the opportunity to try multiple methods for
processing "pain," as well as gain an understanding
of the advantages, disadvantages and potential uses of
these ways of processing sensation in their play. The
class is geared towards
masochists, but sadists and other orientations are
welcome to attend.

Mistress Lark graduated from Humboldt State University with
A Bachelors Degree in Sexual Arts, focusing on the
intersections of Tantra and BDSM. She is a Graduate
of the Journeyman III Academy of California with
advanced training in Leather history, traditions,
spirituality and practice. She has taught in both the
kink and non kink community for years and is happy
to be teaching at the SF Citadel.

Keri has been in the scene for over eight years and is
a cadet at the Journeyman III Academy, class of 2008.
Her column, "Kink in the City" can be read in the
monthly on-line magazine, kink-e-zine.com. Through
BDSM, she has discovered her own power and
strength. She identifies as a slave who is not a
beginner's model.

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transitioning from vanilla to D/s relationship

2008-06-03T17:46:16Z

Im new to the BDSM community, but not BDSM, and I was wondering if anyone else out there has had a similar experience they are willing to talk about. All of my life I have had vanilla relationships, very typical and traditional at that. But I have also always liked kinky and rough sexual play, including blood play, actually I have been into alot of things that have fallen into the BDSM category if you will but I never ackowledged it as such. Well now I find myself in a fulltime D/S relationship with a wonderful Lord who I love and worship dearly, but I feel a bit lost, and scared. A D/S relationship is much different than a vanilla one, so I find myself in an unknown zone. Im embracing the D/S lifestyle but it is new to me, there are differnt dynamics, and differnt PE. There are so many things about the D/S lifestyle that I love, such as the communication, the honor, the trust I have in my Lord, not to mention the edge that I adore to embrace. Yet I feel lost in my relationship style. Has any one else went through this or something similar, feedback would be awsome

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Awesome class for Masochists on Tuesday!

2008-06-01T05:31:00Z

"Pain and Catharsis"
SF Citadel
1277 Mission Street
Tuesday June 3rd
Class from 8-10PM, Doors opening at 7:30

Would you like to take your masochism to the next
level? Do you wish to have less fear and more
catharsis in your scenes? This class focuses on
exploring and developing ways of channeling
energy/pain, as well as learning to experience
catharsis with authenticity. Each participant will
have the opportunity to try multiple methods for
processing "pain," as well as gain an understanding
of the advantages, disadvantages and potential uses of
these ways of processing sensation in their play. The
class is geared towards
masochists, but sadists and other orientations are
welcome to attend.

Mistress Lark graduated from Humboldt State University with
A Bachelors Degree in Sexual Arts, focusing on the
intersections of Tantra and BDSM. She is a Graduate
of the Journeyman III Academy of California with
advanced training in Leather history, traditions,
spirituality and practice. She has taught in both the
kink and non kink community for years and is happy
to be teaching at the SF Citadel.

Keri has been in the scene for over eight years and is
a cadet at the Journeyman III Academy, class of 2008.
Her column, "Kink in the City" can be read in the
monthly on-line magazine, kink-e-zine.com. Through
BDSM, she has discovered her own power and
strength. She identifies as a slave who is not a
beginner's model.

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Thank you all but now I'm on my own

2008-05-27T20:00:29Z

Thank you all for responding to my previous post. You all gave some great advice but it won't do much to help in this case anymore. She is to afraid of us ending to start anything with me. I still would like to learn form someone first hand but don't know anyone in my area to learn with or from.

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Newbie

2008-05-26T13:34:30Z

Hello everyone!
I'm a newbie Sub.
I'm actually posting to find the best place to find My Dom.......I live in a small-ish town (college).
I thought I'd announce myself as a newbie.
I'm looking for some other subs to help me and some doms to guide me............

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Newbie Dom (please help)

2008-05-25T01:35:58Z

Hi,

My name is Culham, I'm 18 and have always been excited and interested by BDSM. Up until now I have never had a girl friend or sex partner that was into more than just "starfishing" for lack of a better term. They never wanted to experiment or try new things so I was left wanting. I don't know where to start but I know I want to learn more.

my mai reason for picking to learn now more than ever is the one of my new friends and I started to get to know one an other and have really fallen for each other. She is really into BDSM and wants to get into it more. The problem is she thought I wasn't into BDSM because I never have had any experience and was thinking she'd have to pick between me or it. She hasn't got much experience either and has been looking for an "in" to learn to be a sub for some time. One of her friends has offered to show her the ropes but she feels if she was with me, even with my consent, if anything happened she'd feel guilty of cheating on me or betraying me. We asked her friend if he could couch/teach us both, as per her idea, or would feel comfortable trying to but he said he could not for whatever reason.

I wish to learn more and to be a more confident Dom, for her and for me. It is a win, win for her and I because she'd get me and her Dom in one and I'd get to learn to be a Dom as I have wanted and get to be with and make her happy. I have some experience in tying someone up and be the dominant one but none in the way of toys, paddles, or whips. I am very open about sexuality and am willing to do what it takes to reach my goals. Please, any advice or help you can give would be greatly appreciated.

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How to deal with pain and use Catharsis

2008-05-24T07:02:42Z

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Non piercing nipple rings

2008-05-24T02:34:20Z

Does anyone know how well those non pierced nipple rings work? Do they stay on, or would I end up messing with them all night? If you don't know what I'm talking about, here's a link to an ebay seller that has two kinds...the ones that pinch, and the ones that have a slider, kind of like that thingy on the end of sunglass holders, only thinner.

http://search.ebay.com/_W0QQsassZventura93004

Help me out? I could just buy 'em and see, but I hate to waste the money on something that's going to prove to be more of a distraction than a decoration. Well...a distraction to me. *smile* I don't mind if they distract others.

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The Power Exchange & Citadel Featured in Magazine Article

2008-05-13T06:26:34Z

(Reminder SMACK DINNER next Tuesday evening May 14th 7:30pm, Peter's Cafe, Millbrae,
California.)

I just came across this Magazine article on the Powere Exchange and am passing it
on to the curious...

http://xpress.sfsu.edu/archives/magazine/010605.html

Beneath the stairs of the first floor, surrounded by dark hallways and dimly-lit
rooms, a group of men, women, and transsexuals prepare in the fenced dungeon that
makes up the bottom floor. They pull erotic toys out of their luggage—whips, dildos,
chains, and much more—while women peel off their street clothes in front of the
group. Minutes later, men wearing leather gear use floggers, a form of rubber whips,
to strike the bare backs of three nude women, two of whom are strapped to an x-shaped
plank. They squeal and moan in a simultaneous feeling of anguish and gratification.

Not every person in this vault-like room with flames painted on the walls is participating
in the play area designed for torturous pleasure. Some sit and watch while others
await a willing partner for themselves. Voyeurs stand behind the fence watching
in arousal, indulging the participants.

“Some men just stand there and masturbate while watching, and to me, that is a form
of applause,” explains Robin, a transvestite and cross-dressing bisexual. Wearing
a dirty blonde wig and crimson colored paint on her slender lips, Robin saunters
in and around the crowd, making sure that her friends aren’t bothered by unwanted
strangers or men trying to get a freebie—they typically play with the people they
come with. Amidst the security of her friends, she flirts with a potential participant.
Minutes later, the man is plastered on the plank, his wrists in chains while Robin
gives him oral sex. A group of men in their fifties and sixties sits on a nearby
couch, relaxing and smiling at the lascivious demonstration.

They are the first patrons of the night, arriving at the door of the Power Exchange
Sex Club, a place where people engage in uninhibited fornication with consenting
members. It’s a place where people can come to role-play, dress in kinky clothing,
amuse themselves with eccentric toys, have non-conformist sex such as BDSM (bondage
and submission dominance and sadomasochism), or just observe. The Power Exchange
is one of the biggest, and first legal, sex clubs on the West Coast. Because the
club is highly secure and open to a variety of sexual practices, it is a haven for
the exhibitionist and definitely doesn’t accommodate conservatives who prefer intercourse
behind closed doors.

This is an essential Thursday night of pleasure for a group of twenty or so friends
and acquaintances who meet for their monthly gathering to play in erotic pleasures
after a night of dining. They avoid discussing their lives at home or their occupations;
their goal is simply to get together and have a night of fun, explains GARi “G-Shot,”
the initiator of this routine of munching and playing. The medium-built man wearing
all black elaborates on his idea of getting a group of sexually eager individuals
together by making an agreement with Mike Powers, the owner and founder of the club.

This particular crowd welcomes a diverse range of people who are nondiscriminatory
and accepting to all sexual orientations and all forms of play. BDSM, one of the
more popular activities, utilizes both dominant and submissive practices. The dominant
party usually takes control while the submissive appears helpless and endures painful
whippings and penetrations.

There are no limits with toys and play, as long as the members are consenting. It
is safe to say that nothing is astounding to people that frequent the club. Aaron
Ericson, manager of the Power Exchange, recalls an event from one of the Fetish
Balls—a themed monthly venue at the club that attracts a massive crowd and has been
deemed the busiest night of the month. During a particular Fetish Ball evening,
a lesbian couple joined a kinky-couple’s contest: “The girlfriend stuck her fist
up her girlfriend’s vagina thirty-six times,” Ericson laughs.

Power Exchange is a family-run operation and opened its doors in 1995 after the
legal debate of gay sex clubs and unsafe sex practices spurred in the 1980s. Michael
Powers, former mayoral candidate of SF and the founder of the club, relocated it
in 1998 from a smaller location on Harrison Street to the more spacious Otis Street
building. Visitors of the club must come inside with an open mind and a mature demeanor.
Even though the club is extremely liberal toward sexual desires and preferences,
it still adheres to a strict set of rules, and all drugs and alcohol are prohibited
inside.

“Respecting the visitors of the club is highly emphasized,” says Ericson. “We don’t
tolerate immature behavior.” The tattooed manager with a ring hugging his nose explains
that this business is just like any retail business and that customer satisfaction
is vital to keeping the club up and running. The friendly Ericson ensures the safety
of his guests, greets customers, and exchanges smiles and words with regulars. “Safe
sex and sanitation is very important,” Ericson says, pointing out the numerous baskets
of condoms, paper towels, gloves, and hand-sanitizers available in every room.

Joe Weigand, a sixty-three-year-old dominant, makes sure he does an extensive cleaning
after a scene in which he causes his submissive partner to have an orgasm with a
stainless steel dildo-like instrument, splashing vaginal fluids on the floor. With
latex gloves and sanitizing spray, he wipes the ground with paper towels when his
partner and he have finished.

Weigand is part of the closely-knit BDSM scene, which includes The Citadel, a BDSM
club that opened in 2003, and the Society of Janus, a non-profit organization created
in 1974. He is a volunteer at both the Citadel and SOJ and recalls being intrigued
by BDSM at the young age of twelve. “I had fantasies of tying up little girls and
had always had sick thoughts.” He adds that sex was oppressed in the fifties and
sixties and it wasn’t until the seventies that he met people from the underground
sex scene who were into kinkiness like he was. He used to be a frequent visitor
of the Power Exchange and attended by himself, but he admits now that he only comes
with a group about once a month.

Three floors dwell in this forty-thousand square foot building resting on the corner
of Otis and Mission Street. A neon green sign welcomes people passing by. The rooms
are plentiful and exude an artistic theme of vibrant colors visible through the
dim fluorescent lighting. The Egyptian, Gothic, and Medieval-inspired rooms are
just a few of the options for partners there to engage in erogenous fantasies. The
room in the center of the building is called the Mixed Club, welcoming heterosexuals,
lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgender men and women. If the door to one of
the many rooms is open, a couple or sex partners are inviting others in. If the
door is closed, the room is off limits, but voyeurs are still welcome to watch.
A stroll through the labyrinthine hallways of this club offers a deluge of sights
for the sex-crazed or curious, including everything from screens displaying pornographic
videos to couches, beds, sex machines, and gadgets.

For the eighteen-and-over crowd that is comfortable with their sexuality or simply
wants to experience something new, Power Exchange provides a unique experience.
This can be a safe places to explore, because protection is emphasized and security
guards monitor all activities closely and incessantly, assuring that everyone is
adhering to the regulations of using protection and behaving properly. The club’s
rule reads in bold print, “Come on me, not in me.” The club can be a place for the
overtly sensual or for people seeking to play in an open space with a group that
embraces alternative forms of sexuality. This is the venue for the inquisitive or
the exhibitionist, to quench a fantasy or a fetish, or simply for those desiring
to come and play until the crack of dawn

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What is a pain pig?

2008-05-10T17:23:07Z

I saw an upcoming class for Society of Janus, and it got me interested. I have only one time before heard this expression "pig." What is this pain pig? Is it different from a pain slut?

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Kink-e-Zine Staff Positions Now OPEN!

2008-05-07T23:29:53Z

LGBT Talk Columnist

“LGBT Talk” covers news, events, and articles pertinent to the LGBT communities of the San Francisco Bay Area and abroad. As an LGBT Talk Columnist, you bring the flavour of the community to Kink-e-Zine readers on a monthly basis. This position requires great writing skills with special attention to grammar and minimal error, the ability to make deadlines and maintain contact with other Staff members, and in some instances, the ability to conduct live interviews and transfer verbal information to text information effectively without losing character. It’d be beneficial to have LGBT Talk Columnists actively involved in the LGBT BDSM/Kink/Leather/Fetish communities.

Position reports to the LGBT Talk Editor and Chief Editor

Please submit a sample of your writing skills along with a brief outline of your experience for consideration to publisher@kink-e-zine.com

Deadline for position: 5/28/08

Style Columnist

“Style” covers all that is style in the BDSM/Kink/Leather/Fetish communities. Goth/Kink dance clubs and parties, TNG events and workshops, clothing/fashion, music--basically you are the “IN person” of Kink-e-Zine; the one who knows what’s hot & what’s not in the San Francisco Bay Area scene and gives the reviews! This position requires great descriptive writing skills with special attention to grammar and minimal error, the ability to make deadlines and maintain contact with other Staff members, and in some instances, the ability to conduct live interviews and transfer verbal information to text information effectively without losing character. It’d be beneficial to have Style Columnists actively involved in the BDSM/Kink/Leather/Fetish communities, especially club venues.

Position reports to the Style Editor and Chief Editor

Please submit a sample of your writing skills along with a brief outline of your experience for consideration to publisher@kink-e-zine.com

Deadline for position: 5/28/08

Advertising / Marketing Consultant

The Advertising / Marketing Consultant is by far one of the most important positions of Kink-e-Zine, for it is this position that promotes the publication and generates interest in paid advertising from businesses, organizations and event coordinators. The ideal person has an unlimited territory to work with to produce positive results, and has no qualms about closing deals and oppourtunities for the betterment of Kink-e-Zine. Effective communication skills, a background in Advertising / Marketing / Sales / Public Relations is preferred, as well as excellent record-keeping skills, and the ability to make deadlines and maintain contact with other Staff members as needed. At the present time, this will be the only paid Kink-e-Zine Staff position, with compensation paid on a commission basis from advertising sales.

Position reports to the Publisher

Please submit a brief outline of your experience for consideration
to publisher@kink-e-zine.com

Deadline for position: 5/28/08

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Lost at IMsL: Leather Cuff

2008-05-05T02:32:01Z

Lost at IMsL women's-only play space downstairs Saturday night: black leather cuff with silver snaps, silver letter 'm' on the inside (possibly very faint). Lost between 8 pm and 11:30 pm, on the far side of the dungeon near the two bondage tables/medical play area. Very large sentimental value. Reward offered.

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Learn about processing pain and Catharsis

2008-05-04T17:13:26Z

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Kink-e-Zine for May has launched!

2008-05-02T21:28:45Z

Have you looked outside? Spring is officially here outside indeed, & Kink-e-Zine has just what you need to heat up your kinky computer time inside!

This month’s issue includes:

*10 Hottest Spots for Hot Outdoor Sex In the SF Bay Area
*Elusive Grace Interviews the Two Knotty Boys
*Jay Wiseman talks about EMS Backboards & Suspension Bondage
*Chey Talks About Cutting: Some Medical Advice Before You Slice
*Latest installments of “Kink In the City“, “Ask Me Anything“, “Blog Alley“, and Regional BDSM News from across the US!

And much more!

Kink-e-Zine strives to be THE BDSM publication for the entire community nationwide, and always welcomes literary submittals from each & everyone of you: educational articles, toy tips & techniques, erotica / fiction / poetry, interviews, models / photographers / artists---you name it! ALSO, feel free to inquire about our inexpensive advertising for your organization, business, or event for nationwide coverage and maximum exposure!

http://www.kink-e-zine.com

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