FagHag Such an ugly name and what is it's definition?

Not sure where to ask this question but here goes.
FagHag can come across as such an unpleasant word. Its definition seems to be full of inaccurate assumptions and connotations.
I know some women call themselves "FagHags" or "GirlFags" with pride.
My question is: what is the proper descriptive word for the following definitions :

1) A woman that enjoys hanging out with Gay friends.
2) A woman that likes to watch male gay porn.
3) A woman that likes to be part of /control/direct (or force) men on men action.