Hey all, things have been quiet here, so wanted to check in...things have been going pretty darn well with my new guy so while I've gained a lot of insights, as mentioned in the "important distinction" thread. It's still mind-blowing to have a guy as dedicated to making the relationship work as I am, but also hard to now get carried away. But we're at almost three months, and both really into each other AND "us." It feels as comfortable as if we'd been dating for months & months.Pretty weird, but cool.
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Wed, March 26, 2008 - 3:34 AMI'm really tickled for you!!
Nothing new here. Same ole, work, work, work. No new beau or even a prospective one, but I'm totally cool with that. Had a couple dates here and there, but they've been flopps. -
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Wed, March 26, 2008 - 7:43 AMI’m pretty much the same. Not really dated, per se, but I’ve invited a couple guys out. One would make an okay friend, but he’s a little too chatty for my tastes. You know, chatty in that overbearing, on and on kind of way. The other guy, a very talented photographer, has become an awesome friend. He’s still pining for his ex, so I don’t push for anything more, and it has freed me to be a real friend to him, and vice versa. One of my theatre friends whom I’ve known for 18 years recently broke up from a long relationship, and we’ve always flirted with the possibility of dating. So he is back in touch but I know it will be some time before he is ready to do the relationship thang again. I’m not even sure I wanna go there. But it is nice to hear from him. Speaking of which, I also heard from Denver Easter Sunday, after nine weeks of no contact. He wrote some sappy crap about me being a blessing in his life even though we did not work out. Telling me he was still alone and apt to be forever. Blah de fricken blah! I ignored it. I considered it an insult to all the people who truly care for me.
Work continues to take most of my time. My mood is pretty good though, and I’ve started walking during lunch to get my metabolism jump charged. I guess I am at a quiet stage. I feel I am readying myself for something, but without the usual intensity and timeline issues I usually set on myself. I really think the summer is going to bring changes. In what way I can’t say . . .
So happy for you and your man, Dravengal! He sounds like a keeper! “A” for effort, yay!
Mel
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Wed, April 2, 2008 - 4:17 PMWell...since I answered this I had a lunch date with a guy. It didn't go that great. I don't get it. He got there before me and was over half way thru his 2nd beer. It was lunch. I had other stuff to do that day. I ordered an iced tea. Then when it was time to order lunch, he didn't order anything and "suggested" we just share an appetizer even after I said I was hungry. Then he ordered 2 more beers. I really don't get it. It was lunch for fk's sake, not Saturday night. Anyway, when he started to make prejudice comments about Latinos and such, I decided to finish my cheese sticks right away and get the heck outta there.
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Wed, April 2, 2008 - 4:48 PMWell, at least he didn't put up a false front...FOUR beers? At LUNCH? That sounds like a drinking problem. -
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Wed, April 2, 2008 - 7:56 PM4 beers at lunch sounds like a problem to me too. And you're right; at least he didn't try to make himself out to be something he's not. That's totally fair to both of us. -
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Thu, April 3, 2008 - 6:24 AMholy heck.. well his true colors and apparent drinking problem came out now versus later.
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Thu, April 3, 2008 - 7:20 PMDamn. He obviously didn't have a day job.
Remember my story last year? About the smothering redneck who made racist comments? That happened to me our first lunch together. I knew I needed to run like hell but I gave him a week to totally dig his grave.
It just amazes me there are such losers out there, total bigots, rude jerks, or just plain uncultured. I mean, geesh, were they raised in a barn?
And why would someone invite a person to lunch if they just planned to drink? That is so wrong.
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Fri, April 4, 2008 - 5:59 AMyeah I had one that was completely normal on the phone and via email.
we met for lunch on a saturday. he showed up drunk and proceeded to drink more (didn't eat...why ruin the high ya know..)
then he said "he I have some rope in my car if you want to have a little fun"..
well I said "i'm outta here" ..walked out.. he said he was going to follow me.
fortunately he was too drunk to catch up with me..
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Fri, April 4, 2008 - 8:18 AMWOW! Now THAT'S some story, lol!
I think courtship has hit an all time low this century. -
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Sat, April 5, 2008 - 1:49 PM"courtship has hit an all time low this century"
Buwahahahahaaaa!! Abso-frekain-lutely!
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Fri, April 4, 2008 - 4:11 PMYeah, THAT is scary! Looks like he had just enough rope to hang himself with...
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Wed, March 26, 2008 - 5:03 PMOne thing that amazes me about him is not only that he doesn't treat talking on the phone like something that needs to be borne, he actually likes it AND is more then willing, eager even, to talk a couple times a day (usually one of the convos is just for a few minutes though)! Big change from talking to guys via the phone and sensing that they're thinking about all the OTHER stuff they could be doing.... -
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 6:49 AMI am ALL about checking in a couple times a day. My schedule is so rotten I appreciate when they call to start the day and call to say goodnight. I have to say Denver was good about that, but after awhile I was getting those feelings you mentioned, that he was doing it out of duty. I'm holding out for a guy like yours, Draven. I've had them before so I know they exist in my neck of the woods, lol.
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Tue, April 1, 2008 - 12:01 PMI'm still in my relationship since November and we're very happy. Maybe it's the distance between us (only 1.5 hours) but everything is working great.
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Mon, April 7, 2008 - 11:53 PMwell I always wonder what and who is draven gal..what does the word mean, I see you out and about on tribe...anyway, I don't check it much, but I have to say I did think it woudl create possible freindships and definately some guy action, but noone wants to meet a creative cute bellydancer like me and I wonder if its because I am over 45 or have a big schnoss! Really I have frends who date on tribe and friendster and my space and I have only comercial seeking byites,,,,anyone want to feedback on my profile????I will do same!
Well I got dumped...or cut off ...de texted or whatever by a lovely guy, even tho i ;knew he did not want a realtionship...we still had a good time and it was exciting to get ready to see him and have a fling, i think we also felt emotion and passion...and of course I believe, wrong or rite if I had the truly delicious style or love blood or love ice cream that appealed to men, in spite of him not wanting to get involved he woudl have seen me off and on and envantually ...( when his daughter graduated hi school anda bit) he might be more into me, but he is not into me inspite of passionate visits and getting along nicely and gentlemanly mixed in. I feel fucked cause I gave such nice sweet sexy part of myself, not too neurotic or talky like I can be, not negetive....I even shopped to get hot undies and new shirts...because I was so thrilled to have someone I wanted to please! and miricle he was my age! and cute, and sexy, and easy going, and I have failed oh my friends say but it isnt me...ok so it s him...means I wasn't the flavor he needed, I feel quite sad, deflated but since I am studying bellycance i sitll ahve reasons to shake it....bummer he is related to to community and last week when I saw him at an event I uncharictaristically did not say hellow or smile, i am rarely rude.. and wished he thought I was so beautiful he woudl text me....but its been over a week so that fantasy is dead, but all the hopes are not over till my mind stops spinning, with love and turmoil.....why doesnt anyone want to be with me. -
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 4:50 PM>well I always wonder what and who is draven gal..what does the word mean<
What does DravenGal mean you mean?
Draven=From Eric Draven, in my fave movie of all time, The Crow.
Gal=Well, I'm female.
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Thu, April 17, 2008 - 4:07 PMWow, I can't believe how quiet Tribe in general has been. Doesn't ANYONE have a topic for a thread? My bf & I are celebrating our 3 month anniversary this weekend. "Maybe I'm amazed..."
Kinda ticked tho, ordered him this AWESOME (I think) gift from him on Ebay, was told I'd get it by last Tues 4/15. Well, still didn't get it, and there's no word from the seller. Damn. I've had mostly good experiences with Ebay, but of course when it REALLY counts, it falls through!
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Fri, April 18, 2008 - 4:01 AMTo quote an overused phrase, "It's all good!" Dravengirl... -
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Wed, May 21, 2008 - 3:14 PMhi all...since my debacle (?sp) last summer w/ the live one, I had a boyfriend, that didn't work, & I met another one last Feb 9th...
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Wed, May 21, 2008 - 4:14 PMDHC! It's been ages! So many people have been AWOL lately!
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Wed, May 21, 2008 - 5:21 PMHey girl! Which was the one that tanked recently? Captain Kangaroo? His pics were kinda cute! Are you still seeing Mr. February, lol?
Well Denver and I are back together almost three weeks now. Some emotional moments, but no anger. It's been rather empathetic and bonding. But knowing him things could change in a moment. I'm being VERY cautious and just enjoying having a Friday night date again. Yay!
Mel
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