So this is pretty much how things have gone and I think I am probably in a no win situation where its probably just going to
turn out badly for me.
I met this girl online who lived in another state who was moving to where I live. We talked for about a month almost everyday
by text message and sent eachother pictures etc. She is quite the social and independant type. She actually grew up here and moved there and now is moving back here.
She finally moved out here beginning of January and we met and things went great. Ive taken her out a couple times with my friends and with just me and we've always had a good time.
We slept together after 4th time going out. Was mostly her doing and her initiating (I wasnt going to complain really lol)
She had a friend come out one weekend and pretty much just went out with him all weekend and wouldnt invite me with her or come
meet me whereever me and my friends were going out. (Im thinkin it might have been her ex who she says she is still friends with)
The problem is I think is that I dont really get much "information" from her or anything really. The only thing I got from her was when I asked her once if the option or possibility was there for any kind of relationship and she said there was an option and a definitely possibility.
I should probably stated that my previous relationship I was pretty much strung alone got 1-1.5 years by a girl who just didnt want to be alone and I was always her go to guy when her ex or someone wasnt there for her. So I guess I have the whole "wasting my romantic energy" thing going and I never was jealous or paranoid before.
I dont mind waiting and letting things play out because I think she is great and she gives me very small "nuggets" sometimes that she actually likes me.
I guess I just dont want to be the go between guy again and have to go through that again. Im trying to play it cool but as of late I think
I may be being a bit clingy and need to back off a bit.
I think this was just a rant and self therapy maybe some comments will help me feel a bit better :P
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Re: Am I screwed?
Mon, January 28, 2008 - 11:04 AMJohn, sounds like you just need to do what you jsut said. Back off a little. Give yourself room to do things that don't invlove her. And if you're worried that she's taking advantage of your generous nature, then don't be so generous. Don't be so available to her. But, and this is the hard part, keep yourself open. Maybe she needs a little time to get used to the idea.
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Re: Am I screwed?
Fri, February 22, 2008 - 2:15 AMahh.. the mysteries of the human heart.. lol.. It doesn't seem like you've been together for very long so I'd wait to see how things shake out. If you really want to know whether she's seeing other people or not, just ask. And it's ok if she's the social and independent type as long as you are too.. no, I don't think you're screwed. Good luck!
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Re: Am I screwed?
Sat, July 5, 2008 - 10:46 PMJohn, I am sorry to hear about other girls wasting your romantic energy! I broke up with my bf of 8 years a few months ago - and now that I am trying to date again, I find it easier to be distant than close because of my fear of being hurt all over again... getting too attached... and having the next guy just walk out on me.... anyway, maybe try just having a very open discussion with her about how you feel. Good Luck!