i recently told the guy i was seeing that i was falling for him. we were trying out friends w/ benefits. I knew from the get go that this is the only thing he really wanted. now that its done with, i still have to work with him. i feel quite awkward about it. lucky (in some small way) that he's not my boss or anything, but he is a co-worker that i have to work with and see daily. what shall i do? i know its likely going to be an issue that i have, and not him. i feel like i should just quit and find a new job. yes- this is how awkward and stupid i feel. plus i know that he'll likely tease me. its like a love/hate thing. i like him and want to continue the relationship, but i know that its just not going to work out. I like seeing him, but it just perpetuates the way i feel, and the way i just can't feel.
i guess this is me just venting..... any ideas or thoughts?!?!?! i'm going insane!?!?
i guess this is me just venting..... any ideas or thoughts?!?!?! i'm going insane!?!?
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Re: i have to work with this guy
Fri, April 21, 2006 - 7:18 AMThere is no such thing as ' the way I can't feel '
We have full intitlement to feel any way we need to and I encourage it all!
I can see how your situation could be a bit uncomfortable. But you said
' I like him and want to continue the relationship,' - My advice is don't put it down unitl your done with it. If there is still a pulling inside you to him, then you need to follow that pull. ( But please be carefull about 'expectations') Get as much juice outta the orange as you can.
Go get your daily dose of Vitiaman C baby!
In one of your other posts you mentioned fun times. Do you still have this opportunity? -
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Re: i have to work with this guy
Sun, April 23, 2006 - 12:20 AMwhat happens if i really fall for this guy? its hard not to have an intimate relationship and not find some emotional attachment. I thought I might be able to enjoy our fling w/o getting too involved, but I really don't think that anymore. Trust me, I really don't want to call it quits, but friends w/ benefits may not be enough in the long run. I may need more and I really can't see how that is possible. I guess calling it quits may also be my way of self punishment. Its just weird though, for some reason we really do *click.* We really may be better off as friends.
it may be difficult to end this *thing* we have. I know that he really wants to continue. In some ways, I think he may be attracted to me in more ways then he is letting on? Its either that or he is just saying all the right things to get what he wants and knows I want to hear. Guess next week I'll see what his next move is :)
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Re: i have to work with this guy
Sun, August 27, 2006 - 7:33 PMI have a crush on a married man at work. He is flirting with me which make it even harder because I have been single for three years...what do i do
