Tribe.net. Local Connections Christopher http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/e6169d89-d845-4862-93a2-a89244d0dafd 2008-06-02T16:33:59Z 2008-06-02T16:33:59Z

<div>I am 25 years old and live in Charlotte, North Carolina.... Oh, and (in case it isn't just assumed here) I'm an Objectivist. If that sounds good to any females near my age, please let me know... If I get any return-messages, I will tell more about myself if you want... I don't want to waste my time doing that if there is no dating material near me to begin with. Thanks.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 0 replies </div>

Christopher 2008-06-02T16:33:59Z verbamour http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/abef499e-80e1-4944-a534-c5be2c16be29 2008-01-08T07:03:10Z 2005-12-01T19:37:48Z

<div>So, might as well start things off with a bang and scare everyone away from this tribe... <br/> <br/>I just finished reading "The Fountainhead" (stop reading now if you don't want spoilers). <br/> <br/>Roarke starts his relationship with Dominique by raping her, but they have this semi-psychic bond that leads you to believe it's somewhat consentual (although she later refers to it as a rape). Now I've heard of the rape fantasy before, but is there anyone out there who really wants a real one? I'm asking only out of curiosity, this is not an offer. <br/> <br/>I understand the appeal of a strong, forceful man, and I've done my share of pushing a lady up against the refrigerator, but in the real world, just how Roarkey to you Dominiques like your men? <br/> <br/>Does anyone have any other comments on the rape part of "The Fountainhead"? To be honest, I couldn't understand the character motivations until near the end of the book (when everything suddenly started making a whole lot of sense), but the rape thing still stuck in my craw just a bit. <br/> <br/>Talk amongst yourselves. <br/> <br/>Cheers, <br/> -bender</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 23 replies </div>

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2007-05-20T01:45:49Z zigo http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/c1abe858-ccba-4789-8d19-ab38a671962f 2006-05-06T13:26:28Z 2006-02-19T09:32:51Z

<div>This is a cross post from another objectivist tribe; trying to get the juices flowing in here too... <br/> <br/>Ive been processing my recent relationships - or lack-there-of. <br/> <br/>Im realizing that I personally am turned on by, and pursue those women who challenge me. Not necessarily in a hostile confrontational way, but in a way that is stimulating - intellectually, emotionally, etc. .. I could say I like cat and mouse, but thats not it.. its almost a matter of having a woman, a being who I find myself accelerating towards my greatest vision of self as a mating dance. And as she flicks her tail in sarcastic dismissal, it only pinches the urge harder. <br/> <br/>lets make it clear though - that there have been situations when this becomes very quickly a stupid cat and mouse routine.. where eventually, I loose my center and balance.. and begin accelerating to my speculations of what HER vision is for me.. not consciously, just in sexual thirst. I would like to think that as I grow more, and find myself standing in relation to women, It is only the inspired acceleration to MY vision that I am thuroughly and truly attracted to.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 11 replies </div>

zigo 2006-02-19T09:32:51Z Passion-com-Passion http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/eb4c9fcd-decc-44f6-ac58-da9c5ef2f45b 2006-02-01T07:15:08Z 2005-12-16T20:24:33Z

<div>My view - you can be unyielding in your expectation of truth without being uncaring. You can face deception, call it what it is and still feel sadness and understanding (without giving in) for the paths that people choose to take. I think this is an important distinction, because I think, often people fail to see this issue beyond a black and white rendering. <br/></div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 7 replies </div>

Passion-com-Passion 2005-12-16T20:24:33Z http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/5ba4acec-8d62-4299-b9e8-4f746c958504 2006-01-29T16:25:38Z 2005-11-28T03:17:33Z

<div>Ok, so I just recently returned to singledom and I asked myself a few times what I really loved about the girls that I fell for hard in the past. I thought, geez, they were all really smart. Then I thought about their backkgrounds and philosophies and slept on it a few nights which is hard, cuz I'm not sleeping all that well lately. I came to the conclusion that the two most attractive people I have ever dated were both very pronounced realists/objectivists. So I created this tribe. <br/> <br/>So I welcome all of you selfish, realist, artistic, self-actualizing freaks who have been warped by or are natuarlly of the objectivist bent. Make merry and multiply!</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 1 reply </div>

2005-11-28T03:17:33Z Tre` http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/2ef913b3-5338-4182-b870-b333a605d24d 2006-01-29T04:04:50Z 2006-01-29T03:55:50Z

<div>This week I ended up going through the final throes of death for a reasonably long but also long-since troubled relationship. (I guess I am not standing proof that an objectivist can date a non-objectivist successfully) I've always considered myself to have an objectivist perspective even long before I ever knew there was an Ayn Rand or a whole philosophy around it - reading Rand only put words to the way I had begun to think on my own. <br/> <br/>I also suffer from seasonal effective disorder (low saratonin production in the brain during seasons with less sun exposer) - lately it mostly saps my motivation to do things or makes it hard to concentrate after stressful or somewhat emotional periods. I don't take anything for it - I've pretty much learned to deal with it, not always successfully, but probably far more reliably than by playing 'anti-depressant-roullette'. Historically however, I used to have a really hard time when younger doing the same until I learned some of these things. <br/> <br/>Suffice it to say, one of my control mechanisms is the reasoning portion of objectivism. I've always loved solving puzzles - brain puzzles. Computer games I enjoy inevitably involve more strategy than agility. Similarly I love to somewhat 'psychoanalyze' my own behaviors. One of the results is that I've actually managed to manipulate many emotions that other people might have irrationally based on various stimuli. (I'm still working on that traffic jam impromptu anger response though *giggles*) <br/> <br/>One accusation I got was that - even though she understood how I like to approach things rationally, she still would like to see more emotion from me. Now, I know some of that was just different perspectives - I know that I did show emotions to her, but I think she also has a point that perhaps it might not have been as much as I could have. The 'best-case' scenario was probably somewhere in the middle between what she expected and what I was actually showing. That is until this week... <br/> <br/>I know break-ups can be hard on anyone but since the accusation was made, I was trying to tear down some of the walls that went up which were preventing me from being more spontaneously compassionate, etc. I think I was making progress, but apparently the damage had already been done and it was too little-too late. The result was it backfired on me and I was overwhelmed with emotions - unlike has happened since way back when I was a wee lad. <br/> <br/>Rationality is actually pulling me out, but I've noticed something that I'd forgotten since the last time I was overwhelmed like this. Something I've dubbed "hyperventalating emotions". Basically a snowballing level of anxiety that is made worse as a result of thinking about the cause/problem itself. (e.g. thinking about it makes you more anxious, getting more anxious makes you tend to think more about it - not much unlike breathing too fast) In such a case 'trying' to be rational to fight such an emotion can be self defeating, especially if the high emotions are overwhelming you ability to see things clearly. <br/> <br/>Such is the nature of break-up right? I suppose. I don't generally get too fuzzy wuzzy with friends when they break up - I just offer to take them somewhere to get their mind off of it rather than trying to get into their head to try to help them figure it out (as I have seen some people try to do - i.e. empathizing). Thus I have no frame of comparison between my reaction(s) and those of others. <br/> <br/>We've bounced back and forth many times - one saying it's over, then the other - as this wound down. But there is little doubt this time that it's a finality on both sides and likely will be indefinately. It's only been a few days and I'm doing considerably better than I was 2-3 days ago. But as my rational side re-asserts myself and I look back at that mid-emotional-mayhem state I thought it was worthy of comment. <br/> <br/>So what's the crisis of faith? I agree with her that showing emotions, especially to a (potential) life-partner is important. I know that in a healthier relationship it might not have been as much of an issue in the first place. And I know that if left to their own devices, my emotions can overwhelm me sometimes. (not to the point of being dangerous mind you, but I can get quite annoying *giggles*) <br/>I don't think 2-3 days of difficult-to-control anxiety was too bad for what amounted to a 2 year relationship - but it was about 1-2 days more than I might prefer. And it has been reminded me all too well of those times when I was younger and it was not as easy to keep coming back down. <br/>At risk of sounding emotionally handicapped, I'm just wondering how to keep check on these types of things better? Basically, I am not aware of a 'paper-bag' method to stop emotional hyperventalating. So I was curious as to other people's perspectives on dealing with such emotional extremes and what kind of things they use to 'come back down'? Or at least come back down quicker to a rational thought process? <br/> <br/>Tre`</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 1 reply </div>

Tre` 2006-01-29T03:55:50Z jolshefsky http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/352381c5-89e2-4136-9c0d-f4143e1a75f5 2006-01-29T00:48:07Z 2005-12-02T21:17:20Z

<div>Ok, so I'll just put it to everyone and just ask what is objectivisim? <br/> <br/>I'm familiar with the term -- that it is both the term used to encapsulate Ayn Rand's ideas and it's a term used by brutal and selfish people to make them believe their behaviors are perfectly okay. <br/> <br/>I've gone so far as to read The Fountainhead and I posted a review/summary on my website (the review is at http://jayceland.com/LunchNStuff/Archives/2004826.html ) and I generally agreed with the sentiments about the superiority of individual vision over consensus. <br/> <br/>I'm not so much looking for a Wikipedia entry (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Objectivism ) but for people's own interpretation and how it manifests in day-to-day life.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 8 replies </div>

jolshefsky 2005-12-02T21:17:20Z http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/2a076b9d-36d7-4140-9918-46caefc540d0 2006-01-25T02:28:58Z 2006-01-24T05:52:38Z

<div>Hi all. Sorry I haven't been posting much, but I was out of work and then started a very demanding job. Anyone want to take over as moderator, or do we not need that much active supervision here?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 2 replies </div>

2006-01-24T05:52:38Z verbamour http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/3c3be73a-2014-4a51-810c-270458a30b25 2005-12-28T19:27:34Z 2005-12-26T20:56:21Z

<div>...I hope you got yourself what you wanted... <br/> <br/>;-> <br/> <br/>Cheers, <br/> -bender</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 2 replies </div>

verbamour 2005-12-26T20:56:21Z Passion-com-Passion http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/4517619f-2d84-4904-8fa4-e246c7dec625 2005-12-19T19:17:00Z 2005-12-16T20:16:32Z

<div>From an objectivist point of view - how is the balance of physical beauty vs. depth, honesty and the other less superficial qualities? Interested in hearing veiws and what kind of struggles you all have had with this issue from the perspective of honoring your own desires. </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 2 replies </div>

Passion-com-Passion 2005-12-16T20:16:32Z Jezebel http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/c28b950a-2cdb-4482-8d78-15d9e1a50e83 2005-12-16T20:03:03Z 2005-12-01T22:57:54Z

<div>Which relationship is better for you? <br/> <br/>Me? I'm an objectivist and realist. In my relationships "I love you" isn't some abstract concept all covered in hearts and flowers. Love is a solid statement of how I feel, it means I'm true to you and will put us next (after me of course). It means I'm in love with you; not your potential, not your stuff, not my hopes and dreams, but YOU. Love also means that I am doing my best to love you with more than my words or gifts, I'm putting myself into this love because you deserve it. <br/> <br/>Objective men turn me on for these reasons: <br/>They are realistic when they make plans, if they say it then it will happen. <br/>He's not gushing hearts and flowers just to fool me into love. <br/>I can trust him to take care of himself first. <br/>He's looking at the whole picture, not just the ideals. <br/>Solutions can be reached with a minimum of hurt feelings and temper tantrums. <br/>Objective men love what is real and attainable.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 7 replies </div>

Jezebel 2005-12-01T22:57:54Z http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles/thread/a95787f9-3645-4f60-b4af-4b9b175064df 2005-12-06T05:00:44Z 2005-12-03T04:37:28Z

<div>sorry i am from germany and have no clue about whom you are talking about...</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://tribes.tribe.net/objectivistsingles">objectivist singles</a> - 3 replies </div>

2005-12-03T04:37:28Z