A Question for the Gentlemen

topic posted Thu, June 28, 2012 - 1:59 AM by  Ruby
If you have already explored pegging a little (or a lot)...after the first few times did you feel like you wanted to somehow reaffirm your masculinity? That being pegged by your partner has somehow caused you to doubt your manliness a bit? Did you go through any emotions similar to this?
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    Thu, June 28, 2012 - 3:36 AM
    I have not had any of those emotions. I just found that I want to be pegged
    as much as possible. It did not diminish my desire to fuck at all.
    Pegging just opened up a new way to explore, it enhanced and broadened
    my desires. But when I am being pegged, it is so good that I do not
    need anything else!
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      Fri, June 29, 2012 - 12:54 AM
      Thanks, ranger. I asked the question because I heard this sentiment echoed by a few men and wondered how widespread it was.
      Yes - you are one of those guys who doesn't want his cock touched because it is a distraction to the amazing pleasure of the pegging?
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        Fri, June 29, 2012 - 12:54 PM
        Oh I don't mind my cock being touched too, but I sure come a lot quicker when I am being pegged and it is being touched. So enjoying being pegged without penis contact is good and it does lead to prostate orgasms which are incredible. And if the prostate orgasm and milking is done long enough, I still get hard later but am unable to cum. She likes that.
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          Fri, June 29, 2012 - 5:10 PM
          I would like a man who is hard but unable to come, too! How does that feel for you?
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            Mon, July 9, 2012 - 12:03 PM
            Ruby, I think it feels great to be hard and not able to cum. Mentally it adds to my submission in that I am there for her pleasure. Not cumming drives that point home so to speak :)
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            Wed, August 14, 2013 - 11:18 AM
            It is so sexy. I am kept chattized for months on end. While I'm being pegged
            My cock fights in its small cage to become errect. I usually produce a significant
            Amount if Precum. My volume of Precum increases tremendously in between
            My daily or weekly pegging. I have never ejeculated in this state, but hope to
            Be able one day. Orgasm denial using chastity and pegging are a perfect
            Combination for Dom females. The inability to ejeculate makes the pegging
            Sessions so intense and needed! I don't know what I would do without the
            Pegging. Bob
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            Sat, March 7, 2015 - 5:33 PM
            I find if very difficult to come when being pegged. Even when doing it to myself I find I have to stop and take it out to come. While she is pegging me I would rather that she focus on her power over me than having her worry whether I am enjoying it enough to come. It's a fantasy of mine to orally service her, having her peg me, then kicking me out of her place when she's through with me (I love being objectified).
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      Wed, July 25, 2012 - 8:00 PM
      Nope none - felt to good and my fantasy involves as many women as possible.
      I like a beautiful woman with a strapon I think it is hot.
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    Fri, June 29, 2012 - 10:05 AM
    The first time we tried pegging, it was a little awkward. My wife was not sure on how to use her new penis.
    We ended up watching a strapon movie and her toying with my butt. We tried again and it was better. We
    went out and bought a couple of new toys and we do it from time to time. We have more "normal" sex. We
    still peg but not all the time.
    Has this changed me and her? Only in that we are more open. I don't have any desire to have any one but
    my wife do this with me. To me I have found my wife to be sexier and my life with her a little more spicier.
    I do not nor will I doubt my masculinity and my wife feels the same.
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      Mon, September 24, 2012 - 11:12 AM
      I never really felt I had reaffirm my manliness. I played with dildos and a plug for several years before getting pegged and the pegging was a different experience I can see how one could feel a little less manly being penetrated the first time by a woman. I didn't feel less manly lol I felt a little awkward having my wife bend me over the bed instead of me bending her over. But in the end its just another form of sex between a woman and a man. My wife knows I'm as much of a man as I was before. That's what matters for me.
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    Wed, July 11, 2012 - 10:42 PM
    Actually after a few times, less than ten it was my partner that started doubting my hetero...ness. She just started building up in her head that maybe it was something else I truely wanted and she was becoming more insecure or more sure I wanted something else. Or someone else. What I was enjoying was painful to her . In thirty years maybe twice did we try that. Once being a passionate accident. I mean she was young to be same age as me. Well I had been around the world and off to war and she left home for the college dorm and back home to teach. Still a little bit daddy's girl. Finally I felt the need to tell her if she implied I was gay one more time I would injure her oral cavity. Guess that was macho enough for her. By the way,i would never, in anger ,hit any woman.
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      Thu, July 12, 2012 - 7:09 PM
      Hey Mike - thanks for the response. Men are not the only ones with fears when it comes to pegging - women have their share, too - and that's one of them; he's going to turn gay. I also have heard of women witnessing a man's full-body prostate orgasm, freaking out and never wanting to do it again. Too much out-of-control-ness, perhaps.
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    Fri, September 21, 2012 - 2:56 PM
    I went through someting of this crisis when I first realized the stigmatic association between anal sex and homosexuality. Thuogh not directly related to feminization it's kind of the same dynamic.
    Since having the pleasure of sharing this activity with the partners I have, there has been no issues about masculinity at all.
    I have worked to be able to express both my male and female nature more as a matter of spiritual development. I am also not threatened in any sense by a strong or dominant woman. I find women like this a turn on both mentally and sexually!
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      Sun, September 23, 2012 - 9:45 PM
      Thanks, Scott. I love to hear about a man who is comfortable exploring his feminine side without freaking out about it. Nice.
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        Mon, September 24, 2012 - 10:55 AM
        LOL Real men do it quuiche(SP),and watch chick flicks, while still being able to tell all the posers to get shagged
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          Mon, September 24, 2012 - 11:35 AM
          Sorry about my typos, I need to check more carefully.

          I wonder what you meant by all the drama associated with solo play. Does your wife see sex soley as a way of expressing love, or does she see it as play as well? Your scenario is really starting to sound scarily familiar!
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    Mon, September 24, 2012 - 2:06 PM
    We're just a few months into pegging. I was lucky that she was the one that introduced it and absolutely loves it.

    I felt something like what you stated in the beginning. But it wasn't my masculinity or sexuality I struggled with (even though like one other poster, my wife would love to watch/direct me with another guy--haven't done it but its a fun fantasy). Its more the submissive thing. Our sex life was very me being dominant (she loves to be taken, to be dominated--and I love to do that). But doing the role-reversal with me being submissive, it was hard to know how far I should/could or really wanted to go and how much and when to do it outside the bedroom. I did not want to become a submissive person all the time. With time and communication, I'm getting closer to figuring out how far I want to go and when.

    That's our problem now--finding the time to get all the kinds of sex we want--with me taking her and her taking me. But that sure is a fun challenge to have!
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    Tue, September 25, 2012 - 7:03 PM
    I was afraid to ask to be pegged just because I didn't want my wife to think I was secretly gay. I threw that out of my head and just went for talking to her about it explaining I wasn't gay lol. She even googled "signs my husband is gay". lol. So we had a longer talk after the first pegging.

    She was into girls for a while before we got together, and she admitted to me that she kinda wondered what it would be like to be with a girl. So that made me wonder if she was looking at me like I was "the girl" when we pegged. She said yes, but that she thought that's what I wanted out of it.

    We had another talk lol

    Once I explained to her that I want to be ME, and her to HER, just doing THAT, she was happier doing it, and I enjoyed it more without questions. I even noticed the change in the way she used the strap on after we cleared that up.

    I still wonder if she gets off on pretending she fucking a girl. I think she will say no even if it is yes, just so I dont feel like a bitch or something.

    I certainly did feel weird attempting to suck the dildo. Both of us didn't like that. She didn't like seeing it, I didn't like doing it or the way it felt. I'd rather eat an ass.
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      Wed, September 26, 2012 - 6:55 AM
      Good one Jake!

      +1 on sucking the srap-on, can't won't, she wouldn't ask and wouldn't anyway. If she wants to dominate me, she knows she has many other means. It's purely a psychological visual thing, I really don't even get off watching a girl give a BJ, and the gagging thing, man that drives me up a wall.
      Now, let me ask, perhaps a little turnabout. If, and I am not questioning your masculinity here, but since you are secure....if the thought of doing another girl turns her on, or is a fantasy of hers, why not give her that once in a while? My girlfriend likes gay porn, I can't watch it but told her I can occupy myself in other ways at the time. She doesn't see in those terms, she doewn't fatasize about me being with another guy, so hey if it works for her, and she cums harder...what the hey!
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        Wed, September 26, 2012 - 9:42 PM
        im all for that. i told her when we talked if thats something that does it for her, then id just be glad to be the one to give her what she wants instead of her going to someone else for it, or being bored with me. but she said she doesnt. i think she lied just so i dont feel like less than a man or something honestly. i think she thought i was trying to trick her lol.
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    Thu, September 27, 2012 - 6:06 PM
    I did not have any of those emotions. After my first time, I felt loved and accepted. We had a great time.... she was giggling, I was moaning. Opening up and crossing those lines... it changed the dynamic of our relationship in a very good way. I think she knew how much trust I was putting in her to even ask for it.. let alone do it. And her willingness and enjoyment was very reaffirming. I felt like there is very little we cannot go through together now that we have been through this.

    Now - that said, I think you can easily read between the lines to see that I was worried SHE would question my masculinity and manliness after the fact. Had she not been accepting and encouraging... I could see where I might have left wanting to reaffirm it. But since she affirmed me, I feel like that is why I didn't need to.
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    Mon, October 1, 2012 - 10:51 AM
    I don't see the need to reaffirm my masculinuty. I do need my feminine side reaffirmed and when a woman pegs me I love it.
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      Mon, October 1, 2012 - 10:50 PM
      So many men need their feminine side reaffirmed in this society where it is denied most of the time.
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        Mon, October 1, 2012 - 11:19 PM
        It has certainly helped me feel more feminine. The days following a session leave me with a warm, satisfied feeling. I've never really been a cuddler, but it leaves me wanting to feel held and comforted (not because I am uncomfortable but because I feel more open, more vulnerable perhaps).

        I've also become more aware of parts of my body that I never particularly concerned myself with: I've started shaving my legs, and my wife paints my toenails for me.
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    Thu, December 27, 2012 - 3:54 PM
    cant help to feel funny .untill this is more accepted it is going to be something u keep to yourself
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      Thu, December 27, 2012 - 8:00 PM
      Agreed. It does seem to shake men up just a bit because of the whole taboo/gay thing. Important that all you women out there not out your man!
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        Fri, December 28, 2012 - 7:35 PM
        yeah, id be completely embarrassed if she told people i know we did this. Mostly, because I know what everyone else would think.

        Is there any other type of sex act that is more embarrassing if you were caught, or if someone found out?
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          Sat, December 29, 2012 - 12:54 AM
          Sure - there are things like being a human toilet or scat play or pony play or lactation fetish or golden showers or diapers or adult baby play....bunches of stuff that (at least in my book) is potentially much more embarrassing than pegging. Pegging is just ass play. And I know it doesn't feel like that to you men, perhaps because there seems to be this male code whereby you must define yourself as "not gay" as opposed to straight - especially in connection with pegging.

          I do know a younger couple - a few of their friends knew but certainly not their entire circle of friends...until the wedding reception where his wife drank too much and sitting at a table with all of their friends around she blurted out how amazing it was and how much he loved it. This man didn't elaborate what the reactions of the moment were, but he was tickled that without exception, every single man present came to him privately and asked him about it.
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            Sat, December 29, 2012 - 8:35 AM
            Wow, id be so embarrassed if my wife did that lol. It would be awesome if my friends were cool with it and stuff, but I know how they are. If I ever missed a phone call i'd hear ass jokes on my voicemail all the time LOL.

            I think I could deal with everything else better. R. Kelly made the whole golden shower thing easier to talk about. So if i was caught doing that I would laugh at the jokes too. Pegging, I might actually lose friends out of fear i'm secretly gay and want them.
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          Sun, December 30, 2012 - 2:30 PM
          Yes there is - crossdressing. Interest in assplay won't get nearly the adverse reaction that interest in trying on womens garments will. It's despised next to child molesting in this country. Even gay guys are down on it!

          So, I'd let on I like my butt diddled before I'd let on I like wearing lingerie sometimes.
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    Sat, December 29, 2012 - 6:41 PM
    Ruby For me if I can't get a lover to peg me in some part of the relationship she would never accept me fully. My masculinity in never in question because I am fully aware to be a man you need to accept oneself. I love the great feeling of being pegged and brought to my knees quaking from the pleasure.
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    Sun, December 30, 2012 - 6:20 AM
    Not an issue at all for me. I'm very secure in my manhood and "straightness". What i find pleasurable does not make me more or less of a man. Not attracted to men at all-never have been. I like women, but never wanted to be one. Happy with me. Madly love my wife, love having sex with her, also love getting pegged by her. She thought it was rather odd at first-probably still does, but not that much odder than a lot of my interests. She's a great sport about most things. My biggest pegging problem to date (only a few tries so far) has been mechanical-we have a feeldoe-great item-but it does not seem to stay in place reliably without a harness (not the way we use it, anyway). After some research, i have located an nearby store with a Spareparts Joque, which seems to be highly recommended. I plan to pick that up today, and hopefully it will allow us to focus a little more on the play and not so much on the problems. Its challenging to get that big climax while laughing...
    my $0.02, worth what you paid for it.
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      Tue, January 1, 2013 - 4:37 PM
      Thanks for the feedback. You should have a much easier time of it with the Joque!
      I have tried really hard to get the word out there that the double-ended dildos need to be used with a harness 95% of the time. It doesn't help that the manufacturers tout them as being harness-less.
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    Sun, December 30, 2012 - 2:23 PM
    With encouragement from your site I finally told my spouse I'd like to try pegging, after we'd made love awhile and she'd had a serious orgasm. Instead of the droll reaction I'd feared for years she was totally cool with it.
    I have to say that when we did it, it didn't last long because I got off big time in no time at all - but afterward she was so turned on by it she grabbed the vibrator and had herself another flaming orgasm. So, not only did it go well for me, it went really well with her too.
    So, thanks very much for the wise words and encouragement. My trepidations were all in my head.

    And to address your question - no, not a bit. I couldn't get hard with a man - they don't interest me as sex objects. I do like to get penetrated - but really would only like that from a woman with a strapon - in particular my partner. True, it puts me in a submissive position, but I don't mind that at all. Submitting to a woman isn't connected to homosexual tendancies - at least in my fantasy world.
    Now that this is another option in our lovemaking I expect variations on it - perhaps a bit of role reversal or bondage or rape fantasy or dressing up or something. All I can say the that is - YAY! And thank you for addressing this much misunderstood act of passion.
    It might be of interest to note that she asked why did I think her poking me with a strapon was more sexy to me than with a handheld, as she's done many times in the past. I had redone the dildo harness so that the (warmed up and lubed ) dildo was riding against her pussy, held
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      Tue, January 1, 2013 - 4:40 PM
      So glad to hear things went well!
      There is something about watching a woman thrust into you that's hotter than holding the dildo in her hand, in my opinion. Also - her hands are free to do other things!
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    Thu, January 3, 2013 - 3:18 PM
    I must admit that this never even crossed mind when beginning to explore pegging with my wife. I was aware that I may have to address concerns that she may have had about my sexual preferences, but certainly nothing regarding my masculinity.
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    Fri, January 4, 2013 - 2:11 PM
    I have been pegged by several women over the years; thankfully I am regularly pegged by my wife. Ever since my first experience being taken by a woman with a strap on I have been addicted. I wear a uniform and badge when I am at work; I am very comfortable with my masculinity. I am also very comfortable being on my knees at my wife's feet kissing them softly begging her to take me, to allow me the priveledge of being Her eager ass slut.
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    Sat, January 5, 2013 - 6:08 PM
    To me, being pegged is not a lot different from submitting to another male, both are submission, both are penetration,
    both deny me my "maleness", though I know some would say you can be pegged and still be a total man.
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      Tue, January 8, 2013 - 12:46 AM
      "I know some would say you can be pegged and still be a total man."

      Yes - actually I would be one of those. Is it quite individual in that some men when penetrated feel much more submissive and less masculine while others don't have that reaction? That's what it sounds like to me...Such diversity!
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    Sun, January 6, 2013 - 3:28 AM
    Not at all. Though in saying that I am lucky to have an open minded, intelligent wife who understands this is just another avenue in our sexual exploration; so I don't have someone I so closely trust putting some doubt in my mind. I do wonder if I was with someone else who chastised me for being pegged how I would feel about it but as it is I haven't felt like this would make me bi sexual or want to explore that side of sexuality; I just like her to dominate me every now and then with her strap on.
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    Mon, January 7, 2013 - 5:27 PM
    The first few times I got pegged I did feel like less masculine. Maybe i'm an exception reading the others or maybe just more honest. Each time We were playing like that I had the urge to really " give it to her good" afterward to prove myself.
    But with time it felt more normal, the sensation is just so amazing.
    I do like to get pegged not on a regular basis tho, i like it to be a special treat,
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      Tue, January 8, 2013 - 12:42 AM
      Thanks for your forthcoming response. I wonder the same with exception/honesty. So many men feel the need to assert that they are not gay if they like pegging - as the misconception is so strong in so many people's minds.

      I find it interesting how many men in this thread took "lack of masculinity" or "doubting your manliness" and went straight to gay or bisexual. Because that's really not what I meant. I really did just mean doubting your masculinity - not your orientation.
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    Thu, August 15, 2013 - 6:06 AM
    I enjoy being pegged and my wife enjoys pegging me. All she has to do is tell me she is in the mood and i get an immediate erection (this can be embarrassing if she tells me at the supermarket or when we are out to dinner). The orgasms I have while being pegged are stronger with more cum and last longer, they make me feel more masculine...
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    Thu, August 22, 2013 - 3:28 AM
    Sometimes after my GF pegs me to orgasm, I will fuck her a bit rougher than usual - maybe to reaffirm that I am a "MAN".
    If she is feeling horny, she will peg me with a bigger strap on which seems to get her off more. I'm still a guy pegging or not..
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    Sat, August 31, 2013 - 9:55 AM
    I don't know but I must have something going on.
    I was introduced to anal play by a most adventurous girl next door scenario. This was in the seventies, and as many know, no where near the open-minded era we enjoy today. I don't think I ever cflated the sex act with the emotional feeling of attraction though. I never doubted my masculinity nor my attraction to women. I loved anal play of all and any kind from that time on.
    So, my issue is that it has to center around female involvement to even excite me. If I watch a good vid, or read a steamer of a story I have to block out the male involvement. Even here, interacting with other guys on this topic is difficult.
    I like to think that I have deeply explored my personal depths, I am not gay, I am not in the least homophobic, I am glad other guys enjoy what I enjoy, so why do I only want to hear about the female perspective on this, is this insecurity at some level?
    FOr instance, I really enjoy pegging vids but, I would rather watch two girls with a strapon doing anal.
    I would never talk about this stuff face to face with even the closest male friends, not the case for female friends?
    Where for art thou Siggy
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    Wed, September 4, 2013 - 1:18 PM
    A most interesting read. Particularly as a gay male. Now dont get me wrong too often there is confusion between anal play and being gay... no way I say I personally find the male body attractive not the act. . N mind u I dont take it up the ass either. To those men who may be struggling with there masculinity and god forbid questioning wether they may have a touch of grey scale gay . All ill say is remember what you find attractive. Is it the act or the person performing the pegging .

    Im guessing I'm most cases that if it was a bloke standing behind u about to shove in then all hell is gonna break loose.

    I learnt a long time ago that sex is a mental connection culminating in the physical 80% of the time . The rest is pure animal lust hehe . Have fun peeps
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      Fri, September 6, 2013 - 9:41 AM
      I wonder, and i believe it was what Ruby was striking at, if it is about the male bypassing or overcoming, if you will, the societal norm of dominance for a sexually submissive role. As lovers of pegging we hand over the control, the dominance to our ladies, and it is giving it over to our ladies which plays into the turn-on.
      So really it isn't even about sexual orientation at all, as, at one time, there was a clear line in the sand even for gays concerning tops and bottoms. Tops dominant submissives clearly effeminate.
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    Sat, October 5, 2013 - 8:33 AM
    I share most the exciting feelings spoke about the guys here.
    My masculinity is not in doubt. I am bi, and I am comfortable with that.
    Really though I just wish my SO would understand how sexy she is
    with that strap-on. Getting my tush fucked is so incredible, that while
    getting it, I can't (or it's difficult) to talk as I mostly moan and groan in pure delight.
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      Sat, October 5, 2013 - 5:55 PM
      Thanks, Tom. Is the reason she won't strap one on anymore due to how she thinks she looks in it?
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        Mon, October 7, 2013 - 11:04 AM
        That certainly is one of the reasons. She does say that she can't feel comfortable with it on.
        We been together for over 40 years. (now you know we're in our 60's) . Trying to make
        our relationship work is getting more and more difficult. She's also dealing other stuff.
        Oh God.. Sounds like I am whining. So I guess I am toying with idea of having affairs.
        My desires are continuing and hers not. goes.
        Seeking relief.
        (just being truthful)
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          Mon, October 7, 2013 - 11:32 PM
          Comfortable comfort-wise (because there are some very comfortable harnesses to choose from) or comfortable emotional-wise because she is not used to strapping one on?
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    Thu, November 28, 2013 - 11:02 AM
    It's a long time since we started pegging so my memory is hazy. However, I don't recall any doubting of my masculinity then or subsequently. It has always given me a strong desire to have conventional sex with my wife as soon afterwards as I can (though the intensity of the orgasm it gives means that is longer than I would like!). I have never really bought into the 'penetrator is dominant' mindset anyway.

    Even my intermittent issues with ED (thankfully now rare) have not given me any doubts in this direction so perhaps I'm too thick skinned to care much.
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      Fri, November 29, 2013 - 10:45 PM
      Or too secure...I choose #1.
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        Sat, November 30, 2013 - 3:52 AM
        Well, having been a spectacular failure in my youth I found it good to hang my self-respect on as many little 'hooks' (talents, etc.) as possible so issues in one area of life couldn't pull it all down.

        Perhaps tangential to this thread but, belatedly, having had strapons for about 14 years for pegging we finally got around to reversing things so I sometimes wear a strapon. It makes a great way to round off a good pegging if my wife does not cum during the pegging (which often happens despite using a Share XL double-ended dildo to peg).

        I get pegged and then get to feel her orgasm up close and personal - what more could a man want?
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          Mon, December 9, 2013 - 9:46 PM
          Really nice to hear this. So many men will not consider wearing a strap-on, find it emasculating and can't handle the self-esteem issue. It does take a self-confident man to wear one. I think this is true. But in reality - it's just a toy....never a replacement for the man himself.
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            Mon, December 23, 2013 - 7:55 AM
            The enjoyment I get from this has given me an insight into why women can enjoy pegging even thought the physical stimulation may be quite limited. It all goes to prove that 90% of sex really is in the mind.
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    Tue, December 24, 2013 - 1:03 PM
    I'm very much in touch with my masculinity. My desire to get pegged was not via homosexual tendencies, it was for a basic desire to submit to wife.
    I feel that there is something very powerful submitting to a fucking form your partner, normally when it's you doing the fucking. I enjoy the power exchange and the release of control.
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    Mon, February 24, 2014 - 5:10 PM
    Not really. I've only pegged with the wife, and have an appreciation for sexual expression as opposed to my manhood.

    I'll tell you this, I take bigger and fatter things up my ass than my wife can. I'm definitely more manly when it comes to that. ;-)

    To those folks who are affected by this, I understand how it could be a challenge, particularly if your partner reinforces those feelings. My only advice is that it's up to you to overcome those mental limitations.

    As to it being gay, I'm having sex with my wife. O_o

    As an aside, one of my Marine buddies has the best comeback to when someone calls his (rather metrosexual) ass gay: "I know I'm not gay. I once sucked off ten guys in a row. totally hated it."
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    Mon, March 24, 2014 - 5:57 AM
    I am still awaiting the moment my lovely wife will peg me. She mentioned its "not her thing". And would not go into detail other than she wants to be a sub/switch.

    Maybe I can top from the bottom, any tips?

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      Thu, April 17, 2014 - 12:51 AM
      She wants to be a sub?
      Tie her to the bed with the strap-on on, blindfold her and ride her.
      Tie her to a (sturdy) chair with no arms and do the same (face to face- called the Chairman)
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    Wed, April 9, 2014 - 9:45 AM
    At first it didn't feel as manly...but I did like it....I think I like it for several reason...the first is that she likes ass play I didn't like her touching my ass but it started to feel good and it was just her and I ....but it was my idea to try the strap on...but the other reason is that she is in control...I am always in control...cause once I climax I am done..but with her having the strap on she can go as long as she wants.
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    Wed, June 11, 2014 - 2:57 PM
    Masculinity and its opposite might be of great concern for some. I have found that anal does a number of beneficial things. It makes me want more sex. It stimulates things toward good health. I helps awareness and self enjoyment and tends toward male having more self control and more stamina. It reduces shame and bashfulness. It is terribly intimate, you can deny many things, but that can hardly be denied. It produces unpredictable and pleasurable sensations.
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    Re: A Question for the Gentlemen

    Mon, June 16, 2014 - 10:31 AM
    Hello Ruby,
    I've enjoyed being pegged by my wife for a few years now. It isn't part of our everyday sexuality but it is a very exciting aspect of our love play. It started as rimming for the first 3/4's of our marriage and eventually evolved to something very sensual and exciting when we get to do it. As for masculinity I'd say it's not been a real question though sometimes my wife gets that insecurity that I might turn gay or leave her for a man. I can understand her fears though I'd never stray and I do not feel any less a man for so enjoying pleasure this way. Yes I do have sincere 'bicuriosity' and would love "in another lifetime" to explore that and she is aware of that, but I am very secure in my understanding of that and where it stands in my life and I tell her so whenever she expresses doubt. In fact, she goes wild with orgasm when I suck her cock off and I enjoy doing so and bringing us both such pleasure doing so!! And maybe early on there was some question of what does this mean about me when we first began, but the organic pleasure we shared and gained from this unique sexual union over shadowed those initial fears completely.
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    Re: A Question for the Gentlemen

    Fri, November 21, 2014 - 2:21 PM
    Interesting question that I've thought about. I don't feel that way because of the nature of our pegging and that we do a wide variety of things that are different from pegging. Our pegging is about pleasure and while my wife gets off on being in control, a lot of it for her is how excited I get. She also gets very excited just giving me a blowjob/prostate massage. We not into me dressing up like a women or sucking a fake cock, everything we do is related to her taking her man and giving him pleasure. Also, she liked regular, fairly hard intercourse and to be tied up and dominated some, so that sort of balances things out, we get to share being in charge, or most of the time I am.

    I have to admit that if the female was more into domination and "sissification" (if that's a word) and never allowed me to be in a dominant role, I could see having feeling that she didn't feel I was manly.
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