The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

topic posted Tue, April 26, 2011 - 3:42 PM by  Ruby
Welcome to the Pegging 101 Community!

Take a moment to tell us a little about yourself, how you got here, where you are in terms of Pegging experience...and anything else you'd like to share about Pegging.

All the Best,

P.S. If there was a place to sneak in a personal ad...introduce yourself and state what you are looking for here...AFTER you tell us a little about yourself, how you got here and your level of experience!
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    Tue, April 26, 2011 - 4:01 PM
    I am your moderator, Ruby Ryder, and here is my story...

    I was listening to a Dan Savage podcast in which he was urging a caller to embrace her kinks. I had been fantasizing about anal play and pegging for roughly forever. I had also been writing erotica and hiding it away in the back of the filing cabinet. The timing was right and I took Dan's message to heart. Since then my whole life has changed in amazing ways. I write erotica. I teach. And I definitely peg!

    Pegging is my passion...I want to inspire and encourage as many couples as possible to consider pegging as one more incredibly pleasurable choice to add to their sexual repertoire. I have just begun to teach pegging classes and love teaching! Mostly...I love the idea that I am instrumental in instigating more pleasure in the world...
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      Fri, July 1, 2011 - 3:28 PM
      Hi im ako from brisbane Australia and im just learning about pegging. Have had one experience with a partner and some solo fun too. Looking to learn more and hopefully experience some more too. Talk with you soon,....
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      Wed, September 14, 2011 - 11:09 PM
      Hello Ruby ,like you I became interested in pegging though dan savage .I read some of this articles in seattle and was drawn to it ,like a moth to flame. I have had a tough time finding partners .
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        Thu, September 15, 2011 - 3:16 AM
        Hey Rocco, welcome. Thanks for saying hi. Most men do have a bit of a tough time finding partners into pegging, and I am working to change that. Slowly but surely it is becoming more accepted, thank goodness. Good luck with your search!
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      Wed, December 21, 2011 - 4:37 PM
      Hello name is Eric and im a 36 year old male newbie. In the past ear or so i have found myself more and more intriqued by the domme/slave lifestyle especially as it pertains to pegging. I have yet to take the plunge.....thus why im here. I would really like to meet some people who can guide me along this fantasy
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      Fri, May 18, 2012 - 12:52 AM
      Hi i am mid 55s guy from liverpool England. I have fanatisised about being pegged for years. Asked my wife to try it and she was disgusted. She was never really into sex in a bit way anyhow so no loss. Have been to a pro domme twice to try out being pegged and althoug it was fanatstic I would really like to find someone who wants to peg me as a friend and not just for the money. Just dont know where to look. Have tried the various fetish sites with no luck.
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        Mon, June 3, 2013 - 11:01 AM
        Just joined here (no, not interested in pegging you:) But all I wanted to say, is maybe you should look for a compatible friend and lover, fot that which is missing in your life with your wife. Sometimes in life we have different needs -in my case I wanted a friend and lover, and without planning or expecting it, it has led to happiest and most fulfilling relationship we ever had, which includes the most unexpected sexual side, specially considering we are older than you are, and were neither searching in particular for a 'sex partner'. It was more that we were both isolated in our current situations (I have a disabled partner, my role in his life is that of carer nowadays only, though I do have feelings for him, but no shared life nor intimacy) . So David, never give up, but set some priorities, such maybe you would like a friendship first with someone compatible, also looking for some romance, intimacy, closeness and so on, and take it from there.
        Wishing you lots of luck,
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      Mon, July 29, 2013 - 1:47 AM
      Hi, I am Pat and I've been experimenting with butt plugs and dildos for a few years now. Finally persuaded my wife to use a dildo on me and we both loved it. Looking to buy a strap on soon and have her peg me good and hard, any ideas on what to buy for a pegging beginner?
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      Wed, September 18, 2013 - 3:58 AM
      Hi, I'm new to this pegging and really interested in trying it - bad part is divorced for 9 years, no GF but I date and not sure how to bring it up to a potential partner without surprising them and scaring them away. I did see the link to the pegging singles site, may give it a try. I think it would be an amazing experience and wish I had a willing partner that would be gentle as I'm apprehensive to try with someone like a domme as I don't want a bad experience the first time. Any advice is appreciated. Dave in NJ
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    Wed, April 27, 2011 - 3:06 AM
    Hi all,

    I am from Melbourne and have had very little pegging experience so far, but what I have had I have loved. Had a little trouble finding a girl to accept this as part of "normal" sex. Whilst I love females, most see this as a homosexual act. I am not particularly into the hardcore BDSM scene so maybe thats a little limiting as well. Anyways, I have enjoyed my stay so far and look forward to some great discussions!
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      Wed, April 27, 2011 - 12:25 PM
      Welcome Stephen!

      There are many pegging enthusiasts not into the hardcore BDSM - you are in good company. I think the porn industry has catered to the hardcore people...I am waiting for some films that depict more sensual pegging with intimacy instead of the usual humiliation and abuse. Someday!

      I am working to change that misconception that a man must be gay if he enjoys anal stimulation. The part of your body that you enjoy having stimulated has absolutely no bearing on the gender you prefer to do the stimulating. Otherwise...using a strap-on on a lesbian would turn her straight, right?
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    Thu, April 28, 2011 - 6:06 AM

    I live in the North of England and my wife and I have been into pegging for about 12 years (since shortly after the first "Bend over Boyfriend" video came out and before the term pegging had been coined). We would not consider ourselves particularly adventurous or kinky - we really don't have any sub/Dom element going in our relationship and we have always seen pegging as just another great way to have enjoyable sex. I enjoy spreading the word about pegging, especially exploding the old "if you do this you must be gay" arguments that, thankfully, crop up rather less frequently these days but still seem to be a block with some people.

    I'm glad to see Ruby "in the driving seat" here as I have enjoyed reading her pegging-positive posts on several sites and these must have done much to help other ladies see pegging in a different light.
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      Thu, April 28, 2011 - 9:45 AM
      Hey Colin!
      So nice to have you with us, and thanks for the kind words. I do want to emphasize (to the readers) that this group is of course for everyone, especially the people who peg without the kink like you and your wife. In changing the rules to be more inclusive of kinky people, I know I may lose a few vanilla folk, but I hope not. There is room for all when the judgment is left behind.

      I think you may qualify as one of the most experienced in our community; 12 years! Don't be surprised if I come to you with a few questions...
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        Thu, April 28, 2011 - 10:20 AM
        Hi Ruby - thanks for the reply. I think you are right to broaden the scope of the tribe. I reckon Kate had a very valid point at the time she set it up - there was much less information about on pegging and the balance on the web - driven largely by the pornography using the subject - did not give much hope for the vanilla guy looking for a few web-pages to show his even more vanilla wife what he was hoping to do.

        I think the fact that this tribe is headed up by a lady who clearly enjoys pegging and understands why men enjoy pegging means that it will serve Kate's original intention very well especially now you have sorted out the personal ads thing.
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          Sat, April 30, 2011 - 7:25 PM
          Thanks, Colin, I had mixed feelings about the personal ads. I know there are a lot of guys out there that really want to experience pegging and not very many women who are into it (yet). So I feel for the guys...but it just degrades the whole forum into a "please do me" kind of a thing. By the way - I did find a tribe already made for personal pegging ads: "Strap-on Bootie Call".

          I have never actually heard of more than a few isolated incidences of men actually getting replies from the "please do me" ads. You find a woman to peg you by finding the woman first, and approaching her respectfully just as you would normally. There are websites where you can increase your chances by knowing she is into pegging, but you still need respect, a good profile, a good picture and spell check. I wrote about it here:
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    Sat, April 30, 2011 - 11:39 AM

    Jeff from Florida.

    I have been pegged a couple of times by my wife and loved it. Its has been three years since the last time, before our daughter was born. I'm trying to get the courage to ask for it again. Sex changes after children.
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      Sat, April 30, 2011 - 1:23 PM
      Welcome, Jeff from Florida!
      Sex can indeed change after children. How about you take her out for a romantic evening and have an intimate talk about what you both want sexually in this new stage of your lives? Reconnect. Communicate. Add wine if necessary.
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        Sun, May 1, 2011 - 6:34 AM
        Thanks, I will give a shot.
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          Sun, May 1, 2011 - 7:57 AM
          Hello all,

          I don't comment very much on things but love to read the threads.

          I have been pegging my husband for about 5 yrs now. In fact I was the first one to bring it up. When we where very first dating and getting to know each other I told him how hot i thought the site of woman wearing a strap-on was, and that I'd like to try and wear one someday to fuck a man or woman. And for a couple of years that was that. Until the day that HE brought it up, and told me that he wanted to try having me fuck him with a strap-on. OMG I was SO turned on that day!!!! =)

          Like many the first time was awkward, but we both agreed that we like it. Still it was over a year before we tried again. Slowly the time between peggins has deceased and it is now part of our regular sex life, with pegging sessions about once a month.

          For my husband and I the act of pegging can take many forms depending on our moods. Sometimes its more tender and loving, sometimes its more about role reversal and I become more dominate (but not in a degrading way), other times it is only for play to "regular" sex.

          Having kids does put a damper on things for a few years, but pegging was a big part of my husband and I reconnecting to our individual sexuality and reconnecting as a couple. In fact because on the amount of communication we have in the bedroom (pegging is only one of our kinks and they all take good communication), the communication in other aspects of our relationship has greatly improved.
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            Sun, May 1, 2011 - 12:26 PM
            Hello Fireeater,
            Thanks for introducing yourself. I love to hear about couples that have been pegging for a while. When it becomes a part of your regular sexual repertoire you know you love it. Good communication can make such a difference. You only have so long in this life so I say start communicating and asking for what you want.
            Great to have you here!
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              Tue, May 3, 2011 - 6:03 PM
              I had my first pegging two weeks ago, it was beyond anything I have imagined it to be.
              my fiance introduced me to it.
              she started about two months ago by inserting a finger while sucking me.
              that was so awesome. I came quickly but it was a different orgasm.
              she was massaging my prostate which caused me to have pre-cum, which I don't normally have much.
              I enjoyed the orgasm but felt hard still. so the next time she did this, she kept me hard after my orgasm,
              and then I got on top of her and pumped away until orgasm.
              we were having two orgasms doing this for a while.
              one day while lying naked on my stomach, she touched my ass from behind.
              my ass rose up like a cat in heat. I asked her to get the 5inch dildo, which she did, and she inseted it.
              she pumped away til i let out a screming orgasm.
              the next week she brought an 8in dildo and harness and i took it all!
              The best position was her on her back with the strap on and me sitting on it.
              I got the whole 8in in me and I made myself relax. I was so relaxed I was able to take all of it.
              I took it all and was leaning back while she stroked me. I had to orgasm but didn't want to get off the dildo.
              she agreed to keep fucking me, so I got off.

              one last thing. My fiance always sucks me softly after I orgasm.
              it is such a wonderful gesture to do to your man.
              sucking me softly and cleaning up all the cum is wonderful.
              I do the same after I cum in her vaginally. I clean it up and bring it to her mouth to share.

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                Tue, May 3, 2011 - 6:20 PM
                Wow, Bob! Thanks for that steamy introduction. It was a pleasure to read your story about your pegging journeys. Many men discover that there is a difference between the prostate orgasm and a regular orgasm...and some do find they are able to stay hard or have multiple orgasms. You are a lucky guy. Great to hear you two are having so much fun!
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    Mon, May 9, 2011 - 11:03 PM
    Hi, im jake. Im from Colorado, but I live in AZ. My wife and I have been doing this for a few months now. I kinda always wanted to try it, but I thought it was gay if we did it, or that she would think I was secretly gay if i asked, so I kept it to myself for years. I knew I liked anal play, but I didn't know how to tell her, or explain that I am not gay at all, not even secretly.

    While she was giving me a blow job she joked about putting a finger in my ass, and I told her go for it. Since then, it's been prostate massagers. She didn't freak out, and she understood it just feels really good. She didn't judge like I expected her to.

    I figured since joking around gets results, but not embarrassment if she says no, I joked about her using the massager ON me, with a harness. I wont even lie, that night I wanted it so bad (actually for years before this), that I grabbed a belt for her and slipped the massager thru the buckle while she was still in the mood, but it didn't work out.

    The next day we bought a harness and used the massager. Got that awkwardness out, and it was all good from there. We bought a dildo for the harness but it was way too big, it hurt lol. Then we got a feeldoe because I felt bad that she wasn't getting something while I was. It's good but I wish it were longer, and not wider.

    I'm hooked on it now.
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      Mon, May 9, 2011 - 11:55 PM
      Hey Jake! Welcome to the tribe.

      So glad to hear your wife reacted well and your fears of being thought gay did not transpire.

      Sounds like you had a case of your eyes were bigger than your ass when you bought the dildo! That can happen...
      How about buying a longer dildo for your harness? They have a great selection at Vixen creations - any length and girth you can imagine...

      Yay! Another man hooked on pegging...with a woman who will do him - that's the best part!
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        Tue, May 10, 2011 - 9:10 PM
        LOL @ my eyes being bigger than my ass hahaha. Surely was. It didn't seem so big in the store, but I think I got a little nervous/embarrassed in the store, so I might have rushed the decision along lol.

        IDK about the dildos. I was thinking a longer would be ok, but it's the girth that scares me. There aren't too many in the shop around my area, so the internet will be what I use for my next purchase. I want something the width of the feeldoe slim, but a lot longer lol. Also something that doesn't look exactly like a real penis, and a way for my wife to get pleasure out of it to.

        Soo complicated lol
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          Wed, May 11, 2011 - 12:21 AM
          Keep looking - you'll find it! The Leo from Vixen Creations is 7" x 1.5" - just a quarter of an inch girthier than the slim. you can get it with a vibe, too, which might work for your girlfriend. Not skin-colored!
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    Wed, May 11, 2011 - 10:51 AM
    I am in NJ and work in NYC. I am 29 and live quite a vanilla life. I am here looking for a woman who enjoys pegging as much as I enjoy being pegged. Unfortunately my experience is limited, but I LOVE it and will do it anytime anywhere, just ask (or better yet dont, just bend me over ;)
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    Thu, May 12, 2011 - 11:18 PM
    Thank you! I'm just a regular working class guy that has become very curious over the last few years. I finally got the courage to ask my wife to "do me". She did. It was awesome. It scrared her. She was surprised I enjoyed it so much. I would like to try it for real some time.
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    Mon, May 16, 2011 - 6:15 AM
    My first pegging was when I was 12. My first girlfriend did me and I was hooked. I am now 40 and still love it. Being completely dominated by a strong woman is the hottest thing that I can think of. From my years of exp I can honestly say size does matter. I have never cum harder than when I am having my Jeff Stryker 10" dildo rammed up my willing ass. The worst thing is finding willing partners.
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      Mon, May 16, 2011 - 11:10 AM
      Welcome Randy! I think you got a jump on most of us age-wise - you were introduced early. Great to have another pegging enthusiast with us. I hear your pain about trying to find pegging women.
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        Tue, May 17, 2011 - 5:24 PM
        Well I'm sort of new to both pegging and tribe. I haven't been peg yet actually but I have played a bit with anal and am waiting for the day that someone will take me. I actually own a strap-on the doc johnson vibrating 8" dildo and that's the toy that I have used on myself although it is a little to big but once it get in it feels great.

        I have a question is it weird for a virgin to be interested in this? Since I am a virgin and 22yrs old. Actually who cares I know what I like and it doesn't hurt anyone.
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          Tue, May 17, 2011 - 5:31 PM
          I still don't know much about this site so I would edit my post if I knew how but I have another question is pegging always associated with role reversal and domination as it seems in most cases I just like anal situation and would prefer that it would be an act of intimacy and lovemaking that just strayed from the norm
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            Tue, May 17, 2011 - 11:33 PM
            Welcome, thret - glad you joined us!

            So you know that you enjoy anal stimulation - awesome! The fact that you are a virgin and have already discovered this is equally awesome. I believe it is best to be your own best lover so that you know what you like and can tell your partner when the time comes.

            No - pegging is not always associated with domination or role reversal. There are many couples who incorporate it into their repertoire of intimate lovemaking choices. I believe it is the best when intimacy is a part of the experience..
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            Wed, May 25, 2011 - 5:37 AM
            I have to agree with Ruby. I was 21 when I finally lost my virginity. Thinking back I rushed it. I didn't want to die before "doing it". I also had explored anal play before it happened. On the other side, it took 30 years before I finally got the courage to ask my wife to do me. Be patient.
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    Sun, May 22, 2011 - 11:36 AM
    I live in St Helens near Liverpool in England.. I first asked a girl to do this to me when I was 23.. I wanted her to be more responsive.. She enjoyed using a truncheon on me immensely but never went the whole way.. I've never really found one to oblige me since either..
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      Wed, May 25, 2011 - 2:06 PM
      Welcome, Patrick! Nice to have you here. (I must admit I had to look up the word truncheon - which was a delight as I am a writer.)
      I wish you the best of luck finding a woman to fulfill that dream for you. Keep looking...she's out there somewhere. Do you have a local BDSM club in your area? That might be the place to start as pegging is often more accepted in that I'll bet they have truncheons.
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    Thu, May 26, 2011 - 6:20 AM
    I bought a strap-on years ago and introduced my wife to it. She was open minded and willing, but could never get into it and the rhythm was all off. After a few tries, the device was retired to the closet except for a few times I would pull it out and use it for myself. I loved it and progressed to larger sizes. Then I started feeling guilty and it just wasn't right without her attached to them so eventually they all went in the trash. That was all a very long time ago.
    I was young in the 70's, the era of the open marraige, and had plenty of sex with guys back in the day. Today, I'm totally faithful to my wife and no longer have sex outside of our relationship. We have a small silver bullet that I use once in a while, but would still prefer for her to have a big veiny cock-looking (and feeling) strap-on to plow me with.
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      Sun, May 29, 2011 - 8:36 PM
      I haven't checked out this tribe in a while and your remark about having "plenty of sex with the guys back in the day" has left me with two questions

      First one are you talking about gay sex or you had found other women to use a strap-on?
      this was then followed by if it was guy on guy then what would be the comparison to a strap-on?

      I have yet to label myself sexually since I don't really find men attractive but I wouldn't mind dating a transsexual if their voice sounded completely feminine. I also find labels for these kind of things counterproductive as in most cases it is just makes it easier to segregate and then alienate individuals (remember I'm only 22). So for now I call myself open minded to anything as long as nobody gets hurt.
      So that is why those questions popped into my head. ( I just realized that I put in a long and somewhat trivial detour from the point but I thought it had to be said)
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        Tue, May 31, 2011 - 11:41 AM
        Thret: Thanks for your questions.
        (First one are you talking about gay sex or you had found other women to use a strap-on?)
        I was referring to gay sex.
        (this was then followed by if it was guy on guy then what would be the comparison to a strap-on?)
        I wish I could answer that, but I have no comparison. Guy on guy feels great. I have not experienced anything that feels just right the way it does.
        I think if my wife could get into it, that would be a very close, and most acceptable, substitute.

        Ruby: Thanks for your words of encouragement.
        The deal with us is that we've been married for nearly 37 years. She had sexual abuse as a child. I did too, but having enjoyed it, I started exploiting my penis and butt early in life, doing anything and everything I could think of with them. She would love to have quiet sex without foreplay. I would love to have outrageous explosive, no holds barred fetish sex lasting for hours and hours.
        It is a fantasy that she will get the initiative to one day be agressive and ream me like crazy. We talk about it, but probably still just a fantasy. In the meantime, we're otherwise perfect together in every way and out love for each other is deeper than ever.
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      Sun, May 29, 2011 - 11:14 PM
      Welcome, Spit2bTied - thanks for joining us.
      I always get a little sad when I hear about a couple where the man loves pegging but he doesn't get it from his partner. There can be so many reasons...she refuses...better communication is needed...a bad experience that put her/them off it for good. I guess I believe that if your really desire something sexually and your communication withyour partner is good...why not sit down with them and honestly express your desires? I know there is a risk of being rejected...but otherwise it's living without it for the rest of your life.But that is easy for me to say - as a woman who loves pegging.
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    Fri, June 3, 2011 - 6:25 AM
    Salutations and Hello to everyone,

    I am a Philosophy major in persute of Knowledge and new experiences, which truely go hand in hand, I am well traveld and well read, but still exceedingly ingorant do to my young age, I'm always looking for wise words and never turn down a new friend, I ended up here because of my curiousity about pegging, which I have never experienced, yet... but hopefully I will soon. I'm not sure how would tactfully adds there personal ad so I guess I'll just throw it in there and hope it's well recieved. I'm 24 of average build with long curly hair if anyone thinks they might be interested in helping me along in my quest to get pegged... :D ask and I'll send you a photo
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      Fri, June 3, 2011 - 2:57 PM
      Welcome, UserNotFound (clever name). Glad you decided to join us and thanks for the introduction. You are in the right place if you are curious about pegging. Appreciate the consideration with which you tactfully mentioned you were available and (Knoxville, TN). Please feel free to ask any question and post topics you are interested...other than the personal ad restriction - this is a pretty loose place.
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    Sun, June 5, 2011 - 1:50 PM
    Hi.. New member here. Found this group when searching pegging on the internet. Took quite a bit for me to get up the nerve to tell me wife what I wanted her to do, but she was open minded and gave it a try. It helped that I showed her some of the posts her from others saying that pegging is ok. She's pegged me two or three times. Well, is it pegging if she didn't use a strap on? She just used a dildo on me. Haven't done it much, but we are planning a trip to Vegas soon and she has promised me "anal pleasure", so I'm looking forward to it! I'm going to bring up the possibility of getting a strap on before we go.
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      Sun, June 5, 2011 - 8:21 PM
      Hello Sean - welcome to our tribe.
      So glad to hear that your wife was receptive to your desires! If she is using the dildo in her hand, you are most of the way there...I will bet you're going to have a great time in Vegas. Post pictures! (Kidding) If you are going shopping, I can personally recommend the Aslan "Bionic Vinyl Harness":
      Anyone else have any suggestions for Sean?
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        Mon, June 6, 2011 - 1:52 AM
        Not an expert by any means, but we've found the feeldoe strapless dildo very intimate. Probably not the best, but will drive you definitely demented feeling your wife/partner sooo close fucking you from behind.... Well it works or us..... Seems to drive her nuts as well... Still thinking about the extremely pleasant session we had last nite .... Will probably buy an harness with a bigger "piece" because we're both craving something larger..... Hope it helps ....simply enjoi yourselves....
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    Fri, June 10, 2011 - 1:19 PM
    Hi Ruby and all lovers of pegging. I'm a middle-aged guy from the LA area who has always fantasized about women taking control and treating me like the bitch that I want to be. I have only been pegged twice - both times by pros. I would like to find someone that would like to do it more frequently. Especially if I am in bondage and have no control over the situation. the kinkier the scene, the better I will enjoy it. Just bend me over a bed or chair, tie my arms behind my back, then use me and abuse me until you're too tired to do anything more. I guess that since I've only done it twice in my life (nearly 60 now), I probably can still be considered a newbie. So, all helpful suggestions, advice, and guidance will be greatly appreciated.

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    Sun, June 12, 2011 - 10:18 PM
    Hi everybody. I guess I should stop being shy and introduce myself. I'm a married otherwise typical construction guy next door with a few kinks. I've identified as Bi since my teens but it took years for me to figure out that I'm not actually attracted to guys but to anal stimulation. My wife has used dildos on me before but we never got a strapon mostly because she didn't show much talent for using me,she tried but just wasn't into it so I left it alone before it caused problems. She's understanding about it just not very physically helpful. When I was younger I had no idea anal play could be with anyone besides Bi or Gay guys but I wish I had known of at least SOME ladies into pegging guys. And the male ego kept me from looking for other I quietly went insane with lust until I gave in and had another encounter with a guy. And never really got I know it's not what the guy did or did not's that I still wanted to be sexual with a female even when I wanted pegged. Too bad I didn't know all this when I did road construction LOL at least then I got offers...who knows where they could have led?
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    Wed, June 22, 2011 - 4:30 PM
    Hello Tribe. My name is Doug from the Charlotte North Carolina area. Been interested in Pegging for a few years but just recently became more serious about it. My lover is very GGG and understands how important this aspect of my sexuality this is....I'm hopeful over time it will become as enjoyable for her as it is for me. We are still new to it - we've spent some good time getting the mechanics right and are getting it working well right now. I'm very excited for upcoming "sessions" as we call them.

    I'm just interested in sharing experiences with others who share in loving this wonderfully sexy act.

    Big fan of Violet Blue and Dan Savage.
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    Mon, July 4, 2011 - 11:51 PM
    Hey everyone. Don't really know what to say here. I haven't had any pegging experience. Yet. I have tried other things in the past and have enjoyed them. I am married now (for about 2 yrs) and am WAY too apprehensive to bring this topic up with her. Hopefully in reading other's experiences I will discover how people have approached this subject and possibly I can learn how to bring it up and still keep my dignity. I don't know if I'm making any sense.
    Anyhow, I had a girlfriend who approached the subject (a couple of years ago) pertaining to some friends of hers. The husband had the wife use a strap-on to make love to him. She asked me if I'd ever consider something like that and the thought drove me wild. We began experimenting with her fingers during sex and moved to a small vibrator that she had (she used her hand, not a strap on). We were about to advance further but we ended up breaking up before it could come to fruition. :(
    I would love to be able to bring the subject up with my wife but I don't know how because there IS the whole Gay stigma on most any anal play. Especially with her. I dunno. Anyhow, just wanted to introduce myself as required.
    I'll tell you, a lot of these posts are really intense!!! It's great to see that some people are so uninhibited and are living the fantasy.
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      Tue, July 5, 2011 - 11:36 AM
      Lee - welcome to the group. Glad to have you.I understand your apprehension about approaching your wife. The misconception of anal = gay where men are concerned is widespread, sadly. And so very incorrect.

      I offer a couple of things:
      1) The area of your body that you prefer to have stimulated has no bearing on the gender you prefer to do the stimulating.
      2) A guy getting fucked with a strap-on has as much of a chance of turning him gay as a lesbian getting fucked with a strap-on turning her straight.

      Now even though those are logical concepts - the "he's gay" thing is not at all logical - it's intensely reactive. (The interesting thing is that although male anal sex is irrevocably connected with gay men - many gay men do not even have anal sex.)

      I wrote an article about convincing your woman to peg you here:

      There are many factors involved - it's a long article, with no guarantees.

      Best of luck to you. Feel free to let it all hang out here - you are among friends who love pegging!

  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Tue, July 5, 2011 - 1:56 PM
    Greetings to all,

    I am a happily married man (Kinsey Scale 2+) from Silicon Valley, CA, who enjoys pretty much anything sexual, including pegging and even cross dressing. I am extremely lucky, since my wife supports my desires in all things. We have been pegging for a couple of years now, and I wanted to join this group to better understand myself and discover more varied ways to bring pleasure to myself and my relationship. I'd also be happy to give any advise I can to anyone who could use it.

    I am a big fan of pegging due to the amazing multiple orgasms, feeling of fullness and the sense of surrendering to another.

    thanks for taking the time to read this,

    Megan (my CD name)
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      Tue, July 5, 2011 - 6:48 PM
      Hi Megan! Nice to have you join us. Thanks for sharing your story. How wonderful that you have what I would call a GGG relationship (Good Giving and Game). I always enjoy hearing stories from your side of the fence, so to encourage others that things can work out. Though there are always risks in divulging innermost desires, I love to hear the happy endings (pun intended)!

      Thanks for making me look up the Kinsey scale...interesting information!

      Happy Pegging,
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, July 8, 2011 - 3:31 PM
    Hi Everybody,

    I'm Matt. I've been into pegging my entire adult life. It has always been an important part of an intimate relationship for me and as such it is a subject I breach with my partner early. I've always been surprised at how open most women are to Pegging. I think for many of them its a chance to experience power in a away they never have. I started with my first wife in my early 20's. It was very hard and scary to talk to her about it at first. But soon after I brought it up we were at Secrets buying a Doc Johnson vaccu-loc harness. We moved on from eachother and I met another lovely woman who must have been incredibly perceptive. She pegged me our first time. She moved on to feminization, dressing me in panties and checking during the day to be sure I was wearing them. She would wear her strap on under her clothes and have me go down on her in public places. She took it to a whole new level. When we parted a third woman took up the cause. She allowed me to continue exploring sensual cross dressing. taking me to Victoria's Secret and Freddies to get new outfits. I have no urge to be a woman but love to look sexy for my woman. And I can see her reaction when she catches a glimpse of my pink panties slipping out of the top of my pants. For those of you who share my passion check out XDRESS.COM, they are a great company that sells lingerie made specifficly for men. The tools of pegging have improved so much over the years. Today we use either a Fun Factory "Share" or a Feeldoe " Slim". These dildos are so much nicer than the old floppy harnesses and the new shapes really allow my partner to reach a climax at the same time as me. I'm excited to try the new "Realdoe" from Feeldoe but I wish they would make a bigger one. My partner exclaimed recently that she needed a bigger cock! We've also incorporated some light bondage usually involving strapping me face down with an under the bed strap system and various other restraints. I'm excited to find this forum and share my experience with others!
    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Sat, July 9, 2011 - 3:10 PM
      Hello Matt - A warm welcome to you. Thanks for introducing yourself and sharing your story. I think the majority of pegging-friendly men find it hard and scary to talk to their partners about it the first time. Sounds like the women you approached were all receptive to the idea which is wonderful to hear. Especially the one who first time off had you pegged (couldn't resist the play on words).

      You are one of the vocal non-majority who love the harness-less double dildos - so glad they work for you! Like I tell people - there are many who love them. I couldn't find a comfortable rhythm without totally concentrating on holding it in the entire time, which ruined the experience for me. Might revisit the idea after I've done a zillion kegels!

      Have you looked into the Outlaw Leather harnesses? They can hold the double, one single or two single flared-base dildos. Mine just arrived and it's beautiful - can't wait to try it out. But oh yeah - I'm taking a break after a bad breakup so likely it won't be for a few months... :-(
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        Sun, July 10, 2011 - 7:44 AM
        Hi every one... Ive been searchin the net for ages to find a site lite this... Ive never been really outgoing when it comes to sex, just whatever my current partner wanted. Until I got together with my current partner (hope hes the last coz i thnk hes the ONE!!! lol) My man started by asking me to finger his arse when i gave him head (which i did with pleasure, apparently i have a telent for sucking cock...) he then asked me via text, alot of our dirty talk is via sms... to buy a strapon and fuck him. i said YES AND bought a feeldoe... not the best toy when u are both large sized...he was 140kg and im 100kg... now we both bout 100gks each... it just doesnt give the control i was after...ive had 5 kids so my control wasnt the best either... so i bought a beginner strapon kit and used it after we both had a few drinks... not the best experiance but he still wanted more. at the moment the beginner strapon, bout 7inch but too wide, girth bout 1 1/2inch we use a slim vibrator,and i really enjoy making him lay there and let me fuck him, (missionary is best) but really it has nothing to do with me dominating him, its just a way for him to release his frustration by getting me to fuck him,which is normally and for me very very sensual and fuckin hot!!... im normally alway VERY submissive and like it that way... If he wants me to such his cock i will any time, kitchen, bedroom, outdoors anytime... we love each other very much and he is not the slightest bit gay but really does enjoy that release every now and then and i enjoy giving him pleasure by fucking his arse ....U dont have to be gay or domineering to enjoy pegging... its just fun!!!!
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          Sun, July 10, 2011 - 11:02 PM
          Hello Karen! Welcome - I'm so glad you found us. How fun that you just discovered pegging! Feeldoe is an interesting first purchase - I find them challenging. Kudos to you both - him for having the courage to ask you and you for being receptive to it. Have fun exploring!
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        Sun, July 10, 2011 - 8:39 PM
        Hi Rudy thanks for the warm welcome :) we've never tried a harness with either of the double ended dildos we use. She did complain about the Share being too heavy but her only complaint about the Feeldoe is it's length is too short. I would like her to be able to use it while I lay on my back but we haven't been able to do that. I've seen some pretty sexy harnesses at one of our local boutiques (gotta love liven in the Bay). Maybe I'll have to buy her one for a surprise. Sorry to hear you had an ugly breakup :(
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          Sun, July 10, 2011 - 11:29 PM
          Yes - you have Good Vibrations up there and the Vixen creations factory, too! Toy heaven.
          I found my new harness (for a great price) here:
          It was a cosmetic second but I can't find an obvious flaw on it. And the design of the Annie O is SO sexy!
          Thanks, breakups are tough, but he certainly raised the bar for the next guy, and I would do it all over again in a second. :-)
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, July 29, 2011 - 2:18 PM
    hi everyone im willam... im very new to this pegging , saying that i have yet to be able to experiance it !! i enjoi anal play alot thats kind of where i fit in here not so much givin but receving i am very open an very secure with my sexuality im a 26 brown hair blue eyes 6'0 foot 180 lbs from edmonton alberta i welcome anyone who would like to have a conversation

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      Sat, July 30, 2011 - 1:32 AM
      Hello William! Welcome to the tribe. Very nice to have you. The best way to have a good experience when you eventually get pegged is to get to know your own ass first.That way you know what feel good and what doesn't. Good luck with your search.
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    Sat, July 30, 2011 - 6:21 PM
    Hello All,

    I'm Michael. I've been interested in pegging for a few years already, and I still can not believe how much pleasure I can achieve that way. To me, "vanilla" sex is not even close!

    I also enjoy crossdressing - and mostly crossdressing and pegging which is double the fun.

    You seem like a very active group and I'm happy to join

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    Fri, August 19, 2011 - 4:11 AM
    Thank you for welcoming me to your pegging community. I am in Tampa and enjoy being pegged immensly. I got my first taste of it with a Mistress who loved to use me for nothing else, and I was always left begging for more, wanting to stay filled as long as possible. I came to the level of having anal orgasms and I am always thinking of that. I am happy to be used for just for being pegged, as it is totally satisfying.
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Sat, August 20, 2011 - 9:52 AM
    Hi I am Sam from London,

    My wife and I have only recently discovered pegging, as we have been experimenting and exploring more in our sex lives. I have now taken the submissive role in the relationship and as part of this we have been exploring pegging.
    My wife now wants to take it further and i think the next step will be to have me stripped in front of some of her friends, after a night out, and have them take turns with me, although we haven't taken that step yet...
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Sun, August 21, 2011 - 8:27 AM
    Hi, I'm Kreg in southern Arizona and I'm looking for a peg partner. I had some experiences with a lady 10 years ago with anal play,,,no pegging and she got me off with her finger alone and now I'm reallly interested in pegging. The last relationship I was in was going there and I even bought a Feeldoe for her to use but she up and moved away before we could get to that point. So,, I now have a virgin Feeldoe and a virgin ass, thats just waiting to be pegged.
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    Fri, September 16, 2011 - 9:05 AM
    Hello All,

    I'm a 46 y/o male that is very interested in learning about pegging from a Big Beautiful Woman and if she is an older woman is an added bonus for me. I live In Barstow Ca, if your out there !
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      Fri, September 16, 2011 - 9:45 PM
      Welcome Bill - so how did you find us? And how did you get interested in pegging?
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        Thu, September 22, 2011 - 8:06 AM
        I did a google search on BBW pegging and found this great site :) thank you for the encouragement to bring our desires out into the open. A girlfriend used to finger me as she performed oral and I loved it. The wife does the same but NOW I want to try MORE :) and have been researching pegging since.
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    Wed, September 21, 2011 - 6:06 PM
    Hey there. I am very new to this and, as of yet, have not been pegged. I did recently convince my wife to buy a harness and have used the dildo on myself a number of times. My wife used it on me once too. I have actually been reading and asking you questions, Ruby, and thank you for your help so far. I think I will actually convince my wife to do it soon!! : )
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    Sat, September 24, 2011 - 6:07 PM
    hello ! i ranacross this tribe while looking thru the many other adult tribes that are part of this site!
    tho i may have past experience as a sub guy that just loves to serve assertive Women in any
    way that she may desire. from house boy to sissy cuck. i have enjoyed my many experiences.
    i am not as experienced in being pegged by a Woman but i do find the thought does stir my desire to be
    pegged by my next Girlfriend as a new addition to my submission to her!
    hope to meet others with the same likes!
    thanks for this tribe!
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    Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, October 21, 2011 - 10:39 AM

    Short form: Married almost 40 years, and things have gotten really dull in the boudoir.

    Wife is just not feelin' it no more. . .so I'm trying to introduce a little variety (or more).

    Coming from the prostate massage angle. . .sure would feel good!!

    We'll work our way up to strap-on fun, I'm sure!! It's gonna take time.

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      Fri, October 21, 2011 - 4:07 PM
      Hello love what i see here. i write Female Domination erotica with lots of strap on play in it. One true experience in my life. Short and funny. More to follow Look forward to meeting more people and becoming friends.
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Sun, October 23, 2011 - 12:31 PM
    Hi Ruby:

    My name is Jared I live in Denver Colorado. I just wanted to say hello. I had a girlfriend that introduced me to it about 15 years ago. I really enjoyed a woman taking control of me. This was a part of our sexual routine, it was so awesome and freeing sexual experience. I am now a little older and would like to experience it. I have tried to experience, with my wife but she does not like to do it. I think it even hurt our sex life after I mentioned it. Does anyone have any advice on how to make a woman enjoy it more?
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    Tue, October 25, 2011 - 7:00 PM
    Hi Ruby. Thanks for creating such a welcoming place and fostering so many thoughtful discussions on pegging. After one try years ago I opened up to my wife a few weeks back about my desire to give pegging another go. Thankfully she was very open and after purchasing our first strap on we experimented last weekend. We were both amazed by how much it turned us both on and it ended up being one of our hottest nights ever. Can't wait for round two! This is still very new and I can't thank you enough for creating this space. Love the blog too!
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      Fri, October 28, 2011 - 2:25 PM
      Josh - you are so welcome. I am very happy to hear that your wife was eager to explore pegging with you...and especially that it was one of your hottest nights ever! This is what I wish for couples; that spark of sexual exploration, that thrill of trying something new. You had the courage to ask her and she had the willingness to explore it with you - kudos to you both!

      Happy Pegging,
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    Fri, October 28, 2011 - 3:47 AM
    I have been apart of pegging for a couple of years now. My wife who is an absolutely nypho whore who loves every aspect of sex gets especially wet when we peg to the point she needs a towel from time to time.

    I have always wanted to be pegged and years ago i thought about it, but the women at the time were not interested. Luckily I met the whore I have always been dreaming of and she constantly surprises me with some of the dirty things she wants to do.

    As for pegging, she loves to take the exact same positions I do to her. From face down flat and pounding my ass while biting my ears and holding me down from my shoulders to missionary with my hands tied above my head, ball gag, legs folded into themselves and jerking my cock at the same time. I get too sensitive when i cum and she loves it when she is fucking me that way and jerking my cock, when i cum, she uses it as lube and keeps going. Is it too intense? Absolutely. Love it? Wouldn't have it any other way. The screaming and head thrashing that accompanies it, absolute heaven.
    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Fri, October 28, 2011 - 2:42 PM
      Hello Next - welcome to the tribe! Sounds like you are one of our more advanced members - your description of how you and your wife enjoy each other had me fanning myself. This tribe has a significant portion of people who practice pegging in a more vanilla manner, but I have leanings in the direction you describe. Pegging can be done so many ways!
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        Sat, October 29, 2011 - 5:10 AM
        I wouldn't say advanced, but we definitely love to play. I have learned one think though, don't say no. I have found when I let it happen or say yes, it is a lot better than I can ever imagine.
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    Sat, October 29, 2011 - 2:16 AM
    In terms of pegging experience: No experience yet and my interest in pegging is quite new and specific: My pegging related fantasies are about femdom arrangements - and pegging usually comes in as a special way to create and promote the male subject's awareness that the woman is in control and he will have to accept that state of affairs. (No wonder I am quite ambivalent about the pegging experience itself, since it would be disturbing and irritating, and to a certain extent humiliating. I would never dare to ask to be pegged - it would be the woman's decision and she would not do it just for her or my pleasure - but to teach me one of many lessons in femdom and male submission without so much caring about my wishes...) Consequently I would like to exchange ideas on the pegging subject with femdom interested females.
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      Sat, October 29, 2011 - 7:27 PM
      Welcome! Glad to have you but I am not sure if this tribe can meet your needs...This group was created for people interested in more "vanilla" pegging, if you will, with intimacy and closeness and consensuality. We do have members interested in some D/s and feminization, but more intense D/s, BDSM and humiliation are not for this forum. There are a couple of other forums here on Tribes:

      Or you can go to and you will find many groups with like-minded individuals.
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        Sun, October 30, 2011 - 8:56 AM
        Thank you for the information... I guess you're right, but maybe the gap between the femdom and the consensual vatiety ist not so wide as it may seem: In my understanding only a minimum of force and a slightly (?) sadistic womanare needed to trigger the whole thing. Once the reasonable male subject (myself, hehe) has been introduced into the logic of femdom (as I understand it) the rest would be quite consensual and the male subject would be highly motivated to cooperate - even if he does not really "enjoy" the treatment.
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          Sun, October 30, 2011 - 10:00 PM
          There is a fine line there, to be sure. And I have a foot in your camp, gerry...but this forum was created for couples who don't use the words "force" and "sadistic" with the word "pegging"...even slightly. They don't want to be triggered and are quite happy really enjoying their consensual non-dominant pegging...and talking about it here on this forum. Please understand there is no judgment here - we just want to keep this group more free of BDSM and FemDom influences. Many people who are considering exploring pegging are actually scared off by tBDSM influences...because pegging can be a touchy area to explore for both sexes. This group is not about obedience, dominance or S&M pretty much on any level. I hope I explained this well enough!

          (If you want a FemDom point of view - you are welcome to check out my website: - but there is no forum there.)
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Tue, November 15, 2011 - 7:05 AM
    Howdy - found this site by accident and had to join cause I love the topic. 55 year old married So Cal guy. I love sex and love the idea of my wife taking me with a strap-on.

    She is very conservative sexually and I joined this tribe to read and get information to assist me in communicating with her. She used a vibrator inside me the other night and I loved it. Amazing what a couple of cocktails due to your inhibitions.

    Ruby - thanks for starting and sharing!

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    Sat, November 19, 2011 - 10:03 PM
    Bill checking in 1st time.
    I've had a couple of decades of pegging experiences. For me, having my lady make love to me in a fashion similar to how I make love to her is natural, liberating and forges closer bonds between us.
    This life is way to short to be limited by narrow minds and timid souls. Pegging isn't for everyone but neither is skydiving. I just don't feel I am living fully unless I test boundaries and redefine norms.
    I am from CA, now in N.NV. I'm happily married and always seeking to live at a higher level.
    This type of forum wasn't available when I started on my pathway to greater pleasure and enlightenment, but with a little online searching here I am.
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      Sun, November 20, 2011 - 2:33 PM
      Bill -
      Welcome to the tribe. So glad you are here as an experienced member of the community!
      I loved this part of your post:

      This life is way to short to be limited by narrow minds and timid souls. Pegging isn't for everyone but neither is skydiving. I just don't feel I am living fully unless I test boundaries and redefine norms.

      So well said.

      Looking forward to some great conversations to come...
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    Fri, November 25, 2011 - 10:36 AM
    Hello tribe,

    just joined here and wanted to introduce me.

    My name is Patrick, I am currently 29 years old and a submissive male living in Germany. Although I do have some fetishes (especially crossdressing/sissification/feminization and feet/shoes/legs), I would not consider myself a "kinkster" or something (thus not interested in online or club play etc.). Instead, I am still looking for a (hopefully dominant) woman for some kind of Female Led Relationship. Ideally it would also contain elements of chastity and cuckolding, so.... this is basically why I'm here: To learn about this form of sex and to exchange information, so that if my future girlfriend/wife would be into these things also, I would know what to do and what to expect.

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      Sat, November 26, 2011 - 2:34 AM
      Welcome Patrick!
      This group is a bit less abolut fetishes and more about sensual pegging, so you won't find many discussions here about dominance, feminization, chastity or cuckolding. There is, however, a lot of information about pegging if you read through the posts, and information can also be found on my website at
      Feel free to ask any questions you are curious about!

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    Mon, December 19, 2011 - 12:06 AM
    Bump for the newcomers....
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      Thu, December 22, 2011 - 6:39 PM
      hi, my name is jeff and i'm fascinated with the idea of getting pegged by a woman. would like to find a woman or a group of women to have a pegging party with my ass. would be hot to get pegged and eat some pussy at the same time too, or get pegged and suck cock at the same time, a big fat Black Cock would be ideal!!! hope there are some females out there who might be interested in connecting and making it a reality!!! be cool if they took pics/video of it as well, would love to have them upload pics/vides of me getting dominated and used by some Dominant Women.
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        Wed, January 4, 2012 - 9:57 PM
        Welcome to the group! This group is less about dominant pegging and more about sensual pegging. Also - usually into less explicit type of gang bang stuff and more into intimate, sensual pegging. As your moderator I'm trying to hold down the fort here and walk the line between the intense D/s porn kind of pegging and loving sensual pegging. Not an easy job but I believe there needs to be a friendly place for sensual peggers and peggees that isn't filled with abusive porn images. Sorry for the rant!
        Know that there are many BDSM groups here on Tribes - just an FYI...
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    Fri, December 23, 2011 - 1:23 PM
    Hi I'm Larry. I live in Raleigh NC and I've been dying to find a woman to peg me. Years ago I dated a woman that wanted to do it but I was too scared to let her... now it's all I can think about. I did let her finger me, and a small toy on me (which I enjoyed), but I've never been pegged. Waiting for that day...
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    Fri, December 23, 2011 - 2:02 PM
    Denis from Montréal , it's has been 2 years now from my last girlfriend who like to peg me , i miss it a lot , of course to feel it in my ass was something , but what really turns me on was her hands holding my hips when she was behind , getting me to her firmly , her hands spreading my legs while i was on my back , my ass wide open for her , her sweet voice softly keep on telling me ( tu aime çà te faire enculer hein ? ) You like when i fuck you in the ass babe ! This part was very eroticly sublime for me I also notice that when i was on my back and her on top drilling me like she really means it , embrassing her body with my legs makes her very horny ...
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      Wed, January 4, 2012 - 10:05 PM
      Hello Denis, welcome! Sounds like you enjoyed some sweet times with your ex-GF. There is a thread here about talking while pegging - I love what she would say to you! I hope you find more erotic pegging in 2012.
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    Wed, January 4, 2012 - 11:53 AM
    Hi, I first had the idea of pegging brought up by a boyfriend a few years ago. At the time it seemed weird and I was afraid that it meant that he was gay, so I shut down on the idea. Since then I have done a lot of reading and the idea seems really intriguing now.

    The problem I have had is that I like masculine, take-charge guys, and since that time, every guy I have tried to introduce the idea to has reacted much worse than I did. I am really curious about pegging, but I have no interest in a sissy-boy or cross dresser. I really only want sex of any kind in a relationship that has other dimensions to it (not necessarily committed, but not anonymous either). I actually tried to use a strapon with a guy that was a real sub, that was not very fulfilling. Yeah, we both came, but I couldn't feel that close with a guy I could take in a fight.

    It's like I feel about spanking: I do enjoy spanking a partner, but again, I only like it with a man who is much stronger than me yet wants to be spanked. I don't think that pegging will be great for me unless I have that same sort of guy.

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      Wed, January 4, 2012 - 10:28 PM
      Welcome Terry! I love hearing stories about women doing research and discovering that pegging is actually a pretty sexy activity - good for you. Just curious - did you ever tell the ex-BF that you over-reacted and now enjoy it?

      There are indeed masculine take-charge guys who love pegging...and spanking for that matter. They are usually a little more reluctant to reveal themselves because of their masculine exterior, but they are out there! Everyone likes something different...

      Here is a group on FetLife:
      "Dominas/Dommes that Like submissive men with dominant personalities"

      Happy Pegging!
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      Mon, January 23, 2012 - 1:16 AM
      Hi Terri! There are those kind of men out there, I promise. I believe that secretly more men think about it than they want to admit because of society pushing the idea that it's "gay". Anal sex can be thrilling and pleasurable whether it's the male or the female as the receiver, as long as both parties are willing & into it. My husband is a very masculine man & he enjoys it very much. We have rough sex & we also have very intimate passionate sex. I believe that it's a state of mind & once they get past the "idea" of it, they will realize how pleasurable it can be. I'm sure that one guy is out there for you. Keep searching! :)
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    Fri, January 6, 2012 - 7:16 AM
    Hi Everyone,

    My name is Bill and I am still kind of new to this; only been doing it about a year now. But, I Love it! It is a great feeling! My girl loves pegging my too! I don't know how I found her but I will definately keep her. She is even to the point of wanting her girl friends to get involved. I can't wait! Maybe I'll have some good stories to tell you all real soon.

    I am from Rockall Texas. I am in my 40's. Look forward to learning more about pegging and sharing stories with you all.
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      Mon, January 9, 2012 - 11:39 AM
      Hi my name is Bill and I am new to this I live on the west coast, California to be exact, all my life been here. Retired construction worker, use to travel a lot no longer do that. No children, 1 pet, married. My wife does not believe in pegging so am looking to find a discrete partner who will provide service. Pretty much it about me.
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      Mon, January 9, 2012 - 3:42 PM
      Welcome Bill! Glad to hear you are enjoying pegging with a supportive partner - you are a fortunate man. Make yourself home here and feel free to ask any questions or share any stories you like!

      Welcome to bill, as well! Sorry to hear your wife is not supportive of your desires. For the hundredth time I do wish I had a magic wand...
      Great to have you join us.

      All the Best,
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    Wed, January 11, 2012 - 11:28 AM
    hello . my name is samuel, and i was given this name by my former (1990's) Mistress/spouse. well... she used to peg me, and now, well the desire never ceases. i currently reside in calgary, alberta. and would very much like to find a woman intrested in the same, so mutual cravings can be fufilled. my availabilities include many evenings, often weekends and week-daytime as well, simply depending on business and availability to schedule. i have had little experience other than service to my former Mistress. (was quite submissive, however am an Aplha male in vanilla world) It has been a little while, however this head down ass up guy can’t hide in wolf's clothing. i was trained to "pamper" , often in “body worship”, but also trained by M’Lady to be bound, then pegged, ridden or otherwise used for enjoyment - both personally by Mistress or to be lent out as She deemed appropriate. i am educated, professional, fit and very healthy. Dont smoke, light drink, but not judgment of otheres in thir actions.
    ... so... women, ladies and Mistress of calgary, perhaps one of you might help this lost bum (pun intended) find a stiff direction.
    ... samuel ... (and regards to you Rudy... great forum)
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      Wed, January 11, 2012 - 9:06 PM
      Welcome, Samuel! Glad you decided to join us. The members of this forum tend to lean more towards non-dominant pegging, but you can find groups of people all about D/s pegging at I had to remove your other post (no personal ads!). Best of luck with your search.
      All the Best,
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    Thu, January 19, 2012 - 5:19 AM
    hi im Kylie, i live in sydney australia. i do not have much experience with pegging as i have only done it twice. i collect horror things . what brought me here was curiosity . i have no idea what else to write :)
    peace K
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    Mon, January 23, 2012 - 1:05 AM
    Hi, I'm Ashley. My husband, Chad, & I (25 & 24, respectively) are fairly new to pegging. I have always been turned on by the idea but I never felt comfortable openly discussing it with previous boyfriends. Chad & I have always openly discussed our fantasies with one another & one day I mentioned to him how aroused I get thinking about female on male anal... and thankfully, (and a little shockingly) he told me he was into it, too. That was about 2 years ago & before then I didn't even know it had a name. We have played around with toys but have not made the full step into a strap-on. Recently, I ordered a Realdoe dildo online & it was delivered last week. I have to say I'm nervous & excited!
    Unfortunately, a military deployment currently has us separated but he will be returning home for 2 weeks in April & that's when we plan on giving it a try. And he is just as excited as I am!!
    Through further research, I have found that some say the Realdoe is more comfortable if used with an O-ring harness, does anyone have any experience or advice on this?
    I am so glad there is a community where pegging is openly talked about & discussed... and even more so along the lines of how beneficial it can be to an intimate relationship. Pegging has opened up an entirely new level of intimacy and thrill for our marriage.
    It is so great to be here & to meet you all! I look forward to learning so much!
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      Mon, January 23, 2012 - 1:57 AM
      Welcome, Ashley!
      What an exciting place to be - right before your first experience with pegging. Your communication with your husband sounds excellent; so glad you can both talk about your desires with each other. I always say if you can't talk about it, you shouldn't be doing it!

      The realdoe is more of a challenge than most toys. The lure of the double-ended dildos is strong - they are so sexy looking and the idea that the woman gets pleasure too? But it is not that easy for most couples. You are using your vaginal muscles to hold in the dildo and you are penetrating his anal sphincter muscles - which are much stronger. Most women find that the dildo is too hard to keep in and comes out at inopportune times.the side to side stability is not good, either. So definitely get a compatible harness. Couples who use harnesses say the realdoe works just fine that way. (I do not have a double-ended dildo - so I'm just going by what others have said.)

      The toy itself is fun for other uses, too. It can be used by him for solo anal play because the bulb works well as a handle - or you can hold it in your hand as well and use it on him. There are times (like if you get tired of fucking him) when holding it in your hand is a good option.

      "Pegging has opened up an entirely new level of intimacy and thrill for our marriage." I love hearing this!! Good for you. This happens a lot. And it warms my heart to hear it every time...

      If you are looking for information about equipment and techniques and the basics - please feel free to check out my website at

      In this forum I have tried to maintain a place for relatively non-kinky couples to discuss pegging without all the usual humiliation, degradation, feminization and domination found in porn. Mostly the discussions here are about sensual pegging. Feel free to ask any questions you may have!
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    Fri, January 27, 2012 - 8:07 PM
    Hello... Hope everyone is doing Ok..
    I am bi sexual, so I am not new to guys, However, I never had a girl, who would want to even see a guy that get into something line this..
    I am a big, black , 6.3 tall guy, long dreads... Artist and business owner.. I live in Michigan and live alone...

    Although I am into woman, I never thought I could find one that would be into this... So Im looking for to find woman to get to know, LTR minded.

    Well I found this page, simply because a want an open minded woman to get to know and would enjoy doing things like pegging.Started surfing the net and here I am... I'm hoping by joining I could finally find more open minded people to chat with.. and hopefully find a woman that would get into all kinds, surrounding this experience.
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      Thu, February 2, 2012 - 2:52 PM
      Welcome DeeJay! Nice to have you join us. If you are looking for a relationship with a woman who will peg you - you might have better luck at or This tribe is more for discussion that dating...but I suppose you never know where you might meet someone.
      And yes - there are indeed women out there who love it!
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    Thu, February 2, 2012 - 9:49 AM
    Hell.. Deejay here.. from Michigan

    Never done pegging before... Kinda found this site because I was looking to meet women who would get into this type of relationship with me... found what words I should be looking for and now I am here...

    Hopping to find some like minded people for friend.. like minded ladies for a cool connection.. and
    I live in Michigan, single 33, Bi, Black... Fun loving, Kind, Open minded, and down to earth.
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    Sat, February 18, 2012 - 4:17 PM
    Hi group I have been into pegging for about 10 years maybe a little longer. When we started out my wife was the one that said she wanted to fuck me in the ass. We learned by trail and error , until I found a book about anal fucking and this was for both male and female , and from there it was all good. We didn't do it very offen but when we did I really liked it. Then because of medical problem with my wife we stoped for quite awhile and when we did do it she was not into it. About a year or so ago it all changed now we play around about once a month, that may not sound like a lot of time but normally it goes on for the whole weekend . We have lots of toys that we use so it is always something new. Like right now I am sitting here waiting for her to get home, I have a toy in me right now and just waiting for her. Tonight will be low key play time, but tomorrow will be all out , I kind of push myself to see what I can take, so far the longest is 18 inch but that is not very big we just got a pump up toy so we will be straching me out to go bigger. The one thing that everyone needs to remember what ever you do take it slow and easy, if you get hurt you can ruin it for you and your mate. We live in Southern Calif. and we are both in our mid 60.
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      Sun, February 19, 2012 - 6:09 PM
      Good to see others in their 60s enjoying the intimacy and enjoyment of pegging. We're relatively new to it and unfortunately left our toys, and big boy, at home while on vacation... a huge mistake! Anyway, there are many other ways to compensate for it. We don't consider ourselves old... we do think of ourselves as "kids, just looking like older folks." Life is good and the fucking is GREAT!

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    Sun, February 26, 2012 - 6:21 AM
    45 Married white male from NC. I first got pegged when I was in the Marine Corps. by two strippers from the local watering hole. I been in it ever since but my wife isn't . Maybe one day I will convince her.... until then I'll take what I get and enjoy my fantasies.
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      Sun, February 26, 2012 - 11:57 PM
      Hey Jack - welcome to the tribe. Sometimes it just takes information for women to change their minds. I have heard many women say they reacted badly at first and then after getting more information they changed their minds and tried it. Hope that what happens for you.
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    Sun, February 26, 2012 - 3:08 PM
    My husband & I explored with pegging years ago. I stopped doing it just because I thought it was weird or I felt too "manly" or simply put I felt like it was a little homosexual on my part. I decided I was going to love the freak in me, & do whatever it is I want to do sexually. We have recently bought new toys & been having the time of our lives. I love it, I can honestly say, I let my imagination take over & I can almost feel it myself.
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      Mon, February 27, 2012 - 12:00 AM
      Welcome to the tribe, Leann. There are a lot of things for both sexes to get past with pegging; women feeling manly, men feeling girly, woman strapping on a cock, men getting fucked. It is all such a learning process - and a fascinating one. So glad to hear you revisited pegging and now love it. Also - that you are letting your kink flag fly!
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    Tue, February 28, 2012 - 4:54 PM
    Hiya there, I'm a 20 year old girl and I've been interested in pegging since I was 16. Odd though, I always thought boys were the ones who found pegging weird. And now i come here and I see that guys are finding it hard to find female partners, and I'm like WHAAA?! NO WAY! and here I was worrying about finding a guy who would be into this sorta thing ;D
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    Thu, March 1, 2012 - 2:28 AM
    I'm a musician who stumbled upon the idea of pegging through the internet. This is something that interest me and something I'd like to pursue. I've enjoyed the thought of a woman pegging me but haven't found a person really interested in it unfortunately. This seems to be a taboo subject(I know even in today's society). I find it unfortunate this isn't an accepted sexual practice and would love to see a change in the way the public views female on male strap on pleasuring!

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      Fri, March 2, 2012 - 5:20 PM
      Hello all my Name is Victor I have enjoyed being pegged for many years I even enjoy pegging myself
      it started when I was about 22 and was dating a girl she wanted to try it I said okay I never climaxed so intensly as I did with that viberator up inside of me since then I try to find women who also are willing to peg me
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    Sat, March 3, 2012 - 1:29 AM
    I'm Kati and my husband and I have been into pegging for a little over a year. We both love to peg! I wish this style of sex came out along time ago. I don't understand why people wouldnt enjoy pegging. You get role play, intimacy, and the best orgasms for both partners!
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    Sun, March 4, 2012 - 6:07 PM
    Hello world!
    I've always been interested in pegging. My first experience was by myself with some discreetly purchased toys and I absolutely loved it. Now, I'm interested in meeting fellow peggers and joining the pegging community! If I get lucky, maybe I'll even meet the special someone I've been waiting for.
    I hope to meet you all soon!
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    Sat, March 10, 2012 - 11:39 AM
    Hi am Sam am 30 years old straight person , i like rock music and read\write poetry in my extra space time , i also enjoy football swimming , fishing,never interested in cars nor in surfing ( IDK.Y! ) i have traveled to 6 different countries i can't say that i enjoyed all their food though lol
    However am very new here with zero experience but only interested in the idea and may give it ago but i want it to be my special moment with zero humiliation , i want to try alot of things that people may call it crazy but i would never know what i like or hate befor trying it first
    any way just want to say hi
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      Sat, March 17, 2012 - 2:16 PM
      Hello Everyone this is my first time to this tribe, I found it searching through Tribes, never realy thought about a particular tribe of this topic, Thank You for being here.
      I am LouAnna, a 50's, male, transgender, I started dressing in my sisters clothes when I was 7, I didn't come out as transgender until I was 40, as predicted ALL my friends abandoned me. Today I dress as much as I can, living in Maine does NOT help, people don't accept anyone out of the "norm" around here.I so look forward to moving from here, I'm single, retired, and financialy stable.
      Anyway, I came to your tribe for support in my love for being peged, nearly nothing makes me feel more like a woman, thow its hard to beat a real cock, I do prefer a strong, confident, but gental woman pushing that strap-on into me.
      I would LOVE to find a woman who will accept me for who and what I am, I would LOVE to be her male wife, and she be my femal husband, or maybe I could meet a male female couple who would like to have a live in servant, I am trained in both domestic and personal services.
      Well I guess that is the basics. If anyone has questions please feel free to ask.
      Thanks Again for being here for all of us.
      Kisses To All
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    Fri, March 23, 2012 - 8:31 AM
    We are a swedish couple.
    I (Danny) found out about this page through Vickie P's blog (Thank U Vickie!!!).
    I have always (as long as I can remember) liked anal stimulation when I've been masturbating.
    Luckily I met a girl who liked the idea of using a strapon!!! She's so into it.
    The first cock we bought was tiny.. it's best to start small. Now we use a Queeny Love strapon, it's perfect.
    There's nothing sexier than a woman wearing a strapon!
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    Tue, April 3, 2012 - 2:53 PM
    Hi, I am a newbie to this. I still hav enot had my pegging cherry broken yet. I am from Richmond, VA. I came across some photos while searching the internet. Ever since, I've been very interested. I would love to meet someone to explore this thrill with.
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      Tue, April 3, 2012 - 6:50 PM
      Welcome Matt - glad you decided to join us.
      There is no cache of women just waiting to peg a man. It is hard to find a woman who is into it and I sympathize. If you are just looking to get knowledge and experience, go to a pro. If you are looking for a relationship with a woman who will peg you, look for a relationship with an open-minded woman and convince her to try it. Best of luck to you!

      All the Best,
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    Wed, April 4, 2012 - 5:37 AM
    Hello all! I'm Jenna. Been lurking here for about a month but finally decided to join since the discussions and exchange of information was so helpful. I hope to return the favor one day!

    I got to this forum by searching for info on making sure "i'm doing it right". I've been curious about donning the strap on for as long as I can remember and just in the last couple of years managed to find a partner equally welcoming (if not begging for) this addition to our sex life. We've been actively pegging for a month now and I can't seem to get enough and i'm sure he'd agree cuz he isn't stopping me!

    Thanks so much for an open, liberating and lively place to share ideas!
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      Wed, April 4, 2012 - 11:32 AM
      Jenna - welcome to the tribe! Glad you decided to change your lurking status and say hello. As many of the men here will agree - your guy is lucky to have you. Women interested in strap-on play are rare, they usually have to be convinced by their guys. Nice to hear you are having so much fun!
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    Thu, April 5, 2012 - 4:25 AM
    Hi I am LouAnna, I am a transgender (since age 7), male, I have only had one woman so far (about 15 years ago) that would peg me, I LOVED it, maybe as much if not better than having a male do me.
    I would LOVE to find a woman for a long term relationship, maybe a role reversal thing, like she be the female husband and I be the male wife, I could send her off to work each day well satisfyed, and I would take care of the house, do the shopping, laundery, the dishes, clean, dust and so on. I would meet her at the door with a drink in hand and dinner on the table when she returns from work. I m experianced in domestic and personal services. I am ready 24/7 to be peged or service her anyway she wishes.
    Or maybe, I could meet a nice male / female couple who would like a live in 24 / 7 maid / servant, I would do the same for.
    Or maybe, I could meet a exceptionaly nice male to be a housewife to.
    Please keep in mind I wish to be a 'servant' NOT a slave, I am somewhat financialy secure so I am not looking for someone to take care of me.
    Thank You Very Much
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    Fri, May 4, 2012 - 11:02 AM
    Hey there ruby my name is christian. Been pegging for about 4 years. Had to take a break after my ex. I had convinced her to do it so since we split i am looking for the next one to satisfy those needs once again. I love it thought. Its the best thing ever if u ask me. Don't get me wrong i do love regular sex but if i can get pegged a couple times a month i doing just fine. I was looking into some self coping methods till i find another lovely lady to bend me over. You have helped me understand a good bit thru the years. Thank u! And keep it up!
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    Mon, May 7, 2012 - 2:42 AM
    HI Ruby.

    I'm Dean from Melbourne Australia. I'm a heterosexual guy who has always enjoyed anal play and would like to try pegging in the not too distant future. I've been in a relationship for several months now and while my girlfriend and while we are able to communicate our sexual interests quite freely, I'm finding it difficult to share with her my desire to try this together. My partner is a little more resrved than I and I'm often the one who initiates things when it comes to sex.

    Just wondering if you could give me any advice on how to communiate my desire with my partner and also any info re. quality strap-on harnesses and dildos.

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      Tue, May 8, 2012 - 7:37 PM
      Hello Dean,
      Welcome to Pegging 101!
      I wrote a rather detailed article called "Convincing her to Try It" which will probably be of some help to you:
      Strap-on harness and dildo recommendations can be found in the FAQ section, too!

      Let me know if you have any other questions, and good luck talking with your wife! I hope you are both enjoying pegging very soon.

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        Thu, May 10, 2012 - 2:29 AM
        Hi Ruby,

        thank you so much for the link on "Convincing her to try it", the advice given was very helpful and reading it gave me the courage to talk to my partner about pegging & possibly introducing it into our sex life in the future.

        I forwarded on the link to my partner and after reading it she mentioned that she is open to the idea but would like to learn more (I'm so excited). Have just purchased a book called "Adventurous Couples Guide Strap on Sex" by Violet Blue which my partner & I intend to read.

        What's helped the both of us is that we really listen to each other which has helped our communication in general.

        My advice to other guys out there is to take your time in warming her up to the idea of pegging. Explore each others butts with tounges, fingers and anal toys at a pace that both of you find pleasureable and are comfortable with. If your woman enjoys her butt being played with then there's a good chance she will be more receptive to playing with yours.

        Anyway, I'm happy to have joined this community & am looknig forward to sharing & learning more from each other in the future.

        Bye for now.

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          Fri, May 11, 2012 - 2:58 AM
          That's an excellent book by Violet Blue. Great information interspersed with some hot stories...

          "What's helped the both of us is that we really listen to each other which has helped our communication in general. " Perfect. It all comes down to communication.
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    Tue, May 8, 2012 - 3:48 PM
    Older guy, bi and curious about lots of things, not the least of which is the joy I get from the idea of submission or the actural experiences I have had with partners in tune with allowing the flow of sexual expression take the many forms that give joy, sharing, intimacy and orgasm. Very oral, very interested in mutual pleasuring, I'd love to feel a woman at my backside, alone, in a group play situation, with another sub male, exploring this fascinates me totally!
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    Thu, May 17, 2012 - 9:18 PM
    Hi my name is Chris, found it Ruby. I am 54 have two daughters I raised myself 2 grandsons, two live in, 4 and 8 year olds from my current partner, so I am a family man, a grandfather or papa as they call me. I don't have any real experience with pegging. I was looking for some information slash movies on it and thats how I got here. I know there is supposed to be no BDSM here and that is not what I am looking for. I am not a sadist. This seems like a safe place to learn and talk about pegging that is nonpainfull.
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    Sun, May 20, 2012 - 2:07 AM
    Hello all! Glad to find a place like this! Call me Tired. I see sex as the best playground ever made under the sun. I treat my lover how I want to be treated, so I have always had respect for their wishes and tastes. So as a curious young man who was just learning about sex, I had mostly rather timid or frigid girlfriends. Lucky me. The first porn i saw by accident was anal and the lady looked very happy. So since that day I was fascinated with a woman's ass, A whole new dimension to an already awesome playground was waiting for me to discover. But timid or frigid girls usually say No to anal and since I respect their wishes never got to try it till way later in life (good stuff, the kitty is funner feeling wise but the ass of a woman is exciting!). Usually the protest was it would hurt. So being the adventurous one I thought I could get a first hand experience and see if it hurts, feels good, generally so I can do it right when the time came around. I found a simple candle and started enjoying my self, But that candle was Amazing! Not too long after that I tried with a candle all by its self and I actually had an orgasm. I was blown away, curious, hungry for more and now hooked. Now it is not easy to come out and tell your girl or buddies what an awesome experience that was so the taste for it has to be suppressed most of the time. A woman did use a feel-doe on me before and something about the whole turnabout is fair play along with the weight and presence of a very attractive woman right on top of me and she is in control is probably the most amazing sexual experience of my whole near forty years of life! Compound that with the ass fetish I have been secretly nurturing for a long time on my own, with only periodic teasers from a near anal experience. My short time getting pegged by a woman makes the whole venture very desirable and from my little but awesome experience VERY ENJOYABLE! The problem I face finding a partner like me is the social nonsense taboos that go along with it. Does not matter where the truth lies on the subject ignorance just keeps building the negative. I have recently started to watch a little porn, Im alone now, and i found some videos that were disturbing, degrading and gross which only makes the stereo types more solid. So I keep my desire to myself but it just keeps growing and im about to explode!. Now the door is sadly closing on a long term relationship, I moved far away and as I look into the future of relationships with women I decided to take the leap, get online find a place like this or many till i find the enthusiastic, bold, and sexy woman who would get excited at the idea of taking my little ass from every position and have her own body pleased by a man who loves and aims to please in bed as part of his own enjoyment. I love to give all the attention that i crave to a woman and treat the act of delivering satisfaction to my lover as serious as I do any other long practiced art or skill set ii have, or any of the things i Love to do. Orgasms are my favorite hobby.! .I know some women like Anal Sex, I want to meet one who enjoys it as much as i do, a woman that really treasures, explores, and enjoys her sexual nature that is into feeling good and loosing inhibitions when she is naked. I have never met any woman that did not enjoy a finger in her ass when she was being treated as the focus for my love for going down on a woman. I think that if a person is careful, respectful, and aiming to bring only pleasure to their partner Anal Sex is massively enjoyable for both. It is a common erogenous zone for both men and women. A place where we actually can compare notes or just show your lover how you want it. Also it is a very intimate thing that can enhance the sense of union or our time and acceptance with a lover. How awesome is that? It is a play ground and hidden treasure for only the bold and open minded!. Until i found this place that welcomes pegging enthusiasts there was no place to express enthusiasm for a great thing without terrible unnecessary social consequences. So i;m here for one purpose, To find a wild, willing and enthusiastic woman who enjoys Anal Sex and is turned on at the idea of turning the tables on a man along with all her other apatite's in bed who is not just willing but excited at becoming friends first, build trust and with a little time chatting online discussing our sexy wish list together build a desire and apatite to spend a weekend together creating the most awesome set of memories either of us have ever had up to that point with a lover. The trick is openness, honesty, and a taste for the same kinky things. The trick in doing so is finding that kinky woman who really wants to spend time showing me all the ways a woman can do a man with a strap on as well as fulfilling fantasy's of her own. Im not looking for a long term relationship or even a girl friend, Just an interested and sexually compatible woman who will really appreciate all the attention and pleasure she will receive taking on a partner who wants to express soooooo many repressed desires and make her the object of my affections and pent up sexual energy that is waiting to be set free and celebrate the one who liberates me in the short time we get to spend together. Who ever you are, you will be very satisfied and adored in every physical and mental way a lover can provide. How ever who ever decides to show me the ropes and we spend a very intimate and deeply personal experience, I bet we will at the very least, we will become life long friends, and who knows maybe round 2 will be not only a good idea but necessary for both our appetites and satisfaction., Who knows what can blossom from that? All we really need is to be mutually attracted to our kinky dreams and help a lover achieve a near life long unrealized sexual fantasy! If we both work together with the same goal to realize each others fantasy's and desires, the time will be beyond my ability to describe except as amazingly fulfilling. I'm tired of wishing for what i fantasize about when im alone or mentioning such things to a woman who is maybe a little giving but largely uninterested. I'm tired of keeping my lusty wish list that we all have different versions of to my self. Im tired of meeting women who think good sex is something that at best happens once a week in the missionary position. Im tired of having all this pent up sexual energy with no real outlet to express it. Im tired of wishing that someday a woman will come my way who coincidentally is also the kinky woman i desire. So, here i am tryihg to make the dream come true rather than passively hoping some day i will meet her by chance or fate. if any woman is even just a little bit interested, write me, lets talk about it for a while, get to know each other and if someday you think that you would like to be my Fantasy Maker you will tell me and we will make it happen. Even if you are just curious and not interested in the date, but are willing to talk openly about this subject, maybe give tips on how to find my guide to the sweet world of strap on sex. Or what types of toys and gear work best, etc. I would love to have an experienced woman to talk to on the subject and make a friend who will enjoy our time writing, talking, or sharing on those scary things that turn us on so.much. I really am happy to have found this place. Thank you for existing! One last thing, I am here to find women to talk to and make friends with here with the hope one of you will indulge my unfulfilled sex life with me for a weekend. So all of you who are men and who would probably be great people to be friends with in the physical world, I am very willing to talk to you, share info etc. But I will not accept friend requests from men, just trying to stay on point here, so no offense, I hope you understand. I hope we all find what we are looking for.
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      Sun, May 20, 2012 - 7:57 PM
      That's an impressive introduction! Thanks for going into so much detail about who you are, where you've been and what you are looking for.

      I could really relate to hiding your fantasies away and now wanting to bring them out to play. That transition happened for me about 5 years ago and here I am, not only living my fantasies out but writing erotic stories about pegging as well. Kudos to you for being proactive and going for what you want.

      This tribe is not so much a dating group, I think. Correct me if I am wrong, guys, but this feels like an informational and support group about non-bdsm pegging. For dating I would recommend - completely free. FetLife is set up more as a networking site like this one, but can be used as a dating site as well to search in your area. The search functions are very limited, but that keeps the trolls away. People list the kinks they are into, though, so you can check those. FetLife is a good place to find a woman who is in touch with her sexuality. Keep in mind there are all kinds of kinks, there, though. Lots of BDSM, etc.

      A paid site is It has it's disadvantages like every paid dating site but is more sexually oriented without being (in my opinion) offensive. You can search for people in your area, age, height, weight, etc, but you cannot search for specific kinks. When you click into a profile, though, there is a sexual questionnaire that has a specific question about anal sex, and there is one question - "describe your favorite sexual fantasy", which is what I used to let people know more about my kinks (when I was a member there).

      Sadly, there are not many woman who are into pegging (I am doing my best to change that). Of that group, even fewer are looking for a FWB pegging situation. Pegging is a very intimate act because of the role reversal, so most women are only interested in exploring something so intense with a SO. There are a lot of men out there who want to be pegged and are pursuing the strap-on as opposed to the woman. Not fun for the women.

      You may want to consider a pro - as that would not involve a woman who might fall in love and be looking for more. Just a suggestion.

      On either of the websites, a well-spoken letter of introduction is rare - so you will have an advantage. Add in some finesse and manners and you might find what you are looking for. I wish you the best in your search!

      (Oh, and - paragraphs make it much easier to read)
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        Mon, May 21, 2012 - 10:30 PM
        Thank you i just found Fetlife and it is awesome! Now i can appreciate and see the differences between tribe and FetLife and happy to have them both as a resource and out let for stuff I have no one to talk with about. I am very happy about that. Thanks for your response, I think i wrote you a question somewhere else on how to meek my flavor of kink from my other name PegMahon. So i appreciate the info. Im good at many things and try to be great at things i love if i can but written grammar is not in that pile of honed ability's since i spent a lot of time drawing in the classes i did not like. I will keep the paragraph thing in mind in the future and i bet im even missing one here but thanks for your time and all the helpful information.
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          Tue, May 22, 2012 - 12:40 AM
          You are welcome. Your message asking how to meet women who enjoy pegging motivated me to write a blog post about it - I get asked that so much.
          I'll let this group know when it's finished!
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            Wed, May 23, 2012 - 4:46 PM
            hey everyone im a 25 year old ex marine from kansas..lookin for like minded folkes into pegging found it and i'm intriguged. Sorry I kow u said no personal adds but anyone with questions feel free to ask. phone number maybe
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              Thu, May 24, 2012 - 1:48 PM
              strapmeladysi'myours - Welcome! Have you already explored pegging or want to try it?
              Sadly personal ads don't work with pegging - you need to either find a woman who is open minded and convince her to try it


              or go find a pro (and I say that with the greatest respect for sex workers).
              Best of luck in your search, and THANK YOU for your service to our country!
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                Tue, June 5, 2012 - 2:03 PM
                Good evening to all...

                I am Manolis from Greece and I am searching for a pegging partner for a few years now.
                I don't have any real experience, except for some phone action I use to have with a girl I met online.
                She used to make me do myself occasionally and must admit, it felt beautiful.
                Unfortunately we never got to do it in person.

                Nowadays, I am with a girl, willing to try some vibrator games, but is reluctant to strapon sex. However, I'm eager to feel her going inside me, whichever way is comfortable for her.

                Ruby, thank you for making all these efforts to make pegging more acceptable. I hope you get people to learn it's a beautiful thing.

                As a new member, I hope to fit and help somehow.
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    Mon, June 11, 2012 - 9:45 PM
    Hello Ruby, thank you for letting me belong to this tribe. I am in my 40’s and married for 14 years.
    My wife and I are very new to this and have only tried it a couple of times. I must say it does excite me when she takes me from behind. I had never thought about doing something like this before.
    We were in a adult store one time a few years back and seen a strap on. We joked about it, but that was all. Then one night we were talking about how to spice up the bedroom and decided to give it a try. The first time was a little awkward, but it turned me on so much. It just gets better each time after that.
    I started browsing the web and found this site, just looking for new ways to peg and new toys to try.
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    Sat, June 16, 2012 - 7:43 AM
    Hi all my names Anthony, I'm 26 and so lucky to of been introduce to pegging by my amazing partner Larua and we have been pegging for 5 months now. We started with her tongue an fingers (as I was a bit closed minded to the idea at first) then as I got into it we bought a 4 inch jelly beginner strap on after 2 nights of sweaty dirty pegging I wanted bigger. So we then brought a duo vibrating one (so she got to cum as I do) 7.5 inches. I love to read all your blogs.. Just reading makes my ass tingle of my Laura to pound me hard.
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      Sun, June 17, 2012 - 9:39 PM
      Welcome Anthony! Sounds likeyou are already have quite a good time and lucky to have a woman who introduced you to pegging...usually it is the other way around. Just be sure to use condoms on those jelly dildos - they are toxic and can't be completely cleaned because they are porous. But silicone next time!
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        Tue, June 19, 2012 - 3:00 PM
        Thank u for the advice, didn't know that. We now have silicon duo vibrating strap on. We love that. We're looking into a sucation dildo so I can fuck her and have my ass fucked to.. But nothing will beat watching her take control with the strap on on. I wanted to ask you about reaching orgasm while pegging. I love the feeling of her inside me and really want to have a prostate orgasm but I am finding that when we do it I can cum with the help of her or my hand. Also I'm throbbing hard during the build up to it but once she is pegging me I'm soft again.. I'm also finding that after say 20-30 mins of pegging an we're really goin at it that my stomach muscles contract an (without been to gross) I start to drip lube an some number 2.. (embarrassing but my partner understands) any advice on the above points would be highly appreciated. Thank you. Also I have shown my girlfriend your page and she totally agrees with you and asked me in my next post to say big thank u and that your work and passion is shared. So once again an massive thank you from us in the uk. We spend some nights just sat together reading your stories and the post on here. Big love to all xx
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          Tue, June 19, 2012 - 3:03 PM
          Just a note to my above post.. I always clean out before pegging.. A good 30 mins on the loo then a deep finger water clean out. But like I said any advice would be a big help thank you x
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            Fri, June 22, 2012 - 1:45 AM
            Hey Anthony - Welcome to the tribe! Some men can have prostate (hands-free) orgasms and some men can't. About the same percentage as women who can have orgasms with just intercourse - 30%. As far as staying hard - the whole range of reactions are completely normal. Some men stay hard the whole time, some men's erections come and go and some men stay soft the whole time (but still really enjoy it). there is a lot of information about prostate orgasms over at the Aneros forum. ( )Not so much through pegging but with the use of the Aneros toy. Once you get used to achieving a prostate orgasm solo - makes sense it would be easier with pegging.

            As far as cleaning have a longer dildo, so it is possible that it's reaching past where you have cleaned. Try a rectal syringe ( ) which cleans out a little further than your finger can reach. You can try an enema if the bulb syringe is not sufficient. Just make sure you use the enema about 2 hours before play. Try the other method first, though, because repeated enemas can disturb the natural bacterial flora and aren't good to use often. Another point is to eat a good diet with a lot of roughage, which will ensure that your bowel movements are regular and productive.
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    Tue, June 19, 2012 - 5:02 PM
    hi my names laura, i believe my parnter anthony has recently joined, we have been enjoying pegging for a while now, im a very open minded girl and due to being pregnant some positions arnt easy for us any more, so i thought id try to spice it up a bit and give him something i know noone else has, if your thnking about tryin it all i say is sly is best to begin wit, ie rubbing finger over asshole and just teasing, thats how we started, then as anthony said we just enjoyed it so much we bought a few toys.... i must say with out sounding crude, its the best thing i have ever done with a parnter, we trust each other so much more now and are unbelievably close, he does worry that i thnk hes wierd but in all honesty as long as he enjoys him self and so do i, i dont really care and its also something that can be done when unable too have proper sex after baby born, why should he miss out?? but we do love to read through all the stories and look on sex sites together. THANK YOU RUBY
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      Thu, June 21, 2012 - 11:25 PM
      Hello Laura! Happy to have you join us. I hear that echoed amongst the men - that we might think they are weird or not masculine enough or gay or bi or whatever...but I'm with you - if it feels good and you're both enjoying yourselves, why not? Brilliant idea of pegging him after the baby comes. If you're not too tired! Congratulations, btw.
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    Thu, June 21, 2012 - 7:40 AM
    I'm a 40 year old guy who has been fairly experienced with ass play but not any pegging. Well...while watching one of the Chemistry porno series where one of the actors gets fucked with a strapon my wife asked if that's something I 'd like to try. Of course I quickly answered yes!!! After finally getting ourselves a good dildo and harness we had our first pegging experience last week and it was awesome. I luv not being the one in control and my wife loved being the one in control. She totally took over the evening and enjoyed watching me suck on "her" cock and take her cock in a variety of positions. This may be my new favorite activity and I hope hers as well. I've enjoyed reading the posts and looking at the pics here and look forward to maybe putting up some of our own. Nice to see so many others who enjoy this activity as well.
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      Thu, June 21, 2012 - 11:20 PM
      Jay, Welcome to the tribe! Glad you joined us. Role reversal can really rock. Sounds like you had quite a nice first time...and it only gets better.
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        Fri, June 22, 2012 - 6:47 AM
        I was always a bit pre-occupied with my cleanliness during pegging.
        If it got a bit messy, that would make me self-conscious and ruin the moment.
        My wife says it is all part of pegging and I agree.

        We now use a standard 2-quart Red rubber enema bag before pegging. I bought one on Ebay for $20.00
        I stand in the shower, insert while slightly bent over, then lean against the wall while pushing on the enema bag.
        This gives you balance and allows you to use adjust the water pressure from the bag.
        I do this three times with just water from the shower. It took a while to get get comfortable doing this.
        the more you use it the better you get at cleaning yourself out.
        We use 7.5" and 8" toys, and sInce using the 2-quart enema bag, we have had very, very clean pegging sessions.

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          Fri, June 22, 2012 - 4:00 PM
          Thank you Ruby for your advice on the few worries and wants I asked about. Laura and I are so greatful to of found such an amazing site that we can ask and talk over any questions or worries/problems with have about a subject I enjoy so much but am still very very secret about. Having this site and yourself and people like bob (thanks for your advice to bob) has made me feel not as weird or as out there as I first worried about.. FOR THOSE WHO PEG, WE SALUTE YOU!! ( an Ruby I will let you know how I get on with trying to P-gasm ;) goin to have an evening with Laura trying to get it lol) xx
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    Mon, June 25, 2012 - 11:20 AM
    I was introduced to pegging when a girlfriend surprised me when I was about 18.
    We were in the back of my bug when she pulled out a vibrator and gave me an offe I could refuse.
    A fuck for a Blow Job.

    She had two friends watching and I didn't find out until I had been fucked silly.
    I've fantasized about it now for a very long time and finding it hard to find the playmate.
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      Mon, June 25, 2012 - 10:35 PM
      Wow Eric...trial by fire! So glad your first time was, by the sound of it - quite enjoyable.
      Yes, it is difficult to find a woman who is into it. You might want to read this:
      And take it with a grain of salt - I was in a mood. I get so many messages from men asking me how they can find a woman who will peg them. Gets really frustrating, though I do sympathize. You can also click on the cloud tag "i need a woman to peg me" and there are other articles about it as well.

      Best of luck in your search.
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        Thu, June 28, 2012 - 3:39 PM
        Hey im Michaela
        So after a year of being together and 7 months pregnant with his baby my fiance decides to tell me he is into pegging. At first I was completely against it. I didn't understand how something like that could be intament at all so for months it ate at me of how and why he liked it and that i still dont understand but i finally broke down one night and tried it I figured if im going to marry him im going to have to accept him for being who he is and love him unconditionally i mean what could it hurt. I had never done it at all and he had only done it alone. so he talked to me about it and explained exactly the point of veiw on it because i was one of those girls who seen it as being gay. But after my first experience doing it i realized i could enjoy it to and it could be done intamently. I can honestly say it has brought us closer than ever knowing that we are both getting completely satisfied and that sense of relief that we can do it intamently without the "abusive kinky" stuff. Im so glad that i tried it. But seeing how we have only done it a few times i wanted to know more and its so hard to find things about it other than porn. I mean is it more enjoyable with a strap-on or a dildo or does it matter? Is it sexier if you use a stap-on? If you do decide to use a strap-on should you wear something sexy with it or just bare skin? Please all opinion and point of views are appreciated. I could really use some pointers and confidence on this
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          Fri, June 29, 2012 - 12:45 AM
          I mean is it more enjoyable with a strap-on or a dildo or does it matter?
          For me, most of the time I enjoy the actual fucking of him with the strap-on just because it's hot and presses against my clit in a pleasurable way. Sometimes when I am tired or just want to switch things up I hold the dildo with my hand.

          Is it sexier if you use a strap-on?
          I would say most men find it incredibly hot. Women have varied opinions. I think it's quite sexy mostly because I know just the sight of a woman with a strap-on can thrill a man.

          If you do decide to use a strap-on should you wear something sexy with it or just bare skin?
          This is completely individual. There are no "shoulds". It's what you and your partner prefer. Some inexpensive harnesses are more comfortable with panties or boys shorts underneath.

          You confidence will come with practice.
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    Thu, June 28, 2012 - 11:40 AM
    Hey everyone! I have just joined tribe in order to join this group, because I receive greater and more lasting pleasure from being pegged, than I do from the wonderful pleasure of fucking. Since I am 65 yo and have lived most of my life without the internet, I have experienced an amazing lack of partners, unless you include a few good friends who enjoyed watching me peg myself (which is something I very much enjoy).

    I am an aggressive bottom, and probably because of that I do not consider being on bottom as a position of humiliation or any anyway degrading, or for that matter, in anyway feminizing. But then that is coming from a guy that would love to have breasts simply because I think breasts are beautiful on a man. I love having sex with an equal.

    I started pegging myself when I was 6 yo and still love every minute of it.
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    Mon, July 9, 2012 - 11:30 PM
    Hi, I'm Martha
    Me and my guy started pegging just over a month ago. He brought up the idea. He introduced the topic with "Now, I'm not gay but..." I didn't even think of him being gay when he mentioned wanting to try it. We played around with plugs to make sure it wasn't a fantasy he'd regret. He did me a couple times anally. I bought a strap on that came with two dildos. We've only used the smaller one because he's really tight. He says he enjoys being pegged more than he enjoys doing my ass. He says I'm very gentle so he's not as nervous as he was the first time. He typically bends over the bed so I can enter from behind. It's not a dominant act to us. Just another intimate pleasure. He gets really into it and typically thrusts with me so it goes further into him. I love knowing he enjoys it. We typically incorporate a lot of foreplay first. And the spoon a lot afterwords. I love holding him or being held afterwords and rubbing his butt. He doesn't usually ejaculate from the pegging but he says he feels a very similar strong feeling. Not sure whats up with that but so long as he enjoys it I'm fine with it.
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      Mon, July 9, 2012 - 11:55 PM
      Martha - Welcome to the tribe! Thanks for introducing yourself and sharing your story. I love that you never even considered that he might be gay when he told you about it. The way you two do pegging sounds very intimate. Have you tried stimulating his penis while you are pegging him to see if he will orgasm that way? Many men love that... Sometimes ejaculation isn't the goal. I know when I have G-spot stimulation I don't have to have an orgasm, it is satisfying in and of itself. Happy for both of you!
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    Thu, July 12, 2012 - 6:20 PM
    Hiya i am LittleHands and my hubby and i love pegging but it is hard to find married couples like us ,,,it would be nice to have married coupls to just talk about what we love and not have to watch every word we say because so many would freek out about it.I know there are alot of men out there that love it but i am looking for more of the wife thing. Nice to me you,,,LittleHands
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      Thu, July 12, 2012 - 7:05 PM
      Welcome LittleHands!
      I know what you mean. Most couples who enjoy pegging are pretty closed-mouthed about it, sadly. With good reason, though. The general public still views pegging and pretty depraved and kinky.
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        Sun, July 15, 2012 - 9:44 PM
        Hiya Ruby, I have been on the web looking for places to go where there are like minded couples. I see alot of single men looking. But more couples need to get out there on the web(you can still hide with a screen name) The wifes might have more fun just knowing there are more of us out there who love pegging our hubbys and are as others call us vanilla and don't want no one else but our hubbys. I read some of your stuff and you pointed out some good points i have seen on the web. I think some are so busy looking for the strapon and not looking for the lady. They need to look for the lady first then the strapon. i mean if they are looking for a relationship for life.If they are looking just to get there need for the strapon meet i guess it does not matter so much about the lady.It is more about getting the need meet. I think men just don't get it . When a lady is happy and in a love and in a relationship where you are looking for spending the rest of your life with each other. We feel safe to exsplore different aspects of love making.This is a very vanilla look at things but it is my world and how i came to love pegging my hubby. Like my hubby said i would of never known by just meeting you, that we would be like this in the end,,,Hubby has told me i pegg him better than anyone he could of dreamed of. Hats off to ya and to what ever you are in i say. Thought i would share a few thoughts about things from my way of thinking
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          Sun, July 15, 2012 - 11:13 PM
          "But more couples need to get out there on the web(you can still hide with a screen name) The wifes might have more fun just knowing there are more of us out there who love pegging our hubbys and are as others call us vanilla and don't want no one else but our hubbys."

          I totally agree. Little by little - people are getting together to talk about this. A women's group might be nice because it does seem like the other groups - even if they are vanilla - soon get a bit overwhelmed by the men who are looking.
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    Thu, July 26, 2012 - 7:03 AM
    Hello! I'm William. I'm new to this but I want to learn for my wife. I'm inadequate sexually and she's a very beautiful and powerful woman. She decided she would like to get into this because she wants me to be able to play a bigger role in her sex life. She also thinks it will be good experience and I really want to see if I can learn to climax from anal. I want to be able to be more involved in her sex life and participate when she's with her lovers. I would also love to meet any women near us who enjoy this and hopefully would like to join us.
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      Thu, July 26, 2012 - 1:37 PM
      Hello William - welcome to the group. This isn't a cuckold or chastity group so we won't be talking about those things but you can learn a lot here about technique, positions, lube and equipment. Peruse the threads!
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    Thu, July 26, 2012 - 3:27 PM
    I am new to the forum and am loving it - just signed up today.

    As far as pegging (actual strap on use by a woman on me) only once when I was like 16 and it didn't go well. She hated it felt disgusted... slammed it all the way in -0- it hurt and I felt she never wanted anything to do with it again. Off and on since then I used dildos + vibes on myself strictly alone - she doesn't know.

    Fast forward about two months ago I decided I wanted to explore more - bought more and more toys and have worked my way up to a Rambone dildo now. Well I use Crisco for lube and have to clean out so extra dirty towels started showing up, I was showering any time she would go out... bed being remade etc....

    She thought I was cheating and called me out - I said yeah I have been with these - showed her them....

    Much to my surprise - she loved the idea - One, she was relieved I wasn't "cheating" on her. But two, she ended up saying this idea of toys on me turned her on (we use them a lot on her during sex). So we gave it a try.

    1st time didn't work so well - second was much better. My hope is to move back to the "Pegging" once she and I get comfortable with this new play.

    I can't wait to see what comes next.....!
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      Fri, July 27, 2012 - 2:03 AM
      Welcome and thanks for sharing your story!
      What happened that "didn't go so well"? I suspect she might need to learn more about how to do pegging WITH foreplay? Glad she's coming around since it sounds like you love anal play.
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    Fri, July 27, 2012 - 12:50 PM
    I am new to the pegging experience. My wife and I are still into the motion and play acting stage,rather than the penetration. We have talked about it and are interested in trying. Found this forum,just by chance.I am glad I did! We still need to purchase my wife's new toy, any advise for us? Thank you.
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      Tue, July 31, 2012 - 1:14 AM
      Welcome to the tribe! You know, Steve - I think I'm going to start a thread on this for you and all the other newbies that come along because we all like something different and I'd love to hear other people's responses.
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    Mon, July 30, 2012 - 11:37 PM
    Hi all, I've been watching this for a while. Me and my Beautiful wife are in our early 30's, been married 2 years and have been pegging for the last year. I don't think I can offer much that has not been covered here unless you want a story. I would really like to thank all of you for your stories, they made for great foreplay!!!!!!

    BTW We use a Feeldoe more with a custom harness.
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      Tue, July 31, 2012 - 1:11 AM
      best friends - welcome! Happy to have you join us. I think I speak for everyone here when I say anytime you would like to share we would all love a story! Feeldoe More - was that your first toy choice? Or did you graduate to that?
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        Tue, July 31, 2012 - 9:58 AM
        Thanks for the welcome Ruby, me and the wife enjoy reading here and on your site/ blog as well. The Feeldoe more is our first strap on toy, we chose it so we both get stimulation. I have to admit my eyes might have been bigger than my rear :) With a good amount of preperation and a lot of lube it works great. We peg once or twice a month on average and it's something we both really enjoy. Thanks again for the welcome, glad to be here.
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          Tue, July 31, 2012 - 1:55 PM
          Wow - you did indeed choose a large toy for your first! Glad it worked out (or in - lol). Feel free to contribute your equipment selection story to the new Equipment thread I just created for the edification of the Newbies...!
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    Sun, August 12, 2012 - 7:37 PM
    Hello everyone, I'm June...
    I am a 30 year old woman who never had any type of sexual relationship before, but always have been obsessed with wanting to bend a man over for many years. I thought it was a weird thing to think about and have that in my head, I never even knew there was a word for it until today, "Pegging". I didn't know if straight men would actually go for that and so I have always hesitated to begin a relationship with a guy who wouldn't go for that (did I mention obsessed?). I seriously thought there was something wrong with me and didn't understand much about anything. Friends began to tell me I was probably a gay man stuck in a girl's body lol.
    Anyhow, my family have always known about this so it is no news to them. But last night, I got to speak with my sister, and she offered that maybe there were men who would be willing to bend over for a woman, and that perhaps if I did reseach on it, I would see I wasn't the freak I thought I was.
    Anyhow, I found this website, and have been reading off of it, and I am happy to see that although people might not talk about it, it's probably a normal thing. It eases my mind greatly to know that. I don't know if it's advisable to learn as much as I can about this topic BEFORE I'm even close to any action or not.
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      Sun, August 12, 2012 - 11:25 PM
      June - welcome! So glad you found us and that you are doing research about your obsession. Good move! I can relate to the thinking there was something wrong with you - me too. You're not a freak - you just get turned on by the thought of fucking men. I can relate to that, too.

      Your sister was entirely correct - there are many men who would love to bend over for a woman. More than you can imagine.

      I recommend learning as much as you can about pegging before you try it. Mostly because the role reversal can be a little tricky. Women were not born with cock, so we have to learn how to use them and it can take a while. Strength, endurance, grace and balance are all a part of fucking a guy. There's a lot to learn.

      There are sexually oriented dating sites where you can meet men who enjoy this. I was on (cost $) in my "coming out" stage. One of the questions was "describe your favorite sexual fantasy". I wrote up a pegging story and was rather besieged by men who wanted to be bent over! (free) is another place, but it also has a LOT of BDSM folks and not too many people who are into just pegging (without submission, feminization, bondage, humiliation and degradation). If you have any questions - ask away.

      (FYI - only about 36 - 38% of gay men even have anal sex - so put that misconception to bed. There is nothing gay about a woman pegging a man.)
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    Wed, August 15, 2012 - 10:08 PM
    Hi all,

    New to this, live in the uk, married for 24 years and 47. My wife and I have just started pegging...... we have in the past used butt plugs, and also use a prostrate massager, which is amazing. Pegging is a progression from that, we love anal both ways, me to her, her to me. Have to say it, pegging was my idea and she wasn't keen at first, but OMG, we both love it.
    Need some advice on the kit, we bought a vac u loc to start with, but it keep's slipping, the harness isn't very good.
    Love all positions probably my fave is laying on my front.
    Well thats all for now :)
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      Sat, September 1, 2012 - 10:39 PM
      jools! Sorry I missed your introduction. Glad to hear you and your wife found your way to pegging! So many couples who have been together for many years find pegging adds quite a bit of excitement to their sex life again! I don't have much experience with the vac-u-loc kit because I don't recommend it; too limiting for choices of toys, and too often not the best materials used for the dildos.

      My usual recommendations (if you have a bit of money to spend) are the Spare Parts Joque harness

      Aslan harnesses

      or one of the Vixen creation Dildos

      Try to stick with 100% silicone dildos - they can be sterilized, are not porous (will not hold bacteria) and are non-toxic (unlike jelly toys).
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Thu, August 30, 2012 - 4:03 PM
    My wife and I have known each other for 8 years and married for 4 (2nd marraiges for both) and in our mid 40s. We started strap-on pegging a bit more than a month ago--and wow--as you all know. I was lucky enough that she was the instigator. We've always had an adventurous sex life and shared fantasies we've never have before with others. It probably started because she likes to be anally stimulated, which I hadn't been with anyone before who asked for that. A few years ago she started playing with my ass when she was giving me a bj. I loved that. She then progressed to a but plug. That's when she told me that she would love to actually fuck me. I agreed and she ordered a strap on.

    Man, I had no idea it would change our sex life for the better (didn't think that was possible) and our relationship. We are loving it.
  • Introduction - total novice seeks advice

    Thu, September 13, 2012 - 2:54 PM
    Hi Ruby,

    I'm new to this, been thinking about pegging for a long time, have tentatively brought it up with partners but always met with suspicion. For most people this is totally off the map, I was wondering how you all found each other and where to look! I am a 29 yr old hetrosexual man who longs to interact with a woman in this way, however I simple don't know where I will find someone, as this is such a taboo, even though I live in London. Any advice greatly appreciated.

    • Re: Introduction - total novice seeks advice

      Thu, September 13, 2012 - 4:13 PM
      Welcome Will,
      Most people who engage in pegging do it within the confines of an established relationship where there is trust and intimacy; it's usually not a hook-up kind of activity. Having said that - I think it's best to just date women who you have the sense are sexually open-minded and then tell them about it. When to reveal is always the question. Here is some additional information:

      Good luck to you!
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        Sat, September 15, 2012 - 9:59 AM
        It is not really as taboo as you think. I have found that with my own confidence in myself and what I am about has come better understanding and partners who are much more eager to participate. Remember that it is a fun, intimate, passionate thing to do and not freaky, bad, or whatever.

        Hold your head high and see if she will have you bend down low!
        • Re: Introduction - total novice seeks advice

          Sun, September 16, 2012 - 9:01 PM
          Confidence in yourself and your desires is very important - as a man you don't want to present it as you have Leukemia. You want to present it as if it's a bonus that comes with you.

          It is not bad, freaky. That's true. Having said that - there are very sex-negative places where taboo things are really taboo. In fact in some of those places you might have people who would even tell everyone they know that he is twisted and pervy and exactly why. So I advise caution.

          I have heard stories where things turned out anything less than okay.
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  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Thu, September 20, 2012 - 5:38 PM
    Hello everyone,

    I am a 45 year old male, although I look younger for my age because I keep active. My wife is the same, except female.

    I love her very much. Although we have had rocky times a few years back, we both are sure we will spend the rest of our lives together.

    Her parents are religious and her mother taught her that sex was bad. Strangely not in so many words, but that's the message she got. Mine did too, but I didn't listen! After a while, and even before me, she started getting into sex. It's taken many years, but she's doing well with accepting her sexuality. She only started using a vibrator at 42, after years of protesting that it would not be any good at all and refusing to use any I got her. She likes porn, but she likes her fantasies plain vanilla.

    I am definitely bi-curious. My best friends for almost all my life have been gay, have turned out to be gay later in life, have dated transvestites, and on and on. I am more comfortable in their company than in in front of a TV watching football with the guys, that's for sure.

    But I love women, and particularly my wife. I can't imagine actually having sex with a guy, unless it would be with her present and enjoying it and I doubt that would happen. I like some gay porn, I like some bi porn, but it's nothing like straight porn or even lesbian porn for me.

    So I have some interesting feelings about myself and these aren't entirely in line with what my wife wants. I would love her to pretend to be a guy for a night, but nothing doing even though she knows very well that I was attracted to her when we first met because she looked like a boy (she is flat chested … and I love that!). Perhaps she has some anxieties about that too and her femininity. I certainly don't want to give her any anxieties about that.

    To top it off, I love the feeling off something big in my ass. She has pegged me 4 times and it has been tremendous each time. I love the feeling of being so full and the sensations. I love her on top and in control, although I don't have any interest in domsub at all.

    So I find pegging erotic and I want to find ways to get her to enjoy giving it to me. That's why I've joined.

    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Fri, September 21, 2012 - 2:17 AM
      Welcome Todd,
      Glad you found us. Sexuality is a complicated thing. There are so many stereotypes that are so powerful, as are the messages we were all given about sexuality growing up.

      How great that you have both found your way to pegging despite the slow start your wife has experienced in her sexuality! Because I have always said that pegging is varsity sex - not only because of the equipment and techniques but the role reversal and emotions that can come with it, too. Getting past those misconceptions is usually difficult for people who are more sexually conservative - so kudos to you two.

      There are a fair amount of bi-curious men who enjoy pegging. We spend so much time reassuring the newbies that - no, it doesn't mean he's gay, that the bi guys get short shrift. I've been talking about it a bit on my podcasts and will continue to do so. Sexuality is far more fluid that any of us realize and we would do well to leave the labels behind someday.

  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, September 21, 2012 - 10:15 AM
    Hi Everyone.
    Glad to find this community, lively, adult, mature disscussions on pegging are great.
    I am an "groan" older guy, still young at heart and mind even if the body doesn't always agree. I was married, now divorced, with two adult kids. I am in a LDR which is both frustrating, but, fantastic when she is here!
    I love all sorts of anal play, was introduced to it at a very early age by the nieghbor girl...thank you patti.
    It was so rarely discussed way back when, the pleasurable possibilities were perhasps only seen in the most edgy porn.
    I got older, wiser, more curious, and now find it hard to go without some kind of anal play in my physical relationship.
    Sharing this with a women, letting her "take me" has been one of the hottest things I have eve done!
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      Fri, September 21, 2012 - 2:06 PM
      Welcome Scott,
      Happy you decided to join us. I'm the same as you; anal play is a prerequisite in my relationships. Make it kind of tough to know when to divulge after meeting someone!
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        Fri, September 21, 2012 - 2:30 PM
        I think that is absolutely one of the toughest things to do! Though, personally, I feel as though it is still easier for women then men. It's a crash and burn thing, fear of regection and all. It became easier when I got older. You get to a point where you don't give a damn what others think. It becomes more of a "hey this is who I am, this is what I want/like, if you don't, well, nice to know bye!
        I think it does need to come out before one gets too attached though.
        I would ask you when you would want to know, but you are more empowered and sex positive then the average women, so you skew the curve as it were!
        I think, for me, I would want to know after the first or second intimate encounter.
        I have never been involved in casual pegging so I don't have a good feel for how to approach that seen.
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, September 21, 2012 - 11:26 AM
    Hello :) I'm a 48 y/o husband of 24 yrs and want to try this. I have seen pics of BBW doing it and that was extremely exciting to watch. I would like to talk to a BBW that does this. I have have only been lucky enough so for to experience finger and small vib play but want "MORE" to say :)
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    Why I'm here...Anal Fixation?

    Fri, September 21, 2012 - 2:53 PM
    Hey Ruby...42 year old male here, married for 17 years to a wonderful woman who I love very much.

    She's experienced major health trauma over the years (4 back surgeries, none of which was ultimately successful) and lives in constant pain and debilitation, and/or is under the influence of strong pain medication and sleeping or resting much of the time.

    So as you might expect, our sex life, which was once vibrant, intense, frequent and exciting, has become much less so over the years. We now go as much as 7-8 weeks between lovemaking, and when we do, though it's always satisfying and appreciated, owing to her health, it's often short, gentle and fairly "vanilla".

    I'm actually a competitive/elite athlete (distance runner), training about 2hrs a day, so I have the body of a very fit 20 year old (and the mind of a very childish 10 year old, according to my wife!), and the sex drive to boot.

    Over the years, I've been forced to get creative with my masturbation, as I'm left to my own devices for many weeks at a time, and long ago, developed a fascination bordering on obsession with anal sex. So naturally, the last few years I've become a bit of an expert in the practice (solo), and enjoy it immensely. However, I long to experience anal sex WITH a woman (my wife, ideally, but she's never relaxed enough to enjoy it, and has even said that she's not comfortable receiving or giving it, so it's not on the table at home).

    As such, other than watching anal porn (which I do 2-3 times a day sometimes!), I've found myself here, looking to explore the idea of giving and receiving anal pleasure with women "virtually"...not nearly as good as the real thing, but when you're as hopelessly addicted as I am, what is one to do, right? Who knows, maybe I'll find a way to "reopen the backdoor" with my wife through further enlightenment through discussion here with other likeminded individuals, hmmm?

    Anyway, that's my story...thanks for the introduction!

    Revol Lana (aka Kev)
    • Re: Why I'm here...Anal Fixation?

      Fri, September 28, 2012 - 12:48 PM
      Hi Kev - Welcome to Pegging 101. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Sounds a bit sad and indeed frustrating, :-(
      You might find virtual people to "play" with on There are so many groups there and people into just about anything. I would think it might be within a virtual domination scenario, though, as women who enjoy pegging really don't have to do virtual. There are women who enjoy virtual domination, though, which could include ordering you to do self-play. I wish you the best with your search.
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        Fri, September 28, 2012 - 1:03 PM
        awww...thanks much Ruby...I can tell you're an extremely sensitive person, so giving and in tune with others emotions!

        Thanks for the tip on virtual domination...I'll delve into it. I'm not in a huge rush I said, I'm in a happy relationship, with "OK" vanilla sex, but with a currently unsatisfying dimension to it (lack of mutual anal sex & anal play), that worries me longer term (ie. how I will scratch that itch as it continues to need more "vigorous"!) rather than day to day right now.

        I'll take my time, explore and consider...

        Thanks again for your help...I've read only a few of your posts and stories so far, but can tell you're an incredibly emotionally and sexually mature being...the world needs more like you, that's for sure!

  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, September 21, 2012 - 9:05 PM
    I'm just a normal guy. Ive been into anal since high school. Told my wife a few years ago I wanted her to fuck me with a strap on. Of course she thought it was weird but we tried it and she didn't like it. We've done it a few times and she still hates it. But I keep hoping some day she'll come around
    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Fri, September 28, 2012 - 12:52 PM
      Welcome, Mike. For guys in your situation I usually suggest this...

      Make sure you are being GGG:
      This stands for Good, Giving, and Game. More specifically: good in bed, giving equal time and equal pleasure, and game for anything—within reason. Make sure you are totally rocking her world sexually - she will be much more likely to want to return the favor.

      Know that there are some women out there, though, that will never learn to enjoy it. :-(
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, September 21, 2012 - 10:18 PM
    hello,, Miss.Ruby,, im Roger,,( inlove4pain ) i never had the experience yet,, but i like to,, i have a little proble,,, dont know on 1st time which way i would wont it,, i love it when a lady gets rough with me, so i wont it hard & rough,, ( extreme force play ) but at the same time i think ,,i dont know..
    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Fri, September 28, 2012 - 12:54 PM
      Welcome! Just so you know, this is not the forum for extreme force play, Roger. This is a NON-BDSM pegging group. You are of course welcome to be here, just know that the discussion won't include BDSM.
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, September 28, 2012 - 10:52 AM
    hi im meagan, just learned there was a term for anal play today! go me XD but anywho, im fairly new to pegging, met a guy who was into it, things didnt work out, and i have no intention of putting my toys away! But finding someone in my area thats interested is becoming frustrating. Also into guys who CD now. TN doesnt seem to be the best place for guys to advertise :( Anyone have any tips on how to approch the subject, or decent sites to look for? So lost here.
    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Fri, September 28, 2012 - 12:58 PM
      Welcome, Meagan! You are a rarity - a woman looking for a pegging partner. We don't cover a lot of the CD aspect in this group because it's a Vanilla group. But you might want to try - where you will be besieged by willing participants, including CDs. I'm so glad you have no intention of putting your toys away!
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Tue, October 2, 2012 - 4:05 AM
    Hello everyone,
    Where to start, well I am 43 and have been experimenting with anal play since I was a teenager. It wasn't until recently that I was able to get pegged. I have only been able to have 2 pegging experiences and 1 was great and the other not so much.
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Thu, October 11, 2012 - 6:43 PM
    My Name is J.R., I got here from Ruby's our gracious moderators Pegging Paradise. I am no where in my pegging experience, i just like the female aspect of it... I love women who just truly enjoy it and not for the power play aspect as much... I would love to meet a woman of almost any age (Im 23)... Its hard to do and an ethnic woman would be an added bonus i guess... Would love to meet Ruby but dreams dont always come true ;)
    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Fri, October 12, 2012 - 12:47 AM
      Welcome J.R. - nice to have you here. Younger women who are into pegging are a bit rare but not unheard of - and women your age are in general more open-minded about sex. Best of luck in your search and thanks for your sweet words!
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Sat, October 13, 2012 - 6:56 AM
    Good Morning,
    First of all I would like to introduce myself. My name is Robert and I live down here in sunny South Florida. Pegging has been something that I have flirted with for the last 10 years or so. It has never been anything serious, more like an extra spice. My experience has so far just been with toys of various sizes. I have had a couple of relationships in the past where this has been brought into the bedroom and it was a pleasurable experience for every one. I look forward to hearing from other members and reading the various posts on here.
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    Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Sat, October 20, 2012 - 3:55 PM
    Hi. Thanks for including me. It is something I have experimented with and enjoyed for the pleasure it gives me and my partner. I want to explore it further and this seemed like an interesting step in that direction. I like the positive energy. Thanks.
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  • Dei
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    Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Sat, October 27, 2012 - 1:51 PM
    Hi there Ruby and all avid readers,

    I wanted to write and tell you a bit about myself, my wife and our pegging adventures as you have played a bigger role than you can know in our explorations.

    Fair warning, I am going to ramble a bit (as I tend to when I get excited about something ;) )

    First, a little bit about us. We're in our young 30s, married for 3 years, together for 5. Our sexual relationships before being together were relatively typical/vanilla. Before we started dating, I had been playing with my buttonhole for a while (years) with fingers, probes, plugs and dildos without having brought it into the bedroom with previous lovers.

    About a month into dating my now wife, when we first started having sex, she somewhat bashfully took out her (impressive) collection of sex toys. I love the vulnerability a person has to face when introducing the most intimate parts of their life to a gf/bf. Shortly after that revelation we were at my apartment and, knowing I wanted to be fully open about my desires in our relationship, I built up the courage to make a revelation of my own. I brought down my box of toys, slightly timidly told that I enjoyed, no, really LOVED being on the receiving end of anal play. She blanched, only slightly, at the biggest of my toys... a realistic 10 inch dong 6 inches around (you might say one of those impulse buys where my eyes were bigger than my ass ;) though I've worked my way up to REALLY enjoying it!)
    So this brings me to my first suggestion for those hoping to find a partner open to pegging... if you enjoy having your ass played with, you've gotta be honest and let your partner know (the earlier in the sexual relationship, the better)! If you're worried they'll react with disgust or anger, I'm afraid to tell you, you're probably already on the wrong path. Now, for honesty's sake, she had plenty of questions/concerns. Especially the all-to-common "you're not gay, are you?" questions. After assuaging her concerns, our relationship continued on it's merry, sexual escapade-y way, leaving my toys in the box for the most part. As our relationship continued for a year or more we started incorporating fingers, wands, probes and the like into our bedroom play.

    This brings me to my second suggestion for finding your true love and partner in pegging adventures. I have had previous girlfriends and with my wife (girlfriend at the time) in particular that have had a very cute habit, when finding me at the counter in the kitchen, picking something up or some other "compromising position", of grabbing my hips and thrusting against my ass from behind (maybe an unconcious fantasy of role-reversal?) I only mention this as a suggestion to keep an eye open for as I've had multiple partners that would do this and it is HOT in and of itself!

    So, after having dated for a couple of years, I reached a point where I felt secure enough in our relationship to make myself very vulnerable again and tell her that what I really fantasized about was her strapping on a dildo and entering me and fucking my ass SOOOO tenderly!

    Let's just say it didn't go over great the first time talking about it... :P She had concerns about, not whether I was gay, but about having a tool/image between her legs that didn't coincide with her view of herself and also the misnconception that my interest in strapon play involved BDSM, dominatrix, gaping assholes and forced feminization (all things that people stereotype with strapon play from porn they've seen). After some hurt feelings on my part and looking around on the internet for a source about pegging with more eloquence than I can express myself, I found ***drumroll please*** this Tribe and your other site, Pegging Paradise!!!!! So, my wife hadn't discounted the possibility of ever pegging (certainly not sold on the idea at that point though) and I asked her to just browse your sites.

    Ruby... THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!! After she saw your sites (and the fact that you have managed to address any of her concerns in an intelligent and thoughtful way) she couldn't have been any MORE eager to please and peg and take me wholly!!!!

    We bought an Outlaw Leather Annie O harness and Share dildo. We love the harness though we want to try a Nexus Sr. since the "bean" on the Share is too large to be comfortable for her but the other end makes us both squirt! That first unforgettable night, I helped her fit the harness with the dil in place and melted! I've got a picture of her I look at constantly, wearing just this with her perfect tits perky as ever, a sultry smile and a single finger wagging as if to say "if this ever gets onto the internet..." She teased my buttonhole with her fingers and then a probe slowly and then faster to the largest bulge. After a bit of this, she pushed me back onto the bed on my back, spread my legs and pressed the head of her dildo against my relaxed asshole. She heard my breath catch and I felt my eyes go doe-y (and I've got long lashed, dark brown eyes) as she looked down at my teased hole. She presses gently into me and we both gasped when she slid the head into my ass. My eyes lost focus and I pulled her down to and into me, moaning as she slid the dildo all the way in while I held her against me. I love that I've never felt closer to someone as I did then. She started sliding the dildo in and out while making me "see God". I had never moaned so much like women often will until that night! When she made me come, I had an orgasm like she had only been able to descibe before. Intense to the point of being hallucinatory and an electric current running the course of my whole body!

    Just last night, she bent me over and fucked my ass from behind (she has such a natural perfect rhythm of thrusting) which I think must be her new favorite position, but my favorite will always be looking into her eyes, me all doe-y eyed, my body nothing more than goo holding her body close to mine, me pulling her hips against me and her sliding her dildo in and out of me!

    Just as a body shaking orgasm made me squirt, the bean from her end made her cum and squirt on the harness where I felt it on my skin!

    Ruby, THANK YOU a thousand times over! Because of your eloquence and intelligence in addressing how "normal" couples are fulfilling fantasies of pegging, my wife and I have found pleasures we are SOOOOOO grateful to share! Now my wife instigates our strap play as often as I do and I get spoiled and thouroughly pleased once or twice a week! ;) I'm thinking round two tonight!

    Again, thank you SOOOOO MUCH Ruby!!!!!!!!!
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      Mon, October 29, 2012 - 5:44 AM
      Dei - Wow! What an absolute delight this was to read. For a lot of reasons. I really love to help people (couples) discover the joys of pegging and I am so glad your wife found what she needed in my writings. Also - your story was really hot to read, I gotta say. I think I need some time in my bunk after reading that. What was touching was the vulnerability that came through very clearly in your writing. I think pegging is best when done between an established couple with all that intimacy and love, which clearly you two have.

      Please tell your wife she is quite welcome to join us here on the forum - we'd love to have more female voices!

      Nice work (play), you two!

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      Thu, December 6, 2012 - 11:32 PM
      Wow, very sexy and inspiring. You've expressed exactly what I'm looking for, putting into words what I haven't been able to. I've been interested in pegging and anal play since my early 20s. I'm female, single, and will be 36 soon. Huge thanks to Ruby for creating a 'vanilla' forum and to everyone who is sharing. I just found this site today. I had no idea that men find it hard to meet women into pegging. I've always been worried that the masculine men I'm attracted to would be very put off by this. And, on the other hand, every time I thought of exploring and putting my interests out there, I was worried I wouldn't find a vanilla version based on intimacy and exploration versus exploitation and domination. I'm also not interested in random hookups or sex only relationships. I know that I'm attracted to the mutual trust and vulnerability, to exploring this within a relationship, and with a secure, masculine man (who is fit and has a nice ass ;) ). And, I want the chance to explore straight up vanilla sex with someone before jumping into pegging or any other more varsity level acts (yes, I'll look into Anyhow, I've already learned a huge amount (and have gotten pretty wet) in my short time in your site. Thank you!
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    Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, November 2, 2012 - 9:06 AM
    Wow, where do I start? Well first of all I am a man who is all about
    experimenting when it comes to sex! I feel like it's a never ending
    story! I found this site from listing to your podcasts and just love
    them! You really do a super job! Long story short, I have experimented
    with myself using some smaller butt plugs along with one being glass and
    even slipped a dildo in with a condom on it a few times!! I have to say,
    that an orgasm with a plug in takes it to a whole new level. Well I am
    finally to the point where I wanted to get pegged and my GF sounds
    interested. Now I know you have talked about some of the best products
    to you etc. but I could really use some links to the exact items. I am
    willing to spend the money, but I want to make sure that the dildo fits
    the harness. I know you talked about the vixskin and tantus 02 but
    there seems to be several different kinds. I was also interested in the
    Joque harness. Anyways, if you could hook me up with some links to the
    Joque harness and some great dildo's that will fit it, I would really
    appreciate it. Don't get me wrong, the internet is full of info. But
    sometimes too much!! Well again, great site and you rock!!
    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Fri, November 2, 2012 - 10:54 PM
      Welcome to Pegging 101, Zentaiguy35. You are certainly at an exciting crossroads - ready to get pegged and you have a woman who's ready to peg you! Nice. I'm going to make a separate post with the links you requested from products I can recommend personally, including the Joque.

      So glad to hear you are enjoying the podcasts!
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    Fri, January 4, 2013 - 3:50 PM
    Hi All

    So my name is Scott and I'm a Scotsman living in England. I'm 36 and happily married to a Big Beautiful Woman. Our sex life has always been very vanilla - we have however used sex toys and the odd pair of handcuffs and/or blindfold on occasion. My initial interest in pegging began when I was looking online for a porno movie for us to enjoy together. I noticed a subheading including some films called Strap Attack. I investigated and thought it looked like something i wanted to try. I had limited anal experience but at the time was using an Aneros device in an effort to realise a different form of sexual fulfilment. The only thing that bothered me was that my Aneros was almost exclusively a solo toy, so I wanted to find something that would include my wife.

    A few months later, I remember It was just before New Year's Eve as we both had a reasonable amount of time off work, I ordered a Tantus silk medium dildo and a harness online - i should have realised that I should have looked for a plus-size harness though but I was overly excited and was trying to beat the order deadline in order to receive it next day.

    So the next night my wife and I had an evening in bed and after she was satisfied she asked me how I'd like to come, obviously meaning through intercourse, oral or hand-job. I handed her a bag containing the harness, dildo and lube and asked if we could try it.
    T was initially tentative and extremely nervous about hurting me. We tried doggy style but found the Tantus silk medium to be too flexible (not to mention slippery - we were very generous with the lube). I even remember having to pause to let us both laugh off the initial awkwardness. Even after successful penetration my wife was still wary of thrusting with too much gusto. I think her BBW proportions led her to err on the side of caution as she is used to being a bit heavy handed at times. After trying a few more positions we found that her laying flat on her back allowed me to ride on top controlling pace and depth. Once we got the hang of this she sat upright with me still riding her and stroked my cock. The resulting orgasm, with our faces close enough she could feel my breath on her face and neck and and see my eyes roll back at the fast approaching orgasm, remains one of the most memorable and certainly one of the most powerful of my life.
    I subsequently ordered the tantus silk large and the Tantus buzz. Sadly these have had limited use. Please note that this is due to a decline in our sex life in general, nothing pegging specific.

    I have not been particularly interested in the submissive side of pegging, more in sharing a new form of intimacy. Well that and the mind blowing orgasms ;).

    Actually just as a final thought - the most surprising thing was how accepting my wife was of the whole idea. We hadn't even tried digital prostate massage before I revealed my new toy and harness and she was actually quite keen to try it out. Amazing how you can think you know someone so well yet they can still surprise you...
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      Sat, January 5, 2013 - 12:04 AM
      Thanks for sharing your story with us. Some men do find that when they finally ask their women it's not a big deal and they are happy to peg them. Others have a heck of a time so I do advise caution. So happy it worked for you, and I hope you 2 find your groove again so those new toys get some use!
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        Sat, January 5, 2013 - 10:15 AM
        Been lurking on this site for quite some time. Finally joined. I got interested in pegging via my Aneros prostate massager journey. Met Ruby there at the forums and on Fetlife. What a great woman, advocate, and educator for pegging she is. I'm glad she took over this Tribe and cleaned it up. (Thanks Ruby!)

        Lately I've become much more interested in pegging than I ever have been, and trying to be more open and ok about it and my desires for it. A lot of negative cultural training for me to overcome as a straight male. But I'm working on it. I've only been pegged once by an ex, and it was terrible. She didn't enjoy it at all, which took the fun and pleasure right out of it for me. Need to have a partner that is both interested and aroused by the idea of pegging me. Someday...
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        Wed, January 9, 2013 - 4:18 PM
        I think you're a shining light for the future. I think all us men admire your honesty massively.
        I would like to ask your opinion as well please?
        I've always been honest with my recent partner of 2 years that I've explored and enjoyed prostate toys and stimulation. As nice as it is to do this to myself I crave for her to strap on or use my fat boy aneros so she is in control. But she still feels timid and nervous. Do you have a tip for me that might help me make her relax?
        She has also hinted that she would prefer to see another lady do this to me while she watched. Then receive attention herself.
        We both live in west London and would love to meet other like minded couples/singles that are interested in this area.
  • What was wrong at 1st became enjoyment

    Sat, January 5, 2013 - 11:07 AM
    Hello Ruby & Guest,
    I've never thought of myself as someone that would enjoy receiving as much as I do, You might say my sisters had there way with me , along with my 1st GF. They were completely amazed how I responded . Being bound an gagged was my 1st experience I was a virgin then after a spanking for being caught masturbating. Even though it hurt I was so close to an orgasm I didn't wont it to stop.
    My 1st Gf new my sisters an also amused herself as we had sex she would us her vibrator to bring me to orgasm after I served her orally for hours .
    It wasn't until my travels through out the world that I met a Korean Mistress that open my eye's an pleasure of being taken "sensually" her way of fulfillment was to change my mind into desiring to be taken. She trained me to clear my mind an enjoy it pulling my nipples only made my breathing more rapid as I would beg her to take me. Slowly she would an not just once, she would change her strap-on as time went by using the small one 1st an going longer an bigger.
    I'm sorry to say I cant take over 10" yet as she would at times place her strap-on on a wall "suction" or on a mirror on the floor she would have me watch myself as I would use it. My whole body would shake an my breath, an moans would give way to a total body orgasm even though I wouldn't have a orgasm, erect that is my ejaculate would pour out of me.
    I was a pretty stuck up man/boy and never realized when taking a woman would it be pleasurable for her as well, She would finally take me father as the last year we were together she would fist me, I was scared yet desired it an that's why I'm here to relive it an enjoy that part even though her lover used me as well breaking out of my "BI" zone was erotic when I as with a lady that liked it I felt free


    San Juan Capistrano, Ca
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    Wed, January 9, 2013 - 1:37 PM
    I'm Dave from Broken Hill. I have been into anal play for as long as I can remember. Fortunately my wife is very open to it as well. In fact she loves giving my prostrate a working over because my orgasms make me lose control - she loves watching my face as I go through pleasure that borders on pain.

    We also use a strapon but not as much as I would like. It is cumbersome to put on and can be uncomfortable for her with the straps. But I love when she takes control. Whether it be cowboy, doggy, missionary or whatever. I love it.
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      Mon, February 18, 2013 - 4:06 PM
      David - sorry to be so tardy with my welcome! Glad you decided to join us here...

      Great to hear your wife is open to anal play with you. You might want to try a Spare Parts Joque harness - they are ultimately comfortable - none better.

      I like to watch a man lose control, too - hot!
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    Thu, February 14, 2013 - 3:00 PM

    I'm a thirtysomething Irish guy. Nearly all my sexual fantasies these days involve pegging, but fantasy hasn't become reality yet. Good to see that there are so many like-minded individuals out there.
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    Wed, March 27, 2013 - 7:26 AM
    Hi Everyone,
    Your posts and Ruby's advice have really helped me and my wife decide to try pegging. I am so excited to be receiving our gear today in the mail. I have always enjoyed anal play (my wife and I include it every time we masturbate together) but in my mind this is the step I always wanted to take. It took me years of open communication for her to agree to try it and now we are ready. She is not kinky, like really at all, although she is coming around. She is amazing, I just hope all goes well with this step. Regular intercourse has kind of dulled for us after having two kids and being married for 10 years so I am hoping this puts a huge spark back in our bedroom play. Typically, we just masturbate together and help each other a couple times a week. Still hot, but I want us to do more!

    Based on a lot of reading I know how to prepare and how to try it our first time, and since I am not a beginner when it comes to plugs Im not nervous. Im probably going to get her to use our purchase on me first just using her hand and then I'm going for me on top first to get started and then once im relaxed she can take over.

    Anyways, I'll relate our experience.
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  • Hi

    Sat, March 30, 2013 - 1:09 PM
    Hi Ruby and all,

    Your site is simply wonderful, and was the key inspiration that opened the doors to the pegging world for my wife and I. We have been happily married for over ten years and its only getting better as we go on. It took a while to get comfortable pegging but now we are getting pretty good at it, to the point we have made 3 videos so far, with a crappy camera, still working on the right lighting (gloom couple style but with brighter red lighting) we are very near making a good, loving and sensual video. I have no idea or experience with editing, and posting to your site, if you have any tips on how to do it i would appreciate the help.

    Thank you,

    • Re: Hi

      Mon, April 1, 2013 - 9:13 PM
      Thanks for your kind words! I appreciate you taking the time to tell me. I'm happy for you both!

      If you host the video somewhere else like I can link to it. For my website the maximum file upload size is 64 MB (Wordpress limitations).

      You might want to check out - in fact everyone might want to check it out. It's a porn sharing website (Porn that you make of yourselves) that is all amateur. It's an excellent business model and eliminates all the really awful pro porn. And you don't have to share - you can just be a watcher...
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  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Fri, May 31, 2013 - 1:46 PM
    Hi everyone.....My name is Eric and Interested in pegging.Have not done it with a partner but have done it solo many times and enjoy it.I stumbled on your site and think it is amazing.I like all the dialog and interesting posts.Maybe one of these days I will find someone to enjoy this with.Happy pegging to all.
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    Sat, June 1, 2013 - 9:48 AM
    Hey ruby,

    I'm in my 20's and have been married for 3 years. I just opened up to my wife about the desires I have, in which pegging is the most desirable of my wants. I'm looking for a place for community to a degree just because its not openly talked about in my state in the US. Or anywhere really. I'm hoping to find tips advice, education, etc. I used to be interested in transsexual or homosexual porn for the intrigue of being penetrated, and came across pegging not too long ago and it just struck me as the most incredible option to be with my wife and see what it's like on other side of the coin, so to speak.

    She is pretty nervous about it but said she will do it and has already come to understand my desire for the sensuality of reversing the traditional role (I prefer wearing men's thongs or g-strings because they feel better and to be honest make me feel a little sexy) in our sex lives sometimes. But since neither of us has done it we are pretty timid to get the necessary learning done to move ahead. So as an initial question, do most women enjoy pegging their men even if they were scared of it at first? Anyone know?
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      Sun, June 2, 2013 - 2:01 AM
      Yes, you know I just posted an article about beginning anal play for couples intending to try pegging - because I advise going slow and enjoying every step along the way. not only because it's fun but because the learning curve is steep and it's better to take your time.

      There are definitely woman who weren't sure they would like it and now they LOVE it, yes. Good for you for opening up about this to your wife! that takes courage. The best solution to feeling nervous about something is to educate yourself. You will find a ton of information about pegging on my website:
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    Mon, June 3, 2013 - 10:32 AM
    Hi, I am a newby here, and also a ( soon not to be) Virgin Pegger! In my sixties, having had a pretty adventurous and fun sex life, things had slowed down considerably the last few years as I cared for a partner diagnosed with a deteriorating condition, I had almost resigned myself to the fact that I would spend the rest of my life without further intimacy or affection, when I met a man in a parallel situation, with whom we found much empathy, fun, consolation and chemistry. Considering age and the fact we had both spent the past few years celibate, we went into the affair with little expectation of fireworks, but to our great surprise we started a conflagration! We have been having a very happy relationship for the past 8 months, great communication, and my lover has proven yet the best, most skilled and best endowed I ever had. (being a scientist, he knows all the right buttons:) We are now to fuflill my fantasy of pegging him, it is also a first for him, but we have tried fingering, and I managed to give him a mind blowing orgasm.
    The Strap-on (We got a Tantus Beginner) has arrived, and in two days times is The Day.... we are both incredibly excited about it and I tried to read as much as possible -specially as a woman, as I worried about technique, but also how to be sure I reach and massage his prostate with the strap-on as I will have no sensation. With fingering, I managed easily to identify it, but sure with the strap on as i will be far removed in some way..
    Wish me luck, it very much feels like a wedding day, and already having done the role reversal in my head, I am already suffering from 'performance anxiety':)
    Any advice welcome, and thank you all for your postings, as this is one of the places in my research, where I came across most useful information.
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      Sun, June 9, 2013 - 5:09 PM
      Welcome to Pegging 101!
      Great to hear that you found fireworks with a partner! Joy can sometimes feel like it is in short supply in life so it's awesome to find a cache of it with someone. I did not get around to answering this until now so i am wondering how the first pegging experience went? Do give us an updat!
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    Sun, June 23, 2013 - 12:55 PM
    Hi, Ruby and All.

    I'm Dom from Toronto, and I've been fantasizing about pegging for a loooong time, since before the word was coined, since before Myra Breckinridge, since before I knew there was such a thing as a strap-on. As soon as I found out that I had a prostate and that it was erogenous, I immediately wanted to be on one end of a double dildo with a woman on the other. I'm guessing this goes back about 50 years, to age 14 or 15.

    Between then and now, I've been married to the same woman for 35 years. I'm mad about my wife, but as her views are conservative and as she quite 'germaphobic,' I have never invited her to join me on the edge. And, if we don't count 2 submissions to an overwhelming desire to be pegged, I have been a faithful spouse. Each 'lapse' was with a professional lady, and I mean mean 'Lady' in the best sense of the word. Considerate, affectionate, caring and skilled. Even so, neither session came close to meeting expectations, probably due to interference from my inhibitions. I'm physically uninhibited, apparently, but quite tight psychologically.

    I'm glad to be here and look forward to learning about your experiences, thoughts and feelings.

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      Tue, June 25, 2013 - 11:21 AM
      Welcome Dominic, nice to have you join us. Many men are in your position and I wish I had a magic wand for you all, so that your partners would explore pegging with you with an open mind. The social taboos and misconceptions, not to mention the germ thing,are all challenges to that goal, unfortunately.

      Most times intimacy is a necessary ingredient for the full enjoyment of pegging. Perhaps that is why your couple of forays were not as pleasurable as you anticipated. :-(
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Wed, June 26, 2013 - 3:37 PM
    Hey Ruby...

    I'm from Florida and 33 and I actually got into pegging last year and I was uneasy about it at first. In the beginning I was enthusiastic about it but over time my wife become a little more enthusiastic than me because I didn't think she liked it as much. I love it myself. Never have I had orgasms like that in my life. We've done it about 10-15 times and I wish I could find a way to get her to do it more but I won't press the issue. I've seen this site before and didn't think anyone would recently respond to this but I'm giving it a try anyway. Maybe I could find tips when it comes to size or anything to make the experience even more pleasurable. I just need to find something that would give my wife a more pleasurable experience so she would do it more. Just need a lil help.
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    Sat, July 6, 2013 - 12:44 PM
    Hello I'm an 18 year old woman and I have absolutely no pegging experience. I would like to learn more about it and maybe find a partner someday. How I got here is by a guy online asked me to peg them and I found your tribe when I Googled it. I would like to learn more from both men and women about pegging. That's really it. Thank you :)
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      Mon, September 23, 2013 - 12:11 AM
      Hey Charlotte - You can find a lot of information about pegging at or Since this is a non-BDSM group - I should tall you that 101 is also non-BDSM but Paradise not - nice to have you join us!
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    Wed, August 14, 2013 - 5:52 PM
    ok so the names mike from ga. im married 30~ish and have just very recently started living out my looooong time fantasy of being pegged. my wife and I have been together for several years but I was not really sure how to tell her that I was interested in having her do me. not to mention how she might take it. well I finally said enough and told her I wanted her to put her finger in my ass one night. she acted like she was ok with it so that's exactly what we did. we did this a few times and I then told her I wanted to try something more. so we went to a local toy shop and bought a cheap harness and anal plug and gave it a go. well fast forward a few weeks we've since bought a double ended dildo (and have used it a few times) and a realistic vibrating dildo. well last night I was feeling very adventurous and told her I had been watching some videos...ruby great site btw, really gave me what I wanted to see w/o the femdon, slapping, humiliation and all the other crap that is so common with pegging. so we watched a few and told her I wanted her to do some of the things that I had shown her, and that I wanted to use the new one again. so after some good warm up and a few orgasms later she got the toys from their hiding spot and started to play with me. after a short time she strapped up, lubed up and got me worked up. the dildo is a little on the big side and I will say that it is a tiny bit uncomfortable at fist, but once im able to relax it feels amazing. of course we started out slow but the slow didn't last long and before I knew it she was pounding me...hard. were both pretty vocal in the bed room but I actually had to bury MY face in my pillow. I had to make her stop for a moment so I could turn on the cam on my pc...watching her thrust her hips and slamming that dildo in and out of my ass was w/o a doubt the hottest thing I have ever seen/done. sadly im at work right now and will be until the morning cause I desperately want her to really gimme the business again. anyway thanks for the wonderful site keep up the great work. if your ever in the atl area doing a class id love to attend.

    p.s maybe I can convince her to making a video to post for everyone
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      Mon, August 26, 2013 - 1:55 AM
      Hello Everyone,
      My name is Will, I'm 24, and i've been interested in exploring pegging for some time. I have limited experience but am always willing to learn. I have played with my ex's dildo before and recently purchased one for private fun. I'm open to invitations if one is interested lol. I look forward to knowing all of you.
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      Fri, October 4, 2013 - 10:16 PM
      michael - welcome! Please excuse the time it took for me to respond to your (really hot) introductory post. Glad to hear you and your wife and having fun. I think the best part of your post was when you talked about wanting your wife to give you the "business" again! I love that. Glad to have you join us!
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    Sat, October 5, 2013 - 8:01 AM
    Hello All.. I'm kinda introvert. Scientist for over 30 years. Got into mind body spirit. Do and teach yoga. got into massage therapy
    (certified for a while). Retired still teach yoga. Read lots spirit stuff. Got into Abraham- Hicks live your desires, etc. So I enjoy
    getting the dildo ride. Wife used to do me, but won't any more. So I go solo a lot. But, to expand I must reach out.
    Hopefully, I'll get more and better ideas. I'd be interested in a loving trantric view. (not into BD or SM).
  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Sat, November 2, 2013 - 8:36 PM
    Hello Ruby,

    Great tribe site you have here. I got started with pegging some time ago my wife (girlfriend at the time) brought up the idea first. My first reaction was no way was i going to do that. After thinking about it for a few weeks i decided u know maybe this is something i could try. So I went out and bought a strap on myself I figured id surprise her. I still remember being so anxious in the sex store but i purchased it and headed home. The first time we tried pegging was a bit of a disaster i was so tight and neither of us had any idea what we were doing.

    Anyways after a few tries we got the hang of it!
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    Sat, December 14, 2013 - 4:33 PM
    Hello my name is Anthony and I've found myself gravitating more to the dominant/submissive lifestyle. I've found myself to be submissive and always been into pegging. I've never done it myself but I've always wanted too. I've been looking for people or places to talk about this lifestyle and then this tribe site came up and I browsed the tribes for subs and slaves for women and here I am. I'm 25, weigh 175 pounds and I'm 5'10. I'm from brea, ca so if anyone is close and would like to welcome me into this lifestyle then message me.
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  • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Tue, January 21, 2014 - 7:32 AM
    I am fairly new to the pegging scene. I have wanted to try it for maybe a year now, and yesterday I introduced the idea to my fiance.. She said no but its not an absolutly not. I introduced the idea to her because she openly jokes about doing it when she didn't know I wanted to try it myself.. so that made me think that she had to have thought about it before. I'll give it some more time before trying a different approach.

    I am glad i found a friendly community where i can go for answers
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    Sat, January 25, 2014 - 2:54 PM
    Nick here. Live in Charlotte. Not new to pegging but have not had a ton of experience. It is by far my biggest fetish and I crave it often. I find that fantasizing about pegging, pegging porn with masturbation is more pleasing than actually being pegged. I enjoy the domination more than the actual penetration. I have the red rider strapon and it has been pretty good so far. Probably is a little too girthy for me. Any suggestions ruby?

    I have also tried the mommy dom/baby boy fetish with strapon as well. It's very fun to enjoy a dom that is loving and caring rather than mean/forceful. I tend to prefer the BBW style women to peg me but am open to all women. I like the exposed feeling I get from pegging as well.

    I feel very privileged to even be writing something that ruby ryder will possibly read. Kind of a role model/innovator to me. How many men have you pegged? Just curious, you don't have to answer lol.

    Currently I am dating a great girl and we are starting to get kinkier. I haven't brought pegging up with her yet but I will when the time is right. I gave up porn for a while and it has greatly improved my sexual performance.

    I guess my favorite experience was my first time. Met a girl on fetlife and talked a few times. Finally it was time to play. I remember being so turned on that I was shaking. She was very loving and understanding. First I stripped for her, her rubbing my body, taking control of the situation. She instructed me to drop to my knees and put the strapon on her, which I loved. Then it was time to blow it. I didn't really enjoy that as much but it really turned her on. We then moved to the bed side where she sensually bent me over and started to lube me. Slipped it in slowly and just let it sit to relax my ass. Then she started thrusting, it felt pretty good. I definitely felt my prostate being stimulated and started to milk a little. Then we tried doggy which was a little better but being on my back was by far the best. It was her favorite too. I remember the image of her breasts hanging over me, my legs wrapped around her, thrusting into my ass and her having a firm grip on my cock. Pure ecstasy. I asked for permission to cum and once granted I exploded all over myself. It was amazing.

    To everyone that enjoys pegging, good luck in your fetish. Thanks for reading. Thanks for the inspiration Ruby!!
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    Mon, February 24, 2014 - 4:01 PM
    My wife and I have been pegging for years. We used mostly less expensive (Doc Johnson) stuff, and would go months between rides.

    Last year, we decided to push the envelope a little, invested in some really good equipment, and have been doing it more often ever since. We have three kids 11-17 and an old and creaky house, so we don't always get the chance to go crazy, but we're very active, and at least half the time she tops.

    She loves it, and since pegging orgasms don't kill me like regular ones, we usually go again vice versa, at the very least I please her.

    I have changed my diet in the new year to be more ready, more of the time, and we have started to have spontaneous pegging sessions.

    It has been a wonderful relationship builder for us, and we are never closer than when she tops me.

    She has a Sasha harness and a 2" x 8" tool. She has others (a share xl to use by hand when she gets tired) and will let me blow her for a long time now that we have that harness with a bullet in.

    My biggest goal is to get her to cum while topping me.
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      Tue, February 25, 2014 - 10:59 PM
      Welcome Terry! Nice to have an experienced peggee join the group. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Glad to hear that you invested in some good equipment - it can make such a big difference. Perhaps you can share what dietary changes you did to enable more spontaneous pegging? Inquiring minds would love to know...
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        Wed, February 26, 2014 - 4:00 PM
        Advanced Peggee

        I have to get my certificate framed. ;-)

        Diet is different for everyone, but I have stopped eating too much, which has made for better luck. Also, I avoid high fat, deep fried, or sugary foods.

        I try to stick to an equal ratio of protein, Veg and complex carbs (not sugars or a lot of white flour). Also avoid fake sugars. I tend to have unsweetened drinks and put in lemon or lime juice.

        I'm not depriving myself, just trying to keep clean and regular so we can be spontaneous.

        I'd be interested in any advanced pegging threads you might have had in the past.

        You DON'T need to do anything drastic, and you shouldn't make any sudden changes
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    Thu, February 27, 2014 - 8:22 PM
    OK, lets do this. I have fantasized about this for a while. My wife has even agreed to do this before but I have never bought the equipment before. Its due to arrive next week and I can't wait. Do I wait to submit or beg for it when it arrives? Open for suggestions, and willing to share my experience with you!

    I hope it won't hurt, although I have enjoyed digital stimulation when it occurs. This thing will be monstrous compared to a finger (1 - 1.5")!
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      Fri, February 28, 2014 - 7:10 PM
      Welcome, Darren! I took your intro and created a new post from it because I think many people could benefit from the information I wanted to share with you....

      What equipment did you get, btw?
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    Hello All,

    New to the topic of pegging. Got interested by reviewing/researching prostate massage topics since my gf has massaged my perineum over last month. She hinted at penetration, and it seemed little too much for me and I thought it maybe a little g*y. I know that is a common thought guys have; from my readings. After a couple more sessions of perineum massage and even a vibrator on that area once, I started to become interested/curious in feeling a penetration. I read many articles online of the pleasure; and came across pegging. Seemed like a fun turn-around to let a female take charge; and sounds exciting. I have hinted to my gf about penetration, and she said she was only kidding about penetration initially... I said it would be interesting to experience a small vibrator for internal prostate stimulation...

    So... not sure where we stand on the topic. Guess I am seeking ideas to get gf to take the next step perhaps.... but, do not want to risk relationship either. We have been together 2+ years and all is well. Just looking to expand my pleasure potential...

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    Mon, March 10, 2014 - 4:32 PM
    My name is John, and I am new to the pegging scene. I have not tried the actual pegging act, but my girlfriend and I are definitely going to attempt this. I am very excited about exploring and learning as much as I can about it. We have done some ass play and I really enjoy it. This is why I started doing some research and talking to my gf about getting into it. One of my main concerns is staying clean and learning how to get as clean as possible beforehand. I read about it in a post here and understand you should definitely do it but I guess the how is still a question I have. I get the part that you must use water and there are tools to do it but anal vs. colon is what's getting me, and how much/far do you use/go? I hope I am making sense about all this. Thanks in advance for any help. I want our experience to be as pleasurable as possible.
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      Tue, March 11, 2014 - 6:25 PM
      John, Invest in some good equipment. The BEST way to do so is to go into a woman owned sex positive shop. Unfortunately, you need to be near a city to have access to a good one.

      My local store is Sugar the Shop in Baltimore. It has all the equipment you need, and will give advice without judgement.

      If you go to their website, they link to other sex positive shops around the country.

      Check there.
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    Tue, May 6, 2014 - 2:55 PM
    Hello, I'm Robert and my wife has been pegging me for years. recently, we've gotten into large dildoes and fisting. She enjoys the activity and so do I. We been married for over 15 years and this has added another dimisnsion to our love life. She wants to go bigger but I'm not sure I can handle it. Anyhow, we were interested in any type of pegging parties? Does anyone know of any? Is there a group of peggers who get together to socialize?
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    Fri, May 23, 2014 - 1:32 PM
    My wife and I have been discussing pegging for about two weeks. I have been somewhat apprehensive, however this site has put my fears to rest. Thank you for having a forum where others share their experiences. I am really looking forward to sharing this new way to play with my beautiful wife. We have been together 10 years and this has really got my interest peaked. Thanks again for the open mindedness and even more open sharing.
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    Sun, June 8, 2014 - 10:37 PM
    I'm Mars. I married my high school sweet heart in December. We'd been sexually active with each other before that. I'd been scared of sex after a previous experience. I finally opened up to my then fiancé and he said we didn't have to do anything. After a few times of "regular sex" I was still uncomfortable so he suggested me being completely in charge of the situation (he was careful to explain that he didn't mean in a dominating, abusive, painful manner). He said maybe with strap on to use on him I'd be less scared of regular sex too because if I could do that with him without hurting him then surely other activities were also safe. He was a virgin prior to us so I was floored. We did try anal toys and eventually a strap on. Both activities did help. We are hoping for pointers and a good "community". We discovered he has a small anal opening not dangerously but enough so that the 1.5" width attachment we have is painful even with lube and lots of foreplay. We don't want to give up on this activity. The doctor who he discussed the small opening with even said anal play would be a good idea. This concept has helped me immensely with struggles and it's just fun too! It's awesome to see others who don't think that it magically makes a guy gay or has to include pain. This is awesome!
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      Sun, August 3, 2014 - 2:21 PM
      Mars - Your message slipped by me and I apologize for the delay in responding. What a wonderful story! There are toys out there smaller than the 1.5" diameter - that's actually an intermediate size. I recommend 1.25" to start. This one is excellent:
      And if you use coupon code "Ruby" you'll get 20% off.

      I agree - pegging is lots of fun! That pegging has helped you open up to regular sex is amazing. Usually it's the other way around.

      So happy that you have an open-minded doctor who said anal play would be a good idea, too. That's rare indeed.

      All the Best,
      • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

        Fri, September 5, 2014 - 3:40 PM
        Hey Ruby. Just wanted to say how brilliant I think it is that you started such a good discussion.
        I am 37 yr man from London who thoroughly enjoys everything to do with pegging. But unfortunately I've only met one lady so far who enjoys as well. I've suggested it before and most have found it taboo. But the experiences I've had when it's mutually enjoying have been the most intimate, honest and orgasmic of my life. Just would really like to find another open minded lady in London so we can both enjoy what can be an amazing, unique and deeply sensual experience.
        I wish more people like yourself would be so honest. Hoping to meet someone soon. X
        • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

          Fri, September 12, 2014 - 1:20 PM
          "But the experiences I've had when it's mutually enjoying have been the most intimate, honest and orgasmic of my life."

          I have heard variations of this so many times - Yes! Here's hoping you find a lady to peg you soon!

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    Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

    Sun, August 3, 2014 - 5:08 PM
    Hi Ruby and all,
    I've already posted a couple of questions, but I'd better introduce myself in this thread. I'm 32, female, from Switzerland. My husband and I are married for 7 years, together for 10 and recently we got interested in butt play for both of us. It was mainly his idea, but he wasn't too pushy or overly excited about it - just a thing we might try and like it or not like it, he said. So we had some rimming and finger play, for him more than 30 times (in a year time span) and about 5 for me (within 1 month). I wasn't into playing with his ass at first, mostly very concerned about hygene and hurting him in some way, but when I decided to put a condome on my finger and we got a good anal lybe I was finally able to relax, explore and love it. And then I heard Ruby on Sex nerd Sandra podcast and crawed for more information. So I'm listening to Pegging paradise podcast (started from begining, I'm on #36 now) and reading the blog, and both websites... And I got some great ideas for anal play and pegging introduction to our sex life, thank you! Going much slower now, penetration technic getting better, we are both working on communication while anal play, and I reassured my man that our secret is just ours and I show and say how I really enjoy what we are doing - all thanks to Ruby!!! Still tons of questions left and I hope to ask them in this group maybe?
    My husband doesn't have super excited reaction about prostate stimulation so far, he likes it, yes, but... I guess it's not going to be easy to do next steps to pegging. And I really, really want make some sweet pegging to him!
    • Re: The Peg Stand - Introduce Yourself

      Fri, September 12, 2014 - 1:24 PM
      Welcome LLL! It's possible that you have not yet found just the right technique to feel the best for your husband - I would suggest something that vibrates! That might wake up his prostate...and make him eager for sweet pegging from you!