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Penis Enlargement Basics: PART 1
So many men are interested in penis enlargement but have no idea where to start. I know when I first got into penis enlargement I was so confused with all the information I read. That was years ago and today penis enlargement is so much more complicated that many men just give up before they try because of the contradictions and such in penis enlargement.
I am sure you have heard that sometimes we need to put the blinders on and penis enlargement is such a strong example of this. A newbie needs to find the basics of penis enlargement and stick with it. If you are reading this penis enlargement BLOG then you are already on the right road.
First and foremost, prepare yourself for the penis enlargement education that every successful man learns very early in his efforts in penis enlargement. Learning what is real and what is not real in penis enlargement is something that is foremost if you want to enlarge your penis. Starting off with penis enlargement pills and other "quick fixes" will only leave you disappointed and a little bit poorer. Joining one of the penis enlargement sites in the top ten of your search engine will give you just the basics of penis enlargement with no original content. There are many pitfalls in penis enlargement and the best way to clarify the real from the fake is to find men, just like yourself, who have done penis enlargement and made "real gains". I am not talking about the billions of penis enlargement testimonial...I am talking about real people that you can have in depth conversations with. This seems difficult but really, it is the easiest part of penis enlargement (and the most important.)
Finding men who have done penis enlargement and made gains will allow you to hear their story and become inspired by their penis enlargement gains...actual growth! Unfortunately you can't go to the Yellow Pages and look up penis enlargement. That would be pretty cool but the world is far from accepting penis enlargement as a real possibility. The place to start is a penis enlargement forum. After I read my first few pages about penis enlargement I found a penis enlargement forum, joined, asked questions got feedback and began a "real" effort to get bigger. These men were talking about gaining inches! Real inches from real penis enlargement....and they were not shy to prove it!
Once finding people to relate to in penis enlargement the next step is to create a basic penis enlargement routine. Something simple and effective. A penis enlargement workout that is laid out with good comprehension without being too much. Many guys who start penis enlargement on my site are mostly concerned with time. "How long will it take to make my penis bigger?" "How much time do I need to spend on penis enlargement daily?' "How much time did it take others who used penis enlargement to get bigger?" The questions are endless.
Time is a necessity of penis enlargement. Time in the daily penis enlargement routine, patience in the time it takes to make penis enlargement gains and time to learn and master the basics of penis enlargement.
All of the questions are answered soon after every man starts a real penis enlargement program. Making the penis larger takes a daily effort, time can be as much as an hour or as little as 20 minutes but it does take time every day if you are going to be successful in penis enlargement. Every man gains at at different pace in penis enlargement. SOme are very quick gainers while others struggle to make the smallest penis enlargement gain. This is largely do to form and intensity. The men who have mastered a perfect form and the correct intensity are the ones who gain the fastest. Other men may never really learn how to properly do penis enlargement. This is the biggest reason I think every newbie should start with my penis enlargement program. The address is www.mattersofsize.com. You will learn, by video and information, by me, on the proper way to do penis enlargement.
Seeing proper penis enlargement on video gives you the best chance of having good penis enlargement form and intensity as you can see it. Studying my sites information will give you every bit of information you will need to have in penis enlargement.
Basic penis enlargement understanding is a huge topic and it will take several posts to explain it properly. In the mean time go to my site, join the free forum, join the member site and start to learn the basics.
So now that you understand the basics of getting involved with penis enlargement I think it's time to get into the actual exercises, routines, time daily, penis enlargement supplement, items you should have to start and other penis enlargement basics of exercise.
For me I found my first exercises on I excellent site called altpenis.com. This site not only gave some penis enlargement exercise basics but they also had hundreds of articles on penis enlargement and other male sexual health issues. Articles about premature ejaculation, prostate issues, Too Big, Too Small, Or Just Right? Measuring the penis, history penis enlargement and a huge archive of other articles. Today the site has too many articles to list, they are a huge sexual information site with penis enlargement being only a small part of their site.
This site inspired much of my own work on mattersofsize.com. I have strived to give as much information on penis enlargement over the past 7 years and I have built up my own collection of penis enlargement articles. Many of my articles are on penis enlargement exercise and in part two of this series on penis enlargement basics I will address this issue.
The jelq, the most basic of the penis enlargement exercises, is an exercise that began thousands of years ago. Many will tell you it began in Arabic countries while some give the credit to European origins. The fact is, the jelq is a penis enlargement exercise that has survived the test of time. This exercise along with basic stretching has been the staple of penis enlargement for 100's if not 1000's of years.
The jelq is a very simple exercise to learn and master. I think it is the perfect place for a new guy to start penis enlargement. If you join my site you will not be directed to do advanced exercise, your beginnings will start with this basic exercise. The exercise is described in a number of blogs here but I will describe it briefly here. Basically you get your penis semi-hard to hard and use a stroking motion. Starting at the extreme base of your penis you will trap the blood within your penis with a strong grip. You will then push the blood upward with the first hand and following with you next stroke with the other being sure to not lose any time or blood. The idea is to keep the blood in the penis and these intense strokes will expand the erectile tissue over time. This is a continuous exercise for at least 15 minutes daily. Using a lubrication like vaseline is essential in this process.
The next basic of penis enlargement is length work. Basic penis stretching is quite simple. Again, this is explored in depth throughout this blog but I will briefly describe this penis enlargement exercise. In a seated position prepare yourself for your stretching routine. With an ample supply of Baby powder on you hands (for good hold) grip your penis just below the head. Stretch the penis outward, with strong intensity, from your body and hold this position for 30 seconds. Go easy at first and find what is most comfortable for you, increase the stretching strength to over your first few sessions. There are many variations of the penis enlargement exercise but this is a great place to start.
There are some other basic exercises that can be added that I will explore in the third part of this series. Please keep checking back to get this penis enlargement along with many other penis enlargement tips.
Getting a grip on time
We explored the beginnings of penis enlargement, where to start, getting a good video site to see the penis enlargement exercises, finding men online who practice the same penis enlargement that you are doing, and many other parts of starting out penis enlargement. For many men finding the right time to do their penis enlargement can be a headache. Due to living situations, work hours, girlfriends or wives, privacy, ect. penis enlargement can be a real challenge. This is where you need to become creative with your penis enlargement routine. Breaking up the time you spend on penis enlargement is a good way to cut back on a single lengthly routine. Maybe training 3 times a day will be the perfect way for you to get your penis enlargement in. This will make for short sessions that will not pop up too many questions from the people around you. A single penis enlargement session including penis girth and penis length work can run up to an hour or more depending on how much you are including in your penis enlargement routine. This may be impossible for allot of men so I will give you a few scenarios on different penis enlargement sessions, time-wise.
Morning/Night Sessions. I like this routine best for many reasons. First, my penis enlargement routine is only 30 minutes twice a day. For me, getting up 30 minutes earlier (before anyone else in my house) allows me to train for a half hour with no fear of interruption or anyone knowing I am doing penis enlargement exercises. Then at night after everyone is asleep I do my second session of 30 minutes. This breaks my penis enlargement into two very manageable sessions. I like doing length exercise in the AM and girth exercise at night. I even worked my penis girth work in right before I planned on having sex (just took longer in the bathroom, she never knew it was penis enlargement, she thought I was just preparing myself for sex.) I liked this style of penis enlargement girth because I would be at my thickest right after girth work and that made her smile more.
Some men prefer to break their penis enlargement sessions into 5 parts. This style of penis enlargement has come to be known as piss-pulls. Basically, every bathroom break they take throughout the day they will perform a mini session of penis enlargement. I like this because it allows the user to keep his penis in penis enlargement mode throughout the day. I have always liked the idea of stretching the penis often throughout the day as it keeps it extended more often and I think this helps with flaccid penis enlargement gains.
Some may apt to do their penis enlargement exercises all at once and this is also OK. If you can afford the time to complete a solid penis enlargement session within one sitting then do it.
The point is, penis enlargement should fit into your schedule comfortably. The last thing you want to do is rush yourself or create a penis enlargement routine that is a pain in the ass. The best way to make consistent penis enlargement gains is with a routine that is effective and works into your schedule.
Another idea that may work for college kids that have a roommate is the under the covers method. Basic penis stretching is very easy to conceal under the covers. Simply get yourself into a stretch position, hold it for 30-60 seconds and switch to the next. During a movie you can get a very good penis enlargement session in. Be creative and find your penis enlargement groove.
Worries, Fears, Injuries and Remedies
When starting penis enlargement you may experience some minor injuries (if you can even call them that.) With penis enlargement you are dealing with a very thin skinned part of your body, the penis. Also, the head of the penis has no skin so it too is extremely sensitive to penis enlargement.
With penis enlargement girth many experience small red dots on their penis after a session. These marks are nothing to be concerned with as they fade within 24 hours or so. They are not something that will happen for ever in penis enlargement, they happen early on because your penis is not used to the exercises you are doing. They happen because of the influx of blood to the penis. Since penis enlargement girth work deals with so much pressure and the penis skin is so thin, you will see these marks. This would happen in bodybuilding but since the skin is so thick on other parts of the body that you rarely see these red marks.
Bruising is also something that is quite normal in penis enlargement. Bruises on the penis appear as they would anywhere on the body, the difference, again, is the thin skin on the penis. They may ache a bit but this, along with the bruising will fade soon after your penis enlargement session. Again, these things will not happen forever in penis enlargement, it is a temporary adjustment period.
Stretching the penis with penis enlargement can also give you some strange marks. They appear on the shaft of the penis and look like very small, white, stretch marks. This is normal in penis enlargement as you are stretching the penis. Like when a mans arm becomes bigger through doing curls he might get stretch marks due to the expansion of the skin and tissue.
Some experience soreness after a penis enlargement session. This soreness is due to a few factors. In penis enlargement stretching the penis is being stretched away from the pelvis bone via the penis ligaments. This will cause some aching, this is not pain but a simple feeling of aching. This is comparable to the muscles after a workout. In penis enlargement nothing should ever be pain. Sharp shooting pain, numbness and any other extreme ailment is NOT TYPICAL IN PENIS ENLARGEMENT! If you feel these things during a penis enlargement session STOP IMMEDIATELY. There is a definite difference between aching/soreness and PAIN. Pay close attention to your body when doing penis enlargement. Be aware of the feeling penis enlargement produces. There is no reason to rush your penis enlargement and risk hurting yourself. Penis enlargement is a progressive, learning experience. It takes time, patience and caution.
Some may experience water retention around the foreskin area. This appears as swelling. In penis enlargement some men are prone to this. It is rare but it does happen but it is nothing to fear. It will fade after a few hours. This happens to men who do penis enlargement pumping allot. In natural penis enlargement it is rare.
A good way to avoid much of these pitfalls in penis enlargement is to properly prepare yourself for your penis enlargement session and properly care for yourself after. Doing a penis enlargement warmup is something that is important. This is easy to do. Take a washcloth and warm it up under hot water. Wrap your penis in it for 5 minutes. Reheat the cloth as it cools...this will ensure a good penis enlargement with minimal chance for injury. The same should be done after a penis enlargement session as this will help with red spots and the like.
Now that we have covered the specifics of penis enlargement I think it is a good idea to review. First, penis enlargement is very real, it works if you work it. Have no doubts about natural penis enlargement because it has helped thousands of men increase the size of their penis. If you decide to start penis enlargement keep this at the forefront of your mind, penis enlargement is real.
Before you start a penis enlargement program take proper penis measurements. See part 4 for the specifics of measuring your penis. It is vital that these measurement are correct and documented. If you start penis enlargement with half-assed measurements you may never even realize your gains when they do happen. Measure length, soft and hard, girth soft and hard.
Next it is very important to keep a penis enlargement journal. We have not explored this yet but I will cover it completely in penis enlargement basics part 6. Keeping a detailed record of exercise, gains, etc. will make your penis enlargement journey so much better.
Picking a basic penis enlargement program that teaches you the specifics of each penis enlargement exercise (preferably with video...REMEMBER www.mattersofsize.com). Be patient with your self and take your time learning each penis enlargement exercise. Remember, there is no rush.
Prepare yourself for your penis enlargement routine by purchasing the proper things you will need to do the program properly. In penis enlargement, especially girth work a lubricant is necessary. I suggest VASELINE, but you can decide on what's best for you. Having baby powder is also important, especially for length. I also suggest a very good moisturizer and cleaning soap. Penis enlargement using a lubricant can lead to ingrown hairs and the like, keeping the penis clean after a penis enlargement workout is very important. Also, the moisturizer will keep your penis from dryness due to penis enlargement handling.
Once you begin your penis enlargement program be consistent. A break in penis enlargement can lead to a permanent vacation. Set up the times and days you plan on doing your penis enlargement and stick to it. Pick a relaxed time so as you can take your time in your penis enlargement routine. Rushing your penis enlargement routine can lead to injuries or a lack of gains.
Most importantly, keep motivated in your penis enlargement efforts. Keep a image of your goals and make that happen. I will cover Mental Penis ENlargement later in this series.
Motivation and Mental Penis Enlargement
Post 1, Part 6 (Motivation)
Motivation in penis enlargement is one of the most important mental aspects of making gains. It becomes very easy to become lazy with penis enlargement because of the speed of penis gains. For many men being patient with their penis enlargement program becomes difficult because they want what they want when they want it and that just is not how penis enlargement works. Penis enlargement takes time, dedication and patience but these qualities are directly effected by motivation. Unfortunately there are no motivational seminars on penis enlargement, at least not yet.
There are a few things that can help one stay very motivated to penis enlargement but these things need to be done on a daily basis. Motivation comes from consistency and consistency comes from discipline. With penis enlargement these qualities will be the determining factor in the gains you make. Here are 3 things you can use in penis enlargement to stay committed, motivated and constantly gaining.
1.) Create A Model Penis
This may sound funny but it is a true help and it will keep you motivated. Creating a penis enlargement model penis will also help you be realistic about your penis enlargement goals.
A paper towel roll is great for determining length. Many men come into penis enlargement with extremely unrealistic goals. They start penis enlargement with a 5 or 6 inch penis and make their goal 10, 11 or 12" Once they see what these measurements are, in real life, a model they can touch, see, compare they are quick to realize that the size they want is just ridiculous.
The best way to build your penis enlargement model is with no measurements. Grab an object that looks ideal to you for penis size and your final goal. Once you are sure that this is the size you want then go an measure it...I guaranty you that it is much smaller than you believed it to be. This in itself will keep you motivated in penis enlargement. If you realize that 8" is the perfect length and you are starting a 6, a two inch penis enlargement gain is much easier to get to than a 5" gain...5" has never happened in penis enlargement, or at least of my knowledge. The largest length gains I have heard about in penis enlargement were 4".
Your penis enlargement model should also have the girth value you want to make. Again this measurement will be more realistic than saying "I want 7" of girth" FIrst off, 7" of girth is extremely massive and is something that is usually only seen in penis enlargement pumping which is temporary and mostly water retention. Real girth at 7" is something I have only seen in one dude and that is the porno-actor Shane Diesel. It is massive and more than likely something most men would not want.
In penis enlargement it is good to remember that your penis is not a trophy, it is a part of your body. You should make it the way you really desire, not the way you believe others would want or think is big. The truth is most men and woman have no idea about penis size. penis enlargement helps you become aware of actual measurements. You will rarely hear someone, who is active in penis enlargement, say "John Holmes had a 14" penis" (something most ignorant people would think or believe.) Those who understand penis enlargement realize he was closer to 8.5" in length. This make you goal seem much easier, huh?
So creating a realistic model will help you make your gains and stay motivated.
2.) Print out a picture of a porn star that has the penis you want. This is in no way gay, it is simply a penis enlargement tool. Seeing the size you want on another person can cause just enough envy to keep you motivated in penis enlargement. CHances are, the person you choose in porn probably did penis enlargement to get their size. Remember, I am not only involved with penis enlargement but also with Bang Bros. (the largest porn site online) I have seen these actors and some have shared their secrets of penis enlargement. Seeing your favorite stars penis before a penis enlargement session can give you the kick in the ass that will keep you going.
Seeing the actors penis will also help you understand penis symmetry. A 12" penis on a 4 foot man is going to look strange. It is very sexy to woman when a man's penis is symmetrical with his body. Just like the rest of your body, healthiness and being in shape is attractive. A body builder who only trains his upper body and ignore his lower looks out of proportion...human beings crave symmetry and when things are out off proportion is sits strange with us. Penis enlargement will help you get your penis in proportion with the rest of your body.
3.) Mantras. A mantra is a a commonly repeated word or phrase to help one stay focused or/and motivated. In penis enlargement this is very useful. Again it may sound strange at first but a penis enlargement mantra will eventually become a part of your daily penis enlargement workouts. EVen during your penis enlargement routine you can use your mantra to help you stay focused. There are many phrases or words that can be used in penis enlargement. Write something that works for you, something that will keep you doing your penis enlargement and make the gains you desire.
Some examples of penis enlargement mantras are as follows.
1. My penis is growing every day, with each workout it is longer and thicker.
2. I have always been able to have a huge penis, penis enlargement will make this happen.
3. Long and Thick.
4. Penis enlargement is real and my penis grows bigger each day because of this.
5. I deserve a long and thick penis.
etc.
You will want to chant this to yourself over and over. FInding a quite place where you will not be bothered when you sit and meditate without interruption will help so much. It will keep you focused, relaxed and most of all motivated. A mantra will bring much credence to your penis enlargement efforts.
It is always vital to keep your mantras positive. Meaning with no negative connotations. An example of what I mean is: "My penis may be small but it is getting bigger with penis enlargement" or "If I stick with penis enlargement my penis might get larger" both of these statements are laced with doubt and self criticism. The word "if" or "might" sets one up for failure. While calling yourself "small" but "getting bigger" puts too much focus on negativity. With penis enlargement, it is important to always keep a positive and upbeat attitude.
I am sure you can think of other motivational tools and there are plenty others I could type, unfortunately this is all the time I have today. Tomorrow we will explore mental penis enlargement, one of the most important parts of physical penis enlargement.
Motivation and Mental Penis Enlargement
Post 2, Part 6 (Mental Penis Enlargement)
We went over motivation in penis enlargement on the 1st part of this 2 part thread. Understanding that penis enlargement takes a certain mental attitude is vital if you want to succeed in penis enlargement. During the very beginning of you penis enlargement venture you will need to practice a positive motivational mind state. It may feel fake or weird at first but soon it will become a habit. This habit will not only benefit you in penis enlargement but also every other facet of your life.
If you have read any of my earlier posts on mental penis enlargement you understand how important I believe this to be. When starting out in penis enlargement many men may have some very skewed beliefs about their penis. I know I did and still today I occasionally go through negative, self defeating thoughts. This is very common in men. These beliefs come from years of misunderstandings about penis size. From religious preaching to media driven sexuality we, as men, find that the penis is something to be ashamed of. No amount of penis enlargement will change this. If you start out with a six inch penis that you think is small, even if you gain 2-3" in penis enlargement you may find that you still believe you are small.
Why does this happen? Well in all my years in penis enlargement I have encountered every possible insecurity that men feel. Some of them are fully justified while others are imaginary. As I stated above there are many sources in our world that cause insecurities and even shame about the penis. I know that my being raised Catholic had many negative influences on my sexuality. In most religions, the penis and even male sexuality as a whole is looked upon as, in some way, evil or wrong. When men who have been raised this way get into penis enlargement they hope to change this by increasing the size of their penis. The sad thing is penis enlargement will only change the physical parts of our being, to change the mental takes a different kind of penis enlargement.
The media also has a dirty hand in making men insecure about their penis. So many men come into penis enlargement with some very fucked up beliefs about the penis. One of the most popular phases in advertisement is "SIZE MATTERS" ... Not to be confused with MATTERS OF SIZE :D Around every corner there is phallic shaped merchandise, woman degrading men with comments about size, and hundreds of other subliminal things. This is a big reason penis enlargement exists in the first place. Somehow, penis enlargement changes all this or so men believe.
Understand, penis enlargement is easy. You have always been able to make your penis larger. Through my brand of penis enlargement I have helped thousands of men get a longer, thicker penis. Just like the thousands of other penis enlargement sites online....penis enlargement is real and very easy. The big difference in www.mattersofsize.com penis enlargement is the mental portion of my program.
For every man that joins my site is instantly exposed to mental penis enlargement. My largest study on penis enlargement (Is Everything Really What it Seems), a previous post on this BLOG, I address the guts of these mental issues and show men what is real in society concerning sexuality and the penis. This, in itself, helps penis enlargement truly enlarge the penis. Restated, penis enlargement with mental penis enlargement will solve many of your penis/sex issues.
I will go through many ways to change these beliefs and how to begin a mental penis enlargement program in my next entry.
Motivation and Mental Penis Enlargement
Post 3, Part 8 (Mastering Mental Penis Enlargement)
It really does sound silly, mastering mental penis enlargement, but after you read this post I think your feeling will change and you will see just how important mental penis enlargement is.
On the last entry we covered many of the ways men become psychologically crippled by negative thoughts about their penis and general male sexuality. I would like to take a minute and review that.
Men have been obsessed with their penis for many years. I bet earlier forms of primates even tried penis enlargement in one way or the other. To a man the penis is completely independent to the rest of their body. It somehow has different physical rules and mental importance than that of our body as a whole. It is as if the penis has a brain of it's own. Starting penis enlargement may give a false hope to men, a hope that if the enlarge their penis these problems will fade and, as in the last post, we know they wont
Penis enlargement is incredible...it is something some men will pay thousands of dollars to accomplish. It is sad that many of these men will not find natural penis enlargement, something that is free. It is not only free, it gives men the ability to enlarge their penis way beyond any other method of penis enlargement. I, myself, have made incredible gains in penis length and girth which is something I still have problems believing. It is in the lack of belief when we make gains that many of the issues with mental penis degradation happen.
We can see a clear pattern of this self-degrading behavior and I will try to explain. Growing up, a man, (child) notices his penis for the first time sexually at the beginning of puberty. This is carried into the locker rooms where boys see each other naked. In allot of cases boys will see other boys as being bigger than them when it is not true. I am not talking about the larger penis he may encounter, I am talking about dystrophia with an imagined flaw. They see a boy with a 3" penis and even though they may be 3" (or more) themselves, they will still believe themselves to be smaller.
As they become older and start dating girls this dystrophia may creep up with even larger consequences. Avoiding sex for fear of inadequacy, thinking they know what she is thinking, hiding in the dark during sex, etc. The sad thing here is the woman notices this and they lose respect for the man as she believes he should be confident. Confidence to a woman is much more valuable than a big dick.
Some of these men may seek out penis enlargement, while others will quietly suffer never learning that penis enlargement is available. The next phase for men that make it to penis enlargement may be one that complicates their issues further. As I said earlier, their are more than 100,000 penis enlargement sites online and 90% of them are for penis enlargement pills, penis enlargement pumps, penis enlargement gadgets, penis enlargement creams, etc. Very few are teaching natural penis enlargement and 99.9% of the sites that are teaching penis enlargement are only teaching simply the exercises. Out of those penis enlargement sites that are teaching exercises most of them have the same 5 penis enlargement exercise. As I have already said earlier, my site, www.mattersofsize.com, has more than 200 exercises and I am creating new ones constantly.
The problem with the penis enlargement sites that teach natural penis enlargement is they never touch on mental issues men are experiencing. It is simply a place that men learn how to enlarge their cock. What happens when there is a lack of mental help is men become more obsessed with their penis and even though they may grow their minds stay the same.
Here is one of the many studies you will find on my site and this is one of the first things men see when they join. This will give you some definite tools to train for mental penis enlargement.
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My Conclusions and Therapy I hope this modified penis enlargement worksheet can help those who need it. It works but like anything else you need to be committed. Considering the feedback I have heard from penis enlargement members and my own problems with obsessing I decided to dig a bit deeper to make some comparisons to other o.c.d's. disorders and what many of us suffer with before penis enlargement and after. I found many similarities in disorders like anorexia but still the problem I faced with the way we obsess is that the compulsion actually works. This is unique from most O.C.D. behaviors because usually when a person has one of these disorders the compulsion usually does not have any beneficial value. So one very important thing we need to be honest with our selves about is when are we crossing that line of beneficial penis enlargement into useless overkill compulsion? I decided to give this disorder it’s own name as I see it being very specific to us as men (involved with penis enlargement). I thought about allot of different things to call it and settled on this: PDD (Penile Dimorphic Disorder) I truly see this penis enlargement problem as an O.C.D. behavior so I wanted to keep it in the spectrum of O.C.D. classifications. There really is no help for many of us as to the extreme personal nature of this disorder. With this PDD our anxiety comes in response to an unwanted thought or question. (ie. my penis is small) The rituals that follow involves pushing away the thought, avoiding the recurrence of the thought, or attempting to solve the question. These steps are considered the rumination or compulsion. (ie. measuring in penis enlargement) Living with PDD means living with uncertainty and risk taking. PDD is perpetuated by a man's intolerance of having bizarre and noxious thoughts. The efforts a man makes to avoid or escape these thoughts reinforces their recurrence. Meaning, every-time we have a obsessive thought and we react to it by compulsing we in fact are establishing the importance of this fear. So, the removal of the compulsion is key, especially in penis enlargement! I have to say say that with all of the below therapies I have found that as I get better the frequency of my obsessions increases. I am resistant to change and my mind will throw tantrums as I attempt to make space for what has been given for so long a great deal of importance in getting rid of. When I am practicing the below therapy things change for me. When I am in a bad way I obsess only a few times a day, but I ruminate/compulse for long periods of time trying to fix the thoughts. As I eliminate much of the compulsions it seems that my obsessions increase. This is a good sign that the therapy is working. THE CRITICAL VARIABLE IS REDUCING THE COMPULSION AND NOT THE NUMBER OF OBSESSIONS! The target response is not responding to the obsession, it is not to have the obsession go away. The long term effect of not responding to the obsessions will be that the obsessions will decrease in frequency and emotional value. This only happens when I become desensitized to the obsessive thoughts by allowing them to occur. (ie. Thinking my penis is shrinking but refraining from measuring it in penis enlargement) When I am able to sit with the thoughts and not compulse (ie. Measure, adjust, feel, check) the obsessions have less and less control over me therefore becoming more and more desensitized. The Antidote The obsession often presents itself as a paramount question or disastrous scenario. A response which answers the obsession in a way that leaves ambiguity is sometimes warranted. "I think my penis feels smaller today" Using the antidote procedure, a cognitive response would be one in which the subject accepts this possibility and is willing to take the risk of his penis shrinking. No effort is expended in directly answering the obsession in an effort to find resolution. In another example, the obsession would be "Maybe I measured wrong yesterday," a recommended response would be "Maybe I did. I'll live with the possibility and take the risk." Using this procedure it is imperative that the distinction be made between the therapeutic response and rumination. The therapeutic response has no aspect of answering the question to it. Let it Be There: Using this procedure, it is suggested that the person create a mental pigeon hole for the thoughts and accept the presence of the thoughts into one's preconscious (those thoughts which are not currently in one's awareness but can easily be brought there by turning one's attention to them, i.e. your name or phone number). It is suggested that a mental "hotel" be created whereby you encourage your brain to create unsolvable questions so as to fill up the register. The more unsolved questions the better. It is critical that we acknowledge the presence of the thought but pay no further attention to it, as in the form of problem solving. The brain can only juggle a certain amount of information at one time. If you purposely overload the brain, rather than insanity, your brain's response would be to just give up trying. As can be imagined, attempting this goal takes a lot of faith and trust in the person suggesting it. The Capsule Technique During the initial phases of therapy, there is a great resistance to letting go of the ruminations/compulsions. A procedure which addresses this resistance is to set aside a specified period of time, perhaps once or twice a day, to purposely ruminate. It is suggested that the time periods be predetermined and time limited. At exactly 8:15 am and 8:15 p.m. I will ruminate for exactly 45 minutes. As thoughts occur to me during the day I can feel comforted that the problem solving will be given sufficient time later that evening or early the next morning. Typically, people report that it is difficult to fill the allotted rumination time. Regardless, every minute must be spent on the designated topic so the brain can habituate to these irrelevant thoughts. A novel application of this technique was reported in the Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry. Using audio-taped spiking material a woman was desensitized to her obsessional themes by exposing herself to them 10 times a day. After the 50th day, her actual spiking dramatically decreased. Creating 4-5 Larger obsessions Rather than attempting to escape the obsessions, you are encouraged to purposely create the thought repeatedly following it's occurrence. This has the effect of desensitizing the brain to these obsessions by sending the message that not only am I not going to attempt to escape these thoughts, but I am at such peace with them I can create a multitude of them. In response to the thought "My penis is not as big as his," a beneficial response would be "It is smaller than everyones in the world." When I practice this I do find myself feeling better. But the important thing is that I am consistent. When I let myself slip I end up back at square one. Please try these exercises and let me know how things are going. I think it will be a great help to me knowing there are others out there trying to live with this.
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As you can see these practices in penis enlargement are invaluable. We now know that penis enlargement may make things worse for the men who are obsessed with their penis. As they go on enlarging their penis without addressing these issues penis enlargement will literally be hell. After seeing how much work I have put into mental penis enlargement it is easy to see that it is very important to many men. With the awareness of these issues and so many men practicing techniques to change their self view there is hope in penis enlargement. Knowing men can relate to you, as in my forum at www.mattersofsize.com/forum, it is wonderful to talk with each other and exchange ideas and help with problems through sympathy and empathy. In the next post I will give a teaser on my upcoming penis enlargement study I have been working on for 2 years. It will be very appropriate in mental penis enlargement and penis enlargement as a whole.
So many men are interested in penis enlargement but have no idea where to start. I know when I first got into penis enlargement I was so confused with all the information I read. That was years ago and today penis enlargement is so much more complicated that many men just give up before they try because of the contradictions and such in penis enlargement.
I am sure you have heard that sometimes we need to put the blinders on and penis enlargement is such a strong example of this. A newbie needs to find the basics of penis enlargement and stick with it. If you are reading this penis enlargement BLOG then you are already on the right road.
First and foremost, prepare yourself for the penis enlargement education that every successful man learns very early in his efforts in penis enlargement. Learning what is real and what is not real in penis enlargement is something that is foremost if you want to enlarge your penis. Starting off with penis enlargement pills and other "quick fixes" will only leave you disappointed and a little bit poorer. Joining one of the penis enlargement sites in the top ten of your search engine will give you just the basics of penis enlargement with no original content. There are many pitfalls in penis enlargement and the best way to clarify the real from the fake is to find men, just like yourself, who have done penis enlargement and made "real gains". I am not talking about the billions of penis enlargement testimonial...I am talking about real people that you can have in depth conversations with. This seems difficult but really, it is the easiest part of penis enlargement (and the most important.)
Finding men who have done penis enlargement and made gains will allow you to hear their story and become inspired by their penis enlargement gains...actual growth! Unfortunately you can't go to the Yellow Pages and look up penis enlargement. That would be pretty cool but the world is far from accepting penis enlargement as a real possibility. The place to start is a penis enlargement forum. After I read my first few pages about penis enlargement I found a penis enlargement forum, joined, asked questions got feedback and began a "real" effort to get bigger. These men were talking about gaining inches! Real inches from real penis enlargement....and they were not shy to prove it!
Once finding people to relate to in penis enlargement the next step is to create a basic penis enlargement routine. Something simple and effective. A penis enlargement workout that is laid out with good comprehension without being too much. Many guys who start penis enlargement on my site are mostly concerned with time. "How long will it take to make my penis bigger?" "How much time do I need to spend on penis enlargement daily?' "How much time did it take others who used penis enlargement to get bigger?" The questions are endless.
Time is a necessity of penis enlargement. Time in the daily penis enlargement routine, patience in the time it takes to make penis enlargement gains and time to learn and master the basics of penis enlargement.
All of the questions are answered soon after every man starts a real penis enlargement program. Making the penis larger takes a daily effort, time can be as much as an hour or as little as 20 minutes but it does take time every day if you are going to be successful in penis enlargement. Every man gains at at different pace in penis enlargement. SOme are very quick gainers while others struggle to make the smallest penis enlargement gain. This is largely do to form and intensity. The men who have mastered a perfect form and the correct intensity are the ones who gain the fastest. Other men may never really learn how to properly do penis enlargement. This is the biggest reason I think every newbie should start with my penis enlargement program. The address is www.mattersofsize.com. You will learn, by video and information, by me, on the proper way to do penis enlargement.
Seeing proper penis enlargement on video gives you the best chance of having good penis enlargement form and intensity as you can see it. Studying my sites information will give you every bit of information you will need to have in penis enlargement.
Basic penis enlargement understanding is a huge topic and it will take several posts to explain it properly. In the mean time go to my site, join the free forum, join the member site and start to learn the basics.
So now that you understand the basics of getting involved with penis enlargement I think it's time to get into the actual exercises, routines, time daily, penis enlargement supplement, items you should have to start and other penis enlargement basics of exercise.
For me I found my first exercises on I excellent site called altpenis.com. This site not only gave some penis enlargement exercise basics but they also had hundreds of articles on penis enlargement and other male sexual health issues. Articles about premature ejaculation, prostate issues, Too Big, Too Small, Or Just Right? Measuring the penis, history penis enlargement and a huge archive of other articles. Today the site has too many articles to list, they are a huge sexual information site with penis enlargement being only a small part of their site.
This site inspired much of my own work on mattersofsize.com. I have strived to give as much information on penis enlargement over the past 7 years and I have built up my own collection of penis enlargement articles. Many of my articles are on penis enlargement exercise and in part two of this series on penis enlargement basics I will address this issue.
The jelq, the most basic of the penis enlargement exercises, is an exercise that began thousands of years ago. Many will tell you it began in Arabic countries while some give the credit to European origins. The fact is, the jelq is a penis enlargement exercise that has survived the test of time. This exercise along with basic stretching has been the staple of penis enlargement for 100's if not 1000's of years.
The jelq is a very simple exercise to learn and master. I think it is the perfect place for a new guy to start penis enlargement. If you join my site you will not be directed to do advanced exercise, your beginnings will start with this basic exercise. The exercise is described in a number of blogs here but I will describe it briefly here. Basically you get your penis semi-hard to hard and use a stroking motion. Starting at the extreme base of your penis you will trap the blood within your penis with a strong grip. You will then push the blood upward with the first hand and following with you next stroke with the other being sure to not lose any time or blood. The idea is to keep the blood in the penis and these intense strokes will expand the erectile tissue over time. This is a continuous exercise for at least 15 minutes daily. Using a lubrication like vaseline is essential in this process.
The next basic of penis enlargement is length work. Basic penis stretching is quite simple. Again, this is explored in depth throughout this blog but I will briefly describe this penis enlargement exercise. In a seated position prepare yourself for your stretching routine. With an ample supply of Baby powder on you hands (for good hold) grip your penis just below the head. Stretch the penis outward, with strong intensity, from your body and hold this position for 30 seconds. Go easy at first and find what is most comfortable for you, increase the stretching strength to over your first few sessions. There are many variations of the penis enlargement exercise but this is a great place to start.
There are some other basic exercises that can be added that I will explore in the third part of this series. Please keep checking back to get this penis enlargement along with many other penis enlargement tips.
Getting a grip on time
We explored the beginnings of penis enlargement, where to start, getting a good video site to see the penis enlargement exercises, finding men online who practice the same penis enlargement that you are doing, and many other parts of starting out penis enlargement. For many men finding the right time to do their penis enlargement can be a headache. Due to living situations, work hours, girlfriends or wives, privacy, ect. penis enlargement can be a real challenge. This is where you need to become creative with your penis enlargement routine. Breaking up the time you spend on penis enlargement is a good way to cut back on a single lengthly routine. Maybe training 3 times a day will be the perfect way for you to get your penis enlargement in. This will make for short sessions that will not pop up too many questions from the people around you. A single penis enlargement session including penis girth and penis length work can run up to an hour or more depending on how much you are including in your penis enlargement routine. This may be impossible for allot of men so I will give you a few scenarios on different penis enlargement sessions, time-wise.
Morning/Night Sessions. I like this routine best for many reasons. First, my penis enlargement routine is only 30 minutes twice a day. For me, getting up 30 minutes earlier (before anyone else in my house) allows me to train for a half hour with no fear of interruption or anyone knowing I am doing penis enlargement exercises. Then at night after everyone is asleep I do my second session of 30 minutes. This breaks my penis enlargement into two very manageable sessions. I like doing length exercise in the AM and girth exercise at night. I even worked my penis girth work in right before I planned on having sex (just took longer in the bathroom, she never knew it was penis enlargement, she thought I was just preparing myself for sex.) I liked this style of penis enlargement girth because I would be at my thickest right after girth work and that made her smile more.
Some men prefer to break their penis enlargement sessions into 5 parts. This style of penis enlargement has come to be known as piss-pulls. Basically, every bathroom break they take throughout the day they will perform a mini session of penis enlargement. I like this because it allows the user to keep his penis in penis enlargement mode throughout the day. I have always liked the idea of stretching the penis often throughout the day as it keeps it extended more often and I think this helps with flaccid penis enlargement gains.
Some may apt to do their penis enlargement exercises all at once and this is also OK. If you can afford the time to complete a solid penis enlargement session within one sitting then do it.
The point is, penis enlargement should fit into your schedule comfortably. The last thing you want to do is rush yourself or create a penis enlargement routine that is a pain in the ass. The best way to make consistent penis enlargement gains is with a routine that is effective and works into your schedule.
Another idea that may work for college kids that have a roommate is the under the covers method. Basic penis stretching is very easy to conceal under the covers. Simply get yourself into a stretch position, hold it for 30-60 seconds and switch to the next. During a movie you can get a very good penis enlargement session in. Be creative and find your penis enlargement groove.
Worries, Fears, Injuries and Remedies
When starting penis enlargement you may experience some minor injuries (if you can even call them that.) With penis enlargement you are dealing with a very thin skinned part of your body, the penis. Also, the head of the penis has no skin so it too is extremely sensitive to penis enlargement.
With penis enlargement girth many experience small red dots on their penis after a session. These marks are nothing to be concerned with as they fade within 24 hours or so. They are not something that will happen for ever in penis enlargement, they happen early on because your penis is not used to the exercises you are doing. They happen because of the influx of blood to the penis. Since penis enlargement girth work deals with so much pressure and the penis skin is so thin, you will see these marks. This would happen in bodybuilding but since the skin is so thick on other parts of the body that you rarely see these red marks.
Bruising is also something that is quite normal in penis enlargement. Bruises on the penis appear as they would anywhere on the body, the difference, again, is the thin skin on the penis. They may ache a bit but this, along with the bruising will fade soon after your penis enlargement session. Again, these things will not happen forever in penis enlargement, it is a temporary adjustment period.
Stretching the penis with penis enlargement can also give you some strange marks. They appear on the shaft of the penis and look like very small, white, stretch marks. This is normal in penis enlargement as you are stretching the penis. Like when a mans arm becomes bigger through doing curls he might get stretch marks due to the expansion of the skin and tissue.
Some experience soreness after a penis enlargement session. This soreness is due to a few factors. In penis enlargement stretching the penis is being stretched away from the pelvis bone via the penis ligaments. This will cause some aching, this is not pain but a simple feeling of aching. This is comparable to the muscles after a workout. In penis enlargement nothing should ever be pain. Sharp shooting pain, numbness and any other extreme ailment is NOT TYPICAL IN PENIS ENLARGEMENT! If you feel these things during a penis enlargement session STOP IMMEDIATELY. There is a definite difference between aching/soreness and PAIN. Pay close attention to your body when doing penis enlargement. Be aware of the feeling penis enlargement produces. There is no reason to rush your penis enlargement and risk hurting yourself. Penis enlargement is a progressive, learning experience. It takes time, patience and caution.
Some may experience water retention around the foreskin area. This appears as swelling. In penis enlargement some men are prone to this. It is rare but it does happen but it is nothing to fear. It will fade after a few hours. This happens to men who do penis enlargement pumping allot. In natural penis enlargement it is rare.
A good way to avoid much of these pitfalls in penis enlargement is to properly prepare yourself for your penis enlargement session and properly care for yourself after. Doing a penis enlargement warmup is something that is important. This is easy to do. Take a washcloth and warm it up under hot water. Wrap your penis in it for 5 minutes. Reheat the cloth as it cools...this will ensure a good penis enlargement with minimal chance for injury. The same should be done after a penis enlargement session as this will help with red spots and the like.
Now that we have covered the specifics of penis enlargement I think it is a good idea to review. First, penis enlargement is very real, it works if you work it. Have no doubts about natural penis enlargement because it has helped thousands of men increase the size of their penis. If you decide to start penis enlargement keep this at the forefront of your mind, penis enlargement is real.
Before you start a penis enlargement program take proper penis measurements. See part 4 for the specifics of measuring your penis. It is vital that these measurement are correct and documented. If you start penis enlargement with half-assed measurements you may never even realize your gains when they do happen. Measure length, soft and hard, girth soft and hard.
Next it is very important to keep a penis enlargement journal. We have not explored this yet but I will cover it completely in penis enlargement basics part 6. Keeping a detailed record of exercise, gains, etc. will make your penis enlargement journey so much better.
Picking a basic penis enlargement program that teaches you the specifics of each penis enlargement exercise (preferably with video...REMEMBER www.mattersofsize.com). Be patient with your self and take your time learning each penis enlargement exercise. Remember, there is no rush.
Prepare yourself for your penis enlargement routine by purchasing the proper things you will need to do the program properly. In penis enlargement, especially girth work a lubricant is necessary. I suggest VASELINE, but you can decide on what's best for you. Having baby powder is also important, especially for length. I also suggest a very good moisturizer and cleaning soap. Penis enlargement using a lubricant can lead to ingrown hairs and the like, keeping the penis clean after a penis enlargement workout is very important. Also, the moisturizer will keep your penis from dryness due to penis enlargement handling.
Once you begin your penis enlargement program be consistent. A break in penis enlargement can lead to a permanent vacation. Set up the times and days you plan on doing your penis enlargement and stick to it. Pick a relaxed time so as you can take your time in your penis enlargement routine. Rushing your penis enlargement routine can lead to injuries or a lack of gains.
Most importantly, keep motivated in your penis enlargement efforts. Keep a image of your goals and make that happen. I will cover Mental Penis ENlargement later in this series.
Motivation and Mental Penis Enlargement
Post 1, Part 6 (Motivation)
Motivation in penis enlargement is one of the most important mental aspects of making gains. It becomes very easy to become lazy with penis enlargement because of the speed of penis gains. For many men being patient with their penis enlargement program becomes difficult because they want what they want when they want it and that just is not how penis enlargement works. Penis enlargement takes time, dedication and patience but these qualities are directly effected by motivation. Unfortunately there are no motivational seminars on penis enlargement, at least not yet.
There are a few things that can help one stay very motivated to penis enlargement but these things need to be done on a daily basis. Motivation comes from consistency and consistency comes from discipline. With penis enlargement these qualities will be the determining factor in the gains you make. Here are 3 things you can use in penis enlargement to stay committed, motivated and constantly gaining.
1.) Create A Model Penis
This may sound funny but it is a true help and it will keep you motivated. Creating a penis enlargement model penis will also help you be realistic about your penis enlargement goals.
A paper towel roll is great for determining length. Many men come into penis enlargement with extremely unrealistic goals. They start penis enlargement with a 5 or 6 inch penis and make their goal 10, 11 or 12" Once they see what these measurements are, in real life, a model they can touch, see, compare they are quick to realize that the size they want is just ridiculous.
The best way to build your penis enlargement model is with no measurements. Grab an object that looks ideal to you for penis size and your final goal. Once you are sure that this is the size you want then go an measure it...I guaranty you that it is much smaller than you believed it to be. This in itself will keep you motivated in penis enlargement. If you realize that 8" is the perfect length and you are starting a 6, a two inch penis enlargement gain is much easier to get to than a 5" gain...5" has never happened in penis enlargement, or at least of my knowledge. The largest length gains I have heard about in penis enlargement were 4".
Your penis enlargement model should also have the girth value you want to make. Again this measurement will be more realistic than saying "I want 7" of girth" FIrst off, 7" of girth is extremely massive and is something that is usually only seen in penis enlargement pumping which is temporary and mostly water retention. Real girth at 7" is something I have only seen in one dude and that is the porno-actor Shane Diesel. It is massive and more than likely something most men would not want.
In penis enlargement it is good to remember that your penis is not a trophy, it is a part of your body. You should make it the way you really desire, not the way you believe others would want or think is big. The truth is most men and woman have no idea about penis size. penis enlargement helps you become aware of actual measurements. You will rarely hear someone, who is active in penis enlargement, say "John Holmes had a 14" penis" (something most ignorant people would think or believe.) Those who understand penis enlargement realize he was closer to 8.5" in length. This make you goal seem much easier, huh?
So creating a realistic model will help you make your gains and stay motivated.
2.) Print out a picture of a porn star that has the penis you want. This is in no way gay, it is simply a penis enlargement tool. Seeing the size you want on another person can cause just enough envy to keep you motivated in penis enlargement. CHances are, the person you choose in porn probably did penis enlargement to get their size. Remember, I am not only involved with penis enlargement but also with Bang Bros. (the largest porn site online) I have seen these actors and some have shared their secrets of penis enlargement. Seeing your favorite stars penis before a penis enlargement session can give you the kick in the ass that will keep you going.
Seeing the actors penis will also help you understand penis symmetry. A 12" penis on a 4 foot man is going to look strange. It is very sexy to woman when a man's penis is symmetrical with his body. Just like the rest of your body, healthiness and being in shape is attractive. A body builder who only trains his upper body and ignore his lower looks out of proportion...human beings crave symmetry and when things are out off proportion is sits strange with us. Penis enlargement will help you get your penis in proportion with the rest of your body.
3.) Mantras. A mantra is a a commonly repeated word or phrase to help one stay focused or/and motivated. In penis enlargement this is very useful. Again it may sound strange at first but a penis enlargement mantra will eventually become a part of your daily penis enlargement workouts. EVen during your penis enlargement routine you can use your mantra to help you stay focused. There are many phrases or words that can be used in penis enlargement. Write something that works for you, something that will keep you doing your penis enlargement and make the gains you desire.
Some examples of penis enlargement mantras are as follows.
1. My penis is growing every day, with each workout it is longer and thicker.
2. I have always been able to have a huge penis, penis enlargement will make this happen.
3. Long and Thick.
4. Penis enlargement is real and my penis grows bigger each day because of this.
5. I deserve a long and thick penis.
etc.
You will want to chant this to yourself over and over. FInding a quite place where you will not be bothered when you sit and meditate without interruption will help so much. It will keep you focused, relaxed and most of all motivated. A mantra will bring much credence to your penis enlargement efforts.
It is always vital to keep your mantras positive. Meaning with no negative connotations. An example of what I mean is: "My penis may be small but it is getting bigger with penis enlargement" or "If I stick with penis enlargement my penis might get larger" both of these statements are laced with doubt and self criticism. The word "if" or "might" sets one up for failure. While calling yourself "small" but "getting bigger" puts too much focus on negativity. With penis enlargement, it is important to always keep a positive and upbeat attitude.
I am sure you can think of other motivational tools and there are plenty others I could type, unfortunately this is all the time I have today. Tomorrow we will explore mental penis enlargement, one of the most important parts of physical penis enlargement.
Motivation and Mental Penis Enlargement
Post 2, Part 6 (Mental Penis Enlargement)
We went over motivation in penis enlargement on the 1st part of this 2 part thread. Understanding that penis enlargement takes a certain mental attitude is vital if you want to succeed in penis enlargement. During the very beginning of you penis enlargement venture you will need to practice a positive motivational mind state. It may feel fake or weird at first but soon it will become a habit. This habit will not only benefit you in penis enlargement but also every other facet of your life.
If you have read any of my earlier posts on mental penis enlargement you understand how important I believe this to be. When starting out in penis enlargement many men may have some very skewed beliefs about their penis. I know I did and still today I occasionally go through negative, self defeating thoughts. This is very common in men. These beliefs come from years of misunderstandings about penis size. From religious preaching to media driven sexuality we, as men, find that the penis is something to be ashamed of. No amount of penis enlargement will change this. If you start out with a six inch penis that you think is small, even if you gain 2-3" in penis enlargement you may find that you still believe you are small.
Why does this happen? Well in all my years in penis enlargement I have encountered every possible insecurity that men feel. Some of them are fully justified while others are imaginary. As I stated above there are many sources in our world that cause insecurities and even shame about the penis. I know that my being raised Catholic had many negative influences on my sexuality. In most religions, the penis and even male sexuality as a whole is looked upon as, in some way, evil or wrong. When men who have been raised this way get into penis enlargement they hope to change this by increasing the size of their penis. The sad thing is penis enlargement will only change the physical parts of our being, to change the mental takes a different kind of penis enlargement.
The media also has a dirty hand in making men insecure about their penis. So many men come into penis enlargement with some very fucked up beliefs about the penis. One of the most popular phases in advertisement is "SIZE MATTERS" ... Not to be confused with MATTERS OF SIZE :D Around every corner there is phallic shaped merchandise, woman degrading men with comments about size, and hundreds of other subliminal things. This is a big reason penis enlargement exists in the first place. Somehow, penis enlargement changes all this or so men believe.
Understand, penis enlargement is easy. You have always been able to make your penis larger. Through my brand of penis enlargement I have helped thousands of men get a longer, thicker penis. Just like the thousands of other penis enlargement sites online....penis enlargement is real and very easy. The big difference in www.mattersofsize.com penis enlargement is the mental portion of my program.
For every man that joins my site is instantly exposed to mental penis enlargement. My largest study on penis enlargement (Is Everything Really What it Seems), a previous post on this BLOG, I address the guts of these mental issues and show men what is real in society concerning sexuality and the penis. This, in itself, helps penis enlargement truly enlarge the penis. Restated, penis enlargement with mental penis enlargement will solve many of your penis/sex issues.
I will go through many ways to change these beliefs and how to begin a mental penis enlargement program in my next entry.
Motivation and Mental Penis Enlargement
Post 3, Part 8 (Mastering Mental Penis Enlargement)
It really does sound silly, mastering mental penis enlargement, but after you read this post I think your feeling will change and you will see just how important mental penis enlargement is.
On the last entry we covered many of the ways men become psychologically crippled by negative thoughts about their penis and general male sexuality. I would like to take a minute and review that.
Men have been obsessed with their penis for many years. I bet earlier forms of primates even tried penis enlargement in one way or the other. To a man the penis is completely independent to the rest of their body. It somehow has different physical rules and mental importance than that of our body as a whole. It is as if the penis has a brain of it's own. Starting penis enlargement may give a false hope to men, a hope that if the enlarge their penis these problems will fade and, as in the last post, we know they wont
Penis enlargement is incredible...it is something some men will pay thousands of dollars to accomplish. It is sad that many of these men will not find natural penis enlargement, something that is free. It is not only free, it gives men the ability to enlarge their penis way beyond any other method of penis enlargement. I, myself, have made incredible gains in penis length and girth which is something I still have problems believing. It is in the lack of belief when we make gains that many of the issues with mental penis degradation happen.
We can see a clear pattern of this self-degrading behavior and I will try to explain. Growing up, a man, (child) notices his penis for the first time sexually at the beginning of puberty. This is carried into the locker rooms where boys see each other naked. In allot of cases boys will see other boys as being bigger than them when it is not true. I am not talking about the larger penis he may encounter, I am talking about dystrophia with an imagined flaw. They see a boy with a 3" penis and even though they may be 3" (or more) themselves, they will still believe themselves to be smaller.
As they become older and start dating girls this dystrophia may creep up with even larger consequences. Avoiding sex for fear of inadequacy, thinking they know what she is thinking, hiding in the dark during sex, etc. The sad thing here is the woman notices this and they lose respect for the man as she believes he should be confident. Confidence to a woman is much more valuable than a big dick.
Some of these men may seek out penis enlargement, while others will quietly suffer never learning that penis enlargement is available. The next phase for men that make it to penis enlargement may be one that complicates their issues further. As I said earlier, their are more than 100,000 penis enlargement sites online and 90% of them are for penis enlargement pills, penis enlargement pumps, penis enlargement gadgets, penis enlargement creams, etc. Very few are teaching natural penis enlargement and 99.9% of the sites that are teaching penis enlargement are only teaching simply the exercises. Out of those penis enlargement sites that are teaching exercises most of them have the same 5 penis enlargement exercise. As I have already said earlier, my site, www.mattersofsize.com, has more than 200 exercises and I am creating new ones constantly.
The problem with the penis enlargement sites that teach natural penis enlargement is they never touch on mental issues men are experiencing. It is simply a place that men learn how to enlarge their cock. What happens when there is a lack of mental help is men become more obsessed with their penis and even though they may grow their minds stay the same.
Here is one of the many studies you will find on my site and this is one of the first things men see when they join. This will give you some definite tools to train for mental penis enlargement.
compulsion
My Conclusions and Therapy I hope this modified penis enlargement worksheet can help those who need it. It works but like anything else you need to be committed. Considering the feedback I have heard from penis enlargement members and my own problems with obsessing I decided to dig a bit deeper to make some comparisons to other o.c.d's. disorders and what many of us suffer with before penis enlargement and after. I found many similarities in disorders like anorexia but still the problem I faced with the way we obsess is that the compulsion actually works. This is unique from most O.C.D. behaviors because usually when a person has one of these disorders the compulsion usually does not have any beneficial value. So one very important thing we need to be honest with our selves about is when are we crossing that line of beneficial penis enlargement into useless overkill compulsion? I decided to give this disorder it’s own name as I see it being very specific to us as men (involved with penis enlargement). I thought about allot of different things to call it and settled on this: PDD (Penile Dimorphic Disorder) I truly see this penis enlargement problem as an O.C.D. behavior so I wanted to keep it in the spectrum of O.C.D. classifications. There really is no help for many of us as to the extreme personal nature of this disorder. With this PDD our anxiety comes in response to an unwanted thought or question. (ie. my penis is small) The rituals that follow involves pushing away the thought, avoiding the recurrence of the thought, or attempting to solve the question. These steps are considered the rumination or compulsion. (ie. measuring in penis enlargement) Living with PDD means living with uncertainty and risk taking. PDD is perpetuated by a man's intolerance of having bizarre and noxious thoughts. The efforts a man makes to avoid or escape these thoughts reinforces their recurrence. Meaning, every-time we have a obsessive thought and we react to it by compulsing we in fact are establishing the importance of this fear. So, the removal of the compulsion is key, especially in penis enlargement! I have to say say that with all of the below therapies I have found that as I get better the frequency of my obsessions increases. I am resistant to change and my mind will throw tantrums as I attempt to make space for what has been given for so long a great deal of importance in getting rid of. When I am practicing the below therapy things change for me. When I am in a bad way I obsess only a few times a day, but I ruminate/compulse for long periods of time trying to fix the thoughts. As I eliminate much of the compulsions it seems that my obsessions increase. This is a good sign that the therapy is working. THE CRITICAL VARIABLE IS REDUCING THE COMPULSION AND NOT THE NUMBER OF OBSESSIONS! The target response is not responding to the obsession, it is not to have the obsession go away. The long term effect of not responding to the obsessions will be that the obsessions will decrease in frequency and emotional value. This only happens when I become desensitized to the obsessive thoughts by allowing them to occur. (ie. Thinking my penis is shrinking but refraining from measuring it in penis enlargement) When I am able to sit with the thoughts and not compulse (ie. Measure, adjust, feel, check) the obsessions have less and less control over me therefore becoming more and more desensitized. The Antidote The obsession often presents itself as a paramount question or disastrous scenario. A response which answers the obsession in a way that leaves ambiguity is sometimes warranted. "I think my penis feels smaller today" Using the antidote procedure, a cognitive response would be one in which the subject accepts this possibility and is willing to take the risk of his penis shrinking. No effort is expended in directly answering the obsession in an effort to find resolution. In another example, the obsession would be "Maybe I measured wrong yesterday," a recommended response would be "Maybe I did. I'll live with the possibility and take the risk." Using this procedure it is imperative that the distinction be made between the therapeutic response and rumination. The therapeutic response has no aspect of answering the question to it. Let it Be There: Using this procedure, it is suggested that the person create a mental pigeon hole for the thoughts and accept the presence of the thoughts into one's preconscious (those thoughts which are not currently in one's awareness but can easily be brought there by turning one's attention to them, i.e. your name or phone number). It is suggested that a mental "hotel" be created whereby you encourage your brain to create unsolvable questions so as to fill up the register. The more unsolved questions the better. It is critical that we acknowledge the presence of the thought but pay no further attention to it, as in the form of problem solving. The brain can only juggle a certain amount of information at one time. If you purposely overload the brain, rather than insanity, your brain's response would be to just give up trying. As can be imagined, attempting this goal takes a lot of faith and trust in the person suggesting it. The Capsule Technique During the initial phases of therapy, there is a great resistance to letting go of the ruminations/compulsions. A procedure which addresses this resistance is to set aside a specified period of time, perhaps once or twice a day, to purposely ruminate. It is suggested that the time periods be predetermined and time limited. At exactly 8:15 am and 8:15 p.m. I will ruminate for exactly 45 minutes. As thoughts occur to me during the day I can feel comforted that the problem solving will be given sufficient time later that evening or early the next morning. Typically, people report that it is difficult to fill the allotted rumination time. Regardless, every minute must be spent on the designated topic so the brain can habituate to these irrelevant thoughts. A novel application of this technique was reported in the Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry. Using audio-taped spiking material a woman was desensitized to her obsessional themes by exposing herself to them 10 times a day. After the 50th day, her actual spiking dramatically decreased. Creating 4-5 Larger obsessions Rather than attempting to escape the obsessions, you are encouraged to purposely create the thought repeatedly following it's occurrence. This has the effect of desensitizing the brain to these obsessions by sending the message that not only am I not going to attempt to escape these thoughts, but I am at such peace with them I can create a multitude of them. In response to the thought "My penis is not as big as his," a beneficial response would be "It is smaller than everyones in the world." When I practice this I do find myself feeling better. But the important thing is that I am consistent. When I let myself slip I end up back at square one. Please try these exercises and let me know how things are going. I think it will be a great help to me knowing there are others out there trying to live with this.
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As you can see these practices in penis enlargement are invaluable. We now know that penis enlargement may make things worse for the men who are obsessed with their penis. As they go on enlarging their penis without addressing these issues penis enlargement will literally be hell. After seeing how much work I have put into mental penis enlargement it is easy to see that it is very important to many men. With the awareness of these issues and so many men practicing techniques to change their self view there is hope in penis enlargement. Knowing men can relate to you, as in my forum at www.mattersofsize.com/forum, it is wonderful to talk with each other and exchange ideas and help with problems through sympathy and empathy. In the next post I will give a teaser on my upcoming penis enlargement study I have been working on for 2 years. It will be very appropriate in mental penis enlargement and penis enlargement as a whole.
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Re: Penis Enlargement Basics...All New People Need to Read This
Thu, July 22, 2010 - 1:29 AMis there an age requirement to penis enlargement? what if the guy is at his 40's or 50's, will the program still work for him? tnx much!
saint paul
