I agree with Grrr, I just love flirting online but that is all it is until I actually meet someone. You can't really get to know someone through this medium, even with telephone calls and web cams you still don't really see every single part of a person.

I was chatting to my sister about this and I mentioned that, although not important, you may know somoene online for 10 years and never know that they had a limp. Not an important aspect but 10 years of close friendship and not knowing something so obvious is strange to me. However she said that on the flip side of the coin you probably get to know some people better online than you would in real life. Some people just can't communicate that well and when you are sat looking at a computer screen you simply have to learn and in doing so you probably open up a lot more.

So, in summary, Mr Headmaster, there are pros and cons but personally I'll stick to flirting!

I am married, so the whole dating thing is not really an issue for me, but I am a natural flirt, ( shit... I am not supposed to admit to that in public) and it's one of my favorite things about tribe: I can flirt without too much concern that I am going to be taken seriously.

Really,
How did you accomplish that? i also live in a remote area and would like to meet someone with similar interests.
Meeting people is fairly easy. meeting the right kind fairly hard.

I think it's fantastic of people can find the person that they love online, or in ANY way. I just want to be clear that I'm not impugning anyone else's choice to use this method : ).

I just know that, in my personal circumstances, I would NEVER have chosen my husband as a potential life partner if I'd seen him "on paper" rather than having just been buddies with him for several years first. He probably had nothing that I would have put on a list of "wants", besides kindness, open-mindedness, and physical attractiveness...we were different re: religion, politics, upbringing, hobbies, and pretty much everything else. But we didn't care (we were young and infatuated <g>), and now we've been happily together for over 20 years.

I guess that both systems have merit...I just never felt comfy with the online way. I'm glad that it gets some people together, who may not otherwise meet, though!

(((Craig)))

funny, I just posted about this yesterday, here I'll cross...

yes it does work, but it's like anything else - you actually have to work at it. I've been involved in a few long-distance relationships with people I met online - some really, really long ! Yes, you meet some absolute whack jobs....the hard part is weeding those out. Sometimes that takes a while, as it's easier for people to hide their crazy online. I do think that writing is a wonderful way to get to know someone - people can also be more open that way, which is also wonderful.

Once you've gotten past the crazy test part, it's important to be able to meet in person (for me anyway) . If the person is long-distance, there's a whole other set of problems, but that's for another thread I think....