Ok, let's check this out.
Traditionally, and well, pretty much all the time, the guy pays for the date he goes on. To be a "gentleman". Ok, so an active guy dater on a dating site meets several women (if he's lucky) and goes on say 4 dates a month.
So, ball park an average date at 100 bucks that's 400 a month at just four and then he has to PAY a dating site 20-30 bucks a month just to do that.
I think it's really unfair and guys should get a break on the costs or even get it free.
What about a site that give the guy TWICE the time for the same payment (ie 2 months for a one month cost).
Would that help out?
How much are you spending in your dating life a month?
This game can be expensive !
Traditionally, and well, pretty much all the time, the guy pays for the date he goes on. To be a "gentleman". Ok, so an active guy dater on a dating site meets several women (if he's lucky) and goes on say 4 dates a month.
So, ball park an average date at 100 bucks that's 400 a month at just four and then he has to PAY a dating site 20-30 bucks a month just to do that.
I think it's really unfair and guys should get a break on the costs or even get it free.
What about a site that give the guy TWICE the time for the same payment (ie 2 months for a one month cost).
Would that help out?
How much are you spending in your dating life a month?
This game can be expensive !
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Sat, February 11, 2006 - 2:33 AMhere's my 2 cents (from someone who successfully met the love of her life on the internet...)
Mass market for like, 3 months, then stop.
Don't graze. It's boring. And YOU get bored.
And then your boredom shows online.
But that's just me ...
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Sat, February 11, 2006 - 2:35 AM"So, ball park an average date at 100 bucks that's 400 a month at just four and then he has to PAY a dating site 20-30 bucks a month just to do that. "
Stop spending then.
Meet for a Jamba juice.
Meet in the park.
Take a hike.
Lotsa ways to have nice dates without losing your shirt.
Save your bucks for the engagement.
THAT will be an expensive game.
: )
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Tue, March 7, 2006 - 11:18 AMPerfectly answered. I guess that men who are under pressure to take a woman to a "nice fancy restaurant" (read expensive) or they are labeled a "cheap bastard" and scorned are finding the WRONG women.
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Tue, March 7, 2006 - 8:09 PMDefinitely! And unless thats the kind of woman a man wants to date - the expectation of 'expensive' - then the men feeling pressure, are doing it to themselves. Of course I'm a woman and love to be treated, but it certainly isn't an expectation ... nor does the thought of 'being an expensive date' come to mind.
There are PLENTY of zaney, delightful, fun, even sweet and romantic date 'ideas' trundling around this time of year. A cup of yummy java & a stroll along the river, arm in arm. A small bundle of daffodils, wrapped in a ribbon with a handwritten note. A jaunt to the woods to explore ... ahhh the possibilities are endless.
It's not the "nice fancy restaurant" that wins the attentions, affection and wonderment of a delightful, quality sort of woman - it's that extra moment of thought. "What would she smile and delight in ... ?" And it's true, there are those who prefer the "expensiveness" of a date versus the quality ... though it's of your own choosing for which kind of woman you prefer.
A sincere question as well ... why spend 100$ on a first date when you might not even truly be interested in the person ... why not save them quaters n' dimes for LATER in the game when it's the good stuff! *grins* T-h-e-n surprise her!
From an eternal romantic ~ thems are my two pennies. :)
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Wed, April 26, 2006 - 1:49 AMI think either you pay half and half, or who ever igniciates the date. I agree that its not fair that men and women feel that the male should foot the bill it needs to be equal both ways
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Sun, April 2, 2006 - 10:17 PMI agree 100%! Why are females alowed into some for free, and us guys have to foot the bill to look at profiles that will never respond anyway? I have been an active member of a couple "dating sites" for a couple years now, I have payed my money, and not been out on one single date! Females are just so materialistic, if you are not tall dark and the most handsome man with plenty of money, your not good enough!
It is unfair for guys to have to pay and females just show up! I thought the country was supposed to treat each sex equally!
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Thu, April 6, 2006 - 8:07 PMWOW! Thats quite a blanket statement, "Females are just so materialistic, if you are not tall dark and the most handsome man with plenty of money, your not good enough!" It would seem that you've been burned by too hot a flame, one too many times ... ?
And my cheeky comment to that is "Men are just so superficial - if you're not tall with long legs and a perfect body, you're not good enough." Sorry but thats crap! NOT all females are materialistic, nor do they only drool over the 'tall dark & most handsome man, with plenty of money' ... unless of course, the women you're refering to & chasing are the stereotypical "Hollywood Blond/Brunette Bombshell" ~ then it is your own unfortunate choosing in female company. You know the kind of woman that wants a 'trophy man' holding her up, just like I know the kind of man that wants to hold her as a 'trophy'.
And per my upbringing, I was taught to NEVER solely rely on a man paying for a date. It's not a guaranteed 'free ride'. Whomever does the 'asking out' should be the one doing the buying. Though, there is certainly nothing wrong with creating less expensive/more creative dates ... nor is there shame in asking for 'dutch-treat'.
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Thu, April 27, 2006 - 12:26 AMI think women feel the same way, if you are not pretty or skinny enough, the hell with you. By the way not all females are materialistic, maybe most , but not all, I am certainly not. (as I am crossing my fingers WINK) no really.
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Sun, May 21, 2006 - 3:21 PMIf you want respect from a woman, never pay for her on a first date. Make sure she knows that you are going dutch. Paying for a woman you don't know is a sign of neediness and manipulation and they can sense it. All you are doing is shopping. Do you pay to shop? Neediness chases woman away. You should be able to tease her in a friendly manner and if she doesn't have a sense of humor, you just saved a ton of time and money. Good luck. Eric.
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Wed, July 19, 2006 - 8:32 AMDating is not something with which I am regularly preoccupied. As a rule, I rarely spend much money on dates with people I barely know or whith whom I am meeting for the first time. The first few dates are ones in which we are feeling each other out and deciding how we truly feel about each other. On a forst date, I will meet for lunch, coffee, or tea.
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More trouble than it is worth.
Wed, July 19, 2006 - 8:37 AMThe dating sites are businesses. Some are outright scams. They have people's profiles listed without the person's knowledge. All of them started as free sites. many will allow anyone to post a profile now and have a mailbox. However, in order to respond to or read the mail you have to subscribe. If you subscribe, then unsubscribing is like pulling teeth - they make you provide a credit card number and the billing continues months after you unsubscribe. It is more trouble than it is worth - if you ask me. -
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Re: More trouble than it is worth.
Fri, September 1, 2006 - 5:22 PMMy experience is very similar. I've considered putting up a dating site based on minimizing everyone's expenses while providing competition to the rest, just to get back at them. It would work like this: all free, donations accepted, only lists each person's name and whatever links they provide, nobody gets listed until I get around to checking all their links for scams, if anyone doesn't like a listing for any reason it gets removed permanently and the holder barred from the site, also permanently. This idea could work synergistically with the secret crush tribe, especially if we could divide secret crush into actual or logical regions so those beyond the Bay could put it to work too. Domains could be scanned automatically and any suspicious postings rejected without considering them. Etc etc etc
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Re: Men should get free listings on dating sites
Sat, September 2, 2006 - 12:25 AMhere's a thought,.....are you ready?
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are you Paying attention?....
DON'T....
Don't pay the sites..... don't pay for the dates......just don't....
I don't understand what the big deal is anyways girls are easy... I mean, I'm not saying all girls are sluts.... I'm just saying Initially getting the girls is easy...Just treat them like one of your buds and pretend that you care about their "feelings" and I can't stress this enough...if you think the first date may turn into a relationship take a moment and remember something she was wearing or said durring that date write it down when your alone if you have too.... cause someday...she will bring up your first date... thats when you pull out that little nugget of info.....she will be so suprised that you remembered that little detail... you'll have the best sex you've had in months..... what earings she had on is always a good one .... and I'm tired of hearing guys talking about acting like gentlemen, unless you plan on making it your life long career to act like a gentleman at all times, then drop the act..... do you buy your buddies an expensive dinner at a fancy joint? No they pay for their own. look just try and remember, your girlfriend is still a friend...treat her like one....I'm not saying don't get emotionally envolved just be realistic. If you have to pay someone pay a photographer for some great pictures and get on a dating website... I recomend E-spin the bottle Post your pics and let the E-mails start rolling in. Works well for me and I don't pay a cent...
And the dating thing ....stay in or go to a club both really cheap and effective.
Ohh and remember most women love sex just as much as we do. If your at a bar don't dance around it, why do you think they are there, there looking for a prospective lay 80 percent of the time......Just be smart about these things guys.
The Pirate King Desire
