I met a great boyfriend there; we're still really tight. I used to post there and met some interesting people. I posted more about being a geek and funny stuff, so maybe that resulted in different results.

I met my current s.o. on OKC, so did my CL pal. That might be the way to go.

Cheers!

being a couple looking for the coveted bi woman online tends to not be successful. why? because most bi woman who are single have a multitude of those offers even when thats not what they are looking for.

i never looked for that with my husband (tho i definately got the barrage of offers from couples) and we ended up being in a tri relationship. the girl was a friend of ours we had reunited with. she expressed her interest in both of us. and we decided why not? i find online coupling difficult between two ppl! let alone 3.

we've had two tru experiences. all of which happened organically.
that said. when u want it u cant get it. the universe is wicked!

Star: the w4mw listings are a dead end, as any woman who posts one ends up with HUNDREDS of responses. (She says, having done this in the past).

If anything, post a "couple seeking Unicorn" ad and see what happens.... but, supply and demand pretty much says that it's a (insert cliche about very small chance of success here).

Best bet would be here on Tribe (the listings here tend to be less awful to post and reply to), or friends, with friends being the most chance of success.

Craigslist has been great for single men or women (mainly one night stands, btw). It's not the best place for a couple to look. Most unicorns have decided to graze elsewhere. OkCupid has been better, but really, I think it's a difficult thing to try and find. The girls I've met to join us have been girls I've dated on my own and then we said "hey, might be fun to try playing together". As a unicorn, I met one couple at Kinky Salon and one couple on tribe, I think. ::shrug:: but I always had a few offers and only a little time, so I was pretty picky.

sorry to sound like such a doofus...but whats a "unicorn?"

Hey Star,

I have to say I never had great luck with CL, but recently I have been shocked by my good fortune. I actually met my current gf by sending her a message via her CL post. Best decision I ever made.

Since that went so well I have since posted my own ad looking for an open poly male interested in persuing a relationship, and wouldnt you know it not everyone lived in their mom's basement! Some of the guys were cute, and the one I met with - we have amazing chemistry and a connection that is out of this world.

I would have NEVER thought CL would have been so rewarding but damn if I don't owe so much to that place right now.

I say give it a try just be real specific with what you want.

Good Luck!
~Jodie~

I had *great* luck with CL and men. Not-so-great luck with women, regardless of Unicorn-hood. I'm still friends with one of my CL female dates, but given that she giggles when kissed in public, I was never interested in actually dating her.

hey everyone. this is my first time posting here, but i've been reading along here and there. i am bit shy but have decided to delurk.

anyways, i met my SO on CL a few years ago, in May 2006 - after sorting thru heaps of cock shots and weirdos mind you. anyways, we clicked right away via email and then even more so in person. we've been to 2 burns together (06 and 07) and get along famously. since we met, we've been on the lookout for a "unicorn" or perhaps even a ahem "centaur". pobably more so the former though, because i was just learning about myself and more attracted to that combo - comfort factor and all.

i was feeling bold and posted an ad on CL in the w4mw section about this time last year. we met an AWESOME sexy lady and had a blast. she moved to Indiana, but she/i still keep in close touch and email regularly.

so, my point being that it can happen online and that it can be a good thing. the interesting thing for me is that i've never had any luck at parties, events (even BM!), etc. But online is where things actually happened. Not exactly sure why?

Anyways, just thought i'd add more thoughts/experience to the mix. I'm still looking for another "spice" to add to the chex mix, but have decided not to dwell on why it isn't happening. For now, I'll just put the vibe out there (in real life only) and see what happens.