I'm an immigrant. My parents live faaaar away. So I haven't told them, as my secondary or poly relation still is quite new. But I won't hide the fact, that I'm poly. I "just" need to get hold of the right moment.

I have an uncle who is gay. So, he's representing other values than my grandparents as well. The fact that I am poly shouldn't shock my parents, even though my they seem rather conservative.

But I guess I know only for sure, when I've told them.

Same as Gorkon. I am an immigrant

I am in the closet about poly. and about my queer ways, they know I had "something" but they think it is over, and was just a phase.
My parents live in Portugal. I live in Germany.

As I am a co-organiser the first GLBT Pride march here in Porto, there **might** happen that they get more info than I realy wnated them to have, so maybe the confrontation (for queer and poly) will maybe come. I wil let you know.

I am *not* an immigrant (maybe some day ... I am still hoping).

I came out to friends and family in 2000. Unfortunately, I then suffered a psychosis, causing me to doubt my own feelings and motives. Luckily, gorkon then realized he is poly, and I am now back on track.

My mother's not handling it very well at all. For a long time, she could easily make herself believe that I had simply been "sexually frustrated". And she would certainly prefer for me not to have "such needs and desires".

We have placed our poly books rather centrally in our living room. If she doesn't want to know, she can stay away from them. But we don't talk to her about our relationships.

Other family members have been more supportive. And my dad, had he been alive today, would probably have loved the concept - which might be part of the reason why my mother hates it so. ;)

Some time ago, i told my mother about my wife having a boyfriend and us 3 "sharing" the same girlfriend. Well she was shocked :-) but said, she needs to think about it a little bit, then never came back and never asked any questions again. it might come but currently its no issue.
my wife first was a bit scared about the fact that she "knew" but nothing really changed.
since we live a very good and loving relationship, it is accepted and no issue at all.

this first poly experiences i made where very complicated because they were crossover and very stressfull cause we all needed to "learn" how to handle it, so we now go our "own ways" which help us to separate intimicy from privacy more easily.

i actually have not told my father yet (my parents are separated and married again both, kind of patchwork) and since my wife has a special place in his heart, i do not want to destroy anything there, i might leave it to her to "explain", but at last i would not hide it if there is a situation where "things become obvious".

being authentic i guess is something that parents deserve, but of course their picture of the world (morality) is something that needs to be treated with respect to my mind.

Greetings
Christoph