I have noticed that one of the most difficult things I have experienced in poly lifestyle is when there are rocky moments between 2 of the members of our family. Because we are a D/s family, the primary foundation of relationships seem to be with our Dominant rather than between submissives. There was a submissive woman that entered our family for a time and when the relationship between my Dominant and she got too rocky, they broke up. This caused my relationship with her to be cut off instantly though we did not have problems between the two of us. At the time it left a strange feeling as we were cut off from one another without any real sense of closure. I dont really know how to describe it. There is another woman in our family that came to be part of our family about 5 years ago. She and I have had a number of times over the years where our differences or disagreements would have ended our relationship had it been between only the two of us, but because neither was ready to end our relationship with our Dom, we have begrudgingly been forced to put up with each other and like children in the same house must find a way to make up and live together. Other times, when my Dom and I have had problems she has been the glue that held us together and when it is she, I think there have been times that I was that glue. When my Dominant and I have problems, she is the first to defend my perspective and I hers when the tables are turned. She and I seem to have that sisterly love that is present in biological families as a result. We care very much for one another, but have a tendency to poubt or be irritatied from time to time with each other. While there are times that I think she would be content to have me not in the picture, and while there are times that I might think that way when I am particularly annoyed, she is very much a part of my life and even though we get fed up or mad at each other from time to time, I imagine if she were not there, it would leave a hollow place in my life and in my heart. I guess the main idea behind this post is that I find that being 3 holds us and binds all of us together far more than a 2 person monogomous relationship would. We truly are a family because we are stuck with each other, care for each other, and bound together by each other. What are your thoughts/experiences with this?

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