I have realized I am just now on the "good" side of emotional availability.
For a very long time , it didn't matter how great the guy was, I couldn't envision settling with one man. I just wasn't ready.

Now I am dating with more availability I can see it from the other side. I am available and it scares people, they way it scared me when someone who I was dating wanted to get serious before. Now amount of cajolling could have made me think any differently, I was unavailable for committed intimacy.
Now I am trying to not take it personally. It's not their time. Like it wasn't my time until recently.
I had to go through 2 painful break ups to learn this lesson. I might need to learn it again.
I see so many people agonize about their relationship not being where they want it. It may be you who is not really emotionally ready for what they want, or it may be them . ( seems like it takes men eons to be ready. My friend says it takes a man about 30 years to start resembling a decent human being. Like responsibility, integrity, faithfullness wise, Women are ready a tad early) I'm 31 and just ready now though.
Anyone making this transition now? Been there, done that with the drama . Happy to be single. Ready for the real thing but having a great life in the meantime?