I've been married for 2 years now, this is about the time in my other relationships when the flames start to fade and I felt some of that going on recently. Two years is about the point when those charming little habits aren't as charming, when sex can feel routine and I don't put a lot of effort into trying new things because we've done most of that stuff, and usually when I start to question whether or not I would be better on my own. But with this relationship I made a commitment I cannot escape so easily and I also promised myself this time would be different.

So I made the difference. I thought about all of those things that I started to set aside and took the fuel from my fire and picked them up again. Making an effort to bridge the gap before it got too wide. Working on my own inner fire to stoke it up and feel more attractive and then sharing that light a warmth with him. Making an effort to take the opportunities our close proximity to one another offers when it comes to physical and mental intimacy. Just that little shift has made a big difference because fires really do want to thrive and continue to burn.

He may not have known that my fire was flagging but his enthusiastic response to my increased attention has certainly done a lot to add fuel to my efforts. This has also changed my ability to break out of my old pattern and turned a once inevitable death of a relationship into a new and exciting adventure. I can't tell you how grateful I am that I have this opportunity to reach towards my highest good with such a wonderful man.