The post on new agers inspired this thread,,,
Some folks have clear ideas of what a spiritual leader should be like....what are your expectations?
Some folks have clear ideas of what a spiritual leader should be like....what are your expectations?
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:09 PMI think the term "spiritual leader" is, at best, oxymoronic and, at worst, presumptuous. If you are truly spiritual, you don't need a leader.... -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:18 PMYes, I agree with BadAss (such a BadAss you are!)...
I think we need to lead our own spirituality, to be the spiritual leaders in our own lives, and to take on the responsibility for being our own highest authorities and developing our own personal relationships with spiritual guidance. Developing our own spiritual principles and living by them. I think in these transition times, the best concept of a spiritual leader would be someone who guides a person back to themselves...so when someone is looking to an external source/person for answers, they would be led back to their own guidance in the current moment. This requires people to hang up the idea that they are more enlightened than anyone else...and to just help people take on those principles for themselves, to assist them in discovering their own spirituality instead of prescribing any one particular path. -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 2:05 PMHA!
From "The Gospel of Thomas":
Jesus said, "If those who lead you say to you, 'See, the kingdom is in the sky,' then the birds of the sky will precede you. If they say to you, 'It is in the sea,' then the fish will precede you. Rather, the kingdom is inside of you, and it is outside of you. When you come to know yourselves, then you will become known, and you will realize that it is you who are the sons of the living father. But if you will not know yourselves, you dwell in poverty and it is you who are that poverty."
I agree with Willow, Badass, and (if the Gnostic Scriptures are true) also with Jesus. ;) -
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Fri, May 9, 2008 - 8:03 PMYeah, Jesus knew this shit. He never wanted to be held up as something superhuman or more enlightened that anyone else. He knew, ultimately, we all have the capabilities he had. So isn't it funny how the religious following has twisted it? And how so many in New Age seem to cultivate the guru/master/all-knowing, enlightened being thing? Cultivating a following or a super-enlightened mystique might actually be the legitimacy litmus test. If you do it, you really ain't all that. So back asswards.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:26 PMA little orphan on crutches being followed by mangy dog with a string of stolen sausages in its mouth.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:38 PMi'm with badass and willow on this one... the only spiritual revolution at this point is one where each individual realizes his/her own potential and responsibility. there's not one leader in this, but many leaders that becomes many more leaders, and on and on until everyone is their own leader. -
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Fri, May 9, 2008 - 8:04 PMExio...I think you put it perfectly.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 1:05 PMA living example does me just fine.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 1:33 PMTo "lead" is an interesteing concept. Today we tend to think of a "leader" as someone who directs us. But the choice of being lead is that of the individual who chooses to follow an example. Like with authority, it is not possesed by some-one and distributed to a community, but given to a particular member of the community, by the community, as recognition of thier wisdom and vision.
I think those that declare they are leaders are most likely the least fit for such duty. Leadership goes hand in hand with humility.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 2:00 PMi don't much like leaders, which seems to be the case for most people here. perhaps "spiritual example" would be better. Even there I'm not sure if I can come up with any ideas. Jesus killed that fig tree for no reason, Buddha was a misogynist, Mother Teresa was a religious zealot, St. Francis was just plain nuts.......
no, wait, i can come up with some. There's Martha, just someone who lives in my town, who studied with native americans and absorbed what they taught, and is always kind and loving and has persevered through some really trying times. there's people on tribe i know, too, who demonstrate heartfelt spirituality with trying to lay their agendas on anyone else. they can be my examples. those are the people i look to for what little spiritual guidance i'm willing to accept.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 2:10 PMI think maybe the question should have said "spiritual teachers" instead of spiritual leaders. There are some folks who have lived their lives asleep and then they may come in contact with someone who lives out their spirituality and loving kindness. They then, through whatever contact or for whatever reason, "wake up". Well, when you first start on your Path, I think it is beneficial to have a teacher(s) to mull things over with, to learn from, to share things with. A spiritual teacher, to me, is someone who is walking thier Path, not even talking it, but just being. They are not perfect, no, but they are strong. They are awake. They see the bigger picture. And most of all, they love. Love is the answer and the key to any and everything. When I first moved to NM, I had left Christianity and was not really sure where I was or even who I was. Moving here, I met a person with whom I became very close. He never said he was my teacher, I never called him my teacher. Yet, everytime we got together, we'd talk about issues in our lives, or I'd ask for advice, and it was always sound. It always calmed my soul to sit and talk with him. Another important aspect of a good teacher is someone who never stops learning. That's just what I think. Namaste! -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 9:36 PMhumility. not just proclaiming it (therein would undo the humility), but really feeling it & living it.
the people who run the sweats that i go to always state before & throughout the lodge that they are trying to live these ways & struggle just as much as anyone else. their role as the person throwing the water is not an elevated one. they need this time to pray & reflect as much as anyone else in there. those words make me feel like they truly are spiritual healers.
just BE-ing with those you're leading or teaching or healing, allowing yourself to get dirty or cry or scream or be silent, that's what will gain my respect as someone who wishes, not to follow, but certainly to learn & become whole.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 9:47 PMThis is from my blog. I apologize for its length; however, I think it is equally true of leaders as teachers.
It is time to speak about ethics, truth, and the obligation of a teacher to his/her students. I participate in an online forum in the tribe.net community called, “the Elders of the 7 New Tribes” tribe. It is a wonderful place in which we exchange knowledge, information, wisdom and most importantly our Spiritual Essences. In this lively discourse we are most importantly concerned with our mission, which is to become the “Elders” of new tribal and clan entities dedicated to evolution and ascension.
One of our most recent discussions was based on the question, “does a Shaman lie?” The departure point of this discourse was the disconnection between the teachings of Carlos Casteneda, his life and eventual death. Many people have considered it to be their duty to work as hard as they can to discredit CC and his writings. I wont engage in that discussion here but would instead prefer to examine the flow of communication between student and teacher. Most importantly are validity and veracity. Validity is the easier of the two. Validity being defined as, “The state of being valid, authentic or genuine. With valid being defined (in turn) as. “well grounded or justifiable, pertinent, acceptable, proper or correct. Related to the current topic, or presented within context, relevant.”
More to the nature of the relationship between student and teacher is the concept of veracity. Veracity is defined as, “the quality of being true, honest or accurate.” That is also the very definition of “Teacher”. In it usage a teacher is one who is true, honest and/or accurate. That has been the central theme of my pedagogy in it's application to my students. Lao Tzu stated in “The Hua Hu Cheng”, “Today I speak in this fashion, tomorrow in another, but always the Integral Way is beyond words and beyond mind.” This is the modus of my instruction. I said (on tribe.net), “I teach Magi. I have a student on the Path of the Wizard now. In my instruction of him, I speak in this fashion today, tomorrow in another; yet I never tell him an untruth.” Those of you who are my students reading this now know this well. Some of you have been frustrated by it but, I believe all of you will acknowledge the accuracy of that statement.
But this is not always true of those who offer instruction and drape the mantel of Teacher upon their shoulders. My friend (also on tribe) Vikki said, “When I was just finding my path, in my impressionable teen years, my local hang out was an occult book store. I met a guy there who helped me a lot and showed me that my path was in front of me. I realized that my feelings and instincts were real and that I was not the only one who felt them. After several years, this man began to ask favours of me, which slowly became of a more personal nature. I won’t (can’t?) go into detail here but that was a very dark time for me. I felt trapped and afraid and eventually I had to leave the city I loved to escape him.”
This was not the experience of just Vikki, many people have had relationships with these sort of individuals. As a result many people abandon the Path and the world is much poorer for it.
My tribe friend Jason responded to Vikki, by saying, “Vikki; it is somewhat sad that you had that experience and it is powerful that, over time, you found the silver lining, but would it not have been better to have had a genuine teacher who was in their integrity to have started you out in "a good way"? If 3 or 4 had been available you would have had a better chance of getting one who was connected to Spirit, ALWAYS!”
Following up on Jason’s contribution to the discussion, my friend Shine Cassandra added, “If a teacher has good intentions upon setting out, they should (IMHO) put whatever checks and balances into place they think would be effective in making sure that if they ever spiral out of control or 'disconnect' to a place where they are not allowing themselves to be cognizant of harm they are causing, they will get a wake-up call from others- even if it is just in the way of all your group/students leaving you. Or adding Ethics along with basic material and making sure (even as common sense and obvious it may seem) reviewing them every once in a while, or at least applying them to circumstances. Then if you step out of your own boundaries that you teach, then they can call ya on it. And speaking of leaving, (IMHO) a leader/teacher should refrain from being vindictive, bitter, or harsh about or to those who wish to leave- no matter how much it stings. The door should be open at all times. If a leader/teacher feels like too much swishing back and forth goes on at that door, then the best thing to do is monitor/counsel who comes in it in the first place, rather then shutting it down on those who enter it. I find Isaac Bonewits occult to cult test tool is very interesting for he points out that if a leader/teacher exhibits too many of the traits listed, it is definetly unhealthy, but if none or too little of the traits are found, then there might be no cohesive structure or group identity. As for the original subject that was to be for this thread.
I am a Witch, and I give that part of myself wings by participating in Gardnerian witchcraft (among others) and I have had to contend with the idea that ol uncle Gardner's oral history did'nt quite jel with actual personal accounts, or lack thereof as to his official story. What was it they say... if someone wanted to see a document or scroll or to give credence to whatever, he would disappear into his study and imerge with 'an ancient document dripping with wet ink'.
So a) very likely he added a lot of his own written material to whatever may have existed in writing or the heads of some folkloric cunning folk b) Gardnerian Witchcraft is too synchronistic with other paths to all be bunk- plus he was a student or observer of many Mystery and occult paths, including in the far east c) given that the preist/esses practising it are ethical and effective, it functions as a Mystery Tradition, an esoteric system to gather together like-minded individuals, and a path of spiritual evolution.”
Bonewits’ method/tool is a wonderful resource and I recommend it to anyone seeking to meter the qualities of organizations and individuals that they wish to learn from or study with. It can be accessed online at the following: www.celticcrow.com/bonew.html
The tool is based upon a review of the following areas:
Internal control
Wisdom claimed
Wisdom credited
Dogma
Recruiting
Front Groups
Wealth
Political Power
Sexual Manipulation
Censorship
Dropout Control
Violence
Paranoia
Grimness
Surrender of Will
Hypocrisy
These are the danger signals that all seekers should be cognizant of and on the alert for in their selection of teachers and organizations. There are palpable dangers on this Path. They are; loss of sanity, peril to the soul, and death. These dangers must be considered at all times. A charlatan or impostor will “pooh pooh” the risks and tell you “trust me and don’t worry”. Such advice is the greatest source of risk the seeker can touch.
Dr. F. Israel Regardie said (in his opus work “The Tree of Life”), “A bad poet or a bad musician is but a reproach to his particular art, and his name soon perishes from the memory of his people. A charlatan or an impostor magician, however, imperils the whole world, casting a heavy veil on the translucent light of the spirit which it was his principal duty to bring to the sons of men.” This danger is amplified by orders of magnitude by the charlatan or impostor teacher of Magi. This individual creates the impostor and or charlatan magicians who don’t even know that they are impostors or charlatans!
There is no greater prayer for a teacher to pray than the supplication of Thoth to the Masters of the Halls of Amenti (from the Emerald Tablets);
O, great master, let me be a teacher of men, leading then onward and upward until they, too, are lights among men; freed from the veil of the night that surrounds them, flaming with light that shall shine among men.
I have prayed this prayer many times. I carry it in my heart at all times and dedicate my life to its fulfillment. If anyone you encounter offering to be your teacher or guide does not offer up his prayer and dedication to this ideal; get another teacher. -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 10:00 PMAl, beautifully said..
I'll add my views as well.
I recently had an encounter with someone in the Seminary. She wanted to speak to me. i questioned her reasons...and she reacted in surprise, because I did not follow blindly. She then tried to manipulate me by using psychological terminology to guilt and shame me into accepting her uninvited offer of assistance. I was trying to simply explain my hestitations and not necessarily reject the opportunity. But she was so busy trying to be "right" that she failed to hear what I was indeed saying...so in the same conversation because I questioned her reasons for wanting to speak to me...she then accused me of being "resistant" and that she will be "heard"
So then the conversation got ugly.
I turned around and told her. She's talking down to me and not with me, And that her patronizing style will not make me trust her. And that I was not a puppet who followed without questioning...
I still have no idea what she wanted to talk to me about...and don't concern myself with it
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 10:23 PMI think the roles of a spiritual guide/leader/teacher....
should be one that encourages the individual to become their own person.
We don't make anyone spiritual, enlighten or "saved". We are simply instruments that allow people to develop their own innate skills.
I've been teaching metaphysics since the late 80's. I began teaching during a period that people were getting into "guru"s, and basically listening to anyone and everyone with a message of salvation. I got turned off by many folks who took advantage of the innocence and vulnerbility of folks in pain...this is why I have strong opinions and distrust and anger with SOME new agers...not all of them of course.
I got my Reiki teacher's training in the very early 90's. I waited 3 years to become a teacher,,,refused to call myself a master, since I felt it creates a false line of division and superiority. Yet many use that title as if it gave them wings
Frankly I think many spiritual leaders of full of themselves ....and use the role to make themselves feel holier then thou and take advantage of people
However, I also know many many wonderful spiritual leaders that have taught me how to allow my humanness to work for me...
I can not pretend to be something I am not. As a minister I refuse to pretend to be holier then others...my spiritual relationship is personal and I don't need to behave superior to anyone in order to feel I am enlighten.
I also don't believe in shaming people...everyone has their own process...and need to go through what they have to go through...I will say one of the main things many of patients will say about me, is I don't make them feel bad about things....when they relapse or do things that sabotage their lives...I don't shame or guilt them. I validate their feelings...and basically help them learn whatever they can from their setbacks...
However, i have not always been prefect in that either...I did shame someone once for having unprotected sex with someone, knowing he was HIV positive...I did feel bad for shaming him...funny that happend over 15 years ago and I still feel bad..ok so I am not made of bricks
I do not believe in false niceness...the goddess/god sees our true heart and true intentions...why fake what's really inside of you? For what? for whom?
I will probably never ever have a church..I have no money for a building...I can live with that. I will probably never ever make much money...I am used to that. I will probably never preach other then to my two cats...and they don't speak english nor care, but they sure know how to pretend to listen.
As a spiritual guide...I am just available for folks who need someone to talk to who won't judge them for being imperfect, for not doing everything correct....if they ask me for my honest opinion...I will say what I think. If they want to know if I think they are scewed up...I might be say it...depends if they are not armed and big.
to be honest...I have a few spiritual teachers who I trust, not because they are angelic. But because they are real and sincere about their humanness...my mentor curses...she's spicy and a minister..she's the reason I became a minister...the dean who runs the school...I love her. She's real. She will have compassionate and can get pissed off as well....
for me the ideal is someone who is still a person.
someone who is a role model...who lives the live they preach about...I don't like someone to tell me how to live, think or be...I prefer to see how its done...be the role model...
my favorite teachers are buddhist, because I find they often live the life they preach about...I hope one day to achieve that -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 10:38 PMi will not be polite to keep fake peace...
I will not avoid confrontation to maintain fake happiness...
as a spiritual leader...i will speak from the heart...and unfortunate I know some folks don't like how my heart beat..and that's ok
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 10:45 PMAnd this is why I love you so. I am hugging you on the Spiritual Plane righ now. You are soooo special. -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 10:55 PMthank you sweet pea :) hugging you back
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 9:52 PMpastor, ministers, priest, rabbi, high priestess, shamans are considered spiritual leaders...
www.thefreedictionary.com/spiri...leader
spiritual leader - a leader in religious or sacred affairs
leader - a person who rules or guides or inspires others
hazan, cantor - the official of a synagogue who conducts the liturgical part of the service and sings or chants the prayers intended to be performed as solos
Catholicos - the ecclesiastical title of the leaders of the Nestorian and Armenian churches
clergyman, man of the cloth, reverend - a member of the clergy and a spiritual leader of the Christian Church
Evangelist - (when capitalized) any of the spiritual leaders who are assumed to be authors of the Gospels in the New Testament: Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John
patriarch - title for the heads of the Eastern Orthodox Churches (in Istanbul and Alexandria and Moscow and Jerusalem)
Bishop of Rome, Catholic Pope, Holy Father, pontiff, pope, Roman Catholic Pope, Vicar of Christ - the head of the Roman Catholic Church
non-Christian priest, priest - a person who performs religious duties and ceremonies in a non-Christian religion
rabbi - spiritual leader of a Jewish congregation; qualified to expound and apply Jewish law
shaman - indigeous cultures -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 10:03 PMI agree with BadAss and Willow. But....
I also understand that some are nourished by others who can support and help them channel their intents and desires. So I think there is a place for leaders.
But like others said, to lead back into the individual heart, versus recruit or campaign, seems healthiest to me.
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Thu, May 8, 2008 - 12:57 AMthe role of spirituality in our lives... alot could be said about that. A whole new topic.
The success of our species has been propelled by our spirit and the practices, sacrifices
and ceremonies we use to express it. A celebration of our greater selves, our greater mystery, and our awareness of the universe. A way to know truly and deeply ourselves and others in spirit. I believe in the power of spirit, for which I am a part.
I am very uncomfortable with the current leaders of the world who are more like religous fanatics than spiritual leaders. I do not want a zealot that creates a good vs evil complex in the minds and egos of our culture, communities and country. Religion is the 'practice' of spirituality, yet, many people believe that the practice itself is the spirituality.
My personal desire and hope is that soon there will be someone walking a true spiritual path who has the vision and the calling to lead. A spiritual leader is one who is aware of themselves and the true nature of others, has a compassionate message and lives it, a negotiator of energy to really help see things into action. A person with a strong and sincere personal creed, one which they are knowingly willing to be held to. A public servant.
What a task to help the billions of people to become aware... so many energies to release, resolve, restore and consciously create.
That's where the individual responsibility comes in... to start consciously and intuitively moving forward. First and foremost, with ourselves, because we can't give anything if we have nothing. Second with our loved ones and friends and those close to us, because family is our security blanket (for real). Then, step to the world outside and the world at large. Embrace the whole of humanity and all it's suffering. Embrace the whole Earth and thank it for not killing us off yet. We promise to try harder.. right everyone!
We do live in a democracy and a system of order for which we depend (some of us) and need to seriously work with and look at. Coming together with some serious intent for change. The change we want, the change we feel, the change we know and don't know.
I think I'll start a new topic now.
with metta ~ lovingkindness
thanx for the discussion
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Fri, May 9, 2008 - 11:06 AMeryn...feel free to post it..
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Fri, May 9, 2008 - 11:21 AMI think the title of one's occupation does not really mold the personality. I think its the personality that takes on the occupation...
I learned a long time ago, when I became a therapist and got into the new age arena. Many people have completely specific ideas of how people are suppose to behave in certain roles...and if you really think about it, where do those ideas come from?
Many people have no personal experience in seeing what it takes to become a therapist, a minister...etc. Yet they assume they know how a person in those roles are "suppose" to behave.
I'll be honest, when I became a therapist I was shocked by the number of uncaring and cold people who became therapist. I was also taken by surprise how many had patients come over to their place clean, one therapist married a patient, one therapist revealed to her patients she used drugs...
I was also shocked when I realized there were a number of greedy folks getting into the new age movement...and now as a minister I've learned there are a number of people who become minister to "influence" how people think.
I learned one thing...there isn't a "absolute" way to do things. We might disagree on how things should be done...our training in certain fields has a lot to do with the ideals we adopt in certain fields...
For myself if I had been trained to be a minister through a Christain base religion only. I would have had strong opinions on how things "should" be done, all based on my training. Now because I was trained through an Interfaith system, we were trained to be more tolerant and accepting of all types of systems...we're encouraged to look at all angles before quickly selecting a side...we were taught to put ourselves in the shoes of religions we normally disagree with.. and consider all options before taking a quick stand on something.
Now the main thing we were taught...be yourself. Realize that people will all have their fixed ideas on how a "minister" should behave. The fact is not all ministers behave the same, since not all ministers adhere to the same dogma...and even when they share the same training and spiritual path, each person has an individual viewpoint and relationship with their HP that overrides the rules of men/women.
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Fri, May 9, 2008 - 11:41 AMThe proper role of a spiritual leader is to reflect the divinitiny of his students back at them. We are all God. We just need to realize it. A spiritual leader guides us in this process. -
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Fri, May 9, 2008 - 11:38 PMGracefully stated, Jon. It is so true. I would like to share a comment I heard recently from a dear woman and friend and teacher to me, during a discussion on teachers and the qualities that make a difference; 'a good teacher is not one that teaches other's what to think, but rather, how to think for themselves'. I thought of that comment when I read yours.
I can only speak for, and be responsible for myself, and as such, I cannot expect anyone's learning, knowing, truth or experience to be identical to mine. And thank goodness! Without the opportunity to reach out to others and externally experience their truth's, from my own point of reference; my point of reference would still be solely... myself.
Many people operate out of a completely ego objective and reality. Always trying to move up in the world, at the cost and expense of whatever asset is necessary to obtain personal satisfaction. As a therapist by nature, because of my compassion and empathic sense, I could not imagine following a path that my heart and soul were not completely in agreement with. I do recognize even the agreements that are painfull and seemingly purposeless, because I know, ulitimately, that all is truth.
One of these times when I'm online and it's not after midnight, I'll post a new topic. Soon, for sure. I like to communicate.
Thank you, too, for sharing with me.
Expression is my life purpose.
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Sat, May 10, 2008 - 10:27 AMHonestly I don't look for spiritual guidance in others, I look for inspiration. Because I don't subscribe to any religion I'm not limited to those I would draw inspiration from. Most of the time my inspiration isn't even directly "spiritual" but because everything that I do directly relates to my spirit even mundane concerns can become life changing decisions.
What inspires me? Well mostly I take inspiration from free thinkers who march to their own tune. Evangelical people don't inspire me, it's the quiet person creating in the corner that draws my interest. I don't listen to those people standing on their soapbox telling others what to do, I watch those people who are quite happy to do what pleases them most and if you want to join them then that's fine too. I'm not looking for a leader because I don't like to be led, I'm more aware of the Hermit who carries his lantern inside to light his own way. -
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Sat, May 10, 2008 - 11:21 AMa teacher tells, good teachers explain, a better teacher demonstrates, the best teacher inspires.
Hi I've been active here a bit, i haven't really introduced myself, I'm a musician and live in eugene oregon. Alot of things relate to my experience in that never ending learning process. In my experience music is truly one of the greatest gifts we have. it is a spiritual form of communication and can transcend verbal language. It can truly give us peace and joy and soothe our hearts. it can also teach us stupid things too. We can learn all these complicated things and skills and sometimes they can cause us to run into walls with our "technique". Sometimes a person who has never studied a note of music can be naturally incredibly musical. I've heard drummers in new orleans who've never looked at a rudiment just "killin it". And i know classically trained players who cannot play without a piece opf paper in front of them. Are they musicians or just hired guns? My point is no one owns knowledge and sometimes tradional ways keep us stuck. because traditions must also evolve and change. We are all teachers and students. Sometimes the smallest voice can be the most profound. It's a never ending process. I don't ever want to be "saved" because then i'm all done working on myself! You all have a good day and i'll catch up with you later'
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Sun, May 11, 2008 - 1:20 PMJezebel, me too. I liked your post. :-)
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