Ok so three years ago I was with a man, who left me with no word. Everything had been going well up to that point. After he left I found out I was pregnant. I tried to reach him but he never replied. I decided to go it alone and have my son. He was gone for about 18 months. He came back last summer. I did not know how to tell him at all. Everything had been taken care of for my son, who is now a happy and healthy two year old. I decided to not tell him right away to see what he had to say about leaving. He basically did not have anythng dramatic to say. I tried to tell him for many many many months but I just could not bring myself to share that part of him with him yet mainly because I felt his behavior was less than geniuine and the need to protect my son. Despite these feelings, I felt guilty because I thought he should know - at the very least of his son. In addition, we were having problems in communicating. Nevertheless, things reached a furiously bad turning point and we decided to not speak again. It was at that point that I decided to tell him. Well he called me a liar and wanted proof. He gave me some fax number to send documentation to. I faxed him documentation. and he claims he never got it. This was about 3 weeks ago and we have not spoken since then. It was then I decided to withhold any further info about his son from him. If he thinks I am a liar, then he thinks I am a liar and there is nothing I can do about it. I don;t feel it is my responsibility to share any part with him feuled mainly in part because for the past two years I have been doing this all on my own, with the financial and moral and emotional support of a very loving family and a happy healthy son. I feel sad in a way that he is not involved with his son, but if he thinks I am a liar, what am I to do? I dont feel the "need' to do anything or to prove to him the existence of his son (who he has not seen). Thoughts? Advice?