"I think people with neptune in the first house dont really have any boundaries between themselves and other people "

This is a huge issue for me. It isn't around judgement (because my Scorpio takes over all that and is extremely black and white about the whole thing), but it is around input. I get way too much input from people (and everything else really). I can get zapped instantly by being around too many people, especially if they are talking amongst themselves and moving. I can't handle all of the input and I seem to only be able to tune it out by tuning it completely out (which means I won't hear them even if they talk to me). I just don't have these filters. I think that's a huge reason why I can't handle being around children. They have so much more energy than adults that I feel instantly bombarded by them when they aren't doing anything out of the ordinary at all. Even so, I go into immediate overload and have to leave. It's really crazy.

I'm also way too tuned in to "everything else." When I was young I could see everything and hear everything. It was like being in a universe full of chattering people at all times and like standing on a busy street of New York with all these people/beings crammed together. Very disconcerting. I learned to tune that out because it freaked people out, but for me it was just normal. I had no idea why I could do that so hearing "Stop it" didn't make much sense. LOL I finally did learn how to stop it so I could function here.