I'll let you transform me if you let me transform you?

I've read about these 'transformative' relationships I was supposed to be having...and aside from throwing up walls or tearing some down, the men I've dated haven't had much of an effect on my psyche.

It's important to me, though, that I affect others. In my low states, I wonder if I've ever had an effect on anyone. Then, sometimes, people come around years later telling me how I showed them the negative aspects of how they were treating people. It comes around time and time again, and while I'm sad that I've made them feel bad about themselves, I'm glad I made them confront it (even if I never have any idea that I'm doing it)

1. Ex boyfriend- dated five months, but after that time, it tore me apart that he didn't want to actually be exclusive with me (i used the term boyfriend loosely). I dumped him once when he stood me up. We got back together a week later and it didn't take me long to dump him again. 8 years later, he shows up again, wondering why I dumped him then, and apologizing for not recognizing me for who I was at the time.

2. Recent boyfriend- dumped me because he knew he was selfish, inconsiderate, and every time he brought up something dark and didn't see it reflected in me, it made him so keenly aware that I wasn't for him. Took a lot of reflection on my part to realize that this is the true reason for our break up. I didn't want to find the pits of darkness in humanity and sex with him, I was open to friendships unlike him, I enjoyed sunlight and was a bit more open-minded...etc.

I'm thankful that in some small way, I have made my mark upon the world, but I wish for once I could be in a romantic relationship where I don't make people realize exactly how 'bad' they are...maybe just how good they are.

for me it literally seems like the theme to my life...i am constantly growing and wanting to grow and regenerate...constantly going through crazy transformations...usually in painful ways but not always...its trippy how we chose to make things so painful in our lives just so we make sure it seeps into our soul and we remember what it is we need to know! its like the harder we make things for ourselves and the more pain we have the more intense and deep our transformation will be...yet when thats done it just starts over again with something else...its sort of bitter sweet in a sense

i am sun aries, rising scorpio, virgo moon, mars capricorn and venus in pisces. i seem to completely attract people who normally avoid me like a plague for god knows whatever reasons but somehow i'm the first person they run to when they are down in the dump. i feel used but still, i never turned anyone away. so yes, i'm the 'janitor' - clean them up, get them back on their feet and then off they go never to be seen again. not all of course.. there are some who have been great friends and if that is the sort of pattern you are referring to that is in your life, then, yes.. - that is part of "transformation"..

transformation.. a perfect example of scorpio's tendancy to transform himself just walked in the front door here..thats me. aries sun/scorpio moon/scorpio rising...there is no sign that is more inclined to transform him/her self than an aries native with a scorpio moon.. much of that emphasis on transformation of the mind and body comes from the aries passion, creativity and unmatched confidence in oneself with the added potency of a scorpios inner need for control and the way he/she constantly keeps the best grip on any situation obtaining every possible advantage.. transformation usually occurs mostly in scorpio moon people reason bieng their emotions are the primary trigger for this..but signs of needed or wanted transformation will surface on a scorpio asc.. that individual will usually give in to that proposed change no matter what his/her sun sign may be because scorpio asc somewhat dominates the impressions of any sun.

I've transformed the men I've been with, friends I've made and companies where I've worked. As a matter of fact my strong point is to come into departments that are in complete disarray and transform them. As a manager I've had people who reported to me tell me that I completely transformed them at work so that they achieved more and had an easier time after they worked for me.

After I read about the transformation propensity in Scorpio Rising, I became more convinced than ever that my birth time was right and I was 0 00 Scorpio Rising and not Libra Rising which produces a completely different reading. I'm Libra Sun and with Scorpio Rising it makes complete sense with all the aspects of my life. So for me it made complete sense.