This should be interesting.
What are your feelings about it? Is it something you like to do?
If you're single, I suppose it's more likely. How about those in relationships? Do you still tend to like to flirt with others? (and likewise, are you OK with someone who is clearly involved in a relationship, flirting with you?)
What are your feelings about it? Is it something you like to do?
If you're single, I suppose it's more likely. How about those in relationships? Do you still tend to like to flirt with others? (and likewise, are you OK with someone who is clearly involved in a relationship, flirting with you?)
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Sun, February 24, 2008 - 3:51 AMwhen i flirt i dont even realize im doing it! my style of flirting is playful.... laughing a whole lot, maybe throwing things at eachother. thats it.... maybe i have flirted with someone else while in a relationship but i probably didnt notice cos like i said i dont do it on purpose! -
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Sun, February 24, 2008 - 12:01 PMwhen i flirt...I think I become quit different and silent...or I talk a lot because I want the person I'm flirting with to see how different I am from others...sun merc and venus in aquarius -
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Sun, February 24, 2008 - 3:25 PMUgh, I hate flirting. I think it's so superficial; it's game-playing in my reason, and I'm not one to play games. But, if I should have to answer, I suppose my way of flirting would making eye-contact with the guy, and hoping he'd be the one to take the initiative. -
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Sun, February 24, 2008 - 7:34 PMmona i agree... and id rather be the one being pursued then flirting with a guy to get his attention. i always tell people that accuse me of "flirting" that i dont even know how to flirt! lol because its true... i guess if im interested in someone i will naturally act cheerful, and laugh a lot.....and i guess to some it looks like flirting. like i said i dont even know how to flirt!!
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Sun, February 24, 2008 - 9:03 PMHey Mona,
You said it!
I've never been one who could really flirt. Like you said, it all feels like one big game to me, and when it comes to the subject of emotions, I don't like games, at all. I've never been one who could just be shallow about my feelings; many people flirt, and it means absolutely nothing to them; I could never be someone, where it would mean nothing to me. I've just never been wired that way. I personally don't like people who flirt (especially one's who already are married, or are in a steady relationship) with others, knowing that they really have no intentions of trying to establish something serious with someone.
However, if someone was to flirt with me, I'd have to know for sure that this person really wants something substantial with me, as opposed to just playing games for a quick ego-stroke. Now, *that* behavior rubs me the wrong way, and when I see it happening, I pretty much shun them off. -
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Mon, February 25, 2008 - 5:34 AMHmmm...seems like there are more non-flirtatious versions of Scorp risings than flirtatious.
I'm of the flirtatious variety. I wouldn't say I do it all the time, but I do it when I'm interested in someone. If I'm feeling effervescent, I'll flirt with whole rooms, men and women, unintentionally.
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Mon, February 25, 2008 - 6:12 AMI'm not flirtatious..........I might be in more subtle ways when I'm single. (not in very obvious ways).......when I'm in a relationship I do not flirt with others, and I become extremely upset if the person that I"m with flirts with others as well -
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Mon, February 25, 2008 - 7:29 AMit really all depends on how you define flirting..i'm playful with some of my friends...but that to ME is playful...not flirtatious..i find myself to be more on the friendly side as i would talk to a person who seems to be out of place or a bit lost in a social setting...i talk to those that are outcasts or that others find different or strange...so i guess i'm just friendly....since i don't feel attraction necessarily in a sexual way but in an "i'm interested in who you are" way...
i would hate if i had a boyfriend who flirts and i wouldn't disrespect him by flirting...
i guess i associate flirting with sexuality and allure...so i would say when in a relationship it's inappropriate...
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Mon, February 25, 2008 - 11:00 AMI don't like flirting. It's so...... strange, I think. You won't see me flirt with someone I just met. I definitely associate flirting & sex. "If" I decide to flirt with someone, it's because I already know that I am interested in them, that I want them.
Don't you just hate it when complete strangers start flirting with you and act like they got your number? What a waste of time....
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Mon, February 25, 2008 - 11:21 AMthat's true...
get away from me...LOL
ewww!
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Mon, February 25, 2008 - 11:26 AM<.......when I'm in a relationship I do not flirt with others, and I become extremely upset if the person that I"m with flirts with others as well >
Amaranth, I hear you. I get very uncomfortable too if my partner's attention strays, even if it is just innocent fun. I guess for Scorps, there is no such thing as "innocent fun" when it comes to love and partnerships -
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Tue, February 26, 2008 - 11:44 AMtrue what all of you have said. I am the same way. I despise flirting.
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Mon, March 3, 2008 - 9:03 PMI like you, you like me, let's fuck.
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Wed, March 5, 2008 - 2:28 AMthat's not flirting. that's reAl.
I don't do anything superficially either but I do like to test the boundaries or see if i am tested. -
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Wed, March 5, 2008 - 7:23 AMI am often considerd a flirt. but that not really it. I like to make people feel good about them selves, and I have a way of cutting to the real person. So there is always a hint of an intamacy. superfical crap is a major pet peve for me.
I think there is always a subtle vibe of sexual tention with the scorpio Asc folks. but more to the point
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Wed, March 5, 2008 - 12:15 PMActually, if I ever appear to be flirting with a guy, it's almost a definite answer that I'm NOT into him! If I were deep into him, I'd probably hardly dare to speak, lol, and I'd certainly not openly *flirt* with him. I'd rather try to have a normal yet somehow private and personal conversation -
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Wed, March 5, 2008 - 1:54 PMi like joking around and being playful with everyone..just laughing and having a good time. i think sometimes it can come across as "flirting" but i do it with anyone that i feel is a friend... and if i feel that im giving someone the wrong idea...(maybe they like me and they think i like them too)...i will completely shut myself off from that person. no more talking at all and i will just avoid them as much as possible...dont wanna give anyone the wrong idea!! but other than being nice and friendly i dont know how to flirt. -
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Wed, March 5, 2008 - 1:56 PMand i think its save to say that scorpio rising- doesnt like flirting!! maybe we're just way too sexy to even have to try to flirt to get someones attention ; ) LOL -
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Wed, March 5, 2008 - 1:59 PMLOL MK! I think I would tend to agree with that, sometimes :-)
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Sat, March 8, 2008 - 6:14 AMhi, it's funny this thread is here. because recently i've been thinking, i need to flirt more. Im not flirtatious but i am friendly. So i think i am more friendly to people i don't fancy. I feel uncomfortable with people i have the hots for and find flirting difficult. with a person, im very attracted to, i find it very difficult to flirt. i wish, i could lighten up a bit and flirt with guys i really fancy. I've been single too long for this reason -
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Sat, March 8, 2008 - 1:37 PM;0 hi Mona!
im glad im not the only one! lol
inside i could be lost in a private sexual fantasy under a cool exterior. it's very frustrating at times. I can be very jealous when someone im with is flirting with another. But i try to focus my energy on something else. jealousy and possessiveness are very overpowering emotions. So now i choose to relax a bit more and just focus on chatting to others and paying no heed. I don't mind friendly flirting from a friends mate as long as it doesn't overstep my boundaries, then i start to feel awkward. flirting comes natural to lots of people so i try not to hold it against them, it's just not natural to me
So what is a better way to subtlety let someone u really like know you are interested without flirting. any suggestions?
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Mon, March 10, 2008 - 1:40 AMin dates - i never go out with people i don't fancy -
i just "forget" that i want them.
it blows over into the relationship though.
so i wouldn't advise it.
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Mon, March 10, 2008 - 5:41 AMYou could just tell them you like them. Buuuuuuuuut, in my experience, men tend to get their panties in a wad when you put them on the spot to get going on the courtship. LOL.
I appear to be one of the rare Scorp Asc. flirters. I don't do it cruelly with people who are obviously insecure though- that would be mean. Would I rather sit in the middle of a field or something and have someone come up to me and make it clear they're into me? OH YES. But I've accepted the limits of male perceptiveness, so I play the coy game until they get the hint. Such a tightrope: Can't be too aggressive, can't be too meek. It's truly exhausting being a girl. At least if I was a man, i could do the caveman thing. So simple, so sexy, so uncomplicated. "You and I are going out. i'm picking you up at 7. Wear something sexy."
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Mon, March 10, 2008 - 11:35 AM< in my experience, men tend to get their panties in a wad when you put them on the spot to get going on the courtship. LOL. >
No kidding! I scared a guy away just like that once, and I thougt he was so mean about it too; whenever he sees me now, he acts like he doesn't and just vanishes... Would a simple hello kill him? I mean, what the hell did I do, all I said was that I liked him ... Go figure :-/ -
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Mon, March 10, 2008 - 4:42 PMI think our 'Hey, i like you' must come across as a challenge to war, because nothing makes them run faster. Soon, they're yammering on about commitment and how they can't be tied down and how you always want more from them than they want to give and blah blah blah.
*rolls eyes*
Men talk a lot about wanting women to do the heavy lifting of asking them out, but in truth, they want us to ask them out in a way that makes them feel like they're asking us out. Which is impossible...unless we go 'Um, you think you want to take me out sometime?", which happens to be playing the coy card that so many of the scorp asc.'s hate. -
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Mon, March 10, 2008 - 10:45 PMAgain, Lexie I'm gonna call you on your generalizations...nope, I like direct requests from women, I like to know where a woman stands and where I stand in her eyes when she approaches me, and yes I don't want to have to always be the gender that does the Big Ask.
Re flirting, I like being flirted with, I don't start flirts well but can respond to one and "flirt back", and I don't think flirting and being direct are mutually exclusive, one can easily lead to the other (flirting->direct) or cycle down to the other (direct->flirting) -
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Tue, March 11, 2008 - 6:59 AMI understand that I speak in generalizations. I guess for the purposes of this group, it should always be assumed that 'this has been my experience'. It's exhausting to qualify everything I say. ;)
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Mon, March 10, 2008 - 10:40 PM>>At least if I was a man, i could do the caveman thing. So simple, so sexy, so uncomplicated. "You and I are going out. i'm picking you up at 7. Wear something sexy."<<
These men are from a different planet than I. Not in ten thousand years would I come close to saying that to somebody.
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Mon, March 10, 2008 - 10:51 PMvery fine line between
Strong-- Asshole.
Sensitive--Wimp.
We have our own delicate tight rope to traverse.
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Tue, March 11, 2008 - 4:12 PMyou're right Dragon..there is a fine line...it's tough but we are animals and there are some things that are eternally engraved in us that we just can't explain...i've found some men sexy when my friends couldn't understand....soooo
it is what it is...
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Tue, March 11, 2008 - 7:00 AMI know not all men are like this...some men are.
Sigh.
This is clear. Should not have to be stated all the time.
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Tue, March 11, 2008 - 7:55 AMBut let's be honest. That would only work if they looked like Dadniel Day lewis or Joaquin Phoenix. LOL -
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Tue, March 11, 2008 - 8:08 AMok so i metioned i'm not a flirt generally but if i really like someone i'll make it a point to interract throughout a night...for instance, if he's getting a drink i'll say, would you mind getting me a vodka soda...thanks...he brings it back and i trike up a conversation...so how do you like the party? that's only if i know him (even a little bit)
if i don't know him at all, then i'll probably just make eye contact and smile...if he doesn't get it then to hell with it..too bad for him...LOL
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Tue, March 11, 2008 - 9:21 PMI'm what I call "socially flirtatious," which I guess just means really friendly, very gregarious...
I was in a relationship with a guy not too long ago who - in a weak moment due to being under the influence of pot - confessed that he thought I had flirted with every guy at a bar we had attended... and specifically one he pointed out was gay. Which I found hysterical at first (I turn into a silly little school girl around most of my gay boyfriends), then realized he really did perceive me as flirting. I had to stop and contemplate my behavior for awhile after that. Turns out this guy - despite having spent much time in open relationships and boasting an aversion to jealousy - was completely and utterly the jealous type. Love is blind... -
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Wed, March 12, 2008 - 5:50 AMI think an amount of jealousy is healthy for a relationship. If neither remotely cares if the other runs off with some floozy, exactly what sort of future, if any, were you planning to have with this person?
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Fri, March 14, 2008 - 10:02 PMThat is a good point.
My situation was just really hilarious because I wasn't flirting with anyone.
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Tue, March 25, 2008 - 2:00 PMYeah, I do it. It's totally harmless, I'm a zaftig lady and obviously it wouldn't go anywhere.
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Sun, April 13, 2008 - 9:13 PMI feel pretty much inept at flirting,it feels fake and forced and I hate that.If genuinely like somebody it's easier for me to smile or make small talk,but for me it's something that just 'bubbles out' when I'm off guard.I feel I give off mixed messages too much of the time.I am not ok with someone who's in a relationship flirting with me,I'll get that more often than not and it always bugs me.I don't flirt with men when I'm in a relationship,at least not seriously.For the most part it depends on the person and how I feel around them,some people it's easy to,others I simply can't.By the way I'm a newbie. -
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Tue, April 15, 2008 - 6:30 AMWell somewhat of a newbie anyway,had a different name when I used to be here,decided to come back.Sorry for the confusion.
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Tue, July 1, 2008 - 9:45 PMi personally don't try to flirt, but i do without realising it. eh, i must be good at it if i don't try lol -
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Wed, July 2, 2008 - 1:03 PMi never thought i knew how to 'flirt' or 'pick up' or whatever... but then ended up with a jealous partner - and did i ever hear about it then.
I believe in being intimately connected to my internal experience and from there being as earnest and authentic as i know how in my expression and interactions with others. honest and open eyes; id rather be on the edge of a smile than a frown or grimace; looking out/into my world with frank curiosity and confident wonderment.
generally if im going to interact with someone at all beyond social necessity (buying groceries ect), there needs to be a spark of recognition and kinship. with opportunity, that spark can be cultivated in any number of ways. but any connection is based upon it. this has gotten me in all sorts of trouble - "AH! a spark! it must be Love!"(when, for example, my thought is "welcome brother") - but i judge that to be a pathology of our disconnected society (ie: conxn = romance).
if i feel a really juicy spark and want to act on it, I don't know how to describe it besides becoming more 'negatively charged' or magnetic. if the appropriate energy is there, it will be drawn towards me (paradoxically by emptying myself to the potential of the moment). i almost withdraw my selfness to create a vacuum that is filled with the energy of the other - the expression of which i have some influence via the 'shape' of the 'container'.
right now im really luxuriating in the delicious tingles of earnest - but lighthearted - crushing. Yum. -
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Wed, July 2, 2008 - 2:29 PMi personally luv flirting, and i do it alot, but thanks 2 the abundance of gemini in my chart my attention could be scattered on 100s of em at the same time, hahahaaaa
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