Cross-posted from ze Lane...but I believe it shall buy me another week here...or maybe not.
Here goes:
Today, 4:59 PM
Dang, Oprah! WTF? Have you gone mad? This isn't the Oprah I remember.
Your show today on makeovers was insulting and treats age as if it's some type of disease. A silver hair! A woman in her 40s??? Quick, call in the surgeons!!!!
Unfortunately, my foot is hurt so the even the thought of getting up to change the channel was painful. But I should have done it, because now my spirit hurts, too.
SHAME ON YOU OPRAH! Shame on you for buying into the Youth vs Age myth that only Youth can be beautiful. Shame on you for covering up the silver halo God rewards us with as we age. Shame on you for being shamed by your own body and hair so much that you assume others must worship and lust only after youth and stick-bodies as you do. Shame on you for shilling that shitty glue-like shampoo so shamelessly. Yuck. Donut get me wrong. Youth is great. But so is Maturity.
Why can't Americans embrace their age and wisdom instead of being so superficial? And why can't YOU, as a thought-leader with intelligence, help guide us to a place that values brains as well as looks, and one that elevates age to a place of honor instead of one of shame? Your show made me feel small and insignificant. Yuck. But you know what? That's bullshit. I love my silver hair. I love the way I feel stronger as I've aged. And I hate how you've turned into a youth-worshipping, ageist, beauty-shilling beast. Blah. Watching your show was a real downer, especially the bit about the incredible school teacher with the elegant curly red locks who you acted as some sort of what...fairy godmother towards? Jesus, lady. What the hell happened to you? That teacher's hair was beautiful and natural and you turned her into a carbon copy of Skanky Spice. I hope you take the time to read this deeply and think it over. Those women were all beautiful as they were. You taunted them and then molded them into Cosmopolitan wannabes. Your vision of what is beautiful is insulting and commercial. Again: BLAH.
But I'm glad you got your curves back, girl. At least you're doing one thing right.
Here goes:
Today, 4:59 PM
Dang, Oprah! WTF? Have you gone mad? This isn't the Oprah I remember.
Your show today on makeovers was insulting and treats age as if it's some type of disease. A silver hair! A woman in her 40s??? Quick, call in the surgeons!!!!
Unfortunately, my foot is hurt so the even the thought of getting up to change the channel was painful. But I should have done it, because now my spirit hurts, too.
SHAME ON YOU OPRAH! Shame on you for buying into the Youth vs Age myth that only Youth can be beautiful. Shame on you for covering up the silver halo God rewards us with as we age. Shame on you for being shamed by your own body and hair so much that you assume others must worship and lust only after youth and stick-bodies as you do. Shame on you for shilling that shitty glue-like shampoo so shamelessly. Yuck. Donut get me wrong. Youth is great. But so is Maturity.
Why can't Americans embrace their age and wisdom instead of being so superficial? And why can't YOU, as a thought-leader with intelligence, help guide us to a place that values brains as well as looks, and one that elevates age to a place of honor instead of one of shame? Your show made me feel small and insignificant. Yuck. But you know what? That's bullshit. I love my silver hair. I love the way I feel stronger as I've aged. And I hate how you've turned into a youth-worshipping, ageist, beauty-shilling beast. Blah. Watching your show was a real downer, especially the bit about the incredible school teacher with the elegant curly red locks who you acted as some sort of what...fairy godmother towards? Jesus, lady. What the hell happened to you? That teacher's hair was beautiful and natural and you turned her into a carbon copy of Skanky Spice. I hope you take the time to read this deeply and think it over. Those women were all beautiful as they were. You taunted them and then molded them into Cosmopolitan wannabes. Your vision of what is beautiful is insulting and commercial. Again: BLAH.
But I'm glad you got your curves back, girl. At least you're doing one thing right.
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Oprah's gripping response.
Fri, March 28, 2008 - 6:31 PM
Dear Wendolyne,
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Sincerely,
The Oprah.com Staff
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Re: Oprah's gripping response.
Sat, March 29, 2008 - 9:45 AMOprah likes to get on the nearest bandwagon, it is what has kept her popular for all these years. -
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Re: Oprah's gripping response.
Sat, March 29, 2008 - 9:54 AMTrue. Oprah's big business all the way, a marketing platform for everything from The Secret to panty girdles (oh, wait, isn't there a brand of panty girdles CALLED Secret...or is that deoderant or Cross My Heart bras...but I digress into the world of metaphorical bikini waxes and otherworldly glowing skin....). She's very likable and can sometimes spearhead discussion about topics that need to be brought to light, but there are times when the very wide chasm between her talk and her walk is abundantly obvious.
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Sat, March 29, 2008 - 2:31 PMI'm not a big Oprah fan, never was. She's done a lot of good, but she's too commercial for my tastes.
On aging, there are things I find acceptable and unacceptable for myself. I am getting silver hairs and they look really cool! I look forward to my long silver dreads. To me, they symbolize wisdom and experience... power even, as an intelligent black woman. However, bags under my eyes and other things that make me look haggard would not be okay. Luckily I have not had to deal with that yet. I would shudder to think I'd ever become one of those aging women that looks ridiculous trying to cling to an age long gone and cater to an audience too young to really understand her. I don't need teenagers to think I'm attractive, I need their respect and would like a bit of appropriate reverence. I don't know why we are so obsessed with youth as a culture. I think we've really lost something in that. -
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Sat, March 29, 2008 - 2:52 PMquel - "I don't know why we are so obsessed with youth as a culture. I think we've really lost something in that."
First let me say, awesome to see you in this tribe. Now, to get down to business...I like to blame the boomers for the overwhelming resistance to looking or acting one's age in North American culture but since I don't tend to hobble meekly off into the night myself that's probably a bit unfair.
On the other hand, Oprah has had on models with white hair and there are a lot more older models working now than when I was a kid (of the glamorous variety in fashion magazines anyway).
And, yes, I personally like getting older so far. I also always thought people lying about being younger was just dumb. Personally I intend to start lying up soon so that people think I'm shockingly well preserved for my age. Maybe I'll even start a cult or selling skin cream....hmmm.... -
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Sun, March 30, 2008 - 9:58 AMI do have to say, it may not be totally fir for me to get on any soap boxes about this issue too much, given that I do look a lot younger than i am. I still get carded all the time. Recently, I went to Trader Joe's to get wine for a house warming and the underage male cashier flirtlingly(yeah, I made that up) asked for my ID. When he got it he shot me such a look as if his eyes were going to pop out and smirked as he handed it back. I get that a a lot. When I go to my son's high school, I am told to get back to class... I guess i should feel glad about that, but I do enjoy being taken seriously , which doesn't happen when people think you're young.
Ok, enough about me.
On the topic of youth worship, I noticed the obsession with anything new when I worked in corporate (NEVER AGAIN!). It seemed as if any new employee's word was gold and any new idea was met with enthusiasm despite the obvious folly. It's like hey were so eager to make sure everyone felt like they had a turn, like kindergarten, except that anything proposed by "dinosaurs", of which I was definitely one, was ignored and our caution was perceived as resistance to change. t was a no-win situation and lots of money and morale was lost. All the while, we were shifting the focus from what we said were our core values and really just turning into ATM's for the shareholders and executives. C'est la vie. You never do see depictions of the elderly as wise anymore, do you? You never hear "respect your elders" and that's obvious in the behavior of out youth. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I do believe we should respect our elders, for the most part despite the fact that age is not synonymous with wisdom. I mean, I don't know what they've been through. At the risk of sounding like a cantankerous old curmudgeon, I think the absence of that platitude has led to the arrogance and blissful ignorance of the youth today. Ok, Ok, they're all not like that, there are some bright and amazing minds, but I'm sure I'm not alone in my observation.
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Sun, March 30, 2008 - 12:36 PM"Personally I intend to start lying up soon so that people think I'm shockingly well preserved for my age."
Hah! you caught me out on that! First, just stating the truth was enough, but now I've had to start to resorting to rounding up ;) The Dorian Gray gimmick will only work for so long... I won't fade gently, but I do intend to age well, with wisdom writ large in my features. The only risk is that my sins are write larger yet, and people may have a hard time deciphering the fine print...
But really - what does acting one's age mean? I once spent the most appalling New Year's eve in a restaurant eavesdropping on the conversation at the neighboring table by a couple easily 15 years younger than me; they spent the entire evening discussing their own retirement benefits, insurance policies and pension plans. Granted, this was in Geneva ("a nice city to retire in"), but still... should *I* have been having the conversation? Should I *not* have gone to the electro-dance in the occupied factory afterwards? It all boils down to being in equilibrium with oneself, and knowing one's mind, and that is something that I find comes easier with time, and interestingly gets me greater respect than playing to the crowd. Plus: as flawless as youthful beauty may be, it is often also a bit bland, unworked. I have long come to appreciate interactions with those who wear the scars of time. -
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Hee! snarfle. kak.
Tue, April 1, 2008 - 12:40 PMDear Wendolyne,
Thank you for your poignant and compelling letter regarding our recent show. We are interested in producing a follow-up piece on how the participants are maintaining their new looks and would like to include a segment with input from viewers such as yourself who took offense at our topic. We may be interested in showcasing your viewpoints on our show.
If you are open to this possibility, please give us a call at your earliest convenience.
Thanks again for writing to us and we hope to hear from you soon..
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Re: Hee! snarfle. kak.
Tue, April 1, 2008 - 5:04 PMHa ha! You could be on Oprah! Weren't expecting that, eh?
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Tue, April 1, 2008 - 12:47 PM"Adults are obsolete children." - Dr. Seuss
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Wed, April 2, 2008 - 10:35 PMObsoletely! -
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Thu, April 3, 2008 - 6:14 AMYesterday I amended my previous theory that people do not mature past high school. This was based on my experience to that point. Now I believe that the vast majority of adult humans have the emotional maturity of kindergarteners. Those who manage to achieve a higher degree of enlightenment will win the Nobel Peace Prize or something. Everyone else is motivated by raw self-interest of the most superficial kinds.
Anyway, Madame, you should totally go on Oprah. It's a free trip to Chicago, anyway, and spring is the time to go there. I can't stand Oprah, and only wish for her immediate destruction. She is the Rush Limbaugh for women, especially of the bland, unimaginative, unintelligent, conspicuous consumer variety. Frankly, I am not at all surprised at her ageist tendencies. -
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Thu, April 3, 2008 - 12:48 PMI am really not a television watcher (much) but I did see Oprah a few times a long time ago. She obviously is a smart business woman.
It is more fascinating for me to dissect how people like Oprah build their success on the psychology that underpins her shows.
The gospel according to Oprah does expose a lot of good issues that need to be brought to people's attention, however she uses her pulpit to preach positive thinking, dream your dreams, happiness hype that obviously get good ratings and a cult following among women in particular.
Not so bad really. It gives people faith, hope and love. The stalwarts of Xianity. (although Oprah would be careful not to put a label on 'a higher being')
If critical thinking is involved and women like Wendy protest about a segment that distorts or is just plain wrong, then that is all fine and good.
However, Oprah has been built up as the high priestess of 'right' and 'tolerance' and what Oprah says goes.
Her message of self-improvement, self-empowerment, self-actualization and don't forget the classic 'spiritual renewal' are eaten up by people seeking to be lifted out of the drudgery of daily life.
Nothing lifts you out of the drudgery (except a good strong cup of coffee in the morning, but as I can't drink coffee I am doubly doomed) then the next day starts all over again. People like to hear the message so the messenger keeps telling it.
It is all smoke and mirrors. This false sense of hope satisfies the masses and lessens their need to think critically for themselves.
She repackages spirituality into inspiring possibilities and has her own Oprahfied language..."I trust that everything happens for a reason, even when we're not wise enough to see it."
Each program is carefully structured with confessions and talk, talk, talk, before the participants are empowered by Oprah to move on.
She validates, analyzes, and provides pyscho-babble / liberation so everyone is left feeling good about themselves. It is all neatly tied up with non-judgmental and empathetic bows as she moves onto the next full emotional spin cycle of the Oprah machine.
She is charismatic and really works on being someone we can all relate to.
She soft sells faith and god (whatever you what him / her to be) and her appeal is compelling.
The endless confessions that take place in front of millions of people inevitably lead to forgiveness of self and others.
No musty confessional box for Oprah.
Her newly packaged positive-thinking spirituality is made for sheeples in this modern age.
On a couple of her shows I watched in the past, her pushing of the 'abundance' theory is irksome and smacks of the 'prosperity doctrine' that was doing the rounds in Xtian circles a few years ago.
Just ask Oprah what the secret to her success is:
Oprah says, “Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.
Think of yourself as smart, confident, motivated, and beautiful in your unique way (forget about the skinny models on the magazine covers). Give yourself credit for what you do right, and what you do well. Visualize who you want to be and where you want to go. Before you know it, your actions will match your thoughts, which will become your destiny."
It worked for her..right?
Wendy, "You go girlfriend."
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Wed, April 23, 2008 - 10:29 PMI actually tried to watch the show a number of times,
since I was unemployed a number of times. But I was
too embarrassed for her and her guests to keep watching.
It's like that for me with George Bush. I can't stand to
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Thu, April 24, 2008 - 8:38 AMWhy would you be embarrassed for him? The more he makes a fool of himself, the better, in my opinion. Rather, you should be embarrassed for the people who voted him into office.
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Re: I'm ze true silver hare--Madame's Ladye's Open Letter to Oprah
Thu, April 24, 2008 - 9:44 AMSh_az - That's a very accurate critique of Oprah. Though I'd say she doesn't actually do much analysis or actually have very good analytical skills. She's also very friendly with quite a few Hollywood Scientologists, there's no doubt she's the reigning queen of woo and caught up in her own personal mythology. Sadly, though, she's really just speaking to an audience who already believes in magical thinking even if it's not quite the brand of magic she's pushing at the moment.
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