Firstly regards my sexwork either now or in the past, I have always felt strongly that our own inner learning sex psychology should be in higher acclaim &/or awareness. When I was first a Dom back in the seventies, I just thought control, a damn good beating (if they asked for it)& get them (clients) out of the way as fast as possible, was the rules of sexwork in this area of work...how naive I was...& if only I had someone to tell me different may have helped..but..as the years & experience passed by, I began to actually understand my clients, their fears, their dilemma`s, their desires & where they could possibly originate from. I spent some time away from sex work & looked after badgers in a captive environment on Dartmoor..this was also another catalyst. I saw the behaviour of animals that are normally very social, change! & in some cases even become cannabalistic & aggressive. I began to make a conscious study of this. I saw the correlation to people who are forced to live homes with no space or any un-natural environment, even to those who are incarcerated in jails. How this affects the `nature` within was profound!
later on in my life for some years I then became a counseller...going back to the `street` from a different perspective..this affirmed my suspicions & also added to my sense of helplessness, tied as I was to `system`, during that time. I was asked to give talks about my amazing work with the street people of Plymouth (UK). I used this opportunity to `turn the mirror` on my audience (usually officiando`s). I told them about how valuable the work of sex workers is & could be even more potentially powerful in its affect on sexual issues of society...who else gets so close to the clients?...who else has full view of the `child within`, I said. I also used this opportunity to discuss my thoughts about drug users. Which is another bottomless pit of controversy..blaming this, blaming that.
I felt in all the love & hate for & against drugs in this world, that we were potentially missing vital opportunities & learning about ourselves. As I have always been open about my life in sex work, I have always been open about my views on drugs. I feel that drugs are not the problem..it is a mixture of what people feel about themselves & what they feel about others doing something they disapprove of.
Shamanically drugs have huge potential..done with reason in mind, in the right environment & with the right person/people...ritual is always important!
I have had a huge interest especially in psychology, mythology (not in a pagan sense though),sex & drugs/plants. So bearing this in mind I was given this link...(I have read PIKHAL by Shulgin..who this is about).
www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/lif...0302.ece
As a `promise on the horizon` I still think we as sexworkers will one day have a great right reinstated to us, as invaluable citizens of this world...once they give us the right to be heard in a positive & worthy manner.
later on in my life for some years I then became a counseller...going back to the `street` from a different perspective..this affirmed my suspicions & also added to my sense of helplessness, tied as I was to `system`, during that time. I was asked to give talks about my amazing work with the street people of Plymouth (UK). I used this opportunity to `turn the mirror` on my audience (usually officiando`s). I told them about how valuable the work of sex workers is & could be even more potentially powerful in its affect on sexual issues of society...who else gets so close to the clients?...who else has full view of the `child within`, I said. I also used this opportunity to discuss my thoughts about drug users. Which is another bottomless pit of controversy..blaming this, blaming that.
I felt in all the love & hate for & against drugs in this world, that we were potentially missing vital opportunities & learning about ourselves. As I have always been open about my life in sex work, I have always been open about my views on drugs. I feel that drugs are not the problem..it is a mixture of what people feel about themselves & what they feel about others doing something they disapprove of.
Shamanically drugs have huge potential..done with reason in mind, in the right environment & with the right person/people...ritual is always important!
I have had a huge interest especially in psychology, mythology (not in a pagan sense though),sex & drugs/plants. So bearing this in mind I was given this link...(I have read PIKHAL by Shulgin..who this is about).
www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/lif...0302.ece
As a `promise on the horizon` I still think we as sexworkers will one day have a great right reinstated to us, as invaluable citizens of this world...once they give us the right to be heard in a positive & worthy manner.
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Re: helping people with lifes shit
Sat, May 17, 2008 - 2:24 AMIt's strange that in years gone by temples were erected and staffed in honour of this sacramental and healing art in sexual terms; today it has been marginalised and degraded and as you have so quite rightly pointed out, by the puritanical majority in society, been marginalised and castigated as "perverse". How little we actually know and understand about sex still surprises me. I would assume that as children we knew more but our parents projected all their guilt trips onto us? -
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Re: helping people with lifes shit
Wed, May 28, 2008 - 1:25 AMTotally agreement Yogi.
I do not believe we as human beings know what is unconditional...because from birth we are `conditioned`....all our emotions & actions have conditions around them (projected guilt, survival & lack of self esteem), ie: `behave yourself or else....`, `if you act like that..this will happened`, `if you don`t do this...you won`t get that`...etc, etc.
Our naivity & ignorance in sex is reflected in society around us...& the offending behaviour that emerges.
As children we were blank boards...waiting for beautiful writing, but many instead get fears, greeds, needs & paranoia written in bold letters instead!
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Re: helping people with lifes shit
Sat, May 17, 2008 - 6:49 AMHello Lynne,
First of all, thank you for your years of sacred service and for championing "sexwork" and holding up the mirror to society.
I have also had a strong interest in the psychological aspect of 'sacred intimate' service, sexual healing -or more accurate a definition for my sacred service: healing through somatic engagement of sexual energy. Peering into archetypal energies and gently guiding and prompting in positive directions has revealed the power for shifting stuck energy, beliefs, and thought-forms that no longer serve the "client." In many cases I am the first to share with them spiritual-sexual connections, principles and practices that expand their consciousness and enhance the sexual experience.
Also, for many, simply "holding space" for the higher possibility to be revealed without having to "do" anything, and being fully present with total acceptance and unconditional love in intimate engagement (not full service) is all that is needed/desired for healthful shifts, sensual wellness, and erotic well-being, to be felt and appreciated. In this energetic space of "stillness" a releasing occurs allowing whatever wants to be revealed to come forth. My experience has been: in sacred space and with gentle presence, these catalyzed shifts unfold and open the client to new connections of understanding and personal evolution.
I would love to collaborate on presenting a conversation that society can hear and warm up to 'sacred intimate,' "sex-worker" service. Developing the ceremonial / spiritual aspect of sacred intimate service may be a way into the general awareness and provide a platform for appreciation...
Blessings and gratitude for Y/our Being.
Sunyata Satchitananda
www.mythiclove.net/sunyata -
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Re: helping people with lifes shit
Sat, May 17, 2008 - 7:52 AMI must say a hugs thank you to both of you for your lovely & insight imput...you know I have posted this on other tribes...& a non-tribe-sex worker-journal...but as yet had no response...then I`m used to that..I tend to either get fresh air..or offended people! But before I can respond too much, I always go away & think/feel it, So I will be back.....wow, other people who know where I coming from....brilliant!
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Re: helping people with lifes shit
Wed, May 28, 2008 - 1:18 AMSorry its taken so long to get back to you on this issue....but life has a way of grabbing you as you walk by,
Yes I agree Sunyata about `holding space`....this stillness you mention is so like what I do, but have defined it in my own descriptive package...ie: Men especially (sorry guys..when I say men I mean the masculine drive)...due to their physical dimensions, which affect a similarity in their mind/spiritual.psychological dimensions....so they drive forward..projecting their manhood at the world. I in my role of Dom hold this back...even enclose them in clothes/material that keeps them confined...find their `stillness`. It is in this space that they find peace, with this peace which transcends the physical awareness, comes a better understanding in time.
{I would love to collaborate on presenting a conversation that society can hear and warm up to 'sacred intimate,' "sex-worker" service. Developing the ceremonial / spiritual aspect of sacred intimate service may be a way into the general awareness and provide a platform for appreciation... }
Me too. I think that sacred or spiritual sex service `could` get through laws, stigma`s in a way that has`nt been done before....well not for hundreds of years anyway.
Thank you Sunyata for your message it was profound & sensitive, I will look up your link.
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