I am a mother of 2 go to school full time work and am also married. I don't find the time for me. And I damn sure don't feel sexy. How do you do it? Any suggestions
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Re: unsexy
Wed, March 1, 2006 - 11:26 AMHI!
Glad to have joined another new tribe! This one seems like it could be really fun!!
So, I guess just joining a tribe like this insinuates that someone "thinks" they're sexy. I sure as hell do!! (but not in a conceited sort of way)... actually my husband truly thinks I am most sexy when I'm wearing his t-shirt and nothing else, or hanging out on the weekends in PJs. I know I'm lucky because some men find other things sexy... but I consider also my husband is very sexy NO MATTER WHAT HE IS WEARING OR DOING OR SAYING! So, the feeling is mutual.
Anyway, being a mom, stepmom, doggie mom, wife, having a job, being a singer, being a bellydancer- there isn't alot of time to put on makeup, wear fancy clothes, or whatever... so the people who love me have to take me as I am, no frills about it!
I would say I am sexy even without all the crap because I have a great personality and am nice to be around. I help people whenever I can, cook my butt off, and generally make sure anyone I love is taken care of in every aspect I can.
So, Yeah- Angie, you can be busy, going to school, being a parent, working, married ... but don't underestimate your ability to be sexy! I bet your husband finds you sexiest when you would not even think so! Maybe he looks at you playing with your children or studying very hard, maybe biting your lip concentrating, and just goes crazy inside!! Just my 2 cents.
Nice to be here. Thanks for reading.
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Wed, March 1, 2006 - 1:15 PMYou know, I have to give credit to my girlfriends in my life... if it weren't for them paying me compliments and smacking my ass on occasion, I would probably have a harder time feeling sexy. :)
Cause, you know, yes--when you've got 2 kids climbing on you all the time, and your husband doesn't notice you in the same way that he used to... it's fabulous when one of your girlfriends says, "Damn, you look hot, mama!"
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Not that feeling sexy has ANYTHING to do with receiving compliments... truly, feeling sexy comes from within... but compliments sure help. One more reason to love your girlfriends. :)
As far as sexiness coming from within... something that makes me feel good and sexy... I have iTunes playing on my computer, which is in my kitchen... when I'm cooking, I'm listening to dancy music (like Groove Salad on iTunes) and I dance a little and it feels great... it's like a little moment for ME.
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Wed, March 1, 2006 - 1:27 PMAnd another thought I have on feeling sexy...
Having a child, and especially having a child so early in our relationship (we got pregnant in our 3rd month together), it really threw me for a loop... it took me a while to get back to feeling attractive, and interested in sexy things... and it was the little things in life that reminded me to feel sexy again...
Like the art that I posted as this tribe's main photo... how sexy is THAT!
And music that has lots of bass in it, that gets your booty shakin'... so sexy!
And putting on lipstick even when you're sitting at home with your kids... so that when you catch your image in the mirror, you're a little happier with what you see...
Every little bit helps.
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Wed, March 1, 2006 - 8:41 PMNever underestimate the power of the high heel. -
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Fri, March 3, 2006 - 9:00 PM... and never underestimate some "time alone" in the shower.
nudge nudge, wink wink!
Nothing like a little self-pleasure to keep lovin' on your mind... and be happy with the beauty of yourself.
Cause that used to be my challenge, when I was still getting used to this whole mothering thing... with having kids, sex isn't as easy to get, so we'd go a while without having any, and then I'd just get USED to not having any, so I wouldn't think about it, and it would feel like one more thing that someone was wanting from me. (Sheesh!) And then we'd do it again, and it would be great, and I'd be like, "Why don't we do this more often?". So, I find that it's good to just keep it in the forefront so you don't forget how wonderful it is. And "taking care of yourself" :) is a good way to do that. -
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Tue, March 7, 2006 - 11:21 AMI think it is important to go out once a while - dancing, dinner on the town, to a gathering of some sort, in order to feel sexy again - on your own with friends - no child (maybe even without the husband)! It reminds us that YES we are women too and we are not only defined by being mother's or wives, but we have our own interests, enjoyments, pursuits independently (our children will thank us for keeping this up and respect us more when they are older). Also, fitness is important - swimming, bicycling, yoga whatever you like - walking in the woods or along the ocean. It has got to be the priority - if we are feeling good as mommas - the whole family is blessed! -
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Tue, March 14, 2006 - 12:27 PMI agree! When I was dealing with being a single mom, going to school full-time, working part-time, and practically surviving on 3-4 hours of sleep a night....the ONLY time I ever felt sexy was when I would take the time for myself....to get all dolled up....and have a night on the town. For me it was dancing..that's MY thing....for you it could be somethign else. But taking the time to pamper and groom yourself to be seen in public withOUT the kids is a first step towards finding that hidden sexy mama that is only hidden right now! -
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Re: unsexy
Tue, March 14, 2006 - 12:29 PMi love to go out and flirt... i'm not married but have been with boyfriend for 11 years (since I was 16), we have a house and child and another on the way. So no going out and flirting for now. I never cheat, but it makes me feel good to get all done up and go dancing, and know I can attractive to other people!! Maybe get a free drink or two!
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