Are you defined by your sexuality? I really never gave it too much thought until recently, my profile, my flirty tribe persona caused issues with someone. She used the online to define me rather than seeing the whole picture and accepting it all. Then talking to a friend, who was considering coming out but due to their profession was afraid to do so. It seems so strange to me that someone should be defined by the fact that they like to suck cock as opposed to eating pussy or vice versa or the fact that one likes sex more than others or at least you perceive others liking it. Why is it that society cares so much about who or what we do in the bedroom and who to and how often? I have always been of the mind as long as its between 2 or more consenting adults it doesnt matter, fantasies are fantasies, private acts are just that private acts. Your thoughts?
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Re: Defined by your sexuality?
Sun, April 13, 2008 - 7:16 PMIts all part of the human condition...the need to define....a limited attempt to understand that leads to finite assumptions. Then the egos need to judge comes into play....its all a big cycle. Because I post naked and some might say erotic pictures of myself....it leads some people here on tribe to make rather limited picture of who I am as a person....still others are astute enough to know there is more to the picture and don't attempt to pigeon hole me. Believe me what you see here is just a miniscule slice of who I really am.
I love my career....I am blessed to be able to do what I love.....but it is a profession would not be understanding of what I do here....just the way it is....besides I don't know if I would enjoy what I am doing if it did not have this anonymous aspect to it....kinda fun to have a secret...ha!
Gotta agree with you though Simon.....and it pertains to more than just sex....I just don't get the need of some people to put others in boxes.
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Re: Defined by your sexuality?
Sun, April 13, 2008 - 9:13 PMIs it because sex is such a raw, intimate act that people believe that they must look to this part of a person's personality/preferences, in order to obtain a person's true nature?
Is it perceived that these kinds of acts are more difficult to feign or offer a false front with, because they are so private?
And so people are judged on their entire character or capability to perform outside the bedroom, based on what they do in the bedroom?
Ugh.
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Re: Defined by your sexuality?
Fri, April 18, 2008 - 9:44 PMNo I am not. It is a part of me but not my whole identity. Sure sometime I get invites and messages regarding my looks but those I tend to take with a grain of salt. They are basing if they like me on my looks. Not if I enjoy walking, reading, attending fairs or have a witty sense of humor or other things that I enjoy.
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