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Hi Mamas!

2008-04-29T15:15:56Z

Hi Ladies,
I was just browsing through the family-related tribes and was plesantly surprised to find one that fits so well. I'm a young single mom of a nearly 6 y/o son. We started off as just the two of us, living with my family, then his dad and I got married and we tried to make that work for a bit, and last year I had to call it quits for good. It's been a challenge, but I'm fortunate enough that my family let us move back home and they have been a great help. I'm looking forward to sharing ideas and advice with all of you.
All the best,
Della

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need some ideas

2008-03-11T05:38:48Z

I'm the single-mother-by-choice of a very smart, very verbal young man. *lol* He turns 5 in February, so he's getting to the point where he's starting to ask "those" questions. This morning, he was pulling on his penis through this jammies. i asked him what was going on, and he said he was having problems keeping his penis down. Now, fortunately, I lived with a boyfriend for about four years, so i knew a little about 'the morning wood'...I told him to go to the bathroom and see if that helped.

My question is this: are there any other little "essential" bits of male-anatomical wisdom I need to know about in the next year or so? Adolescence I think I can handle, but I'm just wondering if there are any other little surprises waiting out there that I don't know about. (And I checked Amazon..there aren't any books out there on the nitty-gritty..just the emotional big-fish topics. Maybe we should write one?!)

Thanks!

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MY mama's boy :)

2007-09-12T14:18:43Z

So guess who's kid just got the lead in the school play?!?!?!!? He's in my photo album!
Mine ! That's right! My cool kid! ha. I just had to brag to someone - even if it is a bunch of strangers.

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free and easy way to help homeless children

2007-08-02T21:17:11Z

www.railwaychildren-friends.com/email.asp

just replace this web search engine in place of your old one and raise 10p per search

-raise em with your love, i nanny for 2 boys in a single mummy family n she's so strong=

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Noobie to this...but not to raising boys

2007-07-29T15:47:09Z

Hullo everyone-I am Cynthia w/ 2 boys...ages 23 yrs and 9 yrs.
Just got out of a really rotten marriage of 21 years and am happy to be going it alone.
Just wanted to say HI and think this is a GREAT idea.
Moms work HARD and need all the support we can get!

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upset n confused!

2007-07-19T18:45:17Z

OK so maybe I just need to vent a little. I don't know. I have been dating this guy and he seemed so perfect. Incrediably great with my child, allowing me to sleep in while he wakes up and cares for him, and always bending over backwards for me. It has been an incredible 10 months and I thought he was the perfect guy I would never find. He is so intelligant and going to school to be a doctor. I could have sworn I struck gold that something good has finally happened to me in my life.
Then last night I get a call from all of his friends, that he has been cheating on me for 2 months. What a heartbreaker. Not only that but it was shocking so naturally I don't want to believe that its true even though I have a ton of facts in front of my face. The worst part is that my son is so attached to him. I would joke before, that I thought my son loved him more then me. I feel so stupid for letting him into my life now my son yet again has to deal with another man walking away. I am so broken hearted.
To top off the cake he has been telling our friends all these nasty lies about me, I never thought I would find someone so evil to do these mean things behind my back.
call me stupid

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single mum support group in GP

2007-06-28T20:45:05Z

Hey everyone - I've just come to GP. I'm looking to start a monthly single mum support group up here in Grande Prairie, AB. It's too easy to get isolated when you are going it alone. Just looking to share experiences. If you are interested please contact me.

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Need Advice

2007-06-26T01:30:07Z

I am 22 years old. I have a 3year old son and a 5 year old daughter. My daughters father has never met her, but my sons father has stepped in and has raised her since she was born. We have a very crazy relationship. Maybe I should say passionate.. I dont know, basically we break up and make up constantly. Lately he has been absent due to some legal issues hes working out. We havent seen him in almost two years. I am very lonely and wish that thing would work out between us. The thing is that he is constantly cheating on me. With girls he meets online or this same one he keeps dealing with. He says hes sorry all the time. But I am finally tired. His cheating has been going on for about 4 years. I cant take it anymore, but I feel sorry for my children. I want them to have a family, not just see him every once in a while. I kow everyone will say dont stay, but family is very important to me. I think that I could sacrifice my pride and stay in order for the kids to grow up with a father. What do yall think?

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new to the tribe

2007-06-10T03:39:47Z

Hey everyone I am new to the to this whole entire thing so I am trying to figure out how everything works. This naturally caught my eye since I am a single mother and I have a son who is just turning 2!

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Single mom support groups in Los Angeles

2007-05-19T01:32:34Z

Hi.
New here and looking for support groups in Los Angeles of conscious single mothers. Relatively new mom and new to LA area. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Overwhelmed.

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a little help here...

2007-05-03T00:34:38Z

Are guys allowed here? My friend fits the description of this tribe so I could use some guidance to help her & her son.

She is a victim of domestic violence so she couldn't just go home to family for fear of being tracked down. The boy was kidnapped right out of his mothers arms by 3 thugs hired by the father (currently in jail) & was part of the amber alert at 2 ish. So there's obviously trauma for both of them.

I've been around a lot of kids but I've never seen a 5 year old dominate his mom like this. He DEMANDS that she get him this or that and if she doesn't do it RIGHT NOW he tells her he hates her, she's ugly, fat, old, to shut-up and I've even heard him say he wishes she were dead.

IT FREAKS ME OUT!!!

When I try to step in, sometimes she gets mad at me?!?! He has calmed down a lot since I've been around but he's brave enough to tell me he hates me & to shut-up. He won't even let his mom give me a hug...he gets between us & tries to pull us apart. She tries to deal with him but she's not consistent and it's difficult for her to do & be everything, all the time. As many of you here already know.

Anyway, I could use some guidance on how to help raise & discipline kids these days. I didn't find a specific tribe on this topic yet so I thought I'd ask for help here. I hope it's okay.

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what about puberty?

2007-04-27T16:44:30Z

my oldest son will be hitting puberty relatively soon. it was just my sister and i raised by a single mother, i know next nothing about the male sexual adolescence. anyone have any ideas or resources? blessings~

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he's so different than me!

2007-04-20T21:42:42Z

Hi All,
I'm a peaceful earthy mama (age 27) who likes arts and crafts, raw foods, music and anything organic-ish... My son is a techy, intense, hot dog loving, gun-shooting, 6 1/2 year old mad scientist! I love him madly, but our differences get the best of us. He's such a BOY!!! And I just don't get it! It's been just the two of us practically since birth, maybe he needs a man in his life... (I'm ready for one myself!) Anyone else experiencing anything similar?
Namaste
Doniya

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Every PARENT NEEDS TO SEE THIS IMPORTANT DOCUM.

2007-03-17T23:34:20Z

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-3609599239524875493&q=The+Drugging+Of+Our+Children&hl=en

http://www.ostrowandcompany.com/film_detail.php?film=The%20Drugging%20Of%20Our%20Children

The Drugging Of Our Children

OVERVIEW

Genre: Feature Documentary
Language: English
Country of Origin: USA
Running Time: 102 minutes

CAST & CREW

Director: Gary Null
Co-Directed by: Producer: Manette Loudon, David Chmura
Associate Producer & Legal Affairs: David Slater
Editor: David Chmura
Cinematographer: Derek Ramsey, David Chmura
Writer: Gary Null
Producer's Representative: Ostrow and Company

SYNOPSIS

How are large drug companies benefiting from the latest trend of selling powerful psychoactive drugs to America's children? Do these drugs really help our children cure symptoms of supposed mental illness, or do they tend to increase depression, violence, and suicide? Are we really treating the root causes of mental illness, or are we just eliminating annoying symptoms?

This feature-length documentary examines the alarming growth in the prescription of powerful psychotropic drugs for adolescents and children. Leading experts, as well as Neil Bush, Michael Moore and Gary Null, provide insightful commentary about the growing trend to pathologize the behavior of children, and then require them to take mind-altering pharmaceutical drugs as a "cure." The documentary recounts the national tragedy of Columbine and focuses on the largely unknown fact that teenage shooter Eric Harris was on the psychotropic drug Luvox at the time he and Dylan Klebold took the lives of 13 other students at their high school. Violence and aggression, precipitated by prescribed drug use, is also explored in an unprecedented discussion between Mark Taylor, the first shooting victim in the Columbine tragedy, and Cory Baadsgard, a teenager on Paxil and Effexor who, in another violent incident, took his teacher and 23 students hostage at gunpoint in his Washington high school. The film proceeds to show the dangerous links between psychotropic drugs like Paxil, Luvox, Effexor and Prozac – commonly prescribed to adolescents for anxiety, depression and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - and the increased incidents of violence, suicide and psychotic behavior often observed in those children and adolescents who are taking the drugs. The film also provides compelling personal accounts, including a mother going to prison and losing her son to government authorities because she refused to give her son psychiatric drugs. Leading medical authorities and mental health professionals speak the unvarnished truth about current increased diagnoses of recently devised mental illnesses and the unprecedented prescription of a host of very powerful psychoactive drugs to "treat" them. Finally, this documentary explores safer, alternative methods for treating childhood mental illness.

TO SEE THE ACTUAL NEWS STORIES (over a thousand)
http://www.ssristories.com

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new to the club...

2007-03-10T23:49:28Z

my little boy (stella maris artemis) is just a bit over 5 weeks and 10 pounds... and i think i'm just a little overwhelmed by mothering in general, more than by our gender difference, though i imagine that will come more into play later...

wanted to say hello to all you lovelies...

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New to tribe

2007-03-06T05:30:09Z

Just wanted to say hi to everyone and tell you a bit about myself. I'm a single mom of 2 boys, oldest almost 13 and has some learning disabilities and the youngest just turned 11 and has something called Fragile X Syndrome. He is developmentally on the level of a 4 year old. While their dad gets them most every weekend and pays child support on time it is really their step mom who takes care of them when they are with him. I had a great support system in place while they were younger but find myself in the unique position of having to figure out where to go from here. My parents helped me out A LOT but my dad recently passed away and my mom has had to quit working in order to take care of her brother and my grandmother. I returned to college in Jan of 2006 and it's been wonderful. I LOVE SCHOOL...lol. I can't believe I said that...lol. Right now, I'm looking for a job after being home with them all of their lives except the 2 years right after I left their daddy.

On a lighter note... My boys are definitely Momma's Boys. They would rather be with me than with anyone else except maybe my parents..:). According to my youngest son... Nanny's only love little boys....lol. Not mommy's...lol.

Sincerely,
Tammy

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how to handle a recent seperation...

2007-02-28T08:45:46Z

hello! I am the mother of a beautiful 14 month old... recently split from my partner 3 months ago. I am having great difficulty letting go of my anger and grudges and disappointments with my ex. He says he wants to help me and participate in the upbringing but we are not getting anything from him but hot air. How do I let go so I can go on graciously without shooting venom at him constantly???

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Hi Mamas

2006-12-06T23:29:32Z

I'm a new member. I have a fabulous 10 year-old son and am expecting another boy in March! I'm single and can't wait to hold my baby! I feel so strong and sexy in this pregnancy. Any other pregnant mamas out there?

Laurie

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how do you.........

2006-11-18T18:01:20Z

i have this friend that is going to have a baby boy in two months, she is having him in result of a rape and would like too know haw to deal with the resintment of what was done too her with out taking her pain out on the baby......can you give some advice....please

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clothing (optional)

2006-10-14T01:48:23Z

How do ya'll feel about clothing at home alone with your children?
What do you wear? Is it necessary to wear clothes at all?
Do you let your children be naked too?

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greetings to all

2006-08-28T09:17:00Z

*warm smile*

noticed there have been some new mamas joining & wanted to take a moment to welcome all! currently kinda overwhelmed with our own situation, so not on a lot ~ but please make this group /your/ group! perhaps introductions would help?

my son's celebrating his 4th birthday this coming weekend & has been upset that his dad can't come (his dad chose to move to the east coast with his girlfriend & her son because all of their extended family is there & has only been able to visit 2x during the past 20months) my son doesn't want to talk on the phone to his dad either though. he's always been rather cooperative, but the past few months have been a completely different stroy (he's had a /lot/ of change throughout his life. i try to keep as much stable as possible, but it's been difficult) we don't really have any reliable guys in our lives (though there is a male teacher at his preschool)

hopefully i'll be on more consistently soon, but i'm glad others are finding this spot & again welcome everyone

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support: struggles & insights

2006-08-09T06:22:27Z

so this will probably be my last post for a while *sheepish grin* we're moving in the next week & i'm sure will be busy packing, storing, getting settled/used to our roomates, etc. but kinda curious about how everyone balances this amazing act of single motherhood? just having a 'good' life in this day & age seems like it can be elusive under the best of circumstances, what are your tips & tricks?

it's taken me most of my life to start to truly get the concept that i have to make time for myself (especially when things seem so overwhelming that there doesn't appear time to do anything but react) to be able to make the most of my time (& i still often forget *lol*) that kinda correlates to one of my bigger challenges ~ i've always craved deep community (in fact i lived in a wonderful urban commune for a year before i met my son's father) & the connections with others & time to develop it seemed fleeting before when i was realistically the only demand on my time, now it's even crazier! *lol* i went to a single parent's group (1/month) consistently for a year & a half, created an online group for them & met some people who there was a real potential for true friendship, but the business of everyone & added time demands/stresses of solo parenting seemed to stunt a lot of growth. this is actually a topic that came up a lot at that group! we tried meeting other families that weren't necessarily single, but they often seemed a lot more insulated... i think some of it is compounded by the fact that we moved here less than two years ago & have been so busy trying to get established, i also have a lifelong pattern of struggling with depression which is often tempted with issues that surround single motherhood (though i've found reclaiming power over the depression helps me to reframe it & decide a bit more consciously how much i choose to feed it)

connecting with other single mamas helps me a lot (even if it's fleeting *grin*)
ack! battery's dying! sorry for the short bit on support, will add more positives later. take care!

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just the basic facts, ma'am

2006-08-09T06:02:37Z

greetings again all ~

thought it might be helpful if we all just gave a really brief, statistically sort of intro here so that people can reference whenever they want... i know a lot of this is on everyone's bios, but that can be cumbersome to keep going back & forth to, perhaps:

our name,
age (if so inclined),
general geographic location,
# kids/
names/
genders/
ages/
etc.
& something we do at a single parents group i've gone to is a brief explanation of 'single by choice' or 'single by circumstance' (which often gets into interesting side conversations about the categories, etc. but basically used to distinguish adoptive from divorced parents though people usually put in a somewhat succinct two cents to give a more accurate portrayal)

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not exactly single

2006-08-09T05:52:12Z

I read the posts and I have similar problems but I am still married. My husband is gone, usually, 5 days a week.

I have been a "single parent" since the kids were small.

I have one of each a daughter 14 and a son 13. He just turned 13 and his hormones or what ever it is that motivates boys are running rampant. Do either of you have boys this old?

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Hey lady's

2006-07-07T14:47:27Z

Single mom here, two boys age 7 and 9. And do I mean Single; I'm from MN so I have NO ONE to fall back on. I've been doing it solo for four years now. My first ex husband helps from time to time when he's able. He a great friend to have in a crisis. The second ex is a real loser in the abusive way. I'm fortunate to be able to say that neither one of them has ever missed a child support payment.

No future Hubby in the works either. I've been single a year now and have used that time to intentionally learn how to be more independent. The last one, after a total of 4 years of being best friends and dating, decided he couldn’t deal with being a step-dad. NICE HUH?

My youngest told me the other day that he didn’t want me to start dating again. He said thing are “good the way they are.” Right from the mouths of babe’s.

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hey everyone

2006-06-24T15:24:26Z

I have 1 boy who is 10 now. untill about 2 years ago I did it alone. I had a great family though who was willing to help even when I didn't want it. I can answer any questions you may have

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Hey River

2006-06-05T13:51:52Z

Soooo I have 4 kids and 3 of them are boys and except for the last 3 years I have been a soloist, a homeschooler, 1/2 the time a homebirther and a gypsy, so If you hve any questions I'm here to be supportive in anyway I can !!!!!!!
Blessings ~

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welcome kelly!

2006-06-05T05:48:40Z

greetings ~

i'm glad you've joined *warm smile* so far, it's just you & me *lol* but i haven't really had the time or energy to nuture the group much since starting it, so please feel free to help it grow in whatever way you wish! hopefully things will start to settle down in my 'real' life soon & i can join in a bit more.

~ river

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