Here's a question: (aka: the dark side of tasara....Trying to Find the Middle Ground)
So much of shamanic training is about clearing displaced energy, make sure we don't have bad attachments to people, entities and such, how to establish healthy boundaries so we can be good healers...I think I have discovered myself inadvertently trying to clear myself of natural, healthy bonds with people in order to be 'safe'. Which is not only near impossible but a bit painful. I mean, to look at an extreme, when being intimate with someone, you've got to open up and share some energy or it's not called intimacy, right? But if you do, what does the energetic parting look like so that it is not painful to walk away until you see them again? OK, this might sound stupid or obvious to some of you but i did not have very good modeling growing up and my energy is so big that in my past I have scared a lot of close friends off so...

what does a healthy bond look like? energetically? how does it function? are you bonded all the time or only when you are with the other person? once you are close to someone, aren't you always close to them on some level, even if terrible things happen between you and you both move on? or can you really let go? if you love someone and they love you back, doesn't that just make a bond right there?
I am going to journey on this but thought it might be good to throw it out for your experiences and comments.