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Are 7th House synastry placements necessary for a relationship?

topic posted Sun, March 21, 2010 - 11:37 AM by  Unsubscribed
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I have had one "friends with benefits" type relationship that was long-term, and he had nothing in my 7th House. But he had a lot on my "ascendant" so at least the 1st/7th axis was engaged.

My other long-term romantic relationship was with someone who had Sun, Jupiter, and Venus right on my descendant. The 7th House (especially conjunctions to the descendant) made the relationship just form seemingly out of nowhere. I met him, he asked me out, and we started dating and never stopped.

The person I am currently interested in has nothing in my 7th House (I don't know his birthtime to see vice versa). We have been acquaintances/friends for some time, and if we ever do have a romantic relationship, seems like it will take a long time to get there. Slow moving...
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    I don't think 7th house placements are necessary. They are common in relationships, but there are always exceptions. My best friend's husband has his Jupiter on her DSC, and his Mars/Saturn conjunct her Saturn there. She's 7th house heavy... He has her Venus in his 7th. My only long-term relationship had none of our planets in each others 7th, except that my Jupiter was one sign over from his DSC and close to his Leo planets there (although his DSC was in Cancer). It was 7th/8th cuspy and far from the DSC. Our ASCs were in each other's DSC, basically, but planetary connections there were missing. I think our Moon-Sun connection was the main thing, since I am a fire Moon and he was a fire Sun/Moon.

    Without his birthtime, you wouldn't know if there are 7th house connections in his chart, you only know of your own. When someone's personal planet falls in your 7th you often feel it stronger than the person whose planet falls in your house, so your not having his planets in your 7th means you may not automatically think of him as your life-long partner like another woman who may have someone's Sun falling in her 7th, for example.
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      Also, the last guy I loved but never actually had a romantic relationship with had a lot of 7th house activity mutually (my Moon/Neptune conj his Moon/Neptune in his 7th, his Sun on my DSC and our DSC rulers conjunct), yet there was nothing consumated. So it doesn't promise much, other than maybe intense feelings and wanting to be with that person.
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        The flip side of the 7th is also a place of enemies... which is actually how I ended up feeling about the last one in the end. So the 7th isn't always so peachy.
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          "The flip side of the 7th is also a place of enemies... which is actually how I ended up feeling about the last one in the end. So the 7th isn't always so peachy."

          I wonder how much the shared Neptune had to do with that? Liz and I each have Sun/Neptune conjunctions in our charts, and I think Neptune/Pisces influences are especially likely to feel sour if they think someone has manipulated them emotionally, etc.
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            "I wonder how much the shared Neptune had to do with that? Liz and I each have Sun/Neptune conjunctions in our charts, and I think Neptune/Pisces influences are especially likely to feel sour if they think someone has manipulated them emotionally, etc."

            Probably part of it. Neptune can be a real b*tch. Neptune made it very confusing especially and it's really bad in composite (composite is as important as synastry, truly). I have a Venus-Pluto opp, which might be the disgust now. I'm not even sure what triggered it... I kind of hate him now, pure and simple. He could call me up professing how sorry or whatever he is, and I'd probably tell him to drop dead and mean it. Is that how you feel about Liz? Maybe it's a defense mechanism, but it sure has cured my missing him.
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      "so your not having his planets in your 7th means you may not automatically think of him as your life-long partner like another woman who may have someone's Sun falling in her 7th, for example."

      That makes sense, because with Yaqub I definitely wanted that.

      With the guy now, I have a hard time imagining that it would work out that way (or that it should). He does have a couple planets that inconjunct my descendant, though, and this seems in line with my feelings about that.

      It seems like I often have peoples' planets in my 12th House, also. 12th, 8th, 7th, and (oddly) 6th seem dominate as I look through people I've been with or had strong feelings for. 12th stuff seems so far that it either never materializes OR it will turn into something, but only if it starts in private and has time to take root in private.

      So his Mars (and possibly Moon) in my 12th make things more difficult. I also found out recently that he's never had a relationship. Which is both heartening to me, but also is worrying... is he looking for perfection? It is probably mostly just him being cautious and not knowing how to move beyond friendship with a woman. (natal Saturn trine Venus).
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        I think one of the strongest things in mine and (Current Interest)'s synastry charts is that each of our Mercury's trines the other's Venus. Especially for a romantic relationship grounded primarily in friendship, that seems really good.

        And Moon-Mars aspects seem to be good for me... and we have those.
  • Every synastry is different and speaks of different kinds of relationships.

    Just like there's no perfect relationship, there's no perfect synastry. And a concentration in any one of the houses doesn't mean it's good or bad, it just highlights the KIND of relationship that the two people are bound by.

    A 7th house relationship speaks of a relationship bound by partnership, or the potential for a legal marriage at the least (7th house also rules contracts). A 1st house relationship talks about immediate attraction. A 5th house relationship speaks about fun, flings, the theatre and the arts. A 6th house relationship speaks about a relationship in service of others (I know of a soldier and military nurse who has a concentration of contacts in the 6th house)

    None of them are particularly bad or good, it really depends on what YOU define to be good for you.

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