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OK, so i have completely emersed myself inside that little circle known as my hoop...and thanks to alot of concentration, and new-found-passion, I have a large repetuire of tricks, and some grace and agility while doing them. I of course noticed my own progress, but I didn't give a bit of thought to the notion that other people would. Over the past few weeks I have been noticing alot of little compliments, and comments here, and there...The past week being steeped in high praise compliments, from all differant directions. This is wonderful, because it means i really am making progress, and getting good.
This is a problem, because when I hoop I go into my own world....completely...and then someone will do something....anything from a "woo-hoo, get it boy!" to actually stopping my spinning to say things like "I haven't seen many boy hoopers, your by far the best I've seen...and your better than most of the girls here...I just wanted to let you know" (I even had one of my hooping inspirations say that her and a few of my other hooping inspirations have decided I'm one of the top 5 STL hoopers, and out of those 5 I'm possably the best....WHOA!!! what a crazy smack to the head.....I can't even friggin fathom this!!!)....I get so wierded out by the "eyes of the world" that I can't keep the hoop in my hands!!!
....I get so completely nervous and wigged out, that I start flingin' the hoop everywhere!!!
I don't really know how to take a compliment...while it feel's good to know that I am excelling...but it's just wierd, ya know? I'm not really used to that sort of thing....I've allways been a big guy, and never really sporty.
I REALLY don't know how to take a compliment steeped in an insult...like "your a great hooper, for a guy", or "other guys look like big sweaty boys trying to be sexy like girls, but your a good hooper.". I just so happen to be a big 220 pound SWEATY Boy....and while my ultimate goal is not to look sexy...I know that it's bound to be part of the process if you find hooping sexy, and what they call trying to look sexy is what happens when you put a little extra swing in your hips, and pop in your step(I only go there if the music makes me).
Another problem I have is complimenting someone....I don't want less skilled hoopers to feel I'm patronizing them, and I don't want more skilled hoopers to think I'm kissing ass.
Not sure exactly what posting this could possably do to help the situation....just throwing it out there, cause I had to get it off my chest.
Peace.Love.Smile.family.Hoops.
T-Rav
This is a problem, because when I hoop I go into my own world....completely...and then someone will do something....anything from a "woo-hoo, get it boy!" to actually stopping my spinning to say things like "I haven't seen many boy hoopers, your by far the best I've seen...and your better than most of the girls here...I just wanted to let you know" (I even had one of my hooping inspirations say that her and a few of my other hooping inspirations have decided I'm one of the top 5 STL hoopers, and out of those 5 I'm possably the best....WHOA!!! what a crazy smack to the head.....I can't even friggin fathom this!!!)....I get so wierded out by the "eyes of the world" that I can't keep the hoop in my hands!!!
....I get so completely nervous and wigged out, that I start flingin' the hoop everywhere!!!
I don't really know how to take a compliment...while it feel's good to know that I am excelling...but it's just wierd, ya know? I'm not really used to that sort of thing....I've allways been a big guy, and never really sporty.
I REALLY don't know how to take a compliment steeped in an insult...like "your a great hooper, for a guy", or "other guys look like big sweaty boys trying to be sexy like girls, but your a good hooper.". I just so happen to be a big 220 pound SWEATY Boy....and while my ultimate goal is not to look sexy...I know that it's bound to be part of the process if you find hooping sexy, and what they call trying to look sexy is what happens when you put a little extra swing in your hips, and pop in your step(I only go there if the music makes me).
Another problem I have is complimenting someone....I don't want less skilled hoopers to feel I'm patronizing them, and I don't want more skilled hoopers to think I'm kissing ass.
Not sure exactly what posting this could possably do to help the situation....just throwing it out there, cause I had to get it off my chest.
Peace.Love.Smile.family.Hoops.
T-Rav
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Re: Compliments, and how to take them......
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 6:06 PMBelieve me, you are not the only one who has a hard time with compliments. I get embarrassed and nervous without any comments or compliments, and usually screw up as soon as someone says something. I know people are going to look, and sometimes stop to watch, but I have a hard time with people looking at me, in general. I think one of the things I'm trying to do with hooping, other that having fun and enjoying myself, is to get over this ridiculous fear of people looking at me. This summer at a festival, I was hooping in the dark by myself, and some guy walked by and appreciatively said "yeah, I like sexy hula hooping girls", which should have been a compliment. I froze and the hoop dropped, I wasn't trying to be sexy, just enjoying myself in the dance, but it totally freaked me out. We all have places we run into uncomfortable feelings, but I think that's called being human! I'm happy for your progress, and that other people are noticing it!
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JUST SAY THANK YOU
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 8:36 PMWhen given a compliment just say thank you. It is the easiest way to start taking compliments.
You dont need to explain anything to anyone EVER.
If you are mistaken for a girl that is the other persons fault for stereotyping.
Rock out with your cock out. Do what feels good to you and let everything else slide off your back. In your hoop no one can hurt you.
You are becoming a stronger hoop and you know that so of course others will see it. Just go with the flow and keep doing what you are doing.
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Re: JUST SAY THANK YOU
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 10:52 PMlol, I allways say thank you(and occaisionally blush, or start studdering a little)...and try to offer any advice i can to people with inquiries!
Trust me, I'm a big ole' furry boy....noones mistaking me for a girl....and if I was stereotyped as gay...it would fit(although THAT has entirely nothing to do with me hooping). Sooo...i'm really not too worried about what people think. I just get completely side tracked the moment outside the hoop comes in.....I guess thats why I haven't really tried performing.
This week marks a big step for me...I normally only hoop at concerts with a big group of hoopers...Wednesday I'm going with some friends to the St. Louis Botanical Gardens to hoop. I'm not sure exactly why we're hooping there, if it's an event, or just a hoopers day out in a pretty setting...but it seems like a good opportunity for me to get out of my comfort zone, and try new things....so I'm gonna do it! Hopefully someone has a camera and we can get pics/film of it.
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Re: Compliments, and how to take them......
Tue, July 21, 2009 - 7:32 AMBeing a graceful receiver of compliments can be difficult, especially if you're not necessarily 'used to' compliments within a certain vein (athletics, creativity, etc.) If someone compliments, I would take a deep breath - make eye contact & say, "Thank you."
That way, you're paying equal respect to the person offering up their thoughts. Nothing worse than offering a compliment to someone & having it deflected by a, "Oh...yeah...I guess."
Those moments of celebration for ourselves & our progress - no matter how small - are really important to the journey. :] -
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Re: Compliments, and how to take them......
Fri, July 24, 2009 - 2:46 AM"Nothing worse than offering a compliment to someone & having it deflected by a, "Oh...yeah...I guess""
I hear that!!! It hapens all the time and I hate it....that's a large part as to why I am so self conscious about how I respond to them.....I don't ever want to make someone feel like that.....it's a sensation I could only assume is similar to that of being fecal matter, and noone likes feeling like that!!
<and oh yeah...to all those responses I have gotten on my vids....THANK YOU!! (lol, dunno if I said it yet)> -
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Re: Compliments, and how to take them......
Fri, July 31, 2009 - 11:17 PMI thought I was the only one....
It's hard for me to take compliments as well, as soon as I hear one, or when I'm in big crowd, sometimes I just get a bit nervous and end up screwing up in one way or another. I've been trying just to get out more, more public hooping to get over that, but it hasn't been working that much....
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Re: Compliments, and how to take them......
Tue, August 4, 2009 - 12:19 AMok, so, holy friggin wow! This weekend was nuts......I work for a mid-west festival called Schwagstock, and during these stocks I don't have much hooping time, cause its allways working time...however I DO manage to work it in, beleave you, me! lol!
This weekend was totaly nutty...first off, there were more hoops on lot than EVER before...many vendors have sold a few hoops here and there...but now we actually have a big painted bus vending hoops on shakedown! With the STL Hoop club girls forming "Troupe Revolution" for thier stage performances, LED Heady Hoops being local, and the flood of day hoops and hand hoops on shakedown...there is alot of attention going to the hoops in our hills!
Second...I got alot of attention given to my hooping as well!!! I got compliments from all walks of people, from a man who yelled he was squeezing his wifes hand intensly with excitement (which when my friend clarified what he had said for me, I found to be hilarious), to my hoopin idols commenting on my progress and asking me to join thier troupe (which for now I must graciously decline), to some random cute frat lookin boys stopping and asking me all kinds of questions.....it was all wierd...I get unnerved from compliments and watchers....but I kinda get an adrinaline rush off of it too......and it just makes me try that much harder to push to be even better. I know that I'm good...but I'm insecure and I worry about the fact that I'm pouring with sweat when I hoop and I'm flabby and overweight, and I don't dance in my hoop like girls...I don't move my arms gracefully while waiste hooping....I dunno where to shove my big feet sometimes....I don't have a cute navel, or tight butt, and AHHHHHH it all just piles in my head like a flood!!!! sometimes I wish I had a private space to hoop with a power outlet and a light.....that would let me get more in tune with myself, and my hoop......maybe tone up a little before trying to get on a stage with a bunch of pretty girls in cute costumes!!
ANYWAYS....rambling freak-out aside....It was a great weekend...and I tried to be a better reciever of compliments, and dish some out too. (Speakin of wich, this girl Monica of STL Hoop Club's "Troupe Revolution"....friggin amazing...cutest lite girl, great control, awesome moves, fast and full of force but still fluent.....biggest smile EVER on a hooper!!!!!!)
Just had a hooptastic weekend and wanted to share it!
