It's 5 Am at the PEX Decom. I am in the back room chilling to Big Jawn's awesome grooves when I am visited by someone very dear to me. Without going into details, we are soon making love in a chair in the corner, blissfully oblivious of the crowd. Right in the middle of things, a wonderful gentleman leans in close and says "Hi. Sorry to interrupt. But I want to make sure you both are OK with what's going on here." We both start cracking up, and assure him that all is good and wonderful and consensual, to which he replies "OK. Have fun." and withdraws.

I didn't get your name, but I want to express my sincere appreciation for what you did. This is what B.E.D. (the Bureau of Erotic Discourse) has been teaching in our seminars for 5 years. If you see a situation in which one party might be coerced, impaired or just not want to have this happen, step up and check in. You're not the sex police. You are just someone who cares looking out for a fellow burner. Just pop in and ask "Is everybody OK here?" Or, as Silver so eloquently put it "Do you both know your safe words? Carry on!"

This teaching moment has been brought to you by the letters R, U O and K, and by the number 69.

Ludo