Thoughts about what? Sounds like you've got it worked out. Take responsibility for what is yours, speak your mind. If he's not ready to meet you in the middle somewhere, then he's better gone.

it is not necessary to assign "fault" to everything ~ even "responsibility" for unpleasant experience doesn't always equal "fault"

love all-ways,
mem

I know this can be hard to get ones head around, but fault is not a useful way to think about relationships.

What happened happened. It sound like you had some fun and he did too. That's great!

It sounds like that's all that was ready to happen and now you are free to pursue other interests. That's great too!

What a relief to figure this out early instead of after a year of insanity. Be grateful he had the courage not to try and pretend when he wasn't up to a serious relationship.

You couldn't go faster than my sweety and I did. We were in bed the first night and I asked her to move in that same night, 11 years ago.

It isn't the speed. It is knowing yourself and what and who you are comfortable with. Go your speed. The right person will be just fine with that. Seriously, be yourself at full force and look for the people who like that and let the ones who don't go.

<<< there is nothing inherently worng with me >>>
no my friend, there is not anything inherently wrong with you.
indeed, there is everyhing inherently RIGHT with you.
you being you is whats right asch. not everyone is going to like you, or love you, and thats ok too. thats just the way it is. its ok.
because you being you is the biggest gift you can bring to the planet. thats why youre here. and you will attract amazing and wonderful people by being you, and you will walk with and help to heal amazing and wonderful people by being you.
youre learning to trust that. i know, im watching. and the universe is well pleased to be experiencing life as you, exactly as you are.
we can be grateful for what is, or we can mourn what is not. we get to choose.
it continues to be a joy to watch you bloom ma'am.
xoj

My favorite breakfast items are eggs with grits -- preferably with cheese on both! I love them. I eat them for breakfast but I also eat them for lunch and dinner sometimes. Especially now that I've discovered Gimme Lean veggie sausage. It tastes as good a real sausage and no animals died for it. Now, I love pancakes too. And Belgian Waffles. And sometimes I'll even have a crepe or a doughnut or cereal. Still, my favorite is eggs and grits. If I had to choose one breakfast food to eat for the rest of my life, it would be eggs. Yum!!!

How does this relate to your situation? Well, think of yourself as that pancake. Lots of people love pancakes!!! Lots of people could eat pancakes all day long, every single day. Lots of people just can't get enough of pancakes. They might not even like eggs at all. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them or the eggs. They just like pancakes. And, just because I prefer eggs, it doesn't mean the pancakes aren't the very best, most delicious pancakes in the world!

Dating is the same way. There are lots of flavors that we enjoy but when it comes down to choosing one to enjoy day after day, most of us have a favorite. It's no slam (pardon the Denny's pun) to the pancakes that we like eggs or slam to the eggs that we like pancakes. It's just our preference. We don't put a value judgment on what people choose for their breakfasts and, if we can get our heads right, we don't put a value judgment on who people choose for their life partners. Instead of trying to make an egg lover dig pancakes, we are probably better served by holding out for the one who can't get enough of pancakes! Know what I mean, jellybean? So the next time someone moves on down the breakfast buffet, just remind yourself, "I am the tastiest pancake ever!!! And when that perfect pancake lover comes along, boy is he gonna love me!"