Re Miss Pixie:
"It means accepting everyone, but not accepting every behavior. There are no limits or conditions for loving someone. "

This is well said and very helpful, Miss Pixie.

There are many behaviors that are clearly unacceptable, and naively allowing these to proceed brings greater suffering and danger and destruction to others.

At the same time, "all beings have Buddha nature", which means that they always have the potential to become fully aware and responsible and of great benefit to all.

Even Josef Stalin, Adolf Hilter, Mao Tse Tung Pol Pot and so forth always had Buddha nature, and that cannot be taken from them. This is true even though they worked so very hard to murder many millions of civilians and oppressed many millions more.

Just so you know, one of the greatest of all Buddhist saints was originally a black magician. His name was Milarepa, and he used black magic twice: once to bring down destruction on relatives who stole everything from his immediate family, and once to destroy crop lands.

Unfortunately, his black magic really worked and he killed about 37 relatives in a single go. He spent the rest of his life purifying this negative act and developing yogic power to become a great saint. Since he became a full lineqge holder ( of the Kagyu Tibetan lineage ), his karmic purification and Buddha realization count as among the greatest of all Buddhist successes.

I have four tantric empowerments for Milarepa guru yoga. It is said that one such empowerment blocks low ( less than human ) rebirth ) for seven lifetimes.

Please keep in mind that our "enemies" are often our best and most important teachers. They show us our faults and our weaknesses.

For example, the Dalai Lama was asked "who are your most important teachers?"
He answered: "The Chinese. Most of what I learned I learned from the Chinese."

So, we can be thankful that we have enemies and difficulties to spur us on to greater heights, and make sure we keep our noses clean.

I accept that in my life I have enemies and opponents, some of whom are truly dishonest and completely dishonorable, some very destructive. The point is that I learn from them, and that I show them the proper respect.

This is the classical teaching. It is functional and responsible and mature.

Best,

KT

Thank you Horatio. This subject is important to me.

I like the old saying, you can either be right or have a relationship.

good point, unconditional love is god, and possible if were smart, unconditional love of self.

the relationship is about family, it has conditions, but there is an underling if you just value and love our family, you will be loved, and never forgotten or left behind.

A lot of it has to do with fear based problems that we make worse, but thats a whole other can of worms for another thread...

Unconditional love is basically God, so no there are no limits to it. People have limits, some more than others. But unconditional unlimited love is god is what we are made of .