I like the joke.

Yes. And they will hate you for it... big obverse word there 'hate'.

You can 'love' them, you can 'luv' them, but is it worth you while really??

I think it is. In the sense that they'll grow, even if LATER, and even if you project just a 'little' Love,
they'll feel it, and even if the CAN'T show the appreciation, a part of them does.

ML.

I can. I'm kind of a love junkie. I love people for the good feeling it gives me. Is that selfish?
It feels kind of gross to love someone who I don't like tho. so I try to find something to love
about them, but I don't take the whole person in.

I love my son wholeheartedly. He's kind of self destructive and hating life right now and even
takes it out on me sometimes. And I have to stop him when he goes to far, and it feels like I'm
rejecting him, but there are some things I can't live with, even for him. but I love him and I
hope he feels better and finds a way to love life. It's less painful to love him when he's loving
himself, but I'm not going to stop loving him because it's painful for me.

I think that's the way it works, the one who wants the relationship more has to do more of the
work. They don't get any respect for it. I remember my mom getting my (step)dad to discipline me
to behave in a loving way towards them, but I didn't really care to have them in my life and they
wouldn't lift a loving finger. So that's what they got, politeness. Not real love.

So what am I getting from my son? I hope it's love, and it feels better to believe it is, but even if it's not, I know I still have my love for him.

I dunno, i think if george W loved himself uncondcitinally he'd have a little more compassion for the iraquis.

(Hi, my name is Rebecca, I'm new here, and I think that even love that is "rejected" by people who don't want to recive it, it is still love and it is still for them, no matter what they choose to do with it. )

I love someone who doesn't love himself. I feel good about the love I have for him, but at the same time sometimes I just want to shake him. The danger for me in these situations is I tend to become therapist, which inevitably leads to some twisted unbalanced relationship. I have decided to balance things by not letting him be the only one who gets to feel sorry for himself. I decided to show him I need him to be strong for me too. Oh no, I just about went on a whole tanget about this relationship. I will stop. Interesting question to consider.