Can you please clarify?
I find that its abit hard to separate them for me...they all are part of that...

Stormy dark night, the sea is trying to get into my house on-top of the cliff, so I am very happy to be dry and warm and writing to you...

Love sexual / emotional / spiritual...

When I was a young man it seemed that all I could think about was the sexual part of love. It occupied most of my existence!

Now I am an older man (which incidentally seems to have happened almost over night!) I find that I have learnt that sexual love is like an energy, like a magnetic energy between people. This energy is there between some people naturally. This energy can be the most lovely thing to embrace and to use to celebrate love. But it is just an energy. If this energy is mixed with other more powerful qualities of existance, the results transcend mere physical love and take us to a higher place. Spiritual and emotional love are the other qualities of existance, they are real love, they are states of consciousness that are reached when a person falls or decides to love another very deeply.

Spiritual and emotional love are like the pure essence of us, they are not like the naturally occurring physical magnetic sexual energy. The spiritual and emotional is all of us that is not physical. To give and to feel, physical, emotional and spiritual love is to give and feel all that we have to give and feel.

To be in love with your lover, your truelove, soul mate, can be a journey through sexual emotional and spiritual expression and feeling and I know that it does not have to rely heavily upon the physical, but like most good things it is a balance...

all is sexual ~ even conversations I have with relative strangers..... I co-mingle their ideas with mine in intimate ways ~ it turns me on....

love all-ways,
mem

As I see it, there are three separate entities when it comes to love; emotional, sexual and spiritual. The proportionalities change daily depending on whether or not if you have time, energy or desire for each of the three. The sexual portion is an imediate release of both partners energies, lightening if you will, and whether or not you are connected with them on any other level, you still attain that release. The emotional portion is a much deeper rooted feeling of being connected to that person, as it they were part of own your body. When they hurt, you hurt, their joy is also yours. Combining the two will allow each to reach a higher level of what they believe love to be. The spiritual portion is the point where your partner and you find the ablility to understand what the othe is thinking or feeling at any moment, at any time, whether together or apart. Some call this soul mate and when combined with the other two will bring each to a higher self of love. A love that will transcend time and space, a love that is unconditional. I am lucky enough to have found a partner where I have all three and no matter what portion of love we enjoy of the emotional or sexual love, we are always connected 100% spiritually.

I think the real answer, Zohreh, probably is that it depends on mood (feelings at the time).

We can't know each other's moods and connect with each other taking those moods into consideration without intimate knowledge of each other. And, we can't have intimate knowledge of each other from moment to moment without trust and communication and understanding and appreciation and love. And, none of that matters unless we have the desire to touch and be touched; to be sexual.

So, if you start keeping track of all that and send me a detailed report on you and your parrtner I might be able to give you some insight.

Otherwise, if you agree with what I've said, and are open to your partners changing moods, and your partner is open to your changing moods, then maybe just knowing this is enough.
:)

zo: when you think of Love to your partner / lover, how much is the sexual (the desire to touch and being touched ) portion in comparison to the emotional portion.

All of it is sexual; all of it is emotional; all of it is what you didn't ask about.

Why do I get the feeling that someone is responding to this thread to draw attention to being right instead of helping the poster on her own terms?