I think that's pretty typical of the Scorpio influence. Scorpio tends to hide things. :o)

My Venus is opposite my Pluto. I'm cautious in any relationship in regards to getting serious with a person; however I am an open book, quite the opposite of how you feel. My Sagittarius moon probably plays a big role in that. :o)

hey Jeremy, you said it well once again.

>I have to hide things from people

i agree. sometimes, when there is nothing to hide, i consciously build a private life and a private self- so naturally. sometimes remaining hidden to me is as simple as avoiding questions like "what are you up to?" or "what have you done today". i dont want to tell anybody that so i either simplify it or keep it vague. most often, if not all of the time, what i have done was pretty mundane during the day and not very thrilling. still there's something to be said for wanting to keep my life private.

what i hate is when people take what you have told them and try to pin you down. i feel most comfortable when people see me as a mystery. but some people can't stand that and they crave on "figuring you out". my long time Aquarius friend used to always complain i was a mystery and wasn't sharing anything with him and he repeatedly and repeatedly tried to pin me down with statements like "i know you" or "i knew you would say" that when i did something. that bothered me.

>When I fall in love with someone, I'm so afraid of letting the other person know

i think fear of telling someone relates to rejection - fear of rejection. i think us Scorpios (or Venus Pluto people-though I'm less sure about generalizing here since I have my Venus in Scorpio conjunct Pluto) understand that telling someone that we love them means we are giving them power. With power, they have the upper hand. Despite our alluring mystery and privacy and deep sense of strength, we love _them_ and this is very flattering.. this makes room for manipulation of sorts - they can play with us and our feelings - and Scorpio can't stand being at the butt end of that. Scorpio's feeling are too strong to be toyed with lightly. that really gets to us.

that's probably why "feel like somehow they'll use the information against me, or humiliate me"

i think you need to strike a better balance - like tell them you like them and let them respond. if they start to act negatively and its hurting you - tell them, "this isnt what i expected" and thereby let them know where their boundaries should lie if theyre actually interested in you.

open up a little and expose a bit of the feelings but let the other person know that feelings can change and will change if they aren't gentle and respectful toward them. the problem with Scorpios (Venus Pluto probably too) is that their feelings _don't_ change lightly... when they fall in love, that's pretty much it and getting over an individual takes lots of time... still, don't let the other person know that.

let them know how you feel - and if they start to be manipulative and hurtful toward you, go back to hiding your feelings until you finally get over them and have no resentments (very important - get rid of behavior that wants revenge - it will only backlash in a negative way)... after all, hiding is not always a "bad" thing, it is just a learned trait that helps us handle depth when we need to.. we just shouldnt be playing it safe it all the time.